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Watching your husband or boyfriend with another woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Turning the tables on the other thread, how do you ladies feel about watching your husband or boyfriend play with other women?

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

I'm not overly keen on it if I'm honest. I've watched him action a few times with single fems at clubs and I've found myself feeling very jealous indeed.

If we're with another couple then I'm usually too busy to concentrate on Him doing his thing. If the other guy finishes earlier than my hubby and I have to watch him in action, I know a few tricks that make him cum quickly and will do it without hesitation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm yet to do this. It'll be interesting to see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it ! When I hear the lady moan I think to myself " I know how that feels "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a profile with an ex and met a couple of couples and to be honest i didnt like to see him with the other woman, one of the reasons we decided to call it a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a profile with an ex and met a couple of couples and to be honest i didnt like to see him with the other woman, one of the reasons we decided to call it a day"

Thank you for being honest. In my experience the female in most soft swap couples feel this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would absolutely hate it, and I wouldn't describe myself as a jealous person at all.

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By *uniperjuiceMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

I've known submissive women who enjoy being cuckolded in this way, but perhaps it's quite rare, even among submissive women. (And of course if someone is very poly, they may not mind at all).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issue with it, in fact I like it and will help out if needed lol its all part of swinging isn't it ?

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Been swinging many years Paul,s shared me many times with men but i do get jealous when Paul is with another woman. Yes very one way i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly meet with a couple and the female half absolutely loved seeing him fuck me. The first time it happened she got so turned on that I only had to stroke her clit for about 2mins before she came.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

I love it! It can be a massive turn on. I guess it's a mix of jealousy and excitement, very naughty!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we are playing with a single fem we play as a 3 sum so im never sat back just watching as it were - always 3 involved in some way in the play - if we didnt like it we wouldnt do it

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I love it. Love hearing how he pleases her etc, really turns me on.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me "

EXACTLY THIS

I love it is just the horniest thing EVER

Lex x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me "

EXACTLY THIS

I love it is just the horniest thing EVER

Lex x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

See so much so i came twice

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By *ust Ms LovinWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"if we are playing with a single fem we play as a 3 sum so im never sat back just watching as it were - always 3 involved in some way in the play - if we didnt like it we wouldnt do it "

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world


"See so much so i came twice"

Well, it is good

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Am sending this from the second landing cell 116 H M P Srangeways Manchester dead right they are checking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me "
this.. I those looks and little touches while he is with another lady... Like to kiss him while he is being ridden too xx mmmm

I only don't like it if I was excluded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome.. I love to see him giving to another woman something I get all the time..

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

I love it and totally get off on their pleasure. Knowing what the lady is feeling is a huge turn on.

Mrs x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"if we are playing with a single fem we play as a 3 sum so im never sat back just watching as it were - always 3 involved in some way in the play - if we didnt like it we wouldnt do it "

Totally agree.

It's also C's fantasy to be made to sit there and watch me with another woman without being allowed to touch us at all, which has never happened yet as we always all get too horny and involved to stick to the kink...but one day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise women feel jealous seeing their partners fuck other women but they don't mind their partners watch them being fucked by other men . Strange stuff in this strange world of swinging

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I didn't realise women feel jealous seeing their partners fuck other women but they don't mind their partners watch them being fucked by other men . Strange stuff in this strange world of swinging "

The ones who do aren't speaking for all women - just themselves.

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By *Sin or Not 2SinCouple
over a year ago

A hop skip n a jump

Its a huge turn on for me as I know how much pleasure she is receiving but even better, how much pleasure I will have after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Judging from the responses, it seems that the feeling of jealousy crops up more often in women than in men. Maybe this is down to a difference in emotional make up between the sexes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't realise women feel jealous seeing their partners fuck other women but they don't mind their partners watch them being fucked by other men . Strange stuff in this strange world of swinging

The ones who do aren't speaking for all women - just themselves."

It's very common.. we have had a few meets where the women have discovered this midway through. It's why I wouldn't ever meet a couple again as a single female ... There are also loads of couples where they only play with guys and if you ask the ladies will happily admit that they don't want to share their man.

Luckily for them their partners don't think the same x

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

With my ex partner I loved watching him with a lady. I felt proud that he was my partner, watching the lady squirming and moaning when he gave her oral. The only time I felt jealous was after play had finished and they sat relaxing and kissing winding down. The affection made me feel uneasy. Physical acts were fun. Emotional stuff got to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With my ex partner I loved watching him with a lady. I felt proud that he was my partner, watching the lady squirming and moaning when he gave her oral. The only time I felt jealous was after play had finished and they sat relaxing and kissing winding down. The affection made me feel uneasy. Physical acts were fun. Emotional stuff got to me. "

Is this the difference between the sexes then? Men just see it as being a physical act, while women make more of an emotional investment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems a lot of ladies on fab like to fuck other guys but dont want there guy fucking other ladies. Very intresting. Explains the jealous ladies display on here at times

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With my ex partner I loved watching him with a lady. I felt proud that he was my partner, watching the lady squirming and moaning when he gave her oral. The only time I felt jealous was after play had finished and they sat relaxing and kissing winding down. The affection made me feel uneasy. Physical acts were fun. Emotional stuff got to me. "

I'm the same. Can watch Mr sexually with women and love it... If he was laying cuddled up after I would want to rip heads off... And its a weird feeling.

Get a bit wierd If a woman tried to entwine her fingers in his during sex or oral too...yet love to see him kiss like it's the last moment. Go figure

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World


"With my ex partner I loved watching him with a lady. I felt proud that he was my partner, watching the lady squirming and moaning when he gave her oral. The only time I felt jealous was after play had finished and they sat relaxing and kissing winding down. The affection made me feel uneasy. Physical acts were fun. Emotional stuff got to me. "

Lets try that again

I love watching or even hearing my husband fucking another woman. I don't like to join in, just watch, but do love kissing him while he is inside her.

But I don't allow, yes allow, him to kiss and cuddle her after sex while I'm there. I wouldn't exactly call it jealousy but I do get uncomfortable with it. I am fine if he cuddles her post coitus if I'm not there to see it.

Strange but that is me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it, I love the fact I get to go home with him at the end of the night, that I spend my nights with him and the fact that I get to see it from another perspective is another thing that I enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For many swinging couples, fucking is just fucking, but cuddling is trespass.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm not a jealous person and as I like to watch whilst he's an exhibitionist it should have worked. The problem I had is my other half is very fastidious when it comes to sex. I have to shower before sex, you can forget early morning nookie, not before teeth brushed etc.

Therefore, to see him going down on women in clubs who have been serviced by other men etc pissed me off no end, especially as he couldn't see my problem.

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

There's no way Em would allow this as she's very jealous. We have only agreed that she will play and we will have mfm 3somes but that's it.

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By *he feckersCouple
over a year ago

rosyth


"I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me "
ditto we both love to see each other playing and having fun which is why we prefer same room fun x S

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I simply love it.... its as horny as hell.

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it. We only play in the same room because we get off on seeing eachother fucking other people.

And yeah, I definitely feel a sense of pride when she's loving it - my man is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely loved it in my previous relationship. Loved watching him fuck other women!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Love it. We only play in the same room because we get off on seeing eachother fucking other people.

And yeah, I definitely feel a sense of pride when she's loving it - my man is great"

This

I do get a little jealous if anyone deepthroats him though as it's something I can't do

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

I feel more comfortable seeing K with another guy than I do a woman maybe because in my head he's less likely to leave me for a guy does that help at all?

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I shouldn't be, but I'm quite surprised how many women feel jealous.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm pretty sure I would absolutely love that and not feel jealous at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often watched my husband such a turn on

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By *r n mrs swingCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

Oh no I hated watching Mr with a woman just playing so no he all mine

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Totally love this, we don't do jealousy either, too turned on for that haha ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the main reason we're swingers.

Mrs GNB loves being made to watch while i fuck other women. Part of the fun for her is me being on here in the first place. She is bisexual and loves playing with women too, which is what i love.

Sometimes i get the impression that people think couples want single women so the guy can watch or the guy wants it to happen... i wonder how common it is for the woman to want her man to fuck someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to do this, we have talked and teased about it alot and I put up a small piece in the fantasy section about it.

The thought of being forced to watch him pleasuring/getting pleasured by someone else gets me so hot! See if she can make him moan as loud as I can

I can understand the jealousy part of most women in this thread, it takes a very loyal and tusting relationship to enjoy this.

At the end of the day hes mine and I get to enjoy him all the time I would love to show him off and show other people what they are missing out on haha!

Lady Xx

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay


"I find it one of the horniest things we do! love hearing the other woman moan (I know EXACTLY what he's doing to her and how it feels, such a turn on!)

The absolute BEST thing is when he's busy with someone else and he looks at me "

this is how I feel too mmmmm

T xx

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By *urious_couple_2015Couple
over a year ago

North West

We're also here for this reason too!

We've played a little so far with a fmf and me watching Mr C play with a single lady, we're having trouble finding a localish lady to experiment further!

I love watching him please and be pleasured ... We're in discussion about him having a threesome with 2 ladies whilst I watch but as I say finding 1 lady is hard, 2 would be more difficult!

Mrs C

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By *orshamcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Surrey / Sussex Border

I absolutely loved watching Mr C in action in our latest threesome. Knowing how much fun both of them were having was a massive turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want to see S with another fem. Hypocritical I know but as he doesnt want to either it works for us

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By *ochaLattoCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

As a self confessed cuckquean I love nothing more then seeing Silk with another woman/women. We have played this scenario out a number of times and have now branched out to SIlk meeting alone and sending me pictures videos etc..

There doesn't seem to be a lot of us women around so I write a blog to try and remove the stigma and also to educate others on the uniqueness of a cuckquean relationship

MissD

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By *imkev76Couple
over a year ago

GOSPORT

It's a massive turn on for me! No jealousy from me, I know he will be pleasuring me the minute we get home lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male here. It seems woman can't do it But it's alright for them to do it. Should be equal shouldn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Male here. It seems woman can't do it But it's alright for them to do it. Should be equal shouldn't it?"

I dont think there is any should or shouldnt about it. As long as its consensual to all concerned and works for each couple its all good.

Him..

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By *ndm4444Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge

A regret that I hope to rectify

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Male here. It seems woman can't do it But it's alright for them to do it. Should be equal shouldn't it?

I dont think there is any should or shouldnt about it. As long as its consensual to all concerned and works for each couple its all good.

Him.."

Exactly. However a couple (or a single for that matter) chooses to play is what is right for them.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

An absolute turn on... And always makes sure I make an effort..... Sharing is caring x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to see him in action and when giving oral to another woman because I know how skilful he is and to hear ladies enjoying themselves is a turn on. I also like women making him come with a blow job as he likes it hard and fast and I can't manage to do it fast enough, so it's great for him.

But I completely understand and agree with the ladies who don't like the hand holding, kissing, intimacies afterwards. I don't like being excluded and after play, whether it's him or me, I like to cuddle up to him afterwards, I don't do intimate gestures like kissing afterwards or hand holding with other men. After play with them it's over.

I have had situations where women have been all over my OH afterwards and trying to exclude me, like sitting on his lap, arms hanging off his neck, in a way that seems to indicate they feel I'm the outsider. I don't allow that because we are the duo, the team and they are the outsider. That sounds mean I know but I have had situations where single women try and demand his absolute attention afterwards.

The best times are when you meet a couple and you really hit it off with the other woman, thankfully this has been the majority for me. when the dynamics are right it just flows and there are no issues.

Some women like to imagine it's all in the permanent partners head, that she's jealous and acting inappropriately when she's simply annoyed because the other female is taking the piss and being disrespectful.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire


"I love to see him in action and when giving oral to another woman because I know how skilful he is and to hear ladies enjoying themselves is a turn on. I also like women making him come with a blow job as he likes it hard and fast and I can't manage to do it fast enough, so it's great for him.

But I completely understand and agree with the ladies who don't like the hand holding, kissing, intimacies afterwards. I don't like being excluded and after play, whether it's him or me, I like to cuddle up to him afterwards, I don't do intimate gestures like kissing afterwards or hand holding with other men. After play with them it's over.

I have had situations where women have been all over my OH afterwards and trying to exclude me, like sitting on his lap, arms hanging off his neck, in a way that seems to indicate they feel I'm the outsider. I don't allow that because we are the duo, the team and they are the outsider. That sounds mean I know but I have had situations where single women try and demand his absolute attention afterwards.

The best times are when you meet a couple and you really hit it off with the other woman, thankfully this has been the majority for me. when the dynamics are right it just flows and there are no issues.

Some women like to imagine it's all in the permanent partners head, that she's jealous and acting inappropriately when she's simply annoyed because the other female is taking the piss and being disrespectful. "

Perfect response x

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've had 2 couples profiles on Fab with FB. Both were exactly the same where my FB DIDN'T want me to actually have intercourse with the other woman. It Didn't last. I just wanted to f##k there brains out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love to see him in action and when giving oral to another woman because I know how skilful he is and to hear ladies enjoying themselves is a turn on. I also like women making him come with a blow job as he likes it hard and fast and I can't manage to do it fast enough, so it's great for him.

But I completely understand and agree with the ladies who don't like the hand holding, kissing, intimacies afterwards. I don't like being excluded and after play, whether it's him or me, I like to cuddle up to him afterwards, I don't do intimate gestures like kissing afterwards or hand holding with other men. After play with them it's over.

I have had situations where women have been all over my OH afterwards and trying to exclude me, like sitting on his lap, arms hanging off his neck, in a way that seems to indicate they feel I'm the outsider. I don't allow that because we are the duo, the team and they are the outsider. That sounds mean I know but I have had situations where single women try and demand his absolute attention afterwards.

The best times are when you meet a couple and you really hit it off with the other woman, thankfully this has been the majority for me. when the dynamics are right it just flows and there are no issues.

Some women like to imagine it's all in the permanent partners head, that she's jealous and acting inappropriately when she's simply annoyed because the other female is taking the piss and being disrespectful. "

Disrespect is the one thing that gets to me and it can annoy me that people mistake being pissed off over disrespect as jealousy.

I totally get what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Some women like to imagine it's all in the permanent partners head, that she's jealous and acting inappropriately when she's simply annoyed because the other female is taking the piss and being disrespectful.

Disrespect is the one thing that gets to me and it can annoy me that people mistake being pissed off over disrespect as jealousy.

I totally get what you mean. "

I agree with you both. It can be really hard trying to justify your feelings, and that you're not a psycho! What Iconic has explained sums it up for me.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I have no problem in watching my partner with another woman (and I usually join in). For us swinging is a shared experience and, as we have taken many years to start our swinging, we have discussed our fantasies and boundaries and are totally comfortable with everything we do - if either of us should ever feel uncomfortable, jealous or apprehensive we would simply tell the other who would stop without question.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I love to see him in action and when giving oral to another woman because I know how skilful he is and to hear ladies enjoying themselves is a turn on. I also like women making him come with a blow job as he likes it hard and fast and I can't manage to do it fast enough, so it's great for him.

But I completely understand and agree with the ladies who don't like the hand holding, kissing, intimacies afterwards. I don't like being excluded and after play, whether it's him or me, I like to cuddle up to him afterwards, I don't do intimate gestures like kissing afterwards or hand holding with other men. After play with them it's over.

I have had situations where women have been all over my OH afterwards and trying to exclude me, like sitting on his lap, arms hanging off his neck, in a way that seems to indicate they feel I'm the outsider. I don't allow that because we are the duo, the team and they are the outsider. That sounds mean I know but I have had situations where single women try and demand his absolute attention afterwards.

The best times are when you meet a couple and you really hit it off with the other woman, thankfully this has been the majority for me. when the dynamics are right it just flows and there are no issues.

Some women like to imagine it's all in the permanent partners head, that she's jealous and acting inappropriately when she's simply annoyed because the other female is taking the piss and being disrespectful. "

I agree with all of that Feebs, perfectly worded as normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problem in watching my partner with another woman (and I usually join in). For us swinging is a shared experience and, as we have taken many years to start our swinging, we have discussed our fantasies and boundaries and are totally comfortable with everything we do - if either of us should ever feel uncomfortable, jealous or apprehensive we would simply tell the other who would stop without question."
. Couldn't have worded it any better and we only get asked this question from guys and they really don't get what it's about normally there married and cheating yet couldn't stand the thought of there partner doing the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 18 months of us experiencing MMF and me seeing other guys alone, I really felt I was in a place where I could handle hubby doing the same. Went to a party last weekend and he had sex with a woman for the first time with my blessing. Not only was I not ok with it afterwards but I've been hysterical, wanting to end our marriage and haunted by images when awake and even dreaming about it. We couldn't have been more careful in taking our time and communicating a lot but you jut don't know until it happens. Poor guy hasn't done anything wrong yet ended up with a psychotic wife. Feeling calmer now but hubby never wants to see anyone else again because it's not worth the potential effect on me but he's happy for me to see others as he can handle it. I feel like a total bitch but as much as I tried to, I couldn't handle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't realise women feel jealous seeing their partners fuck other women but they don't mind their partners watch them being fucked by other men . Strange stuff in this strange world of swinging "

I've had a few problems in the past with jealous female half's of couples, that's why I no longer meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After 18 months of us experiencing MMF and me seeing other guys alone, I really felt I was in a place where I could handle hubby doing the same. Went to a party last weekend and he had sex with a woman for the first time with my blessing. Not only was I not ok with it afterwards but I've been hysterical, wanting to end our marriage and haunted by images when awake and even dreaming about it. We couldn't have been more careful in taking our time and communicating a lot but you jut don't know until it happens. Poor guy hasn't done anything wrong yet ended up with a psychotic wife. Feeling calmer now but hubby never wants to see anyone else again because it's not worth the potential effect on me but he's happy for me to see others as he can handle it. I feel like a total bitch but as much as I tried to, I couldn't handle it."

Hmm interesting.. An unfortunate outcome to say the least.. I have pretty much said the same to MrsM, not that she has minded at all with me on occasion having another woman whilst she watched. But the dynamic is quite different and whereas I have been happy for her to see her FB alone, she would never be happy for me to see another woman on my own. Ultimately for me, it's about her pleasure, her liberation and her journey because if she is happy, I will be in a great place too. Complex eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After 18 months of us experiencing MMF and me seeing other guys alone, I really felt I was in a place where I could handle hubby doing the same. Went to a party last weekend and he had sex with a woman for the first time with my blessing. Not only was I not ok with it afterwards but I've been hysterical, wanting to end our marriage and haunted by images when awake and even dreaming about it. We couldn't have been more careful in taking our time and communicating a lot but you jut don't know until it happens. Poor guy hasn't done anything wrong yet ended up with a psychotic wife. Feeling calmer now but hubby never wants to see anyone else again because it's not worth the potential effect on me but he's happy for me to see others as he can handle it. I feel like a total bitch but as much as I tried to, I couldn't handle it.

Hmm interesting.. An unfortunate outcome to say the least.. I have pretty much said the same to MrsM, not that she has minded at all with me on occasion having another woman whilst she watched. But the dynamic is quite different and whereas I have been happy for her to see her FB alone, she would never be happy for me to see another woman on my own. Ultimately for me, it's about her pleasure, her liberation and her journey because if she is happy, I will be in a great place too. Complex eh?"

It really is isn't it?! I feel so selfish asking him to allow me to do what I please yet not allowing him the same freedom but he genuinely sees how happy it makes me so is worth it for him whereas doing it himself is fun but not important enough to him to risk hurting me. Don't think I can ever explain our situation without feeling like a total cow! X

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"After 18 months of us experiencing MMF and me seeing other guys alone, I really felt I was in a place where I could handle hubby doing the same. Went to a party last weekend and he had sex with a woman for the first time with my blessing. Not only was I not ok with it afterwards but I've been hysterical, wanting to end our marriage and haunted by images when awake and even dreaming about it. We couldn't have been more careful in taking our time and communicating a lot but you jut don't know until it happens. Poor guy hasn't done anything wrong yet ended up with a psychotic wife. Feeling calmer now but hubby never wants to see anyone else again because it's not worth the potential effect on me but he's happy for me to see others as he can handle it. I feel like a total bitch but as much as I tried to, I couldn't handle it."
I totally understand this yet my husband loves to watch me with another Man. I'm very nervous about us meeting a woman and for him to fuck her but also find it very horny thinking about it! I feel very hypocritical at the minute, like it's one rule for him and another for me, he understands but I feel like I'm making him miss out while I lie there and let another man fuck me! I'm thinking maybe it's because I'm a woman and we look at things more emotionally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love D.c to have some fun with another lady.

I have no worries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women.

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women."
I agree, I think woman tend look at things more emotionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women.

I agree, I think woman tend look at things more emotionally "

Men just se a fuck as a fuck where as women worry does he still love me, will he compair me to her, is her blow job better than mine, did he enjoy her more than me etc I've seen many female of couples state they won't meet women slimmer than them, younger than them etc I think a lot of women over think things instead of just seeing it as a fuck like men do

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women.

I agree, I think woman tend look at things more emotionally

Men just se a fuck as a fuck where as women worry does he still love me, will he compair me to her, is her blow job better than mine, did he enjoy her more than me etc I've seen many female of couples state they won't meet women slimmer than them, younger than them etc I think a lot of women over think things instead of just seeing it as a fuck like men do"
again I agree which is why I feel I'm being hypocritical, when we have a mmf I see it as sex and that's it but think I'd see it differently when he was fucking another woman, my thinking is to give it a try and see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I not keen on my hubbie playing with another lady on his own.

It was nice when we played as a couple.

Not in to sharing....unless I'm there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that is it.. women do tend to have a more emotional perspective on it whereas for the guys it's a physical thing..

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"I think that is it.. women do tend to have a more emotional perspective on it whereas for the guys it's a physical thing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women.

I agree, I think woman tend look at things more emotionally

Men just se a fuck as a fuck where as women worry does he still love me, will he compair me to her, is her blow job better than mine, did he enjoy her more than me etc I've seen many female of couples state they won't meet women slimmer than them, younger than them etc I think a lot of women over think things instead of just seeing it as a fuck like men do again I agree which is why I feel I'm being hypocritical, when we have a mmf I see it as sex and that's it but think I'd see it differently when he was fucking another woman, my thinking is to give it a try and see?"
Yes good idea and I recon you are right, giving it another go will get you more used to it I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is right. I think women would feel more jealous seeing their hubby fucking another woman.

The hubby on the other hand would enjoy seeing the wife getting fucked. I guess men have a different mentality than women.

I agree, I think woman tend look at things more emotionally

Men just se a fuck as a fuck where as women worry does he still love me, will he compair me to her, is her blow job better than mine, did he enjoy her more than me etc I've seen many female of couples state they won't meet women slimmer than them, younger than them etc I think a lot of women over think things instead of just seeing it as a fuck like men do"
That is right, we do see it as a fuck only. I recon it is as a woman have more emotions so they might worry more than they have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the only time I would get pissed of watching MrsM with another guy is if he was a City supporter! (Sorry Shag!)

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I think that is it.. women do tend to have a more emotional perspective on it whereas for the guys it's a physical thing..

"

Not for me, swing sex is purely physical, just a fuck. Whether it is me or hubby doing the fucking. I don't worry that he may enjoy her BJ technique more than mine, I am totally secure in the fact that he is mine and loves me.

(Not for 1 minute implying that those who don't share my outlook are not secure or loved)

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"I think that is it.. women do tend to have a more emotional perspective on it whereas for the guys it's a physical thing..

Not for me, swing sex is purely physical, just a fuck. Whether it is me or hubby doing the fucking. I don't worry that he may enjoy her BJ technique more than mine, I am totally secure in the fact that he is mine and loves me.

(Not for 1 minute implying that those who don't share my outlook are not secure or loved)"

Did you ever have these worries before the first time you saw him fucking another woman?

Just interested to see if my opinion will change if it happened?

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By *ochaLattoCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I think that is it.. women do tend to have a more emotional perspective on it whereas for the guys it's a physical thing..

Not for me, swing sex is purely physical, just a fuck. Whether it is me or hubby doing the fucking. I don't worry that he may enjoy her BJ technique more than mine, I am totally secure in the fact that he is mine and loves me.

(Not for 1 minute implying that those who don't share my outlook are not secure or loved)

Did you ever have these worries before the first time you saw him fucking another woman?

Just interested to see if my opinion will change if it happened?"

Sorry to butt in...

We built up slowly to him meeting other women. In the four years we have been swinging together it started of as girl on girl play. Then built to him receiving oral for a few meets then just soft play...so on and so forward. Silk now meets alone and I love hearing his stories receiving pictures and videos etc. Although I never really felt jealousy we didn't just jump straight into sex and every meet had a lot of discussion before and after. Now I would say I'm more of a voyeur ora female cuck (cuckquean) but it took us years to get to this point and we still have regular conversations about what we both want.

Umm yeah that's it.

MissD ( hope that makes sense)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the only time I would get pissed of watching MrsM with another guy is if he was a City supporter! (Sorry Shag!)

"
lol yes, that is a good one, common city

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I wouldn't like it, which is why we aren't into swapping partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH doesnt come from my BJ's but he has done with other women. Im more of a sensual licking kind of person so I dont do the hard head bobbing type of thing which makes my OH come. Other women do have a better technique than I. Im ok with that.

When playing with couples I always ensure that the other female is ok and I do this by looking at her, sometimes I ask if its ok to touch her husband. If you have that mutual respect that the meet will flow along nicely.

But each time could potentially be different, you just dont know and I dont think anyone should make apologies or hide their true feelings. Just because other women say they are ok with everything their partner does during swinging, doesnt mean that this is how we all should be. We cant help our feelings.

We went slowly with it, from just playing with each other but in a public room at a club, to soft swinging for a while to full swap.

The thing about swinging is there is no right way.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'd love to have a 3sum with my current lover.

We are both open to meeting with other people - he has his other lady friend staying this weekend. I had a meet but he cancelled, might see what else is on offer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad this topic as become apparent.

weve been swinging together over 8yrs now and have been together 23 yrs theres nothing like seeing each other getting pleasured isnt that whats swinging is abt.

we took a break for abt 3 months due to the problems of couples as there was always one that stopped or had issues,as a cpl ourselves who are full swap and no jelousy we love more than having a good laugh going with the flow but as the woman typin here i love to see the woman riding my man as a cant bloody see what it looks like and seeing what that other woman does turns me wild,but meeting cpls over the years we've found when it there husband or boyfriend see's there woman enjoying herself her man stops the play....

it only takes 1 person to stop and it stops everyone.Dont get me wrong weve had some great meets with cpls but just got to the point where the meets were getting worse and worse, and these ppl said they were full swap and even been with single men so on that note you dont think theres going to be a problem.

we no meet single ladies or single men as putting the 2 together it seems like a ticking time bomb with some cpls.

But like i say i love nothing better to see my man getting screwed and rode to the max as ive bloody done it for 23 yrs lol...

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That's interesting, have you ever met a couple where only the woman plays while her man watches? We have considered meeting couples for that kind of scenario, but wouldn't want to be involved in any sort of jealousy!

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

An interesting and timely post as this is the situation I've been grappling with for a couple of weeks.

We don't full swap and in all honesty I have no desire to watch my husband fuck another woman. Everything else I'm absolutely fine and encouraging about especially if I can play too! It's amazing to all play together. BUT....

We've had a couple of (soft) MMF experiences and I know the idea of taking that further really excites him. Yes, he wants to see me fucked by another man while he get's a BJ or whatever. Try DVP etc, etc...

I won't deny the idea excites me too but I can't reconcile myself to this pleasure whilst denying the same pleasure to my husband. I'm with those on here who think this is because of the emotional side that is attached to the act for a women and that it is different for a man.

I guess we'll carry on our journey of exploration and pushing boundaries and see where we go in the future.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Are you denying him pleasure, though? From your post, it sounds like his pleasure comes from being with you in an MMF situation. If that's what you enjoy too...carry on enjoying!

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Are you denying him pleasure, though? From your post, it sounds like his pleasure comes from being with you in an MMF situation. If that's what you enjoy too...carry on enjoying! "

That's what he says! We need to talk some more about it as at the moment he says he doesn't want to fuck another woman but is that because he knows how I feel?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well, you're better placed to answer that than anyone here. Communication, as always with successful fun, is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't want to meet cpls where the man watches as we feel you might as have a single woman,if we were to have a cpl we both like to participate in full swap x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, can see that. Thanks for the reply.

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

I find it so sexy watching Ken with another woman, watching her sucking him, then having sex, while I watch and play with myself if we are meeting a female alone,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely love it , sense of pride I'm quite a voyeur so its so hot for me :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you denying him pleasure, though? From your post, it sounds like his pleasure comes from being with you in an MMF situation. If that's what you enjoy too...carry on enjoying!

That's what he says! We need to talk some more about it as at the moment he says he doesn't want to fuck another woman but is that because he knows how I feel?"

Id say probably yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love it ! When I hear the lady moan I think to myself " I know how that feels " "

Love it too.

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By *lack Shoe Red SoulCouple
over a year ago

North Hampshire


"I dont want to see S with another fem. Hypocritical I know but as he doesnt want to either it works for us "

This is sort of us too.... anything else goes but unless I am completely occupied I don't like to watch him fuck another woman, he can go off and do it on his own, if he wants to, that I don't mind. He hasn't as yet as he states he doesn't want too.

We got into this because HE likes to share me, not because we want to share 'us' if that makes sense? That said it's a journey we are on together and who knows our perspective and ideas may change...

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

I Love watching my other half with another woman! I totally get off on it! He is magnificent to watch! Love the fact that I know what she is getting. If I am not busy being pleasured myself I will join in too! There have been some interesting comments on here especially from the women who can't handle it! I think that is because a lot of women find it hard to seperate emotions and sex! I started off in the swinging world as a single lady and learnt very quickly to seperate the two!!! I am now in a very supportive and loving relationship and deem myself very lucky that we both feel comfortable and secure enough to be able to watch each other and enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my biggest turn on's..watching him pleasure another woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Love watching my other half with another woman! I totally get off on it! He is magnificent to watch! Love the fact that I know what she is getting. If I am not busy being pleasured myself I will join in too! There have been some interesting comments on here especially from the women who can't handle it! I think that is because a lot of women find it hard to seperate emotions and sex! I started off in the swinging world as a single lady and learnt very quickly to seperate the two!!! I am now in a very supportive and loving relationship and deem myself very lucky that we both feel comfortable and secure enough to be able to watch each other and enjoy it "

I absolutely agree about emotions and sex, even now I have to have some emotional connection with a meet before having sex. I enjoy the whole package, not just the sex x

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By *lue and RedCouple
over a year ago

Ulverston

I love seeing him with other women. Even if I'm not joining in but only watching I love it because I'm still a part of the process and I know as son as he finishes he comes straight back to me. But if he's fucking someone else and I'm not there it hurts and I can't figure out why. If anyone can explain that to me I'd appreciate it.

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

We love it either way.... It's all about taking part together. Remember your not loosing your partner, you are sharing or swapping them. But you still go home together.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I love seeing him with other women. Even if I'm not joining in but only watching I love it because I'm still a part of the process and I know as son as he finishes he comes straight back to me. But if he's fucking someone else and I'm not there it hurts and I can't figure out why. If anyone can explain that to me I'd appreciate it."

Because you aren't sharing the experience as a couple?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I was worried how I would feel seeing Cal with another woman, though he was always comfortable with the idea of watching me with another.

It turns out that we both get hugely turned on by watching each other giving and receiving pleasure from others.

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