FabSwingers.com forum: is it swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if your single?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you are looking for...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what i ment was if single what makes swinging different from picking someone up in a bar?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and as we meet singles its not a go at single people, just a question on how others _iew it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me there is alot of difference - we have had a fantasy of where I pick a guy up in a bar and take him somewhere and do the deed, but in reality it was very unfair I felt as I knew why I was doing it (under hand and sneeky...) and he thought that it was cause I liked him none the less he got what he wanted and so did we... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me there is alot of difference - we have had a fantasy of where I pick a guy up in a bar and take him somewhere and do the deed, but in reality it was very unfair I felt as I knew why I was doing it (under hand and sneeky...) and he thought that it was cause I liked him none the less he got what he wanted and so did we... lol

So yes a suppose it is cause it was a sex game between me and my hubby that still gets us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it swinging if couples have individual profiles and swing alone? Is it swinging if you're a MM couple? Is it swinging if you only play with your own partner? Is it swinging if you're gay? Is it swinging if you're Domme? Is it swinging if you're sub? Is it swinging if you don't go to clubs.

Being a very busy professional

and with children who won't leave home my leisure time is limited. Therefore I tend to spend my time with eager men buried between my legs to question what swinging is, what people have on their profiles etc!

But hey ho...each to their own!

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By *wanzukCouple
over a year ago

swansea

my take on it is if its pre aranged its swinging if you meet a couple or go to a party its swinging if u pick someone up in a bar who is single its a one night stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup i thinks so deff

Before the Internet when it was contact mags and chance meetings etc and the word swinging was being introduced instead of wife swapper

Single males and fems used ta go ta the parties and all were classed as swingers then lol xx

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Surely its down to what is expected?

If a single man/woman is here because they enjoy sex with other multiples of people then its swinging.

If they are here because they are looking for a regular partner to have sex with, but not have a true relationship with that person, that is not swinging. Its having your cake and eating it!

They want their physical needs taken care of without the excess baggage of calling someone their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are here because they are looking for a regular partner to have sex with, but not have a true relationship with that person, that is not swinging. Its having your cake and eating it!

And unfortunately there are lots of people on here looking for just that. Using the site as a free version of a dating site, which as we know charge a fortune.

Having said that, see more fem profiles that make me suspect that they are looking for a relationship than I do male ones.

The way the profile is written and seeing jealousies in chat or at socials can make me think this.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If they are here because they are looking for a regular partner to have sex with, but not have a true relationship with that person, that is not swinging. Its having your cake and eating it!

And unfortunately there are lots of people on here looking for just that. Using the site as a free version of a dating site, which as we know charge a fortune.

Having said that, see more fem profiles that make me suspect that they are looking for a relationship than I do male ones.

The way the profile is written and seeing jealousies in chat or at socials can make me think this.

S. "

My vote for most sensible post of 2011 thus far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your looking just for sex and no ties with diffrent people its swinging in my eyes ..... if your open to strangers .. People Whos just looking for nothing more then sex. Its a bit like a sport to some, a way of keeping fit ...... myself i like it red-hot with loads of lust and passion. jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I do not consider myself as a true swinger, as I only play with gents that are genuinely single.

However, I meet such gents via communities, events and venues cater for swingers, such as this site, pubs where socials are held, and swingers clubs such as Chameleons.

By meeting gents this way, I know I would meet like-minded peeps with similar expectations.

This means I do not have to explain myself what I am after, my likes and dislikes, without causing offence.

In addition, meeting peeps off FAB means I can vet them thoroughly before actually meeting them face to face.

I can find out if we click, have similar values, compatible in anyway, and above all, whether we have the elusive chemistry between us.

It is rare nowadays for me not to know what a gent's body or cock looks like, not just the face, prior to meeting him face to face.

Not something I can do by trawling vanilla bars and clubs.

Just because I am not after a relationship does not mean I would play with any Tom, Dick or Harry.

And places like FAB and Chams make it easier for me to meet and play with like-minded gents, without being judged and considered as someone with dubious moral standards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I do not consider myself as a true swinger, as I only play with gents that are genuinely single.

However, I meet such gents via communities, events and venues cater for swingers, such as this site, pubs where socials are held, and swingers clubs such as Chameleons.

By meeting gents this way, I know I would meet like-minded peeps with similar expectations.

This means I do not have to explain myself what I am after, my likes and dislikes, without causing offence.

In addition, meeting peeps off FAB means I can vet them thoroughly before actually meeting them face to face.

I can find out if we click, have similar values, compatible in anyway, and above all, whether we have the elusive chemistry between us.

It is rare nowadays for me not to know what a gent's body or cock looks like, not just the face, prior to meeting him face to face.

Not something I can do by trawling vanilla bars and clubs.

Just because I am not after a relationship does not mean I would play with any Tom, Dick or Harry.

And places like FAB and Chams make it easier for me to meet and play with like-minded gents, without being judged and considered as someone with dubious moral standards!

Sounds like a good way of doing things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is just a word. In all walks of life there are people who need labels and defined interpretations of those labels. Many of the labels mean different things to different people and change with the passage of time.

If you consider yourself a swinger then you are, simples. The truth is there's very little difference between the swinging scene and the active 'vanilla scene' when it comes to singles.

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales

"If your looking just for sex and no ties with diffrent people its swinging in my eyes....."

So every single person that sleeps around then is a swinger by your defination. Erm, don't think that's quite right now, is it?

To us, a swinger is either a person that is attached that chooses to play with other attached or single people.. or a single person that chooses to play with other attached people. Someone that is single, that chooses to play with other single people is NOT a swinger, even though there are a lot of them on here. That's just someone that likes sex with many partners.

Now, not saying they shouldn't be as welcome as anyone else on here, after all, the swinging scene is about accepting others as much as it is sex, but sorry, you're not really a swinger. You're a serial dater, with the emphasis on sex. Anyone else see it that way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like swinging parties. I like sex with couples. I prefer group sex to one on one sex. It's just not practical to go out to a bar to meet couples or a group of people to have a night of fun with, also, it's tedious being chatted up constantly because people assume you're on the pull when you're out. If I go out to the pub, it's for a drink and a laugh. I don't go out to the pub to pull. This site works for me because there are people on here looking for what I'm looking for and vice versa. No hassle, just fun! And I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we need labels I enjoy what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we need labels I enjoy what I do."

I agree with you there

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"Why do we need labels I enjoy what I do.

I agree with you there"

On another thread, did you not label yourself "straight"!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Who mentioned cake?!

If that's how it is then that's why I'm here. I don't want a relationship, nor do I want to date. I want to fuck. But I don't want to fuck a string of randoms. I'd like to fuck one or two or maybe even three or four regular people. I like sex with people I like. I think sex gets better the more you know someone.

I just don't want 24/7 and I don't want to go out for dinner every Saturday night.

I don't believe it's swinging. Perhaps if I see a couple then maybe at a push I'm swinging but apparently, in that situation, according to some I've spoken to over the years, I'm a facilitator.

I don't want to facilitate, hence I don't meet couples.

I'm just me. And I want cake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we need labels I enjoy what I do.

I agree with you there

On another thread, did you not label yourself "straight"!

No im a trysexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your looking just for sex and no ties with diffrent people its swinging in my eyes.....

So every single person that sleeps around then is a swinger by your defination. Erm, don't think that's quite right now, is it?

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its a lable really if you have play mates just looking for nothing more then sex. If you like sex with lots of people and its not dating in my eyes you can call yourself a swinger ..... whats wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

enjoy group sex, im single but ive not always been single ive swing as a couple before, i feel swinging is part of me, would love to be in a relationship with a woman who enjoys swinging, put at present im single but i still love swinging, clubs parties meeting couples and single woman, it maybe im just greedy

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"If your looking just for sex and no ties with diffrent people its swinging in my eyes.....

So every single person that sleeps around then is a swinger by your defination. Erm, don't think that's quite right now, is it?

I disagree - possibly because I'm biased being a single male

The dictionary has 2 definitions of swingers (in this context - obviously it has more than just this).

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Swinger –noun

Slang

a) a person who indulges in promiscuous sex.

b) a person who engages in the exchanging of spouses for sexual activities.

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So, whilst I don't dispute that swinging refers to what used to be known as wife swapping and has the emphasis on couples swapping partners with other couples, I believe it also refers to those who have casual, recreational sex regardless of whether they're in a couple or not. That covers couples who play with singles as well as singles who meet other singles.

That's just my interpretation. Feel free to disagree with it.

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

if your single no i dont think its classed as swinging, i did look it up from a friend of mine google ya call him so of you might know him here is what he had to say

Terminology As a general rule, swinging COUPLES engage in conventional sexual activities, but with other partners. Penetrative sex by a swinging partner is referred to as a full swap; while non-penetrative sex, such as oral sex, is referred to as a soft swap. New swinging couples often choose a soft swap before they are comfortable with a full swap, although many couples stay "soft swap" for personal or safety related reasons.[3] Soft swinging occurs when the couple engage in sexual activities while two or more other couples perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have sex with singles, couples and groups.

and I am on a swingers site.

so I am a swinger.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I have sex with singles, couples and groups.

and I am on a swingers site.

so I am a swinger.

But do you have cake?!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Singles meeting singles? Not swinging no.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I have sex with singles, couples and groups.

and I am on a swingers site.

so I am a swinger.

But do you have cake?!

Do I look like Marie Antoinette?

actually dont answer that

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Singles meeting singles? Not swinging no. "

What about couples meeting singles? Are they all swingers? Are the couples still swinging if they play with a single?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

...and what about couples who are only fuck buddies (for want of a better term)?

Are they still swingers or do you have to be married / in a civil partnership to qualify?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just here for NSA fun i am on dating sites but have not found the right person yet but now i am starting to like being single

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I have sex with singles, couples and groups.

and I am on a swingers site.

so I am a swinger.

But do you have cake?!

Do I look like Marie Antoinette?

actually dont answer that

Not at the moment but if you have frocks like those I soooooo want come play dress up with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am married meet couples with john singles with john and singles alone am i not a swinger ? weird this is ? what are we now tarts. lol jo xx

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

"Singles meeting singles? Not swinging no.

What about couples meeting singles? Are they all swingers? Are the couples still swinging if they play with a single?"

nope i dont think it is as swinging means to swap partners so who is the single male swapping with!!!! and the couple would be classed as swingers anyway if they enjoy doing full or soft swap with other couples

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Crikey, this is getting very complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

does it really matter if it's fun and enjoyable and not harming anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

It does'nt have to complicated

Its only complicated if you let it be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could say couple meeting other couples and haveing seperate room fun is not swinging its just wife swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it all but no cake on a diet lol. It fits around my lifestyle I am a single parent and no time for full on relationship married to my kids and when I get to swing I get to be me and free and I love that saying that now my eyes have been opened wide. I could never go back to a straight monogomous relationship as love the freedom of swinging too much to stop it. So would need an open one as I dont cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i totally agree with swingshaz

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

if a couple only meet single males and females i wouldnt class them as swingers so how is it singles can swing??

just my _iew on this but cant understand how it classed as swinging, i know a few couples who only enjoy 3sums but they wouldnt say they are swingers

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"what i ment was if single what makes swinging different from picking someone up in a bar?"

Nothing much... other than there's no bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if your single?"

yes it is swinging from one person to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we never meet couples together as "swapping" is something we just would not be interested in...

We much prefer me to have 2 or more single guys either with Master there or not.. ( Master always watches)

Hope to get some women for Master to enjoy at some point too..

Are we swingers, erm. dont know, dont care.. but we have a lot of fun. :D

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im single and i dont class myself as a swinger i just use swinging sites to get sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really just down to how you define swinging isn't it really?

We still see swinging as swapping partners. On the other hand though, if you consider "no strings" sex with others as swinging, then yes, singles do swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well we never meet couples together as "swapping" is something we just would not be interested in...

We much prefer me to have 2 or more single guys either with Master there or not.. ( Master always watches)

Hope to get some women for Master to enjoy at some point too..

Are we swingers, erm. dont know, dont care.. but we have a lot of fun. :D

Katie.x"

yer right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yer right

xx"

To which bit..:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to say yes, if there is a more than.....two people in the group ,I would say that is swinging and if a single joins the group then they become a swinger .

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