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Body confidence - has yours increased with age? :-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!

A year ago I didn't know that ladies liked thighs, abs or arms.

I don't feel any sexier, but knowing there are ladies who like my lumps and bumps and veiny bits is absolutely lovely

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

200% more confident now than any other time in my life. I still may not be "perfect" but I finally understand that no-one else is either (even models). And my confidence has definitely improved my sex life. I love my curves now, love showing them off and love the effect I can have on others even more

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants


"200% more confident now than any other time in my life. I still may not be "perfect" but I finally understand that no-one else is either (even models). And my confidence has definitely improved my sex life. I love my curves now, love showing them off and love the effect I can have on others even more "

And this is coming from a girl who had severe suicidal depression and no libido for over a decade!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely!

A year ago I didn't know that ladies liked thighs, abs or arms.

I don't feel any sexier, but knowing there are ladies who like my lumps and bumps and veiny bits is absolutely lovely "

A word I would use though is relaxed. I'm comfortable being who I am, I don't have unrealistic expectations of anyone else's body, so I think I help the people i meet relax too.

And it may be this that goes some way to answering your question about some younger people liking older people: because being happy, comfortable and relaxed is infectious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I never go fully naked. Have never had a lot of confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly have more confidence int my body now and more confidence in general to be honest. Used to be really shy, but not now..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I prefer myself now, mentally and physically, than I ever did. I have noticed things are starting to take longer, my biceps for example.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I am. Thanks to parents who gave me confidence in my body from day one I've always felt ok about myself but now I feel even more so at an age where you'd expect the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much more than even 2 years ago. I know I'm not amazing, I know my body will never compete with the 20 year old gym buddy - but y'know what I know how to use it. It's taken until now to get there though and accept my body for its faults.

So if you're after someone with wobbly bits, scars and stretch marks - hit me up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always had high body confidence and I am happy with my gains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much more than even 2 years ago. I know I'm not amazing, I know my body will never compete with the 20 year old gym buddy - but y'know what I know how to use it. It's taken until now to get there though and accept my body for its faults.

So if you're after someone with wobbly bits, scars and stretch marks - hit me up! "

Clearly that was meant to be gym bunny...

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Yes I am comfortable in my own skin.It has taken me to my forties to feel that.I think for me as I have got older I have realised that body image is only a small part of who you are, your personality and character play the main part. I am more confident as maybe I don't feel that I need or want anyones approval on how I look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much confident but that I don't give that much of a shit about how other people see me

When I was younger and shouldn't have worried was the time that I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more confident since having kids, I don't care as much if people don't like me, I prefer older guys anyway, but they do seem to be less judgemental.x

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

Not sure if i am more confident or if i just worry about it less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am pretty confident about mine .

I am no gym bunny but I feel really good in the skin I am in. If others disagree well we are all allowed our views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence has decreased but that is all weight related. I'm the fattest I've ever been. Having said that i no longer worry about what others think....which may explain why I've put weight on

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I loathed myself when I was in the army. 18, hot, fit and slim.

Now I'm older, wiser, fatter and never more confident.

As long as they don't grab my belly during rumpy pumpy, couldn't give a flying frig what anyone thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent years damaging my body through bulimia and obsessing over every stupid pound, but now I'm bigger and much happier.

I've got all my limbs intact, my organs all work, and I'm healthy. Im not hooked up to a machine waiting for a transplant, or have a terminal illness to face, all of which some other people are not so fortunate to say.

I no longer care about a few pounds or whether I look good in a certain light. I have one body and am so SO grateful for being blessed with the one I do, imperfections and all.

My priorities have changed for the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body confidence has rocketed since turning 30. It coincided with no longer giving a damn what others think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was very body confident up to a couple of years ago then I got ill, lost quite a lot of weight and needed to have 2 operations. I'm not as confident now as I was before

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I think it may be a case of as I get older I couldn't give a stuff of what others think to a degree of course. I just care a little less. I've alway's wanted a more fuller womanly figure,but I've always been pretty happy with how I am.

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

My body cause I go to the gym I love it now more than 10 years ago it's great to flaunt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a much better body in my 20s than I do now but I definitely feel more confident now. Maybe it's just a case of me not caring so much about impressing guys anymore, if you like me great, if not, no big deal. I'm more comfortable so more confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always been pretty confident with mine, always tried to keep in shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a question of confidence per se for us. Like being naked around others and 0 fucks given about it more like. Maybe a more mature attitude to nudity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"200% more confident now than any other time in my life. I still may not be "perfect" but I finally understand that no-one else is either (even models). And my confidence has definitely improved my sex life. I love my curves now, love showing them off and love the effect I can have on others even more

And this is coming from a girl who had severe suicidal depression and no libido for over a decade!"

Delighted you're happier now lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"200% more confident now than any other time in my life. I still may not be "perfect" but I finally understand that no-one else is either (even models). And my confidence has definitely improved my sex life. I love my curves now, love showing them off and love the effect I can have on others even more

And this is coming from a girl who had severe suicidal depression and no libido for over a decade!

Delighted you're happier now lovely! "

I used to be quite fat in my younger days, now I just like showing off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was very body confident up to a couple of years ago then I got ill, lost quite a lot of weight and needed to have 2 operations. I'm not as confident now as I was before "

Hope you get your confidence back lovely. For what it's worth you look amazing to me! Xx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm more confident now than I ever have been but my body is in better shape now than it ever has been , nothing to do with age but my losing weight and getting my boobs done. I hated my body until this last year or two. It's still not perfect and never will be but much better than it was.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm more confident now than I ever have been but my body is in better shape now than it ever has been , nothing to do with age but my losing weight and getting my boobs done. I hated my body until this last year or two. It's still not perfect and never will be but much better than it was. "

Well you looked fabulous when I saw you at Lickety's party!!

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

I'm curvy, but fitter than I've ever been. Thanks to swinging, getting more confident about myself by the month...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm curvy, but fitter than I've ever been. Thanks to swinging, getting more confident about myself by the month..."

Glad to hear it!

From what I've seen since joining fab - what we look like is only a part of how we feel about ourselves and our bodies!

I'm happier all round than I was a couple of years ago! Far less 'gym fit' than I was - but hay ho!!

Glad you're having fun lovely!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm more body confident now but I think that's because I have less body than I did when I was younger. Hindsight being 20/20 I kind of wish I'd done it years ago when I was prettier and gravity hadn't affected my boobs as much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way more confident in my 40s than I was in my 20s... tho I probably didn't appreciate what I had back then and totally took it for granted I'd look like that forever !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!) "

snap i think that confidence must come with age like you i get more compliments now then i did when i was younger and alot slimmer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im so much more confident now with my body than ive ever been, I was a tiny shapeless thing when I was younger, and now I have hips ass and tits and I love it

I embrace my imperfections now and if someone doesnt like it well I just dont care...

I love my mummy tummy infact proud of it, it was a gift from my two beautiful children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"200% more confident now than any other time in my life. I still may not be "perfect" but I finally understand that no-one else is either (even models). And my confidence has definitely improved my sex life. I love my curves now, love showing them off and love the effect I can have on others even more "

Especially your comment that no-one is perfect. Even models have insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if my eyes have worsened or my body has improved over age, either way I'm too far gone and comfortable to worry about it so take my lumps and bumps as you find them and enjoy the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I'm a fat lump but I find I can walk around a club half naked where I wouldn't of done years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so much that I'm more confident with age - it's more that I care far less what others think...!!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

More body confident than ever.

It is what it is and I've got over worrying about it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes and no but largely yes.

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS
over a year ago

away

More confident with my body as getting older, however body is also getting older.

I think I missed the optimum crossover point

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Technically no, but I care less, and fortunately the average person my age has fared even worse, pushing me slightly closer to 'average'.

Mrs ddc has developed into a proper stunner though

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Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not so much that I'm more confident with age - it's more that I care far less what others think...!!!

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Me too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!) "

Nope, I'm as shy and timid as I ever was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More confident with my body as getting older, however body is also getting older.

I think I missed the optimum crossover point

"

I feel very much like i wasted my best years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am way more body confident now than I ever used to be. The younger, slimmer toned 20/30 something me was much better in theory body wise but always self conscious about lumps & bumps that were hardly there.

Now I have the lumps & bumps but im in a stage of life where I think I look okay, I'm more chilled & relaxed and that shows when I'm with people, hopefully

Confidence in itself is a sexy trait to achieve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am way more body confident now than I ever used to be. The younger, slimmer toned 20/30 something me was much better in theory body wise but always self conscious about lumps & bumps that were hardly there.

Now I have the lumps & bumps but im in a stage of life where I think I look okay, I'm more chilled & relaxed and that shows when I'm with people, hopefully

Confidence in itself is a sexy trait to achieve."

I think you have it in a nutshell there my lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Confident with myself and my body

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By *urlyshirleyCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol

I get more pleasure now than I ever did. Perky tits and a toned tum would be cool but when they were, I wanted the former bigger and the latter flatter. Doh. Now its about enjoying how it feels not how it looks, for me and for a guy, so long as we both feel awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally - main thing was getting rid of the fella that put me down for 20 years and made me feel a fat useless piece of shit - which i now know i never was - once i realised that and its reinforced by people i care for now i feel ace

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don't think I will ever be truly body confident, I try to always stay dressed at clubs, disliking getting naked for anyone other than Adam. But I think I've learned that despite that, other people think I am hot so I use that to boost my confidence. It's a great feeling.

These days however I don't particularly care how people judge me. Whereas perhaps as a young woman it would have bothered me.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I have never been body confident. As I have got older I just don't care what others think of me and my body. Red

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By *arker66Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Body looks still ok ! But feels knackered lol too many sporting injuries from boxing rugby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had much body confidence, but I still don't seem to have much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not so much confident but that I don't give that much of a shit about how other people see me

When I was younger and shouldn't have worried was the time that I did "

Same for me (fem). I am not sure I'm any more confident but I care a bit less about what people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but aside from the scars my body has improved with age and training.

I'm not some skinny fat kid with tiny arms and a beer gut any more lok

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By *ooking75Man
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *ooking75Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Yes, I was a dumpy fat kid who was bullied into being a young adult, I work quite hard to loose the weight and thought I'm not prefect for the first time in my life I quite like myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def more body confident now im older , iv learnt to appreciate all my flaws , if u dont like me as i am then jog on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.. ..seems I'm the only one who's body confidence hasn't increased with age. I must be a bigger freak than i thought.

Loving all you body confident people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. In the last 10 years I shed my self consciousness, embraced naturism and can't wait to get my kit off these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on her

Most definitely it has

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

No. I look back now & realise I actually had an amazing figure when younger but was always the "fat one" amongst friends.

I lost all my baby weight & got to a size I felt really good being. Then my ex left, I got depressed & all my hard work went to pot.

I shifted half of it then had an injury which meant no exercise for 2 years.

I absolutely hate my body & am determined to get it back to somewhere I'm comfortable with - not a specific weight or size though.

I want to go to a club but won't until I can feel good in a nice dress

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"No. I look back now & realise I actually had an amazing figure when younger but was always the "fat one" amongst friends.

I lost all my baby weight & got to a size I felt really good being. Then my ex left, I got depressed & all my hard work went to pot.

I shifted half of it then had an injury which meant no exercise for 2 years.

I absolutely hate my body & am determined to get it back to somewhere I'm comfortable with - not a specific weight or size though.

I want to go to a club but won't until I can feel good in a nice dress "

After meeting you I think you'd look great in anything.... Xx

I fully understand what you are saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone who looks in the mirror see,s faults in themselves...

Its human nature...

When I was younger I compared myself to friends around me...

I still look in the mirror and the ugggh I dont like this or that...

But at the same time I brush it off, as ive

got older I now know beauty is in the eye of the beholder ...

Attraction to someone is a mixture of things...

Not a six pack

Or perfect hair or a golden tan etc...

Attraction runs deeper than the outer packing

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm fortunate that I've always been happy being me.

Yes, I was slimmer and fitter before becoming a mum, but nobody is perfect.

So far I also seem to be ageing fairly well... So that doesn't do the confidence any harm

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was much more confident when I was younger, because I looked better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was much more confident when I was younger, because I looked better "

Yay! At last!....someone on my page

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think I've always been fairly confident but there's a massive chunk of me (it is huge!) who doesn't worry too much about what other people think now. I used to worry about that but I think if you can carry yourself with confidence then it shows. I like happy people who are comfy in their skin. We all have flaws and we all have things we don't like about our bodies but if you don't like it, fix it. If you're stuck with it, learn to live with it.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I meant to say... it's also massively to do with being older and wiser and knowing what matters, what's important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was much more confident when I was younger, because I looked better

Yay! At last!....someone on my page "

When I was younger and fitter I didn't have confidence. Confidence for me isn't about how I feel about my body, but a realisation about what others think about me.

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By *ome Social With UsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

East Midlands


"Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!) "

nope as got older i'm less confident about body looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was much more confident when I was younger, because I looked better

Yay! At last!....someone on my page

When I was younger and fitter I didn't have confidence. Confidence for me isn't about how I feel about my body, but a realisation about what others think about me."

See I'm the other way round, I don't care what others think about me, its what I think about me, and I know I looked better when I was young and before I have my stomach cut open three times, I know the scares and flabby skin don't bother other people but they do me and no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've always been fairly confident but there's a massive chunk of me (it is huge!) who doesn't worry too much about what other people think now. I used to worry about that but I think if you can carry yourself with confidence then it shows. I like happy people who are comfy in their skin. We all have flaws and we all have things we don't like about our bodies but if you don't like it, fix it. If you're stuck with it, learn to live with it. "

I don't worry what others think anymore but I'm certainly not confident with my body and know that I can't compete with anyone in any of the best body bit competitions. I think what I'm saying is I'm ok with people seeing my body and don't have any issues meeting someone....but i know not to join in any wet t shirt competitions for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've always been fairly confident but there's a massive chunk of me (it is huge!) who doesn't worry too much about what other people think now. I used to worry about that but I think if you can carry yourself with confidence then it shows. I like happy people who are comfy in their skin. We all have flaws and we all have things we don't like about our bodies but if you don't like it, fix it. If you're stuck with it, learn to live with it.

I don't worry what others think anymore but I'm certainly not confident with my body and know that I can't compete with anyone in any of the best body bit competitions. I think what I'm saying is I'm ok with people seeing my body and don't have any issues meeting someone....but i know not to join in any wet t shirt competitions for example."

Stand next to me you'll look fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not "

I know what you mean and totally agree. I don't think I'm attractive and nothing anyone can say would change that. However, I've realised that I don't need to be attractive because I'm nice, funny, relaxed, etc and I make ladies feel happy and relaxed too.

As such, I'm comfortable and confident with that, rather than now suddenly thinking that my squinty-eyed grin is attractive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've always been fairly confident but there's a massive chunk of me (it is huge!) who doesn't worry too much about what other people think now. I used to worry about that but I think if you can carry yourself with confidence then it shows. I like happy people who are comfy in their skin. We all have flaws and we all have things we don't like about our bodies but if you don't like it, fix it. If you're stuck with it, learn to live with it.

I don't worry what others think anymore but I'm certainly not confident with my body and know that I can't compete with anyone in any of the best body bit competitions. I think what I'm saying is I'm ok with people seeing my body and don't have any issues meeting someone....but i know not to join in any wet t shirt competitions for example.

Stand next to me you'll look fine "

Shut up you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before i had kids, age 23, i went out a lot and got chatted up a lot. So never really had any issues about my appearance despite never being classically pretty or beautiful.

I didn't really understand why guys asked me out though or fancied me, never been one to obsess about my looks but never seen anything there in myself, so subconsciously i think i did compare myself to something but no idea what.

It's never been anything to do with age but more people reactions and actions i guess. They didn't validate anything for me, nor did they invalidate anything. People are just people, but i did notice some guys would go after anything and everyone if they thought it would get them a fuck. It's the ones who didn't do that who are more flattering, the ones who bothered to talk to you every time they saw you and try to get to know you, were shy but had the courage to be open with you. Which i guess focuses more on your personality and how you make other people feel comfortable and not embarrassed to be themselves, whereas the guys who didn't care and were cocky, well they're less appealing really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not

I know what you mean and totally agree. I don't think I'm attractive and nothing anyone can say would change that. However, I've realised that I don't need to be attractive because I'm nice, funny, relaxed, etc and I make ladies feel happy and relaxed too.

As such, I'm comfortable and confident with that, rather than now suddenly thinking that my squinty-eyed grin is attractive! "

I do understand that

I know I'm nothing to look at but I also know I'm a good, nice person, I get on with everybody and I think my sarcastic sence of humour and quick whitted personality wins guys over, I think I'm one of those women that when I meet on first glance of me men are unsure but after talking to me they fall for me

That's what I tell myself anyhoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not

I know what you mean and totally agree. I don't think I'm attractive and nothing anyone can say would change that. However, I've realised that I don't need to be attractive because I'm nice, funny, relaxed, etc and I make ladies feel happy and relaxed too.

As such, I'm comfortable and confident with that, rather than now suddenly thinking that my squinty-eyed grin is attractive!

I do understand that

I know I'm nothing to look at but I also know I'm a good, nice person, I get on with everybody and I think my sarcastic sence of humour and quick whitted personality wins guys over, I think I'm one of those women that when I meet on first glance of me men are unsure but after talking to me they fall for me

That's what I tell myself anyhoo "

This is me too. I just can sometimes lure ladies closer with my thighs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not

I know what you mean and totally agree. I don't think I'm attractive and nothing anyone can say would change that. However, I've realised that I don't need to be attractive because I'm nice, funny, relaxed, etc and I make ladies feel happy and relaxed too.

As such, I'm comfortable and confident with that, rather than now suddenly thinking that my squinty-eyed grin is attractive!

I do understand that

I know I'm nothing to look at but I also know I'm a good, nice person, I get on with everybody and I think my sarcastic sence of humour and quick whitted personality wins guys over, I think I'm one of those women that when I meet on first glance of me men are unsure but after talking to me they fall for me

That's what I tell myself anyhoo

This is me too. I just can sometimes lure ladies closer with my thighs "

Yeah my thighs have that affect too, I just need to open them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I do understand that

I know I'm nothing to look at but I also know I'm a good, nice person, I get on with everybody and I think my sarcastic sence of humour and quick whitted personality wins guys over, I think I'm one of those women that when I meet on first glance of me men are unsure but after talking to me they fall for me

That's what I tell myself anyhoo "

I would disagree with you on your looks, although I find humility in a woman quite an attractive quality in itself. Ultimately, as they say beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder!

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I still have issues, but am feeling more confident and sexy - thanks mainly to the men on here - thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no matter how many times people tell me its fine I know its not

I know what you mean and totally agree. I don't think I'm attractive and nothing anyone can say would change that. However, I've realised that I don't need to be attractive because I'm nice, funny, relaxed, etc and I make ladies feel happy and relaxed too.

As such, I'm comfortable and confident with that, rather than now suddenly thinking that my squinty-eyed grin is attractive!

I do understand that

I know I'm nothing to look at but I also know I'm a good, nice person, I get on with everybody and I think my sarcastic sence of humour and quick whitted personality wins guys over, I think I'm one of those women that when I meet on first glance of me men are unsure but after talking to me they fall for me

That's what I tell myself anyhoo

This is me too. I just can sometimes lure ladies closer with my thighs

Yeah my thighs have that affect too, I just need to open them "

Oh fuck. I'm an awful person too with a shit personality.....I've no chance whatsoever.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Im as insecure as I ever was which Im sure shines through in my attention seeking behaviour..only now I have the mighty power of the internet to help me feel better

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I never personally understood why women have confidence issues. Women are beautiful all shapes and sizes. And men adore women. I know I do. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never personally understood why women have confidence issues. Women are beautiful all shapes and sizes. And men adore women. I know I do. X"

It's nothing to do with Men. It's within.. You aren't meant to understand and neither will you be able to change the way a woman feels about herself

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

My body confidence has improved enormously in recent years. The really positive messages I have received since being on Fab and another (photographic) site have made me realise the aspects of my body that I have been apprehensive about are really attractive to a wide range of men and women.

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants


"I think I've always been fairly confident but there's a massive chunk of me (it is huge!) who doesn't worry too much about what other people think now. I used to worry about that but I think if you can carry yourself with confidence then it shows. I like happy people who are comfy in their skin. We all have flaws and we all have things we don't like about our bodies but if you don't like it, fix it. If you're stuck with it, learn to live with it.

I don't worry what others think anymore but I'm certainly not confident with my body and know that I can't compete with anyone in any of the best body bit competitions. I think what I'm saying is I'm ok with people seeing my body and don't have any issues meeting someone....but i know not to join in any wet t shirt competitions for example."

You are absolutely gorgeous to me babe! I hope one day you feel that too. Though I'm confident with who I am, I would definitely pick you over me in a best body comp

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"I never personally understood why women have confidence issues. Women are beautiful all shapes and sizes. And men adore women. I know I do. X

It's nothing to do with Men. It's within.. You aren't meant to understand and neither will you be able to change the way a woman feels about herself"

Yes I know it's within, but as a man if I can keep telling a girl she's beautiful and what's gorgeous about her, hopefully that will give her more confidence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fast approaching the big 3-Oh and instead of feeling more comfortable in my own skin as I thought/hoped I would, I am definitely less body confident now than I was a few years ago!!

Saying that, I know that I am the only person who can change how I feel, so I spend a lot of time in the gym working on the changes I want to make. Theres no point moaning if i dont do anything to change it.

Sasha x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I met my husband when I was 18. I know he fell in love with me the first time he saw me. He was 27, tall, dark and handsome, never felt that self assured and confident in my life.

My body confidence never wavered until November 24 2013 when I was due to meet someone off here. We'd been talking for a week and for the first time since I left my husband in 2003 I was meeting someone I genuinely like who I wanted to like me. He was younger and looked like Jason Statham. For the first time in my life I felt insecure about my body.

He's fast asleep beside me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my husband when I was 18. I know he fell in love with me the first time he saw me. He was 27, tall, dark and handsome, never felt that self assured and confident in my life.

My body confidence never wavered until November 24 2013 when I was due to meet someone off here. We'd been talking for a week and for the first time since I left my husband in 2003 I was meeting someone I genuinely like who I wanted to like me. He was younger and looked like Jason Statham. For the first time in my life I felt insecure about my body.

He's fast asleep beside me! "

Awwwww xx I use to hate the way I looked because ex use to tell me I'm ugly, worthless and no one would want me except for him n he was only with me because he felt sorry for me xx when we split I got the courage to download a dating app on my phone. I had always wanted to learn to play guitar so I wrote in my profile ' teach me how to play guitar and I'll love you forever" just as u was giving up hope and started believing what my ex told me n was just about to delete the app I got a message from a guy saying he has played guitar for over 20 years amd would love to teach me to play x he wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time xx he picked me up that night n I never went back lol x now he lay next to me fast on x oh I still can't play guitar a year later lol x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I met my husband when I was 18. I know he fell in love with me the first time he saw me. He was 27, tall, dark and handsome, never felt that self assured and confident in my life.

My body confidence never wavered until November 24 2013 when I was due to meet someone off here. We'd been talking for a week and for the first time since I left my husband in 2003 I was meeting someone I genuinely like who I wanted to like me. He was younger and looked like Jason Statham. For the first time in my life I felt insecure about my body.

He's fast asleep beside me!

Awwwww xx I use to hate the way I looked because ex use to tell me I'm ugly, worthless and no one would want me except for him n he was only with me because he felt sorry for me xx when we split I got the courage to download a dating app on my phone. I had always wanted to learn to play guitar so I wrote in my profile ' teach me how to play guitar and I'll love you forever" just as u was giving up hope and started believing what my ex told me n was just about to delete the app I got a message from a guy saying he has played guitar for over 20 years amd would love to teach me to play x he wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time xx he picked me up that night n I never went back lol x now he lay next to me fast on x oh I still can't play guitar a year later lol x"

I've said on here many times my other half's attitude was find em, fuck em and forget em. He's Dutch and used to dating leggy blonde Scandinavian types. He's also a right wing business owner who doesn't meet women with children.

I'm more Monique than Claudia Schiffer, I'm a full time trade union official and a mum of three, about to be a grandma

We really shouldn't work but two years on...we're still going strong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my husband when I was 18. I know he fell in love with me the first time he saw me. He was 27, tall, dark and handsome, never felt that self assured and confident in my life.

My body confidence never wavered until November 24 2013 when I was due to meet someone off here. We'd been talking for a week and for the first time since I left my husband in 2003 I was meeting someone I genuinely like who I wanted to like me. He was younger and looked like Jason Statham. For the first time in my life I felt insecure about my body.

He's fast asleep beside me!

Awwwww xx I use to hate the way I looked because ex use to tell me I'm ugly, worthless and no one would want me except for him n he was only with me because he felt sorry for me xx when we split I got the courage to download a dating app on my phone. I had always wanted to learn to play guitar so I wrote in my profile ' teach me how to play guitar and I'll love you forever" just as u was giving up hope and started believing what my ex told me n was just about to delete the app I got a message from a guy saying he has played guitar for over 20 years amd would love to teach me to play x he wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time xx he picked me up that night n I never went back lol x now he lay next to me fast on x oh I still can't play guitar a year later lol x

I've said on here many times my other half's attitude was find em, fuck em and forget em. He's Dutch and used to dating leggy blonde Scandinavian types. He's also a right wing business owner who doesn't meet women with children.

I'm more Monique than Claudia Schiffer, I'm a full time trade union official and a mum of three, about to be a grandma

We really shouldn't work but two years on...we're still going strong. "

It's true what they say you don't know what your looking for till you find it x you might think you do but until you find that 1 person who makes your heart melt at the sound of their name xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the answer to the question yes my body confidence has grown as I got older because my fantastic fella has now made be believe I'm beautiful xxx

I don't care how many guys say it to me the only 1 I really need to hear it from is my fella. Although it is nice to hear it from others aswell x

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Yes mine has get told all the time am i relay 60 girls half my age saying wish my boobs were as good as yours.

When other women say nice things about you it does boost your confidence Jane

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes mine has get told all the time am i relay 60 girls half my age saying wish my boobs were as good as yours.

When other women say nice things about you it does boost your confidence Jane"

Yes I know what you mean! I think women value compliments from other women more than they do from men. X

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

I am kinda confident with my body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes far more body confident as ive got older x H

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!) "
I John think that most women blossom with age where as some of us guys begin to shrivel

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Confidence in general, not just body confidence, is an attractive trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes mine has get told all the time am i relay 60 girls half my age saying wish my boobs were as good as yours.

When other women say nice things about you it does boost your confidence Jane

Yes I know what you mean! I think women value compliments from other women more than they do from men. X"

Yep, the first conclusion when a man compliments a woman is that he's trying to get in her pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im happy with my body now and lots more confidence too,

5yrs ago I would have never imagined that I would go to a nude beach and walk about naked, or in a club , but I actually enjoy the attention I get when I do now, just love being naked outside

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body confidence never wavered until November 24 2013 when I was due to meet someone off here. We'd been talking for a week and for the first time since I left my husband in 2003 I was meeting someone I genuinely like who I wanted to like me. He was younger and looked like Jason Statham. For the first time in my life I felt insecure about my body.

He's fast asleep beside me! "

Seriously; how do you do that??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello my lovelies!

I had a lovely lunch with a young friend yesterday and the topic of bodies came up!

I pointed out to him that I'm more confident about my body now - in spite of it's many flaws - than I was when I was young and 'perfect'! Oddly, I get more compliments now than I did in my youth too, even though I had a 'model figure' then!

Is this why younger guys seek older women, and some younger women seek older men? Not necessarily for our perceived sexual prowess - but for our confidence/body confidence?

So - ladies and gents - are you more confident about your older flawed bodies than you were when younger?

Or are you young and body confident?

Or a seething mass of body insecurity? (I do hope not!) "

I find the confidence some older women have ridiculously attractive, it's definitely better being with someone who is confident in their body than someone who worries about any flaw no matter how tiny it is. I find a lot of young girls find flaws that don't exist and this can make them less confident in the bedroom!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Mine comes and goes.

Just now, I am actually feeling pretty confident with it, which considering I haven't been in the gym for the last few months properly, is quite surprising.

And when I was younger and had a more perfect body, I hated it, to the extent of having some eating issues.

Now I see stretch marks, a podgy tum, squidgy bits, lumps and bumps, but am on the whole, much happier and prouder than I have ever been.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Oh yes I love my body and don't worry what people think it's there problem if they don't like what they see, I have even squeezed into some speedos on holiday and omg don't the ladies like to watch a bulging package walking around the pool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mine fluctuates. It was probably at it's height when I was about 15 when I was all teeny waist and slender legs but grew some massive boobs practically overnight. It's all been downhill since then taking my confidence with it!

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Hate mine more than ever now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No mine fluctuates. It was probably at it's height when I was about 15 when I was all teeny waist and slender legs but grew some massive boobs practically overnight. It's all been downhill since then taking my confidence with it! "

You have no reason not to be confident honestly your body is incredible, all the curves are in the right place, very sexy

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I think somewhere along the line, I stopped caring so much what other people thought, and that in turn made me look after my body more...although this seems to be the opposite of how it seems to work for others....

Possibly I'm just odd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think somewhere along the line, I stopped caring so much what other people thought, and that in turn made me look after my body more...although this seems to be the opposite of how it seems to work for others....

Possibly I'm just odd. "

Nope! I'm the same! I diet and work out for me - so I look as good as I can for me - not for anyone else! But if they like the way I look that's fine too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think somewhere along the line, I stopped caring so much what other people thought, and that in turn made me look after my body more...although this seems to be the opposite of how it seems to work for others....

Possibly I'm just odd.

Nope! I'm the same! I diet and work out for me - so I look as good as I can for me - not for anyone else! But if they like the way I look that's fine too! "

You should never change yourself to try and please anyone other than yourself, glad you think the same way

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I was shy and not body confident before my children, my first holiday in Spain with the family changed things .

Doesnt bother me at all now.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I was shy myself for years when i was younger being 20 st didnt help. But i lost half the weight and found a new confidence in myself that ive passed onto others ive met with similar issues. Thats why i have no problems with meeting anyone regardless of body type xxx

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