FabSwingers.com forum: Once a swinger

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Always a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rachael I quite agree. Once you become a swinger you can never go back to monogamy.

The stimulation of enjoying different people and trying new things is too pleasurable to give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily.

It depends a lot on the individual and why they started swinging.

I think it's time to stop when you've done 'everything', what is there really, after that? It's just habit after a certain point - and habits can be broken.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally, now I've sampled the delights of group sex I'd always want it again at some point. Even if I didn't do it for years.

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

"... I think it's time to stop when you've done 'everything', what is there really, after that? ..."

That sounds as if swinging is just a tick list of things to try. We've pretty much done 'everything'. We have no desire to stop, despite there being nothing new that we want to do, because we enjoy what we do and couldn't get that enjoyment in a monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once u do it u cant get enough hehe xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... I think it's time to stop when you've done 'everything', what is there really, after that? ...

Nothing wrong with having just a tick list of things to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's more about attitudes.

If I went back to vanilla, I'd feel like putting on the twin set and pearls and thinking blow jobs were disgusting! I'd fit right back in with my friends and colleagues then!

So I may not always be active, but yep for me ...'once a swinger always a swinger'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not so sure. Currently enjoying a break and have no burning desire to start up again.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If I met someone and fell in love then I'd give up the actual swinging part if it wasn't something he wanted to do but I wouldn't give up the friends I've made or hanging out here.

The prospect of monogamy doesn't faze me but I've changed over the years because the thought of being with one person forever used to scare the living shit out of me. I'm still a commitment phobe so I have my doubts it'll happen but I wouldn't rule it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want group sex when in a relationship. I want monogamy.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I started meeting women and couples via the old contact mags in the early 70's - and I'm still active. I've had a lot of great times, I'm still having some, and I intend carrying on doing so!

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Always a swinger? "

wouldn't say I qualify as a swinger rachael.

more or less I'm a glorified swinger site lurker exploring this new world seeing how things go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree with the OP, once this world has been opened up to you I,d feel like I was missing out on something by stopping it, so any potential relationship that may come along is going to have to accommodate for swinging in it

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

This is a big fraternity society. Very addictive alternative lifestyle with merit and demerit.the only way you can dispense with swinging is when you meet someone of the same wavelength sexually..If not you kidding yourself.. Some couples split up because of swinging either the female or the male refuse to quit swinging . swinging also kept some people marriage rock solid

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think I'll always have the mind set of a swinger now even if I don't practise what I dream of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more about attitudes.

If I went back to vanilla, I'd feel like putting on the twin set and pearls and thinking blow jobs were disgusting! I'd fit right back in with my friends and colleagues then!

Tell me about it, vanilla friends and colleagues terminology;

Dirty girl = one who speaks during sex

Wild night = sex involving more than 3 positions

Filthy = porn on in the background

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think it's more about attitudes.

If I went back to vanilla, I'd feel like putting on the twin set and pearls and thinking blow jobs were disgusting! I'd fit right back in with my friends and colleagues then!

Tell me about it, vanilla friends and colleagues terminology;

Dirty girl = one who speaks during sex

Wild night = sex involving more than 3 positions

Filthy = porn on in the background"

My work colleagues are surprisingly 'vanilla'. This is a whole new world. A Brave New World in many ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could stop tomorrow if I wanted. Same with Marc. And I don't rule that out. In fact, if we ever go back to the US, the chances of us continuing to do this are slim, I think.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I found the one I would approach her about seining but if she says no the I could give it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is in my nature and it feels so normal to me I some times I have to watch what I am saying in the real world x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more about attitudes.

If I went back to vanilla, I'd feel like putting on the twin set and pearls and thinking blow jobs were disgusting! I'd fit right back in with my friends and colleagues then!

Tell me about it, vanilla friends and colleagues terminology;

Dirty girl = one who speaks during sex

Wild night = sex involving more than 3 positions

Filthy = porn on in the background

My work colleagues are surprisingly 'vanilla'. This is a whole new world. A Brave New World in many ways. "

The big bang theory is running with a story line that Leonard and penny might divorce because Leonard kissed another woman! We normally love the show but my goodness was that story line lame / impossible to relate to.

We were like: "how about a real predicament like Leonard and penny normally only do same-room swap but they tried separate rooms for a change. They promised each other they'd play safe, but in the heat on the moment penny decided to go bareback and now she's pregnant from the swap- now that would be a real problem everyone can relate to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a swinger? "
no disagree only couples are swingers we are their discardable playthings

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singles play the field

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a swinger? no disagree only couples are swingers we are their discardable playthings

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singles play the field

Not at all I am single and very much class myself as a single I am not just here for the sex but the social and what the lifestyle represents x

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't think I can ever go back to pure monogamy, been tainted.

I now want a relationship with a primary partner but they'd have to be open to us swinging.

Or a cuckold happy for me to frolic elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't started to swing yet lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately once a swinger always a swinger for us . Why go back to monogamy when you have experienced all this fun together ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started meeting women and couples via the old contact mags in the early 70's - and I'm still active. I've had a lot of great times, I'm still having some, and I intend carrying on doing so!"

We used to use either ad-mag and then an old wap site in the old java days

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I like the social side .... but if I found the one .... I wouldnt want to swing .... but thats just me x

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"I haven't started to swing yet lol."

I'll give you a push start, how high do you wanna go?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always a swinger? no disagree only couples are swingers we are their discardable playthings

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Well I'm not single and I'm kinky as hell. I love this world and those that immerse themselves in it

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I don't think I could get with someone and know I could never indulge this side of myself again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't started to swing yet lol.

I'll give you a push start, how high do you wanna go?

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Yes ty. I want to come up to 2 metres high

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By *aughtyHOTWifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Bath

Racing Motorcycles & jumping from planes is a rush, watching the women I married and love getting filthy with another guy is the most intense rush of all... Rock till you drop;

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We meet through fab still swinging we even go married earlier this year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't started to swing yet lol."

Apart from 2 club visits I haven't either, If I meet someone I really like and she showed no signs of being interested in swinging/clubs I could easily leave the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm now a serial non-monogamous fucker. I can't imagine single life with just one man and I can't see me finding one I wanted to swing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tick list is far too long to stop yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a swinger? no disagree only couples are swingers we are their discardable playthings

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Not at all I am single and very much class myself as a single I am not just here for the sex but the social and what the lifestyle represents x"
so you regard yourself as a swinger yes ,have you met any couples? Have you become friends and stayed at their place ?

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