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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Because they are sad individuals who've never touched a woman ever? | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Get this all the time ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Oooh, think you've got it ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I had, 'thats ok, you are a fat slag anyway' - laughed it off | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() It's actually your gain. | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() It's not just men , women and couples say it too , and it makes no difference who says it - it's never our loss ! | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() well a guy who is confident may say this when you brush him to one side in favour of another but to be fair this is a common thing because as a woman you have a hundred guys waiting In the wings so one slip up and you're gone ,a horrible feeling one that I've had a few times myself not that I've ever said your loss ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Agreed! | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() How can it be a loss if you never had it!! ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() I dont get it that often but wen I do I reply with...'actually I had lucky escape' then block ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Why care? | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() Really? 99.9% of the time I get polite responses after saying no. | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here." Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() Usually it's most of the above I.e your not my type etc etc... | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() So do I | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me." ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Are you not maybe reading too much into it? Isn't really just one if those 'throw-away' sayings that people say when things don't work out quite the way they had hoped they might? I often say to myself 'oh well, their loss' and then move on when something I thought or hoped would workout for me doesn't, and not just in the fab world but in the real and business world to. I know it may not be actually true but it makes me feel better so why not. " I wasn't offended, just found it funny. ![]() | |||
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"By the way, not all men say it lol, it is fun how we get generalized ![]() You've certainly never been seen to repeat yourself. ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() I don't ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() This made me laff ![]() | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. ![]() ![]() ![]() If course he could have just been expressing his opinion, which would of course mean that he was actually be genuine, which I assume you are being to. I guess it's up to the ladies to decide which genuine guy they prefer based on what they actually say and do when they're being genuinely themselves. | |||
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"By the way, not all men say it lol, it is fun how we get generalized ![]() ![]() Ty and that is right as well ![]() | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm not sure what point you're making, but find the claims to be "genuine" quite meaningless, not to mention impossible to prove when describing oneself. | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() We had one recently who followed up the "its your loss" comment with "Pity cos I would have given you the best fuck of your life" Oh my goodness I was laughing so much I nearly missed the block button. | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. ![]() ![]() ![]() I think that's my point. Everyone is genuine if they say they are genuine. Problem is some people maybe genuinely nice people whilst others and genuinely not. It means nothing. | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Some single women write exactly the same thing. And there are also manginas who will write in the forums, "Oh hunnikins don't worry it's his loss". | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() Just read your profile but I'm still not clear about whether your looking for single guys or not. ![]() ![]() | |||
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" We had one recently who followed up the "its your loss" comment with "Pity cos I would have given you the best fuck of your life" Oh my goodness I was laughing so much I nearly missed the block button." I've had many women say they will give me the "fuck of my life" they were usually the ones who didn't.... | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() What's a "mangina"??? ![]() | |||
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" We had one recently who followed up the "its your loss" comment with "Pity cos I would have given you the best fuck of your life" Oh my goodness I was laughing so much I nearly missed the block button. I've had many women say they will give me the "fuck of my life" they were usually the ones who didn't...." I know what you mean. It is often simply empty boasting by people hoping to cover up their own insecurity. | |||
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"Well, I have been on this site for months and only had one incredible encounter. Its how you deal with rejection. If there is no attraction, there really isnt much you can do. A lot of single men are arrogant and spoil it for the decent men on here. Please explain how arrogant men spoil it for the decent man. I've never understood how their attitude can possibly affect you or me. ![]() ![]() ![]() I think we agree then. Claiming to be genuine, like claiming to be polite, gallant, decent, funny, or "nice" (Yucchhh!) is no proof that you are | |||
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" We had one recently who followed up the "its your loss" comment with "Pity cos I would have given you the best fuck of your life" Oh my goodness I was laughing so much I nearly missed the block button. I've had many women say they will give me the "fuck of my life" they were usually the ones who didn't.... I know what you mean. It is often simply empty boasting by people hoping to cover up their own insecurity. " ...and it is usually guys who make this claim...Perhaps they've all been guys pretending to be women...that happens a lot here.. | |||
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"rejections a part pf life, it takes two, or three or four to tango lol! Should be taken with a pinch of salt and moved on ![]() You would think. My rejection of someone resulting me receiving a racial abusive message which prompted me to contact the police. | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() I get that said to me a lot if i have said no thanks to someone. Always gives me a laugh ![]() | |||
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"Tinfoil tiara ![]() ![]() Well if you can get shitey knights in tinfoil or whatever the popular saying is then it's only fair that the female equivalent would be a tinfoil tiara princess! ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I have had a couple of people recently say thanks nice chatting but don't want to play. I have said that's fine thanks for being honest and left it at that " Well you may well have but I think the point of the thread is that so many react childishly to rejection.. | |||
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"Women do this too only it's much more subtle,in my experience anyway. Message you seemingly without any clear intent/motive....you get bored of the inane ping-pong messages that are going nowhere so tell them....sorry,you're not my type.All the best n take care ![]() ![]() ![]() They don't even get to empty their sacks. But they're happy to be patted on the head for being a good lapdog. | |||
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"Women do this too only it's much more subtle,in my experience anyway. Message you seemingly without any clear intent/motive....you get bored of the inane ping-pong messages that are going nowhere so tell them....sorry,you're not my type.All the best n take care ![]() ![]() ![]() Pat, pat ![]() | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() We get them too but it's usually a ploy to engage in further conversation. | |||
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"Little rant... Why do single men say this when you turn them down? I'm pretty sure that it's not my loss that I don't want to meet someone that I'm not interested in... ![]() ![]() It's not just single men though. Seen the same nonsense from couples and women. Ego is not gender/relationship status specific. | |||
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"I still think you're all over thinking it. It means nothing. Replying to a rejection is never going to be easy for anyone. Even not replying to a rejection can be problematic, especially if you've been chatting and messaging for sometime before. I had a case were I had been chatting and messaging to a girl for a while, eventually I moved to the subject of a possible meet but she replied, although she liked me I was not her type. I wasn't sure how to respond to that so I didn't. Next day I got another message from her along the lines of 'Thanks, it seems you were only chatting and being nice to me when you thought you might be getting what you wanted. Now you know you're not you're ignoring me. Don't bother trying to contact me again I've blocked you'. The actual language used was a little man colourful than that. ![]() ![]() The little princess believed that you should be grateful to receive a few messages from her. | |||
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"I still think you're all over thinking it. It means nothing. Replying to a rejection is never going to be easy for anyone. Even not replying to a rejection can be problematic, especially if you've been chatting and messaging for sometime before. I had a case were I had been chatting and messaging to a girl for a while, eventually I moved to the subject of a possible meet but she replied, although she liked me I was not her type. I wasn't sure how to respond to that so I didn't. Next day I got another message from her along the lines of 'Thanks, it seems you were only chatting and being nice to me when you thought you might be getting what you wanted. Now you know you're not you're ignoring me. Don't bother trying to contact me again I've blocked you'. The actual language used was a little man colourful than that. ![]() ![]() No, I don't think it was that. I think she just genuinely took my lack of response as meaning I was pissed of with her or something and over reacted. I wasn't and, if she hadn't blocked me I would have still chatted with her from time to time. The point I was actually trying to make is that people sometimes read too much into replies (or in this case no reply) and really they shouldn't. | |||
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"After I sent a polite no, I had a response saying: " yeah you're not for me either" .... why message me then ![]() .....And this is why I don't send 'no thankyou' messages! ![]() | |||
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"After I sent a polite no, I had a response saying: " yeah you're not for me either" .... why message me then ![]() ![]() Same here I just got fed up with rude come backs to a simple no thanks It gets very tedious after a while I haven't had a single nasty message since I stopped sending out no thanks messages | |||
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"I actually got a nice response once after saying no, I nearly fell off my chair with shock ![]() I always do this - I don't presume that anyone I message is going to 'drool' over me (Ha! Chance would be a fine thing..), and I don't see any reason to be abusive if they turn me down.. | |||
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"After I sent a polite no, I had a response saying: " yeah you're not for me either" .... why message me then ![]() ![]() I've always said that sending 'Thanks but no thanks' messages is a bad idea. There can be exceptions if you've been generally chatting with someone but on the whole I think it's probably best to delete and ignore. Those guys who are going to complain are going to complain anyhow. Currently they complain about getting no replies but I'm sure they would soon start complaining about there inboxes being filled with 'thanks but no thanks' messages. I certainly would not want my inbox filled with them. | |||
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"I don't get the 'shame, we could have had so much fun together' reply. How does someone know that from a faceless profile ???" ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If the message is deleted, there's your reply. They aren't interested. The "no thanks" reply is more of an insult. " How's that? | |||
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"Bitterness and lack of self confidence to just accept polite rejection. It makes them feel better but makes no sense, if someone isn't interested then they've lost nothing !" ![]() | |||
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"If the message is deleted, there's your reply. They aren't interested. The "no thanks" reply is more of an insult. " I just deleted the whole of my inbox under this theory ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If the message is deleted, there's your reply. They aren't interested. The "no thanks" reply is more of an insult. How's that?" It's really simple. If they're interested in you, they will reply. If they're not, they won't. | |||
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"If the message is deleted, there's your reply. They aren't interested. The "no thanks" reply is more of an insult. " Not according to the nice messages I get saying thanks for replying ![]() | |||
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" Same here I just got fed up with rude come backs to a simple no thanks It gets very tedious after a while I haven't had a single nasty message since I stopped sending out no thanks messages " I just had this now, He was saying the site had gone to my head and I was ignorant after I told him I wasn't after phone sex (says this on my profile too). He replied ok sorry and I left it, 5 mins later then I got another message saying I wasn't all that and up myself. So you're basically damned if you do and damned if you don't! | |||
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