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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

Having been swinging for a number of years now and in various locations around the world there has always been two constants from my view point.

That is that you find two types of swingers generally.

Remember this is my opinion from my experiences and im not claiming them to be right but id like to see what your views are.

The first types are all just about sex. Go to a club or meet and its raucous and debaucherous.

The second type and the type i fall into, i classify as the brain fuck type. The type that likes to possibly meet for a social, flirt touch, alot of intellectual stimulation and the sex tends to be more sensual.

I get that there are various categories in between and grey areas.

However if you could broadly categorise, do you agree or not and if you do which type are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have just about summed it up nicely. Mr W

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We would be in the second group, but I think the first group get more meets and have more fun.

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By *ordsandstuffMan
over a year ago

Highbury

I think you are basically right...there are some for whom a mental connection is important and for some it is unimportant or indeed not wanted.

That said, sometimes going to a Club is fun and at some Clubs a lot of talking goes on.

I've met people at Clubs and have become really good friends with them over time!

I am the second type!

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By *he feckersCouple
over a year ago

rosyth

we would probably fall into the second category

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

We would definitely fall into the second group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds about spot on to us we fall into the second group more so than not

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

Did you not miss out the third group that just talks on the internet or goes to socials with no intention of ever playing?

We are in your first group. We go to clubs first and foremost to have sex with other people. The many strong friendships we've made on the way have been incidental.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think you are more or less right I really do need a mental connection. I fall into the second group and I can enjoy clubs just on a social level.. Play happens with the right person is an unexpected bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could sit just about anywhere on your spectrum. Sometimes we're looking for a quick and dirty release, sometimes something altogether more sophisticated. So, even with the generalisation caveat, we don't identify with the 'two types' idea.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"We could sit just about anywhere on your spectrum. Sometimes we're looking for a quick and dirty release, sometimes something altogether more sophisticated. So, even with the generalisation caveat, we don't identify with the 'two types' idea."

I think we would agree with this - we swing for sex, to fulfil and share our sexual fantasies and the fun that comes from that. On the other hand we also enjoy our swinging to be very sensual and erotic. The mental connections we leave for our friends in "real life". We are friends with some of our swinging acquaintances, but certainly not with all.

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By *hyguyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Whilst I confess that I might, on the odd occasion, lapse and lean very slightly into the first group

..... I predominantly, most definitely, enjoy being mostly in the second group

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Having been swinging for a number of years now and in various locations around the world there has always been two constants from my view point.

That is that you find two types of swingers generally.

Remember this is my opinion from my experiences and im not claiming them to be right but id like to see what your views are.

The first types are all just about sex. Go to a club or meet and its raucous and debaucherous.

The second type and the type i fall into, i classify as the brain fuck type. The type that likes to possibly meet for a social, flirt touch, alot of intellectual stimulation and the sex tends to be more sensual.

I get that there are various categories in between and grey areas.

However if you could broadly categorise, do you agree or not and if you do which type are you?"

I think I'm the second type.

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By *angermiceCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

100% group two for us and still looking lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First group for us... we have our relationship for the emotional stuff. If i make friebds along the way then it's cool - i love the social side of swinging, but for the sexual side of it i think we'd rather have a nice submissive fuck-toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group 1........if we become friends afterwards is a plus...definitely for sexual encounters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly group 2 for me

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Think there is a happy in the middle group that could fit in between the ones youve listed... and we would fall in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great summing up by OP...Although I do visit clubs which tend to be more immediate action I would fall into 2nd Group as I do like social side of meet by going for bite to eat(lunch or dinner)a few drinks(doesn't need to ne alcohol)and some good conversation. I think after that the fun is better..

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By *ordsandstuffMan
over a year ago

Highbury

I wonder if it depends whether kissing is an important part of things...the kissing trance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like getting boned in the ass. If I have one in my mouth at the same time it's a bonus.

Which category do I fit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First group for us... we have our relationship for the emotional stuff. If i make friebds along the way then it's cool - i love the social side of swinging, but for the sexual side of it i think we'd rather have a nice submissive fuck-toy. "

Whoops! I'm not anyone's fuck-toy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely the latter as I enjoy the mental connection and the pleasure knowing what your partner enjoys. I prefer regular meets for that reason.

However, there's times where the former can be really hot!

x

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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

In my experience most forumites would fall into the 2nd group as we enjoy the banter.

As i said its a generalisation, there are grey areas.

My point however is, if you know which swinger you are then you should know the types of swingers you would want to meet.

From reading profiles you can figure that out for the most part.

That is my filtration process, although that aint working well in terms of reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep you have hit the nail on the head with that one and we are deff in the second group as we enjoy a sexy slow built up to a meet

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I just like getting boned in the ass. If I have one in my mouth at the same time it's a bonus.

Which category do I fit?"

Category Greedy Girl ?

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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

You know in my post the day on Asian guys i was actually trying to get to something before that lady went all ape on me.

But the two aspects of swinging ive been unable to correlate is group two and profiles.

Ive been on many sites and the type 2 you think would be more open to like minded meets and i feel here is where most guys struggle.

Apart from the obvious of being courteous and respectful, guys are just a profile with average pics, myself included.

Most of the type 2 woman need to see a personality whether you white, brown black etc.

Yes they will have preferences but ive been with woman that said no asians that was ripping my pants off.

Its all about how you can treat and excite the.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First group for us... we have our relationship for the emotional stuff. If i make friebds along the way then it's cool - i love the social side of swinging, but for the sexual side of it i think we'd rather have a nice submissive fuck-toy.

Whoops! I'm not anyone's fuck-toy lol "

Nobody has asked you to be diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

As I've never been to a club, I'm of the second type I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole I'm group 2! And as much as I love the social side of clubs, I have been known to be naughty ! Maybe I'm an inbetweener! But sway more towards group 2! All in the best possible taste of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think there is a happy in the middle group that could fit in between the ones youve listed... and we would fall in between "

Ditto

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I would class myself more of as a lurker to be honest OP, mainly because well I never go to clubs or had meets as I never really pursued any...

if something were to work out I would have a relaxed quiet social meet first then just to see where things go...

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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common


"I would class myself more of as a lurker to be honest OP, mainly because well I never go to clubs or had meets as I never really pursued any...

if something were to work out I would have a relaxed quiet social meet first then just to see where things go...

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A lurker is not a swinger, hence you dont count.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I would class myself more of as a lurker to be honest OP, mainly because well I never go to clubs or had meets as I never really pursued any...

if something were to work out I would have a relaxed quiet social meet first then just to see where things go...

A lurker is not a swinger, hence you dont count."

....if you say so then

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We are definitely in the second group, enjoy going to a club every now and then but look to chat to people first and foremost.

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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common


"I would class myself more of as a lurker to be honest OP, mainly because well I never go to clubs or had meets as I never really pursued any...

if something were to work out I would have a relaxed quiet social meet first then just to see where things go...

A lurker is not a swinger, hence you dont count.

....if you say so then "

Lol dude chill im messing with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly fall into the second group but... Once in a while I just want good hard sex and nothing more!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's the second group

Only been to a club once have no problem playing there but would meet a couple we already knew as the mental connection is an important part for us.

Finding friends we can enjoy a night with as well as some fun with, we have vanilla friends as well but that is a totally different side of our lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The second group for us

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Sounds right and I'm in the 2nd category.

If this thread allows singles to be classed as swingers of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the first type , and proud to be .

However intimacy , passion and flirting are often part of the package too .

It just depends on the people , the situation and the environment .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think there is a happy in the middle group that could fit in between the ones youve listed... and we would fall in between "

As would I! I often wonder happily from group 1 to group 2 and back again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would be in the second group, but I think the first group get more meets and have more fun. "

No. More meets does not equal more fun for everyone.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm definitely in the 2nd camp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would be in the second group, but I think the first group get more meets and have more fun.

No. More meets does not equal more fun for everyone. "

They do for us and the people we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group 1 for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group 1 for me "

Was beginning to think I was the only one in group one!

Sex, sex and more sex just sex please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group 1 for me

Was beginning to think I was the only one in group one!

Sex, sex and more sex just sex please. "

Yes here we are at the arse end of the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. I am the second type too. I like getting to know people first, flirting, chatting, and stimulating one another with your mind and imagination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the mood, usually group 2 but group 1 is good too. In a group 1 mood now.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I would class myself more of as a lurker to be honest OP, mainly because well I never go to clubs or had meets as I never really pursued any...

if something were to work out I would have a relaxed quiet social meet first then just to see where things go...

A lurker is not a swinger, hence you dont count.

....if you say so then

Lol dude chill im messing with you."

I know my dearest south african brother of mine...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd offer another dimension to it and you can have a 2x2 matrix!:

Type A: knows what they like and just want more of it. They have a profile that reads like a specification with height, weight and age preferences

Type B: has a bucket list of things they want to try including people of all shapes and sizes.

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By *methyst01 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

Valid observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group 1 for me, I don't need to know your name, your occupation or what your kids do at the weekend. I just need to know if you will show me a good time.

If you become a friend on this site, then that's lovely, but I'm probably less likely to play with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd offer another dimension to it and you can have a 2x2 matrix!:

Type A: knows what they like and just want more of it. They have a profile that reads like a specification with height, weight and age preferences

Type B: has a bucket list of things they want to try including people of all shapes and sizes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd offer another dimension to it and you can have a 2x2 matrix!:

Type A: knows what they like and just want more of it. They have a profile that reads like a specification with height, weight and age preferences

Type B: has a bucket list of things they want to try including people of all shapes and sizes. "

I think you got it! Couldnt of put it better myself. I'm number 1, but I'm on a lot of bucket lists being a red head! So number 2's dont do it for me.

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