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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family?" I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. | |||
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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family? I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. "  where's the 'like' button? | |||
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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family? I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. where's the 'like' button?" the thumb says it , a great post | |||
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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. I'll second that looking for button now?? Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family? I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. where's the 'like' button?" | |||
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"This NOT a critisim - just an observation based upon experiences Do you find it strange that on the odd occasion you find a married women/man on here playing "alone" (if we believe that), but then read in their profile "no married or attached" etc ? Am I alone here, but do you think that dual standards or smoke screen ? Discuss ......... "Maybe they are happy to accept the risk on their own relationship but don't want to be complicit if it results in the end of someone else's relationship? Maybe they have permission, they just don't make that clear on the profile. There are so many factors that we don't always know - don't assume assuming on this site. Just go with what you read and if you don't fit their requirements, try another profile  | |||
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"This NOT a critisim - just an observation based upon experiences Do you find it strange that on the odd occasion you find a married women/man on here playing "alone" (if we believe that), but then read in their profile "no married or attached" etc ? Am I alone here, but do you think that dual standards or smoke screen ? Discuss ......... "I think it is hard to quantify this as it is circumstancial. I think you can have a situation where one person has a swinging mentally and tgeir partner a vanilla. They love their partner and will be loyal to them but crave that other sexual experience. Who can tell their situation, but they do not condone it in others. I think it is a double standard for someone to do this. However, not entirely unreasonable. | |||
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"This NOT a critisim - just an observation based upon experiences Do you find it strange that on the odd occasion you find a married women/man on here playing "alone" (if we believe that), but then read in their profile "no married or attached" etc ? Am I alone here, but do you think that dual standards or smoke screen ? Discuss .........
I think it is hard to quantify this as it is circumstancial. I think you can have a situation where one person has a swinging mentally and tgeir partner a vanilla. They love their partner and will be loyal to them but crave that other sexual experience. Who can tell their situation, but they do not condone it in others. I think it is a double standard for someone to do this. However, not entirely unreasonable." Well put  | |||
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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family? I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. " I'm so sorry you felt that way about my post RubyWoo, you're quite right. I wasn't making a judgement about people who refuse to meet married having greater integrity than those who do. I merely meant that being married doesn't mean someone isn't allowed to have reservations about meeting people with partners. Hell, I should know! I realise I'm a cheat and I hate myself for it. Which is why I simply couldn't bear to contribute to anyone else's deceit. But it's for selfish reasons, not altruistic ones. I'm not being a 'good' person by refusing to meet married, just a guilt-ridden gutless wonder! Xxxxxx | |||
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Personally I met quite a few single women who were married (not on this site of course........). I do not feel bad as I am just offering them an amazing service, making them feeling better. I actually feel very good for this
Said that, marriage for me should be avoided. However I go to every wedding I can as I love them: I feel always something when I hear the celebration  | |||
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"Playing away is something that people sometimes feel terrible about. Even if they have a compulsion to be on here, for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they have to automatically accept and condone being the 'other woman/man', and inadvertently hurting an innocent, unknowing partner. Doesn't it say more about their integrity than someone who couldn't care less about endangering a marriage or family? I wholly dislike the implication in the above that people who will meet those who are married lack integrity. But that's a whole other debate which I can't be arsed with today because I'll just be met with the usual wall of abuse. That aside, people are free to make whichever decisions they wish which suit their conscience best. I will meet married men. I won't meet married men who criticise their wife to me, fetishise infidelity or want to meet in what I consider to be risky circumstances, so we all make our own value judgements. But OP, yes I do find it a bit odd. I'd expect precisely those people to understand that there are different circumstances and reasons behind people being here and not to take such a blanket/one size fits all/black and white/must be cheating scum approach. where's the 'like' button?"Yes where is it? | |||
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"Ruby, if someone abuse you just name "Leonardo" and they will throw their hate to me
Personally I met quite a few single women who were married (not on this site of course........). I do not feel bad as I am just offering them an amazing service, making them feeling better. I actually feel very good for this
Said that, marriage for me should be avoided. However I go to every wedding I can as I love them: I feel always something when I hear the celebration "It really is a personal choice at the end of the day. We are not here to judge but to have fun, however that comes. All we have to do is take responsibility for our actions as long as we don't intend on hurting others....well not in that way anyway | |||
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"...we don't intend on hurting others....well not in that way anyway "Are you referring to BDSM activities...?  | |||
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"...we don't intend on hurting others....well not in that way anyway
Are you referring to BDSM activities...? "Absolutely  | |||
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