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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to take them with a very very very big pinch of salt!

I am sure that in some cases this is true, but I have never come across one that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always brings a smile to our faces

could be code for something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

Hmmm my wife says I can Fuck other people and she don't care

BO I don't believe it for a second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total bullcrap, awesome pics btw

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By *he ProletariatMan
over a year ago

axminster

She's not interested us my bet while he wants to shagging everything!....

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll if I put something up it's true but not sure about other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always brings a smile to our faces

could be code for something "
Mmm some espionage how exciting

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

When I was married we had a couples profile.

When I had both my ops I stopped playing he didn't. Admitted I don't think he updated the status but we did amend the profile to say had the op on this date.... and x amount of weeks before I would be back on my feet.

He still went to parties and over to friends for Sex. I really didn't have a problem with it

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We'll if I put something up it's true but not sure about other people "

Me too! Also when I post on the forum it's gospel truth, if anyone disagrees they are obviously wrong and are idiots!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

Never believe them and have it in our profile that we will not meet male half of couples alone, if they message us as a couple we want to meet a couple!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You could add to that the number of guys who message saying they have a FB and would like to meet. Always ask that the FB in question contacts us to confirm this at which point it goes strangely quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH is genuinely aware of my presence here and has full access to the account should he require it.

Admittedly I don't meet sexually but he has zero interest in being involved in the swinging lifestyle.

That said, he has even been on a couple of socials with me (with folks I knew before rejoining and, of course, with their express consent).

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"You could add to that the number of guys who message saying they have a FB and would like to meet. Always ask that the FB in question contacts us to confirm this at which point it goes strangely quiet."

Oh Yeah! But she's really really keen!

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I also love couples profiles wgo are really keen to meet but their only photos were uploaded in 2009!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

I don't believe them but have often been criticised for questioning forum posts saying similar.

In my opinion if your partner is looking to have sex alone they should be the ones doing the looking. However I understand that for some having their partner finding them playmates is a scenario they like to play out but they usually make that clear.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

Our profile is genuine, our verifications are genuine, either of us is happy to confirm our consent in respect of the other, by telephone or cam.

We don't much care if people choose not to believe us or confirm this with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then set up singles profiles aswell as your couples profile. If you contact people from a couples profile surely you realise they will expect you to be a couple.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Then set up singles profiles aswell as your couples profile. If you contact people from a couples profile surely you realise they will expect you to be a couple."

Not if they can read, that's kinda a pre-req for us, that they read our message and profile...

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Then set up singles profiles aswell as your couples profile. If you contact people from a couples profile surely you realise they will expect you to be a couple."

Set up a singles profile for a few weeks despite the fact you're not single and people whine about singles that actually are not.

Luckily I've always been out and about on the scene and had great friends on here and that have parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found confirming there is a female half by cam or phone to help out the fakers

Mike

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

My hubby can meet alone on my week off, we will put that on our couples status.

I asked if he wanted to set up a single profile, he said no there is no point. Up to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

Its not that I don't believe all of them,I just wouldn't respond or want to get involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then set up singles profiles aswell as your couples profile. If you contact people from a couples profile surely you realise they will expect you to be a couple.

Set up a singles profile for a few weeks despite the fact you're not single and people whine about singles that actually are not.

Luckily I've always been out and about on the scene and had great friends on here and that have parties."

You put a singles profile up telling them you also have a couples profile linking them to it so they can check. That way when people search for or hear from a couple they wont be mistakenly finding or hearing from a single guy under the guise of a couple!! Pretty simple really

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

The opposite here, she plays but he does not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have permission to play alone. We just don't advertis it.

As you can imagine us women aren't short of offers but for him is hard work.

He has had a singles profile but even thats a very slow process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont believe most

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


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You put a singles profile up telling them you also have a couples profile linking them to it so they can check. That way when people search for or hear from a couple they wont be mistakenly finding or hearing from a single guy under the guise of a couple!! Pretty simple really "

Guess what, this is not the only swinging site on the internet. So we set up 3 profiles on every site, to please people like you?

Or, we're honest on our profile, honest from the outset in any contact, and provide the means to confirm if anyone has concerns.

Pretty simple really.

You will always get people misrepresenting themselves, and one of the worst abuses on here is to set up multiple profiles to self verify and circumvent blocks.

So as long as we don't break any forum rules, and don't misrepresent ourselves, either collectively or singly, then we won't be going to the extra effort of setting up and maintaining additional profiles.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Weird double standard hmmm wonder what happen the question flip the other way round

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

So long as it is clear on the profile and if challenged are happy to confirm it then have no problem with members of a couple playing separately.

It's not for us so we would just ignore such profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you contact someone as a single person who has blocked single people you are breaking the rules I think. It's a way for people to get around a block.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Just check the veris people. If they are an established couple then I'd believe it either way round.

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By *punky-guyMan
over a year ago

Farnborough

Yes it can be true, My other half has moved on into escorting as the demand is there. We do still attend parties and clubs but in all honesty she is busy enough with the escorting that she rarely bothers which leave's me alone to play solo

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

If a man sets up a woman's profile but openly states he's a man on it most on here wouldn't find that acceptable?

It's not the issue of just stating on your profile it's because others have filters and saved searches etc and profiles that are one thing but mean another, whether the text of the profile clarifies the true status or not, do affect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I ever get messages from these profiles I nicely explain that we will not meet him on his own for the 1st time n that we want to meet his partner with him just for a social x

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Yes it can be true, My other half has moved on into escorting as the demand is there. We do still attend parties and clubs but in all honesty she is busy enough with the escorting that she rarely bothers which leave's me alone to play solo"

Im talking about couples profiles, not single profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just check the veris people. If they are an established couple then I'd believe it either way round. "

And recently verified as a couple.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Weird double standard hmmm wonder what happen the question flip the other way round "

Profiles get reported and if they meet with a partner admin change them to a couples profile. (Profile text, veris or reported messages)

Unless someone is using a profile to get round blocks or filters it's not against site rules

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

sure it will work with some but not us lol

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Just check the veris people. If they are an established couple then I'd believe it either way round.

And recently verified as a couple."

assuming of course the veri is 100% genuine!!!

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

I'm heavily pregnant (close on 8 months) and I'm just not into sex right now - I hurt, am knackered and would just rather sleep.

BUT I don't see why my being out of commission should mean J should suffer.

So he is actively playing with my permission.

We've been asked why he hasn't got a singles profile - simply put _I'M_ not happy with that.

It makes me uncomfortable - which is why I'm more than happy with verifying that I'm here, that I exist and that I'm actively giving permission

--F

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS
over a year ago

away

Lost count of the number of couples where the female half unavailable.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I'm heavily pregnant (close on 8 months) and I'm just not into sex right now - I hurt, am knackered and would just rather sleep.

BUT I don't see why my being out of commission should mean J should suffer.

So he is actively playing with my permission.

We've been asked why he hasn't got a singles profile - simply put _I'M_ not happy with that.

It makes me uncomfortable - which is why I'm more than happy with verifying that I'm here, that I exist and that I'm actively giving permission

--F"

Should all single men who meet alone but have partners therefore register as couples?

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose


"I'm heavily pregnant (close on 8 months) and I'm just not into sex right now - I hurt, am knackered and would just rather sleep.

BUT I don't see why my being out of commission should mean J should suffer.

So he is actively playing with my permission.

We've been asked why he hasn't got a singles profile - simply put _I'M_ not happy with that.

It makes me uncomfortable - which is why I'm more than happy with verifying that I'm here, that I exist and that I'm actively giving permission

--F

Should all single men who meet alone but have partners therefore register as couples?"

Of course not. I wouldn't suggest they did. But I don't want my husband having one. So he doesn't - and I trust him on that.

We are honest with anyone who asks and if its a deal breaker for them, then that is fair enough.

My husband having a single male profile on here is a deal breaker for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do allow him to play alone! As he does me! I love the thought of him playing, i go out and suck and fuck guys, record it and show the hubby when i get in, to which he pounces on me and cleans up! Its the best sex we have had! I do see alot of guys on here saying they can play alone..but my way of finding these fakes or cheaters out is to say ok as long as your mrs can play with my lad alone too? And we can record it and show our partners...there is alot of guys either cheating or not allowing their female partners to play alone!..not very fair if you ask me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Wife has full knowledge of what I do. Anyone can contact her and ask. If you want to speak to her when she is at work, then you would have to wait! but apart from that no problem.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

That was some of the first messages I ever got lol

I would hope no one would fall for it but there's always one xx

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Usually take it with a pinch of salt. A great memory here is always good and watching the meet tonight/status update bulls#it trip over itself is funny at times

Cpl looking for a st8 male for straight male mfm in the morning. in the afternoon the female half is looking for a cpl or fem for the male half. In the evening when horny & pissed o'clock has arrived the same profile is looking for a bi male to meet the male whilst the female is out

One of many variations on the same crap Can only imagine they think others are as daft as themselves regardless of their state of arousal

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By *ikkii25Couple
over a year ago

johnstone

No

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work? "

We don't put this on our status, but pepper plays much less than black cop. At clubs and parties, it depends on our mood - as individuals as well as a couple - sometimes ones of us sees someone who takers our fancy, whereas the other does not feel like playing. We don't feel that we both have to play at any point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who believes messages or status updates like this? Does it ever work?

Its not that I don't believe all of them,I just wouldn't respond or want to get involved "

Same here! I only play with couples at clubs or parties as its so much easier to see if you all fancy each other and 'click'!

I wouldn't meet just the guy of a couple as

A - there loads of single guys on here so why complicate matters?

B - Couples often have rules about what they can do ie no kissing, no anal, no overnights etc etc - and hilts I respect those rules I'd rather just meet someone with no rules so we can just do what feels right!

Xx

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