FabSwingers.com forum: All talk and no meets

By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

chester

So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, I'm having the same trouble, we chat then set up a social and they don't show, Iv had 3 in the last 2weeks, I think some are just on here for a confidence boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up."

Did you post this in the right thread? how is it ruining it for single guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in catch 22. Noone will meet me because i'm not verified. But i cant get verified because noone will meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up.

Did you post this in the right thread? how is it ruining it for single guys?

I think he's getting at the fact it's giving us a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,I haven't found that

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like talking. Doesn't mean I want to meet. Sometimes you have to talk to see if you want to meet and if so, what for.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

Not my experience but hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have heard about a good few timewasters being meantioned on this site for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the same prob!! Starting to think something wrong with me!!

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Well there is usually a good need to chat a while and see if meeting is a good idea...That [for whatever reason] can go on for a good while...I have found people to be genuine, in the main...

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Im in catch 22. Noone will meet me because i'm not verified. But i cant get verified because noone will meet me

Try going to a social and meeting some people there. You probably won't get a screw but you'll likely get a verification or two (unless your a nob head while you're there).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

No its not just you .

We totally agree with you .

Actively seeking genuine meets can be so hard when you get a constant barrage of people wanting to chat and exchange this that and everything else .

We find bring a bit more blunt about we are here for works .

But that approach may ostracise us from certain people , oh hang on ... that be the talkers so no matter huh ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very familiar when we not got free time lots offers ,when we post meet nothing but time wasters lol

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

No its not just you .

We totally agree with you .

Actively seeking genuine meets can be so hard when you get a constant barrage of people wanting to chat and exchange this that and everything else .

We find bring a bit more blunt about we are here for works .

But that approach may ostracise us from certain people , oh hang on ... that be the talkers so no matter huh ?

Sometimes it's more a case of being interests but not being able to sort a meet out, especially if there is a bit of distance involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of the time people lose interest in that person and thats why a meet doesnt happen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up."

Single guy bashing other single guys in order to look uber-genuine... Yawn

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Yep it has got worse over the last couple of years. We no longer try and arrange anything before going to a club, quite often they never go a 'last minute change of mind' we get told the next day.

So we just go and find someone to chat to there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think alot of the time people lose interest in that person and thats why a meet doesnt happen x"

Nail on head.

I've chatted to loads of people and thought after a few messages "hmmm not for me". It happens and there's nothing wrong with letting things slip if you're not sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up.

Single guy bashing other single guys in order to look uber-genuine... Yawn

Oh the irony....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here of and on for a few years now, and I'm sure that at any given time there have been many time wasters passing through, and not just guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up.

Single guy bashing other single guys in order to look uber-genuine... Yawn

Oh the irony....

Sorry but that's not ironic at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

Not had that problem yet.

Just sorting out normal life to arrange a meet where we are all free so can take a little time.

There are plenty of nice couples out there that do meet. Hope things get better for you soon.

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

No its not just you .

We totally agree with you .

Actively seeking genuine meets can be so hard when you get a constant barrage of people wanting to chat and exchange this that and everything else .

We find bring a bit more blunt about we are here for works .

But that approach may ostracise us from certain people , oh hang on ... that be the talkers so no matter huh ?

Well if there was ever a couple who opitomised "doing, not talking" it would be you guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say we've experienced this problem. We don't do a lot of chatter, though. We tend to come up with a date and then simply invite someone to join us. If they can't make it then we invite another, and so on until the meet's arranged. Always worked for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if I am quite on the ball with what you mean, OP, but....

I come in the forums because I like to talk and I'm bored at work. I don't have trouble meeting, and when we want meets it isn't usually an issue that people would rather talk than meet. So I don't think we are having the problem you are having. This is our experience off the forums.

On the forums, well, yeah - people are here to talk....many even state they aren't meeting on their profile so I don't expect anything more than talk.

-Courtney

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"No,I haven't found that "

I can understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

No its not just you .

We totally agree with you .

Actively seeking genuine meets can be so hard when you get a constant barrage of people wanting to chat and exchange this that and everything else .

We find bring a bit more blunt about we are here for works .

But that approach may ostracise us from certain people , oh hang on ... that be the talkers so no matter huh ?

Well if there was ever a couple who opitomised "doing, not talking" it would be you guys!

That much is true

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

To clarify what I am talking about, I mean you see someone you like, you chat, you swap face pics, everyone says that they are interested and want to play, but arranging the actual time, date and place seems to be quite elusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had plenty talk and talk and look for wank material but then as soon as you try and sort a date they have no interest so yes OP totally agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up."

How is it ruining anything for single guys? Surely that must be to your advantage.less competition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To clarify what I am talking about, I mean you see someone you like, you chat, you swap face pics, everyone says that they are interested and want to play, but arranging the actual time, date and place seems to be quite elusive. "

Oh. Well, no. If people drag their feet on arranging a date, I assume they are politely trying to get out of actually meeting and let it fizzle. Most of the time, we just arrange a date and time right away if we are interested enough.

There are a few people that we will wait for, but usually only if it is clear that something is actually going to happen. Otherwise we let that fizzle as well and just don't give it another thought.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like us!

Seriously though we're upfront from the start that we don't have much free time so people can take that as they will really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am one of those all talk no meets people but just because I rarely get a chance to meet, then when I do it doesn't match their schedules

that's why I tend to stick to clubs, much easier to find someone there than arrange a meet x

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Does anyone else find that its becoming more common to find people who are all talk, and then when it comes to actually meeting, nothing ever comes of it? Or is it just us?

Yep"

Which of the two questions are you "yepping"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is so true op, most are dreamers lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done a lot of talking,I've done a lot of meeting. I'm not going to meet someone just because we have been talking. If they can't wait for me to be ready they can find someone else to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I am one of those all talk no meets people but just because I rarely get a chance to meet, then when I do it doesn't match their schedules

that's why I tend to stick to clubs, much easier to find someone there than arrange a meet x"

^^this^^ our family life makes having time to meet especially travelling difficult, so it's not because we have no intentions of meeting or don't want to its just a case of having the free time unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done a lot of talking,I've done a lot of meeting. I'm not going to meet someone just because we have been talking. If they can't wait for me to be ready they can find someone else to meet. "

Totally agree. It does feel sometimes like you can't have a conversation because as soon as you explain that you have a young family and one of you works shifts you're labelled a timewaster.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I only talk more than I meet because meeting takes time to organise, whilst talking is more straight forward!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've no problem chatting with another couple for months if we know they are genuine. But you can tell the talkers/dreamers. They always start getting dirtier and dirtier asking more and more questions asking for more and more pics. You can almost see them in your mind working up a sweat pulling their todger. Clearly either the male half of the couple who then starts trying to convince you to meet him alone, or single guys who finish their wank then just stop talking.

We have young kids and older kids with shared custody in place so have to arrange our meets around them so totally appreciate others having those issues but they are not the ones who seem to contact us more and more frequently, its the message wankers who seem to be flooding the site lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So very true and it's ruining for us single guys that do meet up.

Single guy bashing other single guys in order to look uber-genuine... Yawn

Oh the irony....

Sorry but that's not ironic at all

Yes it is. You're a single guy, bashing other single guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had the same prob!! Starting to think something wrong with me!!"

hows that your so gorgeous and meet - so what's not to like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its part and parcel my friend you keep plugging away you will find people that do meet and those that chat it will happen stay positive and keep chatting, its doesn't happen over night

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By *imbojim150Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

Ive been on fab since its early days and noticed it seems to go through spells of `all talk and no meet` now and again. Just a case of having plenty of patience as there are plenty of genuine swingers who do meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think alot of the time people lose interest in that person and thats why a meet doesnt happen x"

This for me. I don't like chatting for ages, I get bored. I want to meet not be someone's penpal.

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