FabSwingers.com forum: rejections

By *usty OP Woman
over a year ago

inverclyde

what is is with guys when you say you that you wont meet them they decide to take profile off site..... teddies out of the cot then again.... one guy last night was trying to get me to meet him but when i asked a few more questions as not much on the profile he went in the huff and now profile gone....... oh well his loss then lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The kids aren't back at school yet.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Though having read this again... I am wondering who it is who has a problem with rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ahhhh the flounce!

It happens... generally it's quite amusing, I wouldn't let it worry you. I'm not sure I can explain it.

When I checked the actual definition, it makes reference to a strip of decorative, usually gathered or pleated material attached by one edge, as on a garment or curtain but I couldn't possibly comment on that, View is the man for soft furnishings, he could possibly explain it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some peeps are bad loosers and cannot handle rejections well.

I don't let them bother me.

If they persist to be pests, then I would block them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess some people just have no luck and wonder if its worth the hassle so leave?

I think its better to just not try so hard, I don't see rejection on here as the same as being rejected in real life - because its not - and I don't send out loads of messages either so naturally I don't get so much rejection - theres a happy medium.

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By *usty OP Woman
over a year ago

inverclyde

no need to block at all as no longer on site....... if a female gets rejected then we dont just go and take our profile off but semms to me that a guy cant handle when rejected

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Ahhhh the flounce!

It happens... generally it's quite amusing, I wouldn't let it worry you. I'm not sure I can explain it.

steer clear of anything ruffled... dust haven... very similar to a body part of a nun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect to meet anyone off here, heck some of the profiles of women near me seem a bit suspect imho.

I guess I'm just a forum whore!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He will be back on new profile new pics new name ask you again , lol thats how it works i find with alot who do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

well he was'nt that bothered really if he deleted his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same the other day with a woman who refused to give me a face pic, I got blocked for asking that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't expect to meet anyone off here, heck some of the profiles of women near me seem a bit suspect imho.

I guess I'm just a forum whore!

Be patient, and attend socials/organised parties etc. to get to know people, and your luck may change for the better! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the same the other day with a woman who refused to give me a face pic, I got blocked for asking that"

Obviously she planned to wear black nasty if you had actually agreed to meet her...

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"no need to block at all as no longer on site....... if a female gets rejected then we dont just go and take our profile off but semms to me that a guy cant handle when rejected "

god ive been rejected sooooo many times but i dont care...

just happy the few that dont lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the same the other day with a woman who refused to give me a face pic, I got blocked for asking that

Obviously she planned to wear black nasty if you had actually agreed to meet her..."

wouldn't meet anyone without seeing what they look like 1st, I don't do blind dates anymore

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"no need to block at all as no longer on site....... if a female gets rejected then we dont just go and take our profile off but semms to me that a guy cant handle when rejected "

No a woman would never do that.... they usually post a thread about it and end it with "their loss"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gent contacted me a while back, and turned me down after seeing more pics of mine, citing he preferred slimmer ladies.

No problem I said.

He contacted me recently requesting for a meet, and I reminded him of his previous rejection, and he asked me to give him a second chance, and that one should be allowed to change one's mind etc...

And he got humpy when I said no, however, he had the good grace to leave me alone. Otherwise, I would have blocked him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the same the other day with a woman who refused to give me a face pic, I got blocked for asking that

Obviously she planned to wear black nasty if you had actually agreed to meet her...

wouldn't meet anyone without seeing what they look like 1st, I don't do blind dates anymore "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've been rejected loads of times

by singles and couples.

When we first joined the site we wrote to loads of profiles, some replied, most didn't.

Now we've got our "circle of friends" we no longer go prospecting by email. We prefer to meet new friends, face to face, at clubs or parties.

We've had the sarcastic rejection letters, the nasty replies and one or two nice let downs too.

But, that's what it's like on an internet swingers site

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"no need to block at all as no longer on site....... if a female gets rejected then we dont just go and take our profile off but semms to me that a guy cant handle when rejected

No a woman would never do that.... they usually post a thread about it and end it with "their loss"

would u reject me ?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"if a female gets rejected then we dont just go and take our profile off but semms to me that a guy cant handle when rejected "

Ah, but “some” females can't take rejection either

Some females love to watch 2 guys having sex, just like some guys find 2 women a turn on, since being on this site, we've had numerous requests from females requesting a meet, if they fit within our preference, we've accepted

if they don't, we politely say so, however, a small minority of females on this site are of the opinion being “Female” rejection doesn't apply to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to put it into perspective too, imagine how much more rejection a single male gets in comparison to a single woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly, which is why I'm not all that bothered. Chatting with friends, reading and wot not are generally more interesting than sex. (yes maybe I need therapy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I reply to Couples or Single Ladies profiles & they don't reply I do think it's a bit ignorant, especially after I have sent them a nicely worded mail.

If they reply 'Thanks but no thanks' (only takes about 5 seconds by the way), I always reply by saying: well, thanks for getting back to me & I hope you meet some nice, Have Fun & Happy New Year!

I hate hearing about nasty abusive guys who get in a strop (Gives us nice guys a bad name) + I think some peeps might think: Oh he was a nice guy, perhaps we should re-consider him!

I've met & have fun with 2 couples & we all had great fun (see my verifications) + I met a single lady who came (literally) to my flat, but she could not leave me a verification as she was cheating on her swinging partner!

******* HAPPY NEW YEAR *******

Regards: Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well he was'nt that bothered really if he deleted his profile

First thing that sprang to my mind!

Think the OP may have been a little peeved though: hence this thread!

Hmmmmm, I could be wrong mind...nah!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i dont see the issue if they dece to leave the site after they get rejected.

its when they then decide to put you down for being fat, saying you should be ashamed of the way you look and that anyone who wants to hae sex with you is sick in the head etc etc that you should take offence.

That happened to e the other day about 4 times in a row from different people, had a bit of a wobble (and the nice peeps on here cheered me up) then i reported the appropriate profiles and now they have gone

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

"i dont see the issue if they dece to leave the site after they get rejected.

Nasty head fuckers! nice to see the report button working well though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been rejected, quit a lot lol. But I always reply with 'Thanks for getting back to me, no probs, have fun' But still yet to have a meet. Maybe its true nice guys come last?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Rejection is a fact of life - here as in 'real' life. It's just something you have to get used to. Move on. Try again. If it happens then

If not - well, there's always Mrs Hand and her five daughters...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know yeah, its just I have sent quite a lot of messages and nothing has come of it yet, been on the site a while now, I reckon when I get one thatll start the ball rolling

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"what is is with guys when you say you that you wont meet them they decide to take profile off site..... teddies out of the cot then again.... one guy last night was trying to get me to meet him but when i asked a few more questions as not much on the profile he went in the huff and now profile gone....... oh well his loss then lol"
had them before even had then delete profile make another weait a cpl of days and try again ,,same pics

best one was a fella aint in our age range actually change his and add 9 years

thing is been to socials and actually spoke and know him

mind if ya dont get a meet ya get a laff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a message asking me if i wanted to meet a guy on New Years Eve. I replied thanks, but I had plans, and enclosed a pic. He immediately replied saying on second thoughts I was fat and ugly and that I looked older than 39...

I responded, asking what on earth the prev message was about and he said he cut and pasted without looking at who he was messaging, and had another go at me.

I replied, agreeing that I was both fat and ugly, but pointing out that I'd had several invitations for a shag on New Years Eve and had had to chose between the, but he, the far superior specimen of humanity was resorting to copy and pasting begging messages to random females....

Oh, I then wished him a Happy New Year, good luck, as he was going to need it with that attitude, and blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't expect to meet anyone off here, heck some of the profiles of women near me seem a bit suspect imho.

I guess I'm just a forum whore!

Your profile is a bit out of date now...... Time to cover it in chocolate n advertise it as a homeless bunny !

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

"I got a message asking me if i wanted to meet a guy on New Years Eve. I replied thanks, but I had plans, and enclosed a pic. He immediately replied saying on second thoughts I was fat and ugly and that I looked older than 39...

I responded, asking what on earth the prev message was about and he said he cut and pasted without looking at who he was messaging, and had another go at me.

Oh, I then wished him a Happy New Year, good luck, as he was going to need it with that attitude, and blocked him.

Ive got to disagree on two points here, First he didn't need good luck as he obviously needs a miracle if he's ever going to find a meet with an attitude like that. And second who's fat n ugly? certainly not you, mee!

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

swinging is very intimate and you would be fooling yourself if you thought you could float everyones boat, a polite no thanks is far better than being ignored well thats our _iew GnA xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I responded, asking what on earth the prev message was about and he said he cut and pasted without looking at who he was messaging, and had another go at me.

Oh, I then wished him a Happy New Year, good luck, as he was going to need it with that attitude, and blocked him.

There is no need to get nasty when someone says no thanks.

But guys wonder why people just delete their emails without replying?

We had an email recently of someone when i looked at profile it said he was only looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim he said thats ok,you can sit on my face then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know yeah, its just I have sent quite a lot of messages "

...and that could be the problem! If you're really selective in who you contact, I don't think you need to send "loads of messages"...just my opinion of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the problem with some guys they can't stop insulting even when you have said no

they are dicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all get rejection at some point - some people handle it differently to others - perhaps the nasty responses are due to the fact they keep being rejected... not that is any justification or perhaps it is just the fact they are nasty people to start off with and are showing their "true colours" in which case shows you were right to tell them where to go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all get rejection at some point - some people handle it differently to others - perhaps the nasty responses are due to the fact they keep being rejected... not that is any justification or perhaps it is just the fact they are nasty people to start off with and are showing their "true colours" in which case shows you were right to tell them where to go...

Very well said. If rejected just put it down to experience and move on. Any abuse is pathetic and childish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I responded, asking what on earth the prev message was about and he said he cut and pasted without looking at who he was messaging, and had another go at me.

Oh, I then wished him a Happy New Year, good luck, as he was going to need it with that attitude, and blocked him.

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please tell me you reported him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wish i could get some offers to reject, lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im confused by this post. Its a good point to raise about men who give up after not cracking their first nut and go on to remove their profile but even so perhaps its reading too much into the motives of why people 'suddenly delete'. Some just set up profiles cos theyre bored and home alone, discover this site and decide to have a lark then have to cover all traces before their partner or whoever comes to use the pc next.... anyway it happens.

What confused me was the example of the guy leaving in what you call 'a huff'. Had he been rejected? Or had he decided he didn't want to chat anymore for any speculated reason like I have given in the above example... You tell us he was merely being asked further things that were not clear in his profile so you must have still been interested in him or why ask for more personal info?

As I often say nobody can lose something they have never had. Miss an opportunity perhaps but hey thats why mother nature gave us shoulders that shrug. I cant understand why anyone would look up a profile of someone theyre not interested in and have effectively put on the reject pile, to make the discovery that they are no longer a member, for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I thought when I read the Ops post, reading the thread has not changed my _iew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I thought when I read the Ops post, reading the thread has not changed my _iew. "

yep...I agree...plus I always enjoy reading the OP's optimistic life affirming posts...

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