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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

That is probably a fair comment, just on here to get their rocks off so to speak, maybe meet or maybe just look at the photos (which are bloody hot lol).

It could be that they want to try it all but their partner is not interested with other joining their sexual fun....son it becomes a bit of a fantasy for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they look around and decide it's not for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They cant get into the SWING of things

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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I might have put them off..oops !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might have put them off..oops !!!"

You would never put someone off lol

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

I'd say it's the cheaters / think it's an easy shag / had a drink and got a bit horny etc.

Soon as it needs some work, poof, off to hit some porn instead lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

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What does it matter?

Block newbies then you won't even know they are on the site.

Those that want to be part of the lifestyle will certainly be here a lot longer than a few days.

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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't want to block newbies cos everyone is new at some point...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to block newbies cos everyone is new at some point..."

After a week, they'll be able to contact you. It's not really a harsh filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to block newbies cos everyone is new at some point...

After a week, they'll be able to contact you. It's not really a harsh filter. "

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

They weren't patient enough...

Sorry I wasn't patient enough to wait for shags to say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are always multiple answers for any such question but where you see a new member vanish in literally hours it's almost always a newbie checking out the site . . . it's the ones that are around for sometimes and engage you in a tempting proposition involving some exchange of information and then vanish that worry us.

Given this site permits as many profiles as you wish we always wonder if these "pop up" profiles are people that have been blocked.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Just a bit like window shopping. They try it, find its not for them and so move on. I don't see it as anything sinister or underhand - though given human nature there may be exceptions

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Usually a bit of late night bravado... or d*unk, especially at weekends!!

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

To Perv photos and profiles and are under the assumption there are loads of people gagging for it, when they are not swamped with mail and meet requests they leave

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

Maybe we are just a bunch of scary people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking that they will find legs in the air straightaway and shove their cock in empty balls and leave lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is Sydney university doing their research and take few pics whilst their at it lol.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

To catch their partners on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

Good point here from OP - I think its more to do with curiosity and possible a sexual desire - and those that do that tend to be a ones not wanting to be caught out by their other halves - but in cases of some women and couples its more to do with they are put off by the 100 or so meassages of sex they get per day

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I don't want to block newbies cos everyone is new at some point..."

your right even the ones that say " block newbies" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably picture collectors or wankers .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually a bit of late night bravado... or d*unk, especially at weekends!!"

Agree

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I was thinking this only yesterday..I had someone message me taking about they want this and that then poof disappeared

I found it pretty funny in all honestly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos they were probably just having a nosy -

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I think attempting to join, message, get a reply, schedule a meet a cheat on your partner, all within a few hours is ambitious!

On that basis, I disagree with OP.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

It is known that some of these people want to reply on a thread, but their post may be contentious! So they start a new profile, reply to the post and delete the profile. Seen it happen loads and if you are talking about seeing this on the forum, my guess is it would be this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are female, they have probably found what they are looking for in the 500 messages they receive in the first 30 secs.

If they register as female and they give a Kik address in their status or on their profile, they are fake and will be reported and removed.

If they are male and leave it is because they couldn't find the remote so couldn't do their cock pic.

And a million and one other reasons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for the men who leave but I've spoken to women who have left. They say can't find what I'm looking for, to many weirdos can't trust what the guy is saying a whole host of negative things I spend a lot of time at first trying to convince them I'm normal or genuine but it is a hard thing to get into if your not open minded or thick skinned it's a shock to the system as we found back then and if they leave they leave it's not for them.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"
Filling their wank bank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get scared off by the deluge of creepy and agressive messages?

Seen a profile when a girl was setting up a new one.

In the time while she was writing the profile text etc before putting pics on had revived a few dozen messages including several from the same people demanding to know why they didn't get a reply.

I can see it putting a fair few off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one not long ago. Called himself a wife user. told him no one was "using the wife". He read our reply and left the site.

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS
over a year ago

visiting Eastbourne

All down to personal choice, if they get blocked for no reason this gives a poor impression of the users on this site.

However a great deal of patience is required to negotiate the resident time wasters etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

A couple of wild assumptions there...maybe they dipped the toe in and found how judgemental people can be and decided FAB wasnt for them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had that the other day abfemale checking the site looking for her Boyfriend said "ring him " she wasnt amused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think there mams and dads cach them and take there phones off them lol xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had that the other day abfemale checking the site looking for her Boyfriend said "ring him " she wasnt amused"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking that they will find legs in the air straightaway and shove their cock in empty balls and leave lol"

You're assuming it's only men who do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They go cock blind and accidently delete their profile???!!

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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??

A couple of wild assumptions there...maybe they dipped the toe in and found how judgemental people can be and decided FAB wasnt for them.."
This could well be the case in most instances but for us we have had it with site supporters with past veris, they message you, you spend most of the evening exchanging flirty messages talking about arranging a meet, even exchange pics. You say your good night's then the next day when you go to continue where you left off... Poof user no longer on site. It just gets frustrating. We feel really sorry for all the genuine people out there who have to pretty much fight to get the initial contact going and it's because of things like this that spoils the fun for all of us.

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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"They go cock blind and accidently delete their profile???!!"

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By *irkby coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirkby

I don't understand why people leave and re-join straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

We have had the 'user no longer on site' many times, hence one of the reasons why we are tailing off our activities on here? All the reasons posted by others on this subject do figure to an extent, however, our experience of it is that when we've arranged to meet someone after chatting for a while, and when it comes to the day/evening of the arranged meet, he, or they, go mysteriously quiet! We don't here from them in any way shape or form, and more often than not, when we go on here, we can see that they've been on line, read our messages, and don't bother to reply? We go to the meeting venue at the time agreed, and then nothing, another no-show, no call/text, nothing.....the next day, we look on here, and there it is 'user no longer on site'.....and this is with people who have been verified too, so its not just newbies that do it? Plus, we agree with '_aidback pair' that newbies should be given a chance, as we did all have to start somewhere, so its only fair? The culprits usually leave it a week or two, then set up a new profile, and unless you are very quick off the mark, and somehow recognise them, they go unnoticed, and unbelievably, we've had a couple and a single guy contact us again a couple of weeks after they stood us up, asking if we want to meet up! Luckily, we rumbled them, and an hour later its 'user no longer on site' again.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones the leave then come back, then leave then come back are far more annoying

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to block newbies cos everyone is new at some point...

After a week, they'll be able to contact you. It's not really a harsh filter. "

you just answered my question - how long are you classed as a newbie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't answer message for 6 months now just so I know they're truly serious about being on here

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

i think there just checking out the site and decide it's not for them

wow in my opinion that is a very big assumption

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??"

Hello

We had an experience on here when a guy we blocked made a new profile to make threats. He then left the site. Fabs a great website but sadly it's so easy to sign up. There's not much the admin can do though

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By *aidback pair OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Why do people join up for a few hours and then leave the site???

My opinion is they aren't into swinging, they just want to cheat on their partners..what do other people think??

i think there just checking out the site and decide it's not for them

wow in my opinion that is a very big assumption

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it's just our opinion on this and we know it's only a small % of people who do it but it seriously does get to you. Especially when you are putting a degree of trust in them sharing intimate pictures and spending time messaging back and forward when they have no intention of meeting up. It really isn't fair for the genuine people who simply want to have fun and explore. We can only imagine how frustrating it must be especially for the single males who are genuine and just simply want to have fun and help others with their fantasy. Then get couples and singles reserved to interact. We always try to answer all our messages even if it's a polite No thank you but we can understand why some don't even get a reply. It's good manors after all to take the time to reply, but it is hard keeping positive when you are giving up your time for these people and you are missing out with the genuine ones whilst chatting with them then they just leave for a few days then re-appear. It feels like they think I have wasted your time now F**k you! Sorry for the essay here xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they sent a few, i'm horny messages and got no replies and though all time wasters and left, lol

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Just this ... I get messages often ... but I cannot reply ...

I always think they have an account on their computer whilst at work ... as the messages are often left during office hours ... but by the time I get to read them ... they have logged out ...

Its very frustrating ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's folks who join looking for information on garden play equipment, jungle gyms and what not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they join, find that they don't get laid within the first few hours and it's not handed to them on a plate and bugger off!

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