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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester

Hi everyone mrs cmy here, so as said above we really want to take next step, mr cmy totally up for it as am I, the problem is me, or at least my nerves, we have had lots of offers for meets with lovely couples and would love to do it but struggling, I find it really easy and so very horny to be in cam, I know I can't find the courage for a club although they sound ace and so horny, so I am thinking I could do a big social on kind of neutral ground, perhaps if lots of people were getting together in a pub in my town, then I feel I could chat and relax without expectation and hear all about others first times, the trouble is we never see these kind of events anywhere so do they happen or am I just going to have to grow a pair so to speak, sorry for the long thread, hope your not all sleeping now, thanks mrs cmyxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Y so nervous about clubs if going with Mr? There is no pressure to play, my 1st couple of club visits I only played with the guy I'd gone with, I just observed...

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Perhaps try one of the quieter nights in a quiet club. Just play together and soak up the sexy atmosphere. We did that several times before actually any swapping

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester

Hi fruit loop, not sure why I am so nervous about clubs, I guess it's just the arriving, and I feel that if I was just arriving at the pub then well there is nothing new there lol

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Perhaps try one of the quieter nights in a quiet club. Just play together and soak up the sexy atmosphere. We did that several times before actually any swapping "
. I so want to do this, I guess the answer to this is I am really just gonna have to grow a pair lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs x

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Hi fruit loop, not sure why I am so nervous about clubs, I guess it's just the arriving, and I feel that if I was just arriving at the pub then well there is nothing new there lol"

It can be really scary the first time walking in. You'll find after half an hour or so you are so settled you'll wonder why you were so worried. Swingers are a friendly crowd and always very welcoming of newbies. Any club will give you a tour and introduce you to a few people to get you started.

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x"
if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps try one of the quieter nights in a quiet club. Just play together and soak up the sexy atmosphere. We did that several times before actually any swapping . I so want to do this, I guess the answer to this is I am really just gonna have to grow a pair lol "
hey loads of people get stage fright but once the clothes are off ,break a leg

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs x"
thanks for the advice I guess I am just gonna have to be brave lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam"

If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab

If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.

Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,

Lee

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Hi fruit loop, not sure why I am so nervous about clubs, I guess it's just the arriving, and I feel that if I was just arriving at the pub then well there is nothing new there lol

It can be really scary the first time walking in. You'll find after half an hour or so you are so settled you'll wonder why you were so worried. Swingers are a friendly crowd and always very welcoming of newbies. Any club will give you a tour and introduce you to a few people to get you started. "
you are so right we have nothing but lovely msgs and come across such lovely people I know we would definately be made to feel relaxed, I have just got to go for it I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs xthanks for the advice I guess I am just gonna have to be brave lol"
you'll be fine, have a few drinks & just go for it x

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Perhaps try one of the quieter nights in a quiet club. Just play together and soak up the sexy atmosphere. We did that several times before actually any swapping . I so want to do this, I guess the answer to this is I am really just gonna have to grow a pair lol hey loads of people get stage fright but once the clothes are off ,break a leg "
lol I might actually break a leg in the heels I have planned for when we do manage to get somewhere

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam

If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab

If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.

Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,

Lee"
. Thanks for your advice lee, we know from others how fab townhouse is, I just need to be brave I think, but I didn't know about Chester socials so thanks for that also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam

If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab

If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.

Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,

Lee. Thanks for your advice lee, we know from others how fab townhouse is, I just need to be brave I think, but I didn't know about Chester socials so thanks for that also "

No problem Any questions you might have about the socials at Townhouse, feel free to message me or check out the swinging club/events ad forum for more details.

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs xthanks for the advice I guess I am just gonna have to be brave lol you'll be fine, have a few drinks & just go for it x"
. Lol a few drinks and I will be sleeping somewhere in the corner, wish you were closer I think we would have dragged you along for moral support

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;

1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..

2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.

Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with.

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;

1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..

2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.

Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with."
lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;

1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..

2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.

Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with. lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx "

Trust me you aren't alone in this. I think most people felt all this before their 1st club visit. Your mind is thinking huge orgy, sorry to disappoint you but it isn't so.

Think friendly pub or party..... with the potential for a bit extra is you feel like it. Oh and people walking round in their underwear or naked and having sex, the normal Sunday lunch time down your local

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester


"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;

1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..

2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.

Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with. lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx

Trust me you aren't alone in this. I think most people felt all this before their 1st club visit. Your mind is thinking huge orgy, sorry to disappoint you but it isn't so.

Think friendly pub or party..... with the potential for a bit extra is you feel like it. Oh and people walking round in their underwear or naked and having sex, the normal Sunday lunch time down your local "
. Lol so funny, tbh though I wasn't thinking it would be a big orgy, I think I am more nervous if that walk through the door and no one knows us, and a kind of feeling like the newbies, which there is no getting away from because we are!!!!!

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By *cduck and Blue eyes OP   Couple
over a year ago

nr chester

Ok so a big thankyou to you all for your advice, I think the general consensus is that I, mrs cmy, needs to quit being such a shy arse and a wuss, otherwise mr cmy and myself can talk till the cows come home but it won't get us anywhere, although we will keep talking as that's also very horny!!!!!! I guess those of you who frequent townhouse may or may not see us soon lol thanks again, mrs cmy

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