FabSwingers.com forum: How do you get to make contact

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am very descrete. When I say hello to the ladies I don't get so much as a hello back. What am I doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate have a look at ya profile then look at some other single males profiles

You only get back what ya puts in x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

what Soapy said

maybe a few pics - dont have to be head shots, maybe some nice torso pics or a cheeky bum one

also, it says you can accom and to many women out there that will mean you are married and playing away, no matter what the real story is!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soapy so eloquently pointed out, your profile doesn't really say much.

You've not said much at all about you and what you're looking for.

You can't accommodate - without an explanation (either in your profile or in your messages) this could be interpreted that you have a partner who you're cheating on. This doesn't need to be detailed, just said in a way to reduce these kinds of concerns.

There are no photos on there and you don't say that you have any that can be shown or sent via PM if requested. This is important to alot of people. You don't have to show face pics in your public gallery if this is a worry. Just give people an idea of who they're talking to and maybe have a face pic in your private gallery that you can send if requested.

Your profile if your first and main chance to impress the people you're trying to attract. So make it attractive. Use the opportunity to show your personality, tell people about yourself and what you want to get out of this site.

Get yourself photo verified at least. Maybe venture into the chat rooms on webcam, if you have one, and find somebody who will verify you from there too. It all helps.

Oh and also, the messages you send, tailor them to their audience. Don't send bland copy and paste messages in the vain hope that someone will see something that isn't there and respond positively.

Phew! Sorry, didn't mean to write war and peace but there are so many things you could be doing to help yourself here.

Lots of luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why discrete? Are you married, living with significant other? Very little on your profile that tells anyone about you; your likes and dislikes, what you are looking for, whether you can accommodate and if not why not, whether you are interested in clubs/socials, what sort of sex are you into eg BDSM or not into pain?

Your profile is your shop window, with around 20 guys to one woman, there is nothing on it to catch a womans eye and even on swingers like to be wooed but good luck anyway, and as Soapy says, check other guys profiles out especially those in the forums

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

start with your username..

ffs, I saw it and was scared. You could be a killer.

no offence.

good luck tho

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and after a meet, don't take out 5 bin liners and a mop and bucket..

seriously tho...

sell yourself, explain fully what you are looking for, what you BRING to the meet for the other party. Select carefully who you message, ensure you fully fit what they are looking for... and don't hassle them.

again, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Angel has pretty much summed up what I wanted to say.

Your profile, what little there is of it, could be on Match.com and even there I wouldn't linger on it. Sites like these are full of "single" men, so you really do need to stand out. There is nothing on your profile that gives any information about you - what you like, looking for, what you bring to the party etc.

If I'm frank, people who have to ask "what do I do" to even get themselves noticed would not be for me. I like to tell a man what to do, yes...but blimey, he has to have the balls to contact me first so I can take them and hand them back to him!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, your profile is absolute rubbish.

Secondly, your profile is absolute rubbish.

Thirdly, oh wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but have to agree with the above,its boring!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

There's nothing wrong with your profile - you wrote it so it reflects you. Don't change a thing. Z

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"There's nothing wrong with your profile - you wrote it so it reflects you. Don't change a thing. Z"

A point gets awarded for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sawman Do you want to play a game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just upload pics mr. no matter how pretty a picture you paint of you as a person, no one on here goes off your personality, them that say they do are having them selves on. occupational hazard.

physical attraction proceeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes pictures speak louder than words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is dire mate, take a look at mine, just be friendly honest and have a few pics up, I can't accom of a weekend but I put my reasons down that's all the ladies want straight forward honesty it's not too hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"start with your username..

ffs, I saw it and was scared. You could be a killer.

no offence.

good luck tho "

Sawman oh dear no wonder your not getting any responses sounds like a serial killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you been on here for a year yet no pics very strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just upload pics mr. no matter how pretty a picture you paint of you as a person, no one on here goes off your personality, them that say they do are having them selves on. occupational hazard.

physical attraction proceeds"

I'd disagree with that.

I like to see pics so I can visualise who I am talking to. It gives the person more of a presence and an identity to me.

I do not use photos to judge appearances.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Firstly, your profile is absolute rubbish.

Secondly, your profile is absolute rubbish.

Thirdly, oh wait."

Nice.

Ever thought of going in to motivational speaking as a career?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"There's nothing wrong with your profile - you wrote it so it reflects you. Don't change a thing. Z"

I'm with Z on this one...

if this is all the effort that he thinks he needs to put in and he has been here over a year.. then why help him

leave it exactly as it is... it tells me he doesn't "get it" at all......

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

Devils angel's first post gives you lots of good advice. You have to work at this site to make progress. You may get lucky, but this is a community. Taking part will help get you noticed.

And by the way, its been 8hrs, how come you haven't updated your profile yet?

Which reminds me. Its about time I did some work on mine.

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