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By *ivinefox OP Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

How has it affected you? ( and there may be an age difference here). I don't want to insult anyone's intelligence but since it tends to be very male oriented, does it make you feel either more entitled to or more interested in certain acts? For example, gagging, anal, dp etc?

For me, I am aware that men now expect things that virtually didn't exist when I was younger ( before the prevalence of internet porn), and as a woman I don't think it's a good thing. Women on those sites are paid to do things that are not for their pleasure but for the man's. There's no sensuality or spending time arousing the woman before penetration. Anal is portrayed as being just as easy as vaginal penetration ( which it really isn't ), and the things that really turn women on are largely ignored. I have no problem with seeing men and women have sex, it's very erotic, but to me, I feel most of the porn available online is neither erotic or realistic. And does a disservice to creating true mutually fulfilling sexual pleasure between people. Rant over. Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi this is a really interesting post and I thank you for sharing. I don't think it has affected me as I am 43 but it is unrealistic you are correct. It's like a footballer scoring a hattrick and I'm a Sunday league footballer. On the other hand it does portray fellas as well as being unrealistic with some women who expect a ripped 9 inch plus stud who has 45 mins worth of stamina.

I like to watch amateur porn where recordings are more realistic and sensual in my opinion. Good post and I'd be interested to read other opinions. I do fear for teenagers watching online now

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I watch porn but am often dismayed by the mainstream porn, which is all made to a perceived male preference for rather crappy treatment of women.

That's not to say I am against domination but I find the best porn is where all participants are enjoying themselves. For this, classic 80s and even 70s porn is often better than anything recent.

Also the few titles directed by women seem to be better. One of the hottest porn films I ever saw was "Crem De Femme" which is all female, in a couple of the scenes everyone really seems to be enjoying what they are doing.

I don't feel entitled to anything but occasionally porn has opened my eyes to something I hadn't thought of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How has it affected you? ( and there may be an age difference here). I don't want to insult anyone's intelligence but since it tends to be very male oriented, does it make you feel either more entitled to or more interested in certain acts? For example, gagging, anal, dp etc?

For me, I am aware that men now expect things that virtually didn't exist when I was younger ( before the prevalence of internet porn), and as a woman I don't think it's a good thing. Women on those sites are paid to do things that are not for their pleasure but for the man's. There's no sensuality or spending time arousing the woman before penetration. Anal is portrayed as being just as easy as vaginal penetration ( which it really isn't ), and the things that really turn women on are largely ignored. I have no problem with seeing men and women have sex, it's very erotic, but to me, I feel most of the porn available online is neither erotic or realistic. And does a disservice to creating true mutually fulfilling sexual pleasure between people. Rant over. Any thoughts? "
Well Divine, that was deep!! I can see where you are with this. Generally women have very different views on porn and are a lot less visual. The porn I watch that does it for me, is the genuine homemade, I try to look for eroticism and gentle foreplay, and some homemade ones have it. To cater for my fetishes though, I just have to make do with the 'plastic' porn vids. X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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All the squirting, spitting, gagging, and slapping of faces with cocks are not remotely erotic for me, so I don't tend to watch it. Anyone who expects to be able to treat me like a porn-star is going to be woefully disappointed if we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use porn to a degree to get new ideas .

However , it's mainly amateur stuff , kinky and sometimes a bit taboo ....

The mainstream stuff was something we kind of grew out of a couple of years ago .

Can't see the harm in it though .

We see swinging as an opportunity to act out fantasies , and porn adds to it .

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Something I find quite worrying is the obvious fact that many of the women in porn are not turned on and wet...the fact that they (or the man) will spit onto their pussy in order that penetration can be achieved....

The thing is, I know people in the porn industry and I know a 20 minute scene can take half a day to shoot...I know the tricks they use, the enemas and lube for anal...the fluffers off-camera to keep guys hard...etc etc.

What I want to see is people enjoying each other's bodies. I want to see hot sex...be it vanilla or kinky. Some of the kink videos out there are great because they are made by people who are into domination.

But there's nothing hot about a guy plugging away while the woman rubs spit into herself in order to keep it from getting too sore....then pulling out and wanking all over her.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"then pulling out and wanking all over her. "

I actually quite enjoy that bit.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"then pulling out and wanking all over her.

I actually quite enjoy that bit.

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Oh I am sure some women do, indeed one of my partners loves me to finish over her breasts. But the real reason it's done is to "prove" to the camera that the guy has cum.

In at least 30% of scenes it is actually pina colada mix!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How has it affected you? ( and there may be an age difference here). I don't want to insult anyone's intelligence but since it tends to be very male oriented, does it make you feel either more entitled to or more interested in certain acts? For example, gagging, anal, dp etc?

For me, I am aware that men now expect things that virtually didn't exist when I was younger ( before the prevalence of internet porn), and as a woman I don't think it's a good thing. Women on those sites are paid to do things that are not for their pleasure but for the man's. There's no sensuality or spending time arousing the woman before penetration. Anal is portrayed as being just as easy as vaginal penetration ( which it really isn't ), and the things that really turn women on are largely ignored. I have no problem with seeing men and women have sex, it's very erotic, but to me, I feel most of the porn available online is neither erotic or realistic. And does a disservice to creating true mutually fulfilling sexual pleasure between people. Rant over. Any thoughts? "

Great post OP, and I fully agree. Mainstream porn feels that it is all about the male's pleasure....so often the man's face is not even visible because it's all about the viewer imagining HIS cock being sucked!! I really do think it skews the audience's views on female sexuality. And when that audience is adolescent lads in a world where porn is a click away....well, I'm worried for my daughters.

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

I watch porn every so often.

I find the professional sites/videos are fairly crude and pretty much just for the male performers benefit. The female gets nothing out of it in terms of pleasure really. Just a pay cheque.

It could also be said, that those videos show women like to be treated with a lack of respect and that it's all about the bloke, (which, in the real world, is false).

I prefer amateur videos over professional videos. They show both sides and has more sensuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't watch porn much because I don't even get sexually aroused watching the majority of it. Not sure if that's because of my vast experience or it's so boring and predictable.

The amateur stuff is the only thing that interests me now and the kinky stuff especially so.

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By *ivinefox OP Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Thanks for all the great, thoughtful replies. Was thinking about this as I was trying to find some ' full screen' porn the other day ( ie where you can see the man's face rather than a disembodied cock and I just couldn't find any! However I came across an interesting article which talked about why porn was shot the way it was, ie from a male POV and that the reason you don't see male faces is so for somewhat homophobic reasons and then it all made sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pink colada mix and homophones reasons. You learn something new every day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to watch bi porn which is very different in my experience to mainstream and I find it significantly more erotic. Porn has influenced me in being more willing to explore my boundaries but that has in the main been a solo pursuit

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I went off pro porn gradually as it is progressively less 'cheerful' - first there was the nasty/angry sex, then it became, as said above, more about humiliation.

I've therefore ended up preferring amateur porn, and the more recent category "female choice", (although I've no idea how female friendly it truly is).

So it could be said that porn has made me more appreciative of natural sex.... which is nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never watch commercial porn, it's so false and unrealistic. The only porn that gets my 'attention' is the amateur, homemade, housewifey/girlfriendy type that could have been made by the girl/woman across the road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never watch commercial porn, it's so false and unrealistic. The only porn that gets my 'attention' is the amateur, homemade, housewifey/girlfriendy type that could have been made by the girl/woman across the road."

Straight up, it is the best and most erotic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watch a lot of James Deen scenes as for some reason (whether this is correct or not) he and his Co stars look like they enjoy what they're doing. Even when he's roughing them up and slapping them etc it still feels more real and you can see the chemistry he has with them, especially Stoya hvvvvv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the great, thoughtful replies. Was thinking about this as I was trying to find some ' full screen' porn the other day ( ie where you can see the man's face rather than a disembodied cock and I just couldn't find any! However I came across an interesting article which talked about why porn was shot the way it was, ie from a male POV and that the reason you don't see male faces is so for somewhat homophobic reasons and then it all made sense! "

I've found some on xham site, the amateur stuff. He was gay but that didn't stop me enjoying it, added it to my favourites lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hardly ever watch porn but when we do we choose matuer porn and bdsm scenarios -some porn gets our imagination going, some of it is cold and very unsexy!

I think porn can be very unhealthy if the watchers are impressionable, insecure or unsure of their own likes and dislikes.

In the swingers clubs I tend to ignore the porn on screen - what's happening in the real world is far more interesting - even if we are only talking about sex, the weather or the couple we are waiting to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent post OP, I hadn't really thought about it that way!

Luckily I don't have to worry about the future generation as I don't have kids and for me personally I like younger guys and I like to fulfil THEIR fantasies (which is what gets me going) so the young guys that have had their eyes opened to the more dominant side of things actually suits me

However the porn I watch is more on the Bdsm side, toys, fucking machines and the girls being dminated so I'm probably looking at it from the wrong perspective to provide a useful argument haha

On the other hand, lustful sex aside, it may well have affected the relationship side of life. Now guys can get access to this kind of sex (through this site for one!) it has probably tainted the need for 'making love' which is where I think you're coming from?! So yes, it has probably limited our chance of finding a relationship that works well for both parties...

Oh well, I'll just have to 'suffer' dirty Porn sex with all these hot, fit, young studs full of stamina (and yes, there are plenty that can go solidly for 45 mins plus - sorry to disappoint you Sir

)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love different types and depending on my mood depends what I watch. There is also a section on x hamster called female choice and that has a lot of videos on that seem to build up to sex rather than jump into it. That is sometimes good as it seems a little more personal even though it's still porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think porn can be very unhealthy if the watchers are impressionable, insecure or unsure of their own likes and dislikes.

I agree with this comment. Ive noticed how a younger guy differs from a guy around my age. Its seems that the younger men ive been wuth see squirting as a challenge. It actually hurts after a while and not all us women enjoy it. I put this latest craze down to porn

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I'd worry if porn was someones education in sex.

I do watch porn and I can find a whole variety enjoyable.

But I don't use porn as a playbook for sex anymore than I'd use a romantic comedy as an art of seduction technique, or an action movie as a step by step process for conflict resolution.

Indeed some of the porn I enjoy can be harsh on men to a point way beyond what I'd put up with.

Some amateur porn is fine but I do worry on those about the consent of all involved for publication on the Web.

But there is plenty of porn out there that can be professional and show enjoyment from both parties.

It's always a bit of a random mix though and you can never tell from a title alone.

To me it's a visuAl stimulus that I use when I'm in the mood and the wife is not. And visa versa on rare occasions.

But at other times I prefer to read erotica and on occasions write some. But none of it is real

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

The old style porn used to have a semblance of a story line, even if it was pretty thin. "plumber fixing the washing machine" etc. there was an element of seduction and human interaction.

New style has little finesse. "here's the girl, we are going to use her body"

It's the difference between a fine restaurant and fast food. Shorter attention spans perhaps?

As for introducing new things, I would say not much is new, but it has normalised them. E.g. If you watch porn, you think all girls do anal, and like facial cumshots.

I'd also agree with previous posters and say amateurs are sexier than the main stream professional stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the porn industry will start to crumble, as people are becoming desensitised to the more hardcore things the porn companies and ultimately the girls will push and push until there is no boundaries left. As many have said it's the younger generation that will think this is all normal. Some of the hub/tube sites don't help as any age can access it.

I know when I was younger I thought all girls love anal, that was down to porn, on the plus I was proved wrong straight away.

Porn has other effects too for example as a guy I always thought I had a small cock due to the prob misconception that all cocks are long and hard. It can also have issues for women who are usually shown as fit, young with big old fake tits. I think that's why I prefer mature porn with older looking women (not milf porn) or armature stuff as again it's more than likely real.

One thing that does turn my stomach is extreme fisting porn (hot kinky Jo) fisting to the elbow and rosebudding. That stuff just seems very unhealthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn these days is a massive generalisation.

I love watching porn but rarely is it "professional". Almost every video I watch (and have saved in my favourites

) is amateur porn.

So no, I'm not swayed by "oooh yeah baby harder" type stuff.

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By *reakish DesireCouple
over a year ago

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Have to admit, I developed a dislike for general porn pretty quickly. Always seemed a bit, meh. Big hair, big unreal tits (okay if you like fake ones), big baseball bat cocks and big acting too, lol. Preferred watching amateur porn, maybe it helped, as I got see people of all sizes etc. It's what we watch together now too.

It may have helped that way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok but nicer to watch it together and enjoy as part of foreplay. Much prefer to do it then watch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With you on this like to watch it with a group or couple gets everyone in the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excellent post OP, I hadn't really thought about it that way!

Luckily I don't have to worry about the future generation as I don't have kids and for me personally I like younger guys and I like to fulfil THEIR fantasies (which is what gets me going) so the young guys that have had their eyes opened to the more dominant side of things actually suits me

However the porn I watch is more on the Bdsm side, toys, fucking machines and the girls being dminated so I'm probably looking at it from the wrong perspective to provide a useful argument haha

On the other hand, lustful sex aside, it may well have affected the relationship side of life. Now guys can get access to this kind of sex (through this site for one!) it has probably tainted the need for 'making love' which is where I think you're coming from?! So yes, it has probably limited our chance of finding a relationship that works well for both parties...

Oh well, I'll just have to 'suffer' dirty Porn sex with all these hot, fit, young studs full of stamina (and yes, there are plenty that can go solidly for 45 mins plus - sorry to disappoint you Sir

)...

"

Ha ha. Good quote. Back to the gym to work up some stamina x

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