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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it really matters why you were declined, why any of us get declined, accept it with good grace and move on. If you are that confident in yourself that you believe all women find you attractive (hence your hypothesis that it could have been the male who was threatened), then I don't think you understand swinging couples very well.

Couples swing because they are confident in their relationship with one another; if the gent (or lady for that matter), thought that their partner was going to run-off with a one night stand, I doubt that they would be swinging.

I apologise if this post seems unduly harsh but I don't think you "get it"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

Far from it in our case .

Feel free to peruse a few of our veris , and you'll see it's quite the opposite .

There is nothing more horny than seeing my wife getting it on with a hot guy

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

In answer to your question probably, there is also the chance despite your own opinion that you aren't their type. Mrs J gets a real buzz from knowing she can still pull fit young guys. I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he thought you were over confident or pushy and was looking for an excuse to let you down.

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not."

How many cock pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not.

How many cock pics? "

Ey?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Just because you're not unattractive doesn't automatically make you her type.

C loves watching me, with men and women. If I choose not to play with someone because I don't fancy them, that's my choice.

Just because you say it was Mr that replied doesn't mean it wasn't Mrs' opinion.

To imply that they don't want you because you think you're better looking than Mr smacks of extreme arrogance. And as an above poster said, you really don't get swinging.

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not.

How many cock pics?

Ey?"

On the OP profile, if we see loads of cock pics then we pass by, without sounding arrogant myself they don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not.

How many cock pics?

Ey?

On the OP profile, if we see loads of cock pics then we pass by, without sounding arrogant myself they don't get it."

Ah right, I didn't look at his profile, I assumed there wasn't any because of his avatar!

Nope, completely agree with you, I should check people's profiles before offering advice really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a fact of FAB and life in general. I chatted to a lady on the train back from London last week. Intelligent and witty banter but I didn't want to take to my nor do I suspect did she!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Maybe he was just telling you the truth. Just because you and your ex girlfriends find/found you attractive doesn't mean absolutely everyone will. It would be incredibly boring if we all liked the same things. Plus only those blessed with traditional concepts of beauty would ever get a shag. Not being someone's type is an entirely valid reason not to fancy someone since attraction is entirely subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

Not all the men in couples make the decisions. Maybe she saw the pics and told him to say so ?

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To imply that they don't want you because you think you're better looking than Mr smacks of extreme arrogance. And as an above poster said, you really don't get swinging.

Agree totally. It's always Mrs here who decides with single guys. Don't think she is gonna play with someone "ugly" to keep me happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

What makes you think it is your looks, most guy I reject on the basis that they are impatient and can't hold a conversation past 3 lines. I am not saying that applies to you, it's just an example. If there is no chemistry then there is no fun, no matter how gorgeous you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife likes to play with guys of all types. She has a keen interest in guys who are shorter than average. Have a foreign accent and who have better bodies than me.

So unless you have an accent you would fail on all three of those.

She's not keen on pretty boys either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in this couple. Marc doesn't want me playing with guys I don't personally find as attractive as him.

Maybe the guy was just designated as the one who had to turn you down. I do that to Marc quite often.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "
yes I think you are right but hey what can you do about it be mad about your wasted time but keep it to yourself ,we all have our time wasted on a regular basis ,if fab were to be renamed it should be renamed, women rule live with it .com

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

Just because you match what a couple looks for on their profile,doesn't give you a God given right to meet.it's merely a foot in the door.if they say you aren't their type,then you aren't their type.simple as that.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

They obviously changed their mind, as we are all allowed to do. They have their reasons, and you're not going to find out what they are.

Brush yourself off and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!"

Ah; so they fancied her not you then. There you have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!"

Well now you are a single, you don't float their boat. When I get a knock-back, I think "well I didn't do it for them", when you get a knock-back you think "he is threatened by me".... now that is arrogance, sorry. You seem unwilling to accept the fact that some women may not find you attractive, or, maybe its no even that, some women you just do not turn-on... shock horror!

As for "they wanted to meet when I was part of a couple", irrelevant, unless of course you have a hundred messages from them saying how much YOUR pictures turned HER on and that she couldn't wait to meet you..

Show me a picture of the woman you were coupled with, and I will show you the reason why they wanted to meet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mistake you made was trying. Try not, worry less Thankyou yoda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

"

Again YOU are not perfect for the Mrs, you were told this in a message, I really don't understand. Your question translates as thus;

"are some couples so insecure in their own relationship, that only the man gets to choose who they meet, and he only chooses ugly guys, because he fears competition?"

Now ask yourself, is that a good question to be asking on a swinging website?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be pretty hard for me to find guys uglier than me lol but I wouldnt suggest she met a fat guy with a small cock as shes got me for that so its pointless. Id rather she met fit guys with bigger dicks than me otherwise whats the point. But there is times when a guy messages and I think yeah I can see her fancying him, I show her the pic and she says urgh no. It does happen no matter how high you score yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfao. How on earth do you come to the conclusion you are 'perfect' for her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, but fair enough, surely nobody would put their attraction to a possible meet above the happiness of their partner? So if he's threatened, well within his rights to deny access.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ha it was a figure of speech, you guys like to jump on people and their wording! Are you all solicitors

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

I don't doubt that "some" males decline for this reason but the dynamic between successful swinging couples has no basis in insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ha it was a figure of speech, you guys like to jump on people and their wording! Are you all solicitors "

Mostly or politicians. Hence the need for discretion.

We're all 'professionals' anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

We were chatting with a gent who seemed perfect and were almost certain we would meet until J saw the pic he sent as he looked extremely like her uncle. I had the job of telling him no and decided to tell him why we were saying not but could have quite easily just said sorry your not for the Mrs and left it at that.

J sees every pic that is sent and if she likes the look of them she will then read the profile and if she likes we will find out more if not I just tell them thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were chatting for awhile I find sending face pic at the start does help saves this sort of thing happening

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

"

Except you're not perfect for Mrs. They've said so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It can also happen if the man has been going ahead arranging things and "forgotten" to mention it to his partner. When he finally gets round to it she says no.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"It can also happen if the man has been going ahead arranging things and "forgotten" to mention it to his partner. When he finally gets round to it she says no."

Yep, that happens.

In the general scenario you're discussing, yes I'm sure that sometimes it happens. C knows that if there's a guy I may meet that he doesn't feel right about, then I won't be meeting them as he is more important to me. He's my guy, we're a partnership.

However, the only time he would do that is if he felt there was something off about the guy and he was concerned about my safety.

He's not the type to be intimidated by another guy's looks or equipment. But then with a 9" cock that's not an issue for him

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

There are plenty of very good looking men that I'm not attracted to and loads of average men I am attracted to. If he isn't my type then he isn't my type.

Just because the wife isn't interested it doesn't mean that her husband is insecure, it may purely be that you don't float her boat. Strange but it can happen.

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Or maybe you genuinely weren't his wife's type and taking into account that you are competing with the abundance of single males on here politely declined your interest in favour of another single male with more information and less cock pics on your profile?

I know speaking for ourselves we know each other inside out and know what is and isn't our type but are always polite and answer messages back being as polite and straight forward as possible

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!"

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I don't think it really matters why you were declined, why any of us get declined, accept it with good grace and move on. If you are that confident in yourself that you believe all women find you attractive (hence your hypothesis that it could have been the male who was threatened), then I don't think you understand swinging couples very well.

Couples swing because they are confident in their relationship with one another; if the gent (or lady for that matter), thought that their partner was going to run-off with a one night stand, I doubt that they would be swinging.

I apologise if this post seems unduly harsh but I don't think you "get it"...."

Absolutely spot on. Many men don't seem to realise that women's tastes in men are not necessarily what men expect them to be. Even George Clooney, who may seem to be conventionally attractive, is not at all attracted time to some women. It is hard for some men to accept that as successful as they might be with the opposite sex there are many women for whom they do absolutely nothing - indeed their over confidence itself may be the biggest turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beggar me! We turned up to a social after chatting and exchanging our pics with a younger guy who went on to make some quite personal remarks about C, along the lines of: her being too old, tubby, wearing glasses and a red head, quite loudly and in a moderately packed pub. Suffice to say we left. Think yourself lucky you got away with a message simply saying 'You're not her type'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

They rejected you. Get over it. Accept that you while you may be good looking you aren't ever going to be everyone;s type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

"

Un all honesty the more you post, the more it appears that you have an issue with rejection and a huge sense of entitlemnt. And a lack of respect and understanding of the couples you want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

Ah; so they fancied her not you then. There you have your answer. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not only couples that decline.

As a single bloke I dont want to shag every couple I chat with or fem. I also doubt they all want to shag me either.

If it aint happening it aint crack on look else where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I played as a couple my OH wouldn't have dreamt of deciding who was my type and who wasn't by looking at a face pic

Maybe it was just an excuse,some people think they match everything the other person is looking for on paper,but in reality that's not always the case

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people

Far from it in our case .

Feel free to peruse a few of our veris , and you'll see it's quite the opposite .

There is nothing more horny than seeing my wife getting it on with a hot guy "

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful "

Thanks for clarifying. If it was you, it blows the OP out of the water.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful "

oops . And this is why you shouldn't aiir your grievances in the forum. The people of you are winging about may actually see yoir post and shame you in public. In this case ypu did indeed confuse your own arrogance for confidence. To us it looks like you really don't understand how a swinging couples relationship works. Step back have a rethink, get over yourself and move on.

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"I don't think it really matters why you were declined, why any of us get declined, accept it with good grace and move on. If you are that confident in yourself that you believe all women find you attractive (hence your hypothesis that it could have been the male who was threatened), then I don't think you understand swinging couples very well.

Couples swing because they are confident in their relationship with one another; if the gent (or lady for that matter), thought that their partner was going to run-off with a one night stand, I doubt that they would be swinging.

I apologise if this post seems unduly harsh but I don't think you "get it"....

Absolutely spot on. Many men don't seem to realise that women's tastes in men are not necessarily what men expect them to be. Even George Clooney, who may seem to be conventionally attractive, is not at all attracted time to some women. It is hard for some men to accept that as successful as they might be with the opposite sex there are many women for whom they do absolutely nothing - indeed their over confidence itself may be the biggest turn off. "

If we go to parties I get Mrs J to tell me who is allowed to play with her as I have given up trying to guess what type she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to know how a swinging relationship works. I wouldn't allow anyone to pick my partners,nor would I pick his. It could be insecurities on the males part,but it could be she didn't feel any attraction. You should swap face pics immediately to save wasting time talking to someone who doesn't want to meet you. He may also like a secret wank behind the wife's back and she wasn't aware you were talking. You will never know.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Lots of rejection before matches happen so suck it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is right, the male half will have more insecurities like, will wife enjoy him better than me, having bigger cock or more ripped muscular body, so will delete the msgs before the wife sees it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be the one turning down the guys but would normally get Mr to say so.

He shakes his head at times as I will often refuse guys because I feel they are too good for me. Mr would never refuse a guy unless he was obviously not for me.. and he knows me well enough to know that x

I think guys like to think the husband's refuse them because they feel threatened but it's rarely the case in couples we know

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I personally prefer it if the guy is a top looking bloke. It makes em feel special and I personally don't have any insecurities where it comes to my looks or penis size.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

I'm suprised at Belles tastes sometimes. But as I would be around I don't want to see some ming of a guy or woman fucking her. So I sensor lots. As I'm also enjoying deleting without reading lots of mail with "yous meeting" and dickhead profile pics. Very satisfied with that process of elimination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is easier for your ego to accept that the reason you were rejected was because you are too gorgeous, then that's fine.

It actually does not matter one little bit why any of us are turned down, it's no biggie is it, it's only swinging, a hobby, not of any great importance.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"That is right, the male half will have more insecurities like, will wife enjoy him better than me, having bigger cock or more ripped muscular body, so will delete the msgs before the wife sees it lol."

I dont think you could be more wrong. If the male if a couple thought anything like this then they wouldn't be swinging at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is right, the male half will have more insecurities like, will wife enjoy him better than me, having bigger cock or more ripped muscular body, so will delete the msgs before the wife sees it lol.

I dont think you could be more wrong. If the male if a couple thought anything like this then they wouldn't be swinging at all. "
That is right, but cant there be jelousy whilst swinging tho?

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford


"That is right, but cant there be jelousy whilst swinging tho?"
Not with anyone that's been in the scene for any length of time. If you are jealous you shouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally prefer it if the guy is a top looking bloke. It makes em feel special and I personally don't have any insecurities where it comes to my looks or penis size. "

I'm a complete girl but I don't either.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think couples who swing and allow men into their sexual relationship for a few hours are definitely NOT insecure.

You can't ever know why they turned you down, OP, so don't sweat it. Move on

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"That is right, the male half will have more insecurities like, will wife enjoy him better than me, having bigger cock or more ripped muscular body, so will delete the msgs before the wife sees it lol.

I dont think you could be more wrong. If the male if a couple thought anything like this then they wouldn't be swinging at all. That is right, but cant there be jelousy whilst swinging tho?"

There is no way that anything you may or may not do on a meet comes close to what you have as a couple in a relationship ... on so many levels. Anyone kidding themselves that they will be offering something better is living a fantasy out ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it really matters why you were declined, why any of us get declined, accept it with good grace and move on. If you are that confident in yourself that you believe all women find you attractive (hence your hypothesis that it could have been the male who was threatened), then I don't think you understand swinging couples very well.

Couples swing because they are confident in their relationship with one another; if the gent (or lady for that matter), thought that their partner was going to run-off with a one night stand, I doubt that they would be swinging.

I apologise if this post seems unduly harsh but I don't think you "get it"...."
bang on Bristowilts.....so many single guys just don't get why couples are on here....then they moan when they get blocked.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Funnily enough I try to find better looking for fitter guys for E when she fancies it lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I can't help myself but I'm going to have to sit firmly on the fence (as per usual ) here.

I'm sure there are some couples that swing where there is insecurity and potential jealously and so they avoid the super hot guys (or girls).

Similarly there are loads more that are very secure in their relationship and love to see their partners being pleasured by the hotties knowing full well at the end of the evening it's still each other they're going home with.

So in some cases you're probably right OP. If you're as good looking as you suggest you may fall outside of the 'no super hotties' parameters of some couples but conversely, that should make you in demand for those that do like the fuck the really handsome guys!

So avoid the former, seek the latter and fill your boots! Good luck!

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By *otnolongerwifeCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I really wouldn't take it personally. I was once sent a face pics after a short chat from a couple where the male looked like he could pass for my brother.

I'm sure other ladies might find him extremely attractive, but all they were ever going to get from me (rightly or wrongly) was a "Sorry, not my type".

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Without seeing your face pic there's no way to know if you are hot or not.

But one person's hot is another's fugly.

Just my opinion but starting a forum post about being given a 'not thanks could be seen as insecurity on the OP's part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, it would be the fact your verification is from a couple who doesn't have safe sex as an interest of whom the mrs loves cum(rings alarm bells of "oops I forgot condoms"), youre a bit thin(mrs preference is a thicker man) and arrogance is a very unattractive trait to hold. At least you got a reply and a polite one at that

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"That is right, but cant there be jelousy whilst swinging tho?Not with anyone that's been in the scene for any length of time. If you are jealous you shouldn't do it."

This

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful

oops . And this is why you shouldn't aiir your grievances in the forum. The people of you are winging about may actually see yoir post and shame you in public. In this case ypu did indeed confuse your own arrogance for confidence. To us it looks like you really don't understand how a swinging couples relationship works. Step back have a rethink, get over yourself and move on."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't think it really matters why you were declined, why any of us get declined, accept it with good grace and move on. If you are that confident in yourself that you believe all women find you attractive (hence your hypothesis that it could have been the male who was threatened), then I don't think you understand swinging couples very well.

Couples swing because they are confident in their relationship with one another; if the gent (or lady for that matter), thought that their partner was going to run-off with a one night stand, I doubt that they would be swinging.

I apologise if this post seems unduly harsh but I don't think you "get it"...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love each other and don't feel "threatened" hubby loves to watch me enjoy hot well built guys...

Accept it as a no thanks and move on x

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

Again YOU are not perfect for the Mrs, you were told this in a message, I really don't understand. Your question translates as thus;

"are some couples so insecure in their own relationship, that only the man gets to choose who they meet, and he only chooses ugly guys, because he fears competition?"

Now ask yourself, is that a good question to be asking on a swinging website?"

Summed up rather well, anybody that asks that question really doesn't get the dynamic of swinging??? Do I want to see some ugly munter pounding away at my wife or some hot guy she's attracted to and enjoying herself fully??

Seems pretty clear the op doesn't get swinging at all, that's not a dog that's just stating a fact.....

He was given a very polite no thanks and that seems to have been translated to the male part of the couple thinks I'm too good looking for his wife and may be better than him????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think this has turned into like I have a personal issue with being rejected, I don't I'm merely asking the question for is in some couples the guy is insecure and would decline guys that are otherwise perfect for Mrs!

Again YOU are not perfect for the Mrs, you were told this in a message, I really don't understand. Your question translates as thus;

"are some couples so insecure in their own relationship, that only the man gets to choose who they meet, and he only chooses ugly guys, because he fears competition?"

Now ask yourself, is that a good question to be asking on a swinging website?

Summed up rather well, anybody that asks that question really doesn't get the dynamic of swinging??? Do I want to see some ugly munter pounding away at my wife or some hot guy she's attracted to and enjoying herself fully??

Seems pretty clear the op doesn't get swinging at all, that's not a dog that's just stating a fact.....

He was given a very polite no thanks and that seems to have been translated to the male part of the couple thinks I'm too good looking for his wife and may be better than him???? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful

oops . And this is why you shouldn't aiir your grievances in the forum. The people of you are winging about may actually see yoir post and shame you in public. In this case ypu did indeed confuse your own arrogance for confidence. To us it looks like you really don't understand how a swinging couples relationship works. Step back have a rethink, get over yourself and move on."
do you think all couples have the same swinging relationship as a generalisation then ,I think personally its down to messaging most of the time couples and single women are in an advantageous position where they can just move on to the next person and waste their time for a bit until something little happens to put them off ,I think also most of the time the woman leaves it to the guy to make the decision and if he thinks maybe the single guy is say for example too good looking and would form a threat he's out,its a fickle world and its so easy for couples and women to move on as a single guy I do a similar thing with really attractive women if they don't make a point of messaging me first I cut them off and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful

oops . And this is why you shouldn't aiir your grievances in the forum. The people of you are winging about may actually see yoir post and shame you in public. In this case ypu did indeed confuse your own arrogance for confidence. To us it looks like you really don't understand how a swinging couples relationship works. Step back have a rethink, get over yourself and move on."
do you think all couples have the same swinging relationship as a generalisation then ,I think personally its down to messaging most of the time couples and single women are in an advantageous position where they can just move on to the next person and waste their time for a bit until something little happens to put them off ,I think also most of the time the woman leaves it to the guy to make the decision and if he thinks maybe the single guy is say for example too good looking and would form a threat he's out,its a fickle world and its so easy for couples and women to move on as a single guy I do a similar thing with really attractive women if they don't make a point of messaging me first I cut them off and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people "

Maybe you're lacking in the downstairs department and the "you're not her type" spiel is just to spare your feelings?

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

OP stop wasting your time. Most couples have made up their minds.no matter your explanation. They feel you can't accept rejection. I see your point as a single male. Some couples play god over single guys. No matter the effort .Stop contacting couples.go to club and enjoy yourself ..less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't confuse arrogance for confidence!

I understand I'm not for everyone BUT I had also spoken to this couple a couple of years ago when I was on with a partner and at the time they couldn't wait to meet! I didn't mention this to them to see how they would react now and that was the response I got!

I have lots of face pics but their hidden from being viewable by everyone due to my work!

We may be off but feel that this post is aimed at us so will respond as such...

We chatted for several messages, hardly a "while" and on sending your face pic told you straight off thanks but no thanks as you were not her type? This isn't code for your fitter than L this is code for "sorry E doesn't find you attractive"???? As for chatting with us a few years ago as part of your couple we've only been on just over a year....

Sometimes in life you just have to accept a spade is a spade and move on, good luck

If this wasn't aimed at us then hope you find it helpful

oops . And this is why you shouldn't aiir your grievances in the forum. The people of you are winging about may actually see yoir post and shame you in public. In this case ypu did indeed confuse your own arrogance for confidence. To us it looks like you really don't understand how a swinging couples relationship works. Step back have a rethink, get over yourself and move on. do you think all couples have the same swinging relationship as a generalisation then ,I think personally its down to messaging most of the time couples and single women are in an advantageous position where they can just move on to the next person and waste their time for a bit until something little happens to put them off ,I think also most of the time the woman leaves it to the guy to make the decision and if he thinks maybe the single guy is say for example too good looking and would form a threat he's out,its a fickle world and its so easy for couples and women to move on as a single guy I do a similar thing with really attractive women if they don't make a point of messaging me first I cut them off and move on "

You clearly do not understand swinging haha, the majority of men in couples want their partner to enjoy their time with a good looking bloke. Maybe this is the single male's coping mechanism of dealing with rejection. I suppose if it makes it easier, more power to them.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP there could be lots of reasons, when we are looking to play with another couple, I will often show pics to the Mrs, but sometimes I dont bother because I already no what she will say. She will say no to bald men, excessively hairy men, and skinny men.

From your op it sounds as though you think you know more about what the woman will be attracted to more than her own husband/partner, which is really arrogant.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Why would I want the wife to have sex with someone she does not fancy.

I may as well say fuck a sex doll instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd been chatting to a couple for a while, I matched everything they were looking for, all our interests the same etc

Now when it came to meeting and sending pics Mr said I wasn't Mrs's type. Without being big headed I know I'm not ugly, I've never struggled to have attractive girlfriends in the past etc.

Do you think males in couples decline some single guys because of their own insecurities are only looking after number one and only have their Mrs play with less attractive people

Maybe you're lacking in the downstairs department and the "you're not her type" spiel is just to spare your feelings? "

Naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could cut out all that wasted time by putting pictures on your profile, people can see if there's an immediate attraction or not."

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By *ntoonCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Only decline the males with a bigger cock than mine and as such we dont do single guys....

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow


"OP there could be lots of reasons, when we are looking to play with another couple, I will often show pics to the Mrs, but sometimes I dont bother because I already no what she will say. She will say no to bald men, excessively hairy men, and skinny men.

From your op it sounds as though you think you know more about what the woman will be attracted to more than her own husband/partner, which is really arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely don't get swinging

Generally ..guys don't want their wives fucking someone less attractive ? Where is the appeal in that ? Surely they want to see their other half aroused..excited and enjoying the guy ..

My ex loved seeing me turned on with fit guys

Your post comes across as arrogant ...

Looking at your profile..could be a number of things...maybe they want an athletic guy or a guy more endowed than you are? Maybe the chemistry in your conversations wasn't there,..maybe she wasn't attracted after face pics...maybe you came across as arrogant as indeed this post does ?

Whatever it is...move on!!!

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