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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" but does'nt every meet start out as a one off? if its good then do it again but if not then you won't want to | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" Yes you have a point but where do regular meets come from if they're not one offs to start off with? | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" lovely to here that .... when you first started out did you worrie or could handle it .... everyones so diffrent here i know. | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" But how do you know they will be regular meets after the first time? | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in Itlovely to here that .... when you first started out did you worrie or could handle it .... everyones so diffrent here i know." Well, for me, amd I have just started out really...i like to chat to people a bit first and possibly meet upo somewhere neutral. There has to be some chemistry, if it's a couple there is all the male-male dynamics to suss out as well. Not everyone can be arsed with the getting to know you bit but hey ho...so what. Life is long and this is supposed to be fun....and it is... | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It But how do you know they will be regular meets after the first time?" Because it was good and thay are going back for more like me tomorrow with a man i have seen before. lol fingers crossed be as good as last time. Was mind blowing i was on a sex high for days after. jo xx | |||
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"may be im the odd one out but the last thing i want is intimacy from people saucy sexy outrageous lust yes - but i dont want to get emotionally close to another guy " Emotional closeness ain't got nothing to do with it. I do have to like em though. | |||
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"may be im the odd one out but the last thing i want is intimacy from people saucy sexy outrageous lust yes - but i dont want to get emotionally close to another guy " I was thinking just taking your kit off was getting intimate .. when thay have there cock inside or fingers playing thay must be. Yes i love passiont lusfull sex nothing like it. But you get some i am told cant even be kissed some you only tuch in place thay say .Was thinking maybe why some bottle out of meeting cant cope. | |||
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"may be im the odd one out but the last thing i want is intimacy from people saucy sexy outrageous lust yes - but i dont want to get emotionally close to another guy " But you are part of a couple!!! There is a big difference! When I started out, I didn't worry if I could handle it as I wasn't looking for a relationship, just some 'good' company now and again....5 years on I'm probably a lot fussier to my detrement, but I enjoy the social aspect as well and prefer an evening and all nighter, which includes drinks, food and fun...we all have our different ways and that is mine! Would much prefer regular fun though but each to their own....oh and still looking....(but wont hold breath!) | |||
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"I'm not really sure of the question... Do you mean do I, as a single, find it difficult not to get intimate with people I meet? " No . But some new and people who worrie about things could be put off meeting . When day come because of it. Lady i know mailed today saying let down from a new person here .. then go on to say he dont kiss other things . Just never had a man like that myself thinking why thats all. | |||
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"I'm not really sure of the question... Do you mean do I, as a single, find it difficult not to get intimate with people I meet? No . But some new and people who worrie about things could be put off meeting . When day come because of it. Lady i know mailed today saying let down from a new person here .. then go on to say he dont kiss other things . Just never had a man like that myself thinking why thats all." Sorry... I think maybe my confusion came over wrong... and I think I'm maybe being blonde cause I still don't get what you're actually asking. | |||
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"Swinging sex isn't the same as husband / wife sex, or boyfriend / girlfriend sex. Well, it isn't as far as we are concerned. People who don't or can't differentiate are the ones who often get dissappointed " I know what you mean but from a single female all I am saying I personally need to have some sort of connection, I mean I know I could have a meet everynight of the week if I wanted (just because I am a single female, no big headedness on my part!)but my own standards and preference would not allow that, plus I do value the social side as well, not just sex in my book, but as the forums seem to say on nearly every post, it's down to personal choice | |||
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"I'm not really sure of the question... Do you mean do I, as a single, find it difficult not to get intimate with people I meet? No . But some new and people who worrie about things could be put off meeting . When day come because of it. Lady i know mailed today saying let down from a new person here .. then go on to say he dont kiss other things . Just never had a man like that myself thinking why thats all. Sorry... I think maybe my confusion came over wrong... and I think I'm maybe being blonde cause I still don't get what you're actually asking. " my friend made me think ... thats all why some maybe let others down on sites like this as cant cope with swinging when the day come.. I was thinking it must be hard for some ..people have feelings worries are not just peaces of meat. | |||
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" my friend made me think ... thats all why some maybe let others down on sites like this as cant cope with swinging when the day come.. I was thinking it must be hard for some ..people have feelings worries are not just peaces of meat." Okay cool... I think I've got you. And after all that I can't really answer it cause it's not something that would cross my mind prior to a meet as a reason to cancel. If you're planning on having sex with someone, in my _iew, you already are planning on being intimate with them physically. If it's a worry that you're going to find yourself getting intimate emotionally then I'd perhaps question whether swinging is right for you. However, having said that, I suppose like others have said, do get intimate with the people I swing with both on a physical and emotional level because I don't simply fuck. I want to like the people I fuck and ultimately I want some form of friendship. It doesn't have to be some major deal but if I can't have a giggle with the people I have sex with then it's no fun for me. I don't even know if I've answered your question or not but that's my _iew on what I think you mean. | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" What if the person you have the first meet with doesn't see it worthwhile seeing you again? | |||
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"I like to chat for a while before I meet for 2 reasons. First off, I need to feel comfortable about meeting them when I will be on my own and potentially inviting them into my home. Secondly, I like to be able to have a natter and enjoy good company, the sex is just a part of the meet for me. I usually like to meet in a pub first and I hate the idea of being sat across from someone thinking, how dull is this man. " ditto, apart from the man bit. You been reading my mind??? | |||
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"I like to chat for a while before I meet for 2 reasons. First off, I need to feel comfortable about meeting them when I will be on my own and potentially inviting them into my home. Secondly, I like to be able to have a natter and enjoy good company, the sex is just a part of the meet for me. I usually like to meet in a pub first and I hate the idea of being sat across from someone thinking, how dull is this man. ditto, apart from the man bit. You been reading my mind???" I knew you'd say that... | |||
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"I like to chat for a while before I meet for 2 reasons. First off, I need to feel comfortable about meeting them when I will be on my own and potentially inviting them into my home. Secondly, I like to be able to have a natter and enjoy good company, the sex is just a part of the meet for me. I usually like to meet in a pub first and I hate the idea of being sat across from someone thinking, how dull is this man. ditto, apart from the man bit. You been reading my mind??? I knew you'd say that..." yeah but i knew that you knew that i knew you'd say that too | |||
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"What if the person you have the first meet with doesn't see it worthwhile seeing you again?" That's always a possibility... so I guess you put it down to experience and move on to the next inter_iewee! | |||
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"What if the person you have the first meet with doesn't see it worthwhile seeing you again? That's always a possibility... so I guess you put it down to experience and move on to the next inter_iewee! " where can i pick up an application form | |||
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"I like to chat for a while before I meet for 2 reasons. First off, I need to feel comfortable about meeting them when I will be on my own and potentially inviting them into my home. Secondly, I like to be able to have a natter and enjoy good company, the sex is just a part of the meet for me. I usually like to meet in a pub first and I hate the idea of being sat across from someone thinking, how dull is this man. ditto, apart from the man bit. You been reading my mind??? I knew you'd say that... yeah but i knew that you knew that i knew you'd say that too " Now, now, let's not try to be clever | |||
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"I'm not really sure of the question... Do you mean do I, as a single, find it difficult not to get intimate with people I meet? No . But some new and people who worrie about things could be put off meeting . When day come because of it. Lady i know mailed today saying let down from a new person here .. then go on to say he dont kiss other things . Just never had a man like that myself thinking why thats all. Sorry... I think maybe my confusion came over wrong... and I think I'm maybe being blonde cause I still don't get what you're actually asking. my friend made me think ... thats all why some maybe let others down on sites like this as cant cope with swinging when the day come.. I was thinking it must be hard for some ..people have feelings worries are not just peaces of meat." I think it is more likely the case that he'd jerked off after arranging the meet, had a second look and couldn't be bothered as his tea was nearly ready. | |||
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" I think it is more likely the case that he'd jerked off after arranging the meet, had a second look and couldn't be bothered as his tea was nearly ready." And i bet your right lol trust you to think of the teas ready made me smile here xx | |||
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"Intimacy ? Is it not getting your kit off shagging a person doing things like four play Just that. ? or am i going mad thinking it is ? yes swinging is sex with out ties i know ... but sex is sex and intimacy take place if thay lay a hand or lips on you and sex." I think you're confusing "intimate" and "intimacy"...there is a subtle difference. | |||
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"Intimacy ? Is it not getting your kit off shagging a person doing things like four play Just that. ? or am i going mad thinking it is ? yes swinging is sex with out ties i know ... but sex is sex and intimacy take place if thay lay a hand or lips on you and sex. I think you're confusing "intimate" and "intimacy"...there is a subtle difference." whats the diffrents i am not x chating about love or things like that ... just skin to skin | |||
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"I am always getting guys shocked I want sex for sex.. not for affection or anything, but I like the physical part with others, the emotional part with one. :D Simples to me. Katie. x" as long as your having fun and getting out of swinging what you need xx | |||
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"whats the diffrents i am not x chating about love or things like that ... just skin to skin" Well I wouldnt kiss a meet, thats a big difference, I wouldnt expect a meet to run his hands over me in an intimate way.. hands on hips while fucking yes.. I wouldnt want arms around me either.. To be fair apart from maybe touching my tits or Arse I cant think of a time that a man lays a hand on me.. Oh maybe a feel of my pussy.. :D There is a big difference to how I have sex with my Partner to a play meet. The gap isnt perhaps as big for some couples as I know some couples like to kiss and touch. Katie. x | |||
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"whats the diffrents i am not x chating about love or things like that ... just skin to skin Well I wouldnt kiss a meet, thats a big difference, I wouldnt expect a meet to run his hands over me in an intimate way.. hands on hips while fucking yes.. I wouldnt want arms around me either.. To be fair apart from maybe touching my tits or Arse I cant think of a time that a man lays a hand on me.. Oh maybe a feel of my pussy.. :D There is a big difference to how I have sex with my Partner to a play meet. The gap isnt perhaps as big for some couples as I know some couples like to kiss and touch. Katie. x" well you come across here as a very happy lady so you know what your up too xx just you do get some people here find it hard to kiss, give oral, for some its not that easy even on a swing site. | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It" all first meets are possible one offs surely? im quite a touchy, feely, intimate person, i know the different between sex and love and for me with sex comes intamacy and im not afraid to show it lol some feel that if you get to lovely with someone they my read it the wrong way so are a little stand offish | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It all first meets are possible one offs surely? im quite a touchy, feely, intimate person, i know the different between sex and love and for me with sex comes intamacy and im not afraid to show it lol some feel that if you get to lovely with someone they my read it the wrong way so are a little stand offish" I don't think you can have sex with someone without getting intimate, or you just end up using someone. I know it is about having mutual fun, but I have to feel something for the person I am with | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It but does'nt every meet start out as a one off? if its good then do it again but if not then you won't want to " point well made. | |||
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"How is It using.. I want sex, they want sex... I don't need any intimacy to get in the mood.. I get that elsewhere, not from a guy I'm meeting for a quick meet. Katie. X " Maybe that is where I am going wrong | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It all first meets are possible one offs surely? im quite a touchy, feely, intimate person, i know the different between sex and love and for me with sex comes intamacy and im not afraid to show it lol some feel that if you get to lovely with someone they my read it the wrong way so are a little stand offish I don't think you can have sex with someone without getting intimate, or you just end up using someone. I know it is about having mutual fun, but I have to feel something for the person I am with" oh yeah believe me you can, ive met guys where sex has seemed so clinical, i met one guy and he never touched me at all, he lay on the bed with his hands behind his head and just wanted me to alternate between giving him a bj nd riding him, at first i did cause i thought it was a bit of a joke but when i realised he was seriously just going to lay there with hands behind head i got dressed and buggered off lol | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It all first meets are possible one offs surely? im quite a touchy, feely, intimate person, i know the different between sex and love and for me with sex comes intamacy and im not afraid to show it lol some feel that if you get to lovely with someone they my read it the wrong way so are a little stand offish I don't think you can have sex with someone without getting intimate, or you just end up using someone. I know it is about having mutual fun, but I have to feel something for the person I am with oh yeah believe me you can, ive met guys where sex has seemed so clinical, i met one guy and he never touched me at all, he lay on the bed with his hands behind his head and just wanted me to alternate between giving him a bj nd riding him, at first i did cause i thought it was a bit of a joke but when i realised he was seriously just going to lay there with hands behind head i got dressed and buggered off lol" I must be a bit old fashioned then, I have to feel something, not into clinical sex, where is the fun, for both people | |||
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"From a guys point of _iew well this guy anyway with sex comes intimacy too. I always have regular meets with the same people, I could not have a one off as with one offs there's no intimacy in It all first meets are possible one offs surely? im quite a touchy, feely, intimate person, i know the different between sex and love and for me with sex comes intamacy and im not afraid to show it lol some feel that if you get to lovely with someone they my read it the wrong way so are a little stand offish I don't think you can have sex with someone without getting intimate, or you just end up using someone. I know it is about having mutual fun, but I have to feel something for the person I am with oh yeah believe me you can, ive met guys where sex has seemed so clinical, i met one guy and he never touched me at all, he lay on the bed with his hands behind his head and just wanted me to alternate between giving him a bj nd riding him, at first i did cause i thought it was a bit of a joke but when i realised he was seriously just going to lay there with hands behind head i got dressed and buggered off lol" all get bad one naughty xx time for a good one | |||
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"intimate???? I just bend em over, slip it in... rock back and forward... splat. offer a wet wipe.. and say.. 'is that your bus.' " you paint pics in my head here ...lol | |||
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