FabSwingers.com forum: Fuck or Friends?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just curious about the general attitude towards meets, do you enjoy spontaneous hookups more or less than doing it with people you've spoken to for any amount of time?

We as a couple enjoy getting to know people before we do anything and the fact that friendships can bloom out of swinging but we were curious on the draw of just hooking up for sex.

All opinions welcome, what do you guys like and why?

Mike and Millie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The excitement is there if you just meet up and have sex but I think if you want a meaningful experience the best way is to get to know them and experience more. The excitement will last longer. Tough one :/

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By *pa and dCouple
over a year ago

Barnet

There's pro's and con's to both. Sometimes nothing beats the excitement of meeting people for the first time and playing with them soon after meeting (whether thats a few minutes after in a club, or a few hours after on a meet).

But on other occasions it's nice to meet again with people who you connect with and know which "buttons to press".

A bit of both works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thrill , the excitement and the nerves are really at their peak for a new experience . Once you've met and played its watered down somewhat .

We are the first to admit that we prefer one offs as we are adrenaline junkies , using sex for our fix .

For the meaningful , more emotional sex , we have each other .

Meets are about the buzz and stretching boundaries . Doing things we can't do together , and helping those we meet act out in reality their fantasies .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One offs are not what I look for .Sex gets better when you see same person .Try things more ,push boundaries and get more experimental .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious about the general attitude towards meets, do you enjoy spontaneous hookups more or less than doing it with people you've spoken to for any amount of time?

We as a couple enjoy getting to know people before we do anything and the fact that friendships can bloom out of swinging but we were curious on the draw of just hooking up for sex.

All opinions welcome, what do you guys like and why?

Mike and Millie

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I agree with what you said about getting to know people sex is surely better with people you know and like its just a bodily function otherwise ,I'm into cuddling to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always has to be with someone I like and would fancy outside of Fab. I wouldn't have sex with someone just because it's Fab.

So, with that disclaimer in place:

There's easy excitement to be had with new people, if that makes sense.

With friends you don't get that excitement unless you put in some effort, but if you do put the effort in and you keep the excitement stirring with friends that you meet a few times then it's fucking awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thrill , the excitement and the nerves are really at their peak for a new experience . Once you've met and played its watered down somewhat .

We are the first to admit that we prefer one offs as we are adrenaline junkies , using sex for our fix .

For the meaningful , more emotional sex , we have each other .

Meets are about the buzz"

I agree

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We keep real life and swinging life quite separate. We have all the friends we need in real life. Swinging is for nsa sex and fulfilling fantasies - we don't want the complications of friendship. However having said that we meet some great people in the clubs we visit and with whom we enjoy spending time in the clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always has to be with someone I like and would fancy outside of Fab. I wouldn't have sex with someone just because it's Fab.

So, with that disclaimer in place:

There's easy excitement to be had with new people, if that makes sense.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy the thrill and the nervous anticipation of someone new. But that can be recreated with repeat meets with the same person, with the added bonus of being able to develop trust and try new things. So I'm going to sit on the fence and say I like both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some really good answers across the board so far, thanks for all taking the time to reply

Would seem mostly leaning toward 50/50 or full NSA mind so wondering if perhaps we are missing out?!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Always has to be with someone I like and would fancy outside of Fab. I wouldn't have sex with someone just because it's Fab.

So, with that disclaimer in place:

There's easy excitement to be had with new people, if that makes sense.

This works for us and a couple of our one-offs have ended up much much more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One offs are not what I look for .Sex gets better when you see same person .Try things more ,push boundaries and get more experimental .

same here the more you get to know that someone then it just gets better and better you lose any body hang ups and after every meet you just think wow i want more and its also alot safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind either but have found that with one guy the more I got to know him the more he became my friend and the less I wanted to play with him.

That was sad because, aesthetically, he was everything I went for. But it was good because I now have a good friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The friendlier I get with someone, the less I want to play with them...somehow the nervous energy slowly ebbs away...and the sex becomes less edgy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't mind either but have found that with one guy the more I got to know him the more he became my friend and the less I wanted to play with him.

That was sad because, aesthetically, he was everything I went for. But it was good because I now have a good friend."

In a way this is kinda what we like about swinging though, it's a series of emotional developments that just cannot be found in a "normal" friendship.

What starts as lust ends in friendship, while sad you could potentially lose a FB what you can gain could be just as worth it.

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By *inkylouiseWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

We have done both. we have made some amazing friends through the swinging scene but sometimes we just want to fuk and go lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really important to me to like someone and feel a connection...to feel that we have some sort of spark and the mental stimulation that comes from getting to know someone is part of that. I hate the fuck and go invitations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One offs only for us

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I do enjoy the thrill and the nervous anticipation of someone new. But that can be recreated with repeat meets with the same person, with the added bonus of being able to develop trust and try new things. So I'm going to sit on the fence and say I like both

Agreed. The variety that I feel I can get from this includes variety o types of partner - one off's are exciting, first meets are exciting, repeats are exciting.

But all are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like being friendly with the people we play with. Don't get me wrong, we aren't meeting them every week for shopping excursions, but we will see them in clubs and chat without playing that night.

One-offs are great too, but not our preferred choice, if that makes sense.

As for why, I guess it is because I find that getting to know people, and what they like, makes sex with them even more enjoyable. Not to mention that some incredibly wonderful people play and use this site and I wouldn't want to miss out on being friends with them.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to get straight to the sex, after all that's what I'm here for.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

At a club I am happy to play without getting to know someone.

Here, I prefer to get to know a lady before meeting. That might be justva couple of days chatting but I find sex is much better if we know about each other's likes/dislikes, have a rapport.

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