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"I think its usual too. I don't look at who has fabbed or how many. If this is not a 'look at me' post and an honest question, maybe look deeper at why you need her photos to be 'the most noticed' or 'the best'. What is that implying about you and your relationship? " This! | |||
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"Shows a slightly external locus of identity and value Not a massive issue itself just don't let other people's _iews of your life and parter and yourself become more important than your own. " ...and this! | |||
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"Thanks for the replies guys! Sorry... Maybe I sounded a bit moany in the opening message. I did mean it in a light hearted way. I/we are not insecure... :o) I just like showing my beautiful girl off. I didn't think that was unusual? I was just curious as to how some pics get miles more fabs than others... When I obviously think Alice is worthy of more. :o) We are actually open to single guys, and sometimes (but not often) play with them too. Maybe I'm just being massively biased and need to get over it!" Sounds like you're slightly overthinking it them. Some of the pics which get thousands of fabs are people who accept every friend request, or go on cam a lot, or work in clubs - many many reasons which don't necessarily mean they're in any way more attractive than Alice. | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X" Bit rude. | |||
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"Thanks for the replies guys! Sorry... Maybe I sounded a bit moany in the opening message. I did mean it in a light hearted way. I/we are not insecure... :o) I just like showing my beautiful girl off. I didn't think that was unusual? I was just curious as to how some pics get miles more fabs than others... When I obviously think Alice is worthy of more. :o) We are actually open to single guys, and sometimes (but not often) play with them too. Maybe I'm just being massively biased and need to get over it!" You can mess around with set it so your looking for single men, pick a good time of the day Friday evening say,put a status up ( not a fab my pics but sy "hey guys whis free tonight?" do a forum look at me post to get the first few in. Then with your location being London you'll get enough of a boost to get you into the bottom of the top fanned list and then you'll quickly rise up it. Once you've been on the top lage they'll all get a lot of fabs but equally they will all end up on port blogs as the top fabbed pages get regularly copied | |||
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"Thanks for the replies guys! Sorry... Maybe I sounded a bit moany in the opening message. I did mean it in a light hearted way. I/we are not insecure... :o) I just like showing my beautiful girl off. I didn't think that was unusual? I was just curious as to how some pics get miles more fabs than others... When I obviously think Alice is worthy of more. :o) We are actually open to single guys, and sometimes (but not often) play with them too. Maybe I'm just being massively biased and need to get over it!" Never get over being massively biased toward your partner | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X Bit rude." Not sure why this is rude when it's a statement of our opinion and not aimed at anyone in particular but if we've caused offence, apologies and we'll stay out out of here from now on. | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X Bit rude. Not sure why this is rude when it's a statement of our opinion and not aimed at anyone in particular but if we've caused offence, apologies and we'll stay out out of here from now on. " It wasn't rude in my opinion. Don't stay away because someone disagrees with you unless you really can't handle it, that's what forums are about | |||
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"Thanks for the replies guys! Sorry... Maybe I sounded a bit moany in the opening message. I did mean it in a light hearted way. I/we are not insecure... :o) I just like showing my beautiful girl off. I didn't think that was unusual? I was just curious as to how some pics get miles more fabs than others... When I obviously think Alice is worthy of more. :o) We are actually open to single guys, and sometimes (but not often) play with them too. Maybe I'm just being massively biased and need to get over it! Never get over being massively biased toward your partner " This..you just want everyone to appreciate what you do. Hotpics is fickle anyway so try and forget about it. You have some fantastic pics | |||
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"Howdy forum readers. I just wanted to ask a question... Is it wrong that I badly want my gorgeous Alice's pics to be the most fabbed on here? I don't know what's wrong with me? Everytime I post new pics of her I am constantly checking to see how many tabs they have received for the next few days. And when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " Yes | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X Bit rude. Not sure why this is rude when it's a statement of our opinion and not aimed at anyone in particular but if we've caused offence, apologies and we'll stay out out of here from now on. It wasn't rude in my opinion. Don't stay away because someone disagrees with you unless you really can't handle it, that's what forums are about " Thanks, no not worried about handling it but don't want to set out to have a go at anyone or start a forum barney - no one appreciates those! X | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........" Nearly all of us are to an extent or we wouldn't be posting in the forum, putting pictures of ourselves up, trying to persuade people to our point of _iew. I don't think the op is fixated really. | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........" Something that still amazes me: all rather sad really...in my opinion of course. | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X Bit rude. Not sure why this is rude when it's a statement of our opinion and not aimed at anyone in particular but if we've caused offence, apologies and we'll stay out out of here from now on. It wasn't rude in my opinion. Don't stay away because someone disagrees with you unless you really can't handle it, that's what forums are about Thanks, no not worried about handling it but don't want to set out to have a go at anyone or start a forum barney - no one appreciates those! X" I think plenty of people appreciate forum barneys sometimes I think some contributors could start an argument in an empty room. | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........ Nearly all of us are to an extent or we wouldn't be posting in the forum, putting pictures of ourselves up, trying to persuade people to our point of _iew. I don't think the op is fixated really." | |||
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"If you change your looking for to men then you will appear in searches and your pics will get seen. In my experience it's men who do the most fabbing since they're the largest demographic. If they can't see you, they can't Fab you. Of course, that also opens you up to receiving messages from them as well. They are lovely pics, by the way." This! She is stunning mate! | |||
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"Fabs don't mean anything - there are some rough people on here who get loads and stunners who get few. Alice falls into the latter Btw - that first pic where she is bent over, wow! X Bit rude. Not sure why this is rude when it's a statement of our opinion and not aimed at anyone in particular but if we've caused offence, apologies and we'll stay out out of here from now on. " You didn't say it was your opinion though There are some pics in the most fabbed that make me go but others must like them | |||
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"This thread is no different (I think it's actually preferable) to the "who is the best/hottest/mostpopular" that run almost daily. At least this guy isn't hoping to impress people just to win favour, he genuinely thinks his partner is beautiful." or fab Monday, Tuesday....... | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........ Nearly all of us are to an extent or we wouldn't be posting in the forum, putting pictures of ourselves up, trying to persuade people to our point of _iew. I don't think the op is fixated really." Why did I post a new pic yesterday? Because it was a request and I wanted the attention...... | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........ Nearly all of us are to an extent or we wouldn't be posting in the forum, putting pictures of ourselves up, trying to persuade people to our point of _iew. I don't think the op is fixated really. Why did I post a new pic yesterday? Because it was a request and I wanted the attention...... " Why do we post new pictures when we aren't even meeting at the moment? | |||
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"Howdy forum readers. I just wanted to ask a question... Is it wrong that I badly want my gorgeous Alice's pics to be the most fabbed on here? I don't know what's wrong with me? Everytime I post new pics of her I am constantly checking to see how many tabs they have received for the next few days. And when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " We often wondered how some pics get literally thousands of fabs when they'd only been up for half an hour and just came to the conclusion that they have lots of friends/very well known etc and just left it at that there other fun things to be doing. | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........" Human nature. People often follow crowds and in experiments if there's say 10 people with 9 shills who are in on it an deliberately pick a clearly wrong answer (say which line is shortest out of three and they pick a middle one) the 10th person who is the real subject will almost always change their answer to one they know is wrong because that's what the crowd says. So it's only logical that we apply the same subconscious processes to our own appearance and the aperance and value of our selected partners. I've watched guys go from madly adoring the girl they've just met to dumping them as when they've introduced her to their friends they've all put her down/say paid she looks ugly etc even when it's just because they're bitter it's incredible. | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) " We agree | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) We agree " yep | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) We agree yep " And yep! (By the way, great pics OP ) -Courtney | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) " Bang on. A fab is a nice, simple pick me up. It's not necessary but it's nice. | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) Bang on. A fab is a nice, simple pick me up. It's not necessary but it's nice." And is it even a nice feeling pick me up if you get them after asking? | |||
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"why are so many people fixated on being validated by people they don't know, and are very unlikely to ever meet........" This! Some people need to get off the Internet and enjoy real life. Instagram is the worst for this! | |||
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"I think its usual too. I don't look at who has fabbed or how many. If this is not a 'look at me' post and an honest question, maybe look deeper at why you need her photos to be 'the most noticed' or 'the best'. What is that implying about you and your relationship? " Just that he's proud of her and wants others to appreciate her like he does. | |||
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"Now just being picky here please don't get annoyed but although some of the pictures are stunning they could be better nothing actually to do with her but IMHO i feel that the pictures could be taken slightly better/ tweaked very slightly. Ie as the photographer perhaps explore some free online training from photography websites and youtube etc or try photoshop to see if you can adjust parts of the photos. Now remember just my opinion on your photos since you are the people looking to get fabs." From someone with only three rather poor pictures of his cock this is a bit rich. The op's pictures are stylish and erotic, and are of a very attractive model. We have Fabbed plenty of them. I enjoy getting fabs, so I can sort of understand your feelings but I see it all as a bit of a game, trying to select photos that will attract interest. | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) We agree yep And yep! (By the way, great pics OP ) -Courtney" We agree with this too - well said. | |||
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"Howdy forum readers. I just wanted to ask a question... Is it wrong that I badly want my gorgeous Alice's pics to be the most fabbed on here? I don't know what's wrong with me? Everytime I post new pics of her I am constantly checking to see how many tabs they have received for the next few days. And when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " Yes, it's pretty sad!!! | |||
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"If I had a slamming body like that though, I'd want to show it off! Fair play! " if I looked like that I wouldn't even buy clothes | |||
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"the photos dont look real/authentic , hence not fabbed" In what way? They look real to me, and bloody good. I suspect most were taken in a hotel room for a more opulent look. Nita xx | |||
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" when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " Yes it is sad. Not everybody likes the same thing, it would be a strange world if we did. | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) Bang on. A fab is a nice, simple pick me up. It's not necessary but it's nice." Yes , exactly this ! it's easy to knock people down , yet still it happens for simply enjoying a very valid part of the site . They are great pics and fully deserve all the fabs they get . | |||
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"Some people are making waaaaay too much of this. Do we enjoy receiving Fabs for our pictures? Sure! Are we desperate for outside validation? Nope. Attempting to make people feel like they are somehow needy and/or psychologically insecure for enjoying a rather simple and natural pleasure is a bit bizarre. (in our opinion) Bang on. A fab is a nice, simple pick me up. It's not necessary but it's nice. And is it even a nice feeling pick me up if you get them after asking? " Hmm. That I don't know since I've never asked. You have made me ponder. | |||
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"Thank you for the kind messages guys. (And the fabs!) I am actually hugely regretting posting anything at all now, as it seems a lot of people have taken my post in a way it really wasn't intended. Oooooops. Completely agree that a lot of people are reading way too much into it. I'm simply a bloke who adores his wife and also, loves her being adored. I'm also not obsessed with what other people think, but was just interested to see what other people thought of the whole 'fabbing' thing. I should've chose my words more wisely! Obviously, I love Alice getting attention, but I certainly don't feel she is a 'trophy' or treat her as that. We are a partnership and I adore her. I just happen to enjoy seeing her fucking someone else from time to time... But don't we all on this website?? ;o) Happy swinging guys. And again thanks for the lovely comments. " | |||
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"Howdy forum readers. I just wanted to ask a question... Is it wrong that I badly want my gorgeous Alice's pics to be the most fabbed on here? I don't know what's wrong with me? Everytime I post new pics of her I am constantly checking to see how many tabs they have received for the next few days. And when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " maybe you just sometimes like the attention the photos receive as it is seen as a positive for most to receive fabs on their photos on here? | |||
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"Howdy forum readers. I just wanted to ask a question... Is it wrong that I badly want my gorgeous Alice's pics to be the most fabbed on here? I don't know what's wrong with me? Everytime I post new pics of her I am constantly checking to see how many tabs they have received for the next few days. And when she doesn't reach high up in the 'charts'... I mightily get the arse! Is that sad? " Yes that's sad...but nice pics | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.." You're a right bundle of fun you aren't you! Do you ever say anything nice! | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.. You're a right bundle of fun you aren't you! Do you ever say anything nice!" Ha ha! isn't he though???.. I'm off to 'cockily strut my stuff' I had no idea my original post would stir up so much bad feeling! | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.." If you could choose between people saying something positive or nice to you or ignoring you altogether which would it be? If the former it isn't an indication of deep seated insecurity but of human nature. We all look for positive feedback in everything we do. Hoping for fabs for a nice set of carefully posed and executed photos of an attractive woman is no different. | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.. You're a right bundle of fun you aren't you! Do you ever say anything nice! Ha ha! isn't he though???.. I'm off to 'cockily strut my stuff' I had no idea my original post would stir up so much bad feeling! " Stick around to find out how perfectly innocuous posts can be twisted, judged and generally over reacted to . | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.. You're a right bundle of fun you aren't you! Do you ever say anything nice!" | |||
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"I think it's a little sad and reflects some deep rooted insecurity...you desperately want to have the "top" woman...it's basic peacocking behaviour, you can't cockily strut your stuff...even though you've put time and thought into the images...she isn't "most fabbed' and that's a little chink in your armour...i'm not sure if she managed to get most fabbed wether it would let you rest a little or fuel your hunger for more fabs... For me "most fabbed" is utter bollocks.. You're a right bundle of fun you aren't you! Do you ever say anything nice! Ha ha! isn't he though???.. I'm off to 'cockily strut my stuff' I had no idea my original post would stir up so much bad feeling! " I'm sure you strut your stuff very well as well | |||
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