FabSwingers.com forum: Getting bored of trying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im getting very bored of forever trying on this site with no sign of any luck i mean i know im not a brad pitt everyone should want me guy but i would like to think im average and im definitely normal compared to alot of guys on here. Im always polite send face pics dont do one liners. But i cant see Where i am going worng??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try posting some more pics. Maybe some seductive ones.

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By *rvoyuerMan
over a year ago

Luton

Just got to keep plugging away.

Once you get one chat and meet under your belt you'll be fine!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Milton Keynes is a swinging desert. Go further afield and keep at it.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Its hard for most people on here! Us included.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Milton Keynes is a swinging desert. Go further afield and keep at it. "

We've met some sexy people from MK, better than Cambridge and surrounding areas!

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By *rvoyuerMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Its hard for most people on here! Us included."

Hmmmm is be very surprised if you two were having difficulty??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have plenty of pics just preffer to send them privately, i have been on and of here for a few years now and still only had a hand full of meets really.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Its hard for most people on here! Us included.

Hmmmm is be very surprised if you two were having difficulty??

We do! So many time wasters and fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone is everyone's cup of tea. Noone can tell you where you are going wrong without knowing what you are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club, that sounds like me!!!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

For men generally it is harder... its like job application forms... lol

You send out 100.. 5 probabably reply back thanks but no thanks and 1 you may get lucky.

Dont worry you are not alone on this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Noone is everyone's cup of tea. Noone can tell you where you are going wrong without knowing what you are doing."

I know but my approach varies as i send a message based on there description and our common interests so i have talked to alot of people in different ways and nothing has really worked out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for yous comments everyone and guys its nice to know im not alone in thinking this. Id only talking about it would get people interested lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps rather than send endless messages that are not working. Attend a club/social/party where people can get to know you in person that way the real you can come across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is hard work but you do meet some great people and still friends with most of them, its worth it long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps rather than send endless messages that are not working. Attend a club/social/party where people can get to know you in person that way the real you can come across. "

I have thought about that before but i have never attended a club l and wouldnt feel comfortable attending on my own and not knowing anyone. I wouldnt mind attending one if i had a woman acompany me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't easy that's for sure, iv'e tried other sites with a mixed degree of success but as has been mentioned, you send out 100 messages and get one positive reply unless you are some kind of male model, as a guy i find it best to temper your expectations with regard to how many women are going to fling themselves at you. Just keep at it, get involved on the forums and don't change who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps rather than send endless messages that are not working. Attend a club/social/party where people can get to know you in person that way the real you can come across.

I have thought about that before but i have never attended a club l and wouldnt feel comfortable attending on my own and not knowing anyone. I wouldnt mind attending one if i had a woman acompany me. "

Man up and go alone... Women rarely attend with guys for their first time...

Your young. That will go against you with many people. I'd not even look as no photos and profile isn't selling you.

A club or social is your best bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so hard for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard for me

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it's so hard for men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard for me

it's so hard for men

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it's so hard for menstrual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard for me

it's so hard for men

it's so hard for menstrual

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it's so hard for menstrual women to keep dates

sorry keyboard kept sticking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this site as two sided. You look for people and hope that when you message they are interested in what you're offering.

On the other side, people can look for you, see what you're about, and see if they are interested. With no public pictures and a (I'm sorry) half assed description, you are completely cutting yourself off from half of the functionality of fab.

And as someone already noted, this site can be difficult for everyone, us included. Most of our meets are with people we met at clubs. You don't need a woman to go with you if it's something you are actually interested in. Find one that is friendly toward single guys, do some research, and get yourself out there.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Courtney

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By *ig Ted 66Man
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Perhaps rather than send endless messages that are not working. Attend a club/social/party where people can get to know you in person that way the real you can come across.

The try a social as CrazySexyCool suggests...you don't need an accomplice for that surely ?

The old adage of "if you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting "

Try something different and see what happens. Good luck

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I have plenty of pics just preffer to send them privately, i have been on and of here for a few years now and still only had a hand full of meets really. "

Do more of what you did when you managed to get the meets you've had....

But also take on board suggestions being made here about photos and profile. These are so important to get right given that you are competing with hundreds of eager guys..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this site as two sided. You look for people and hope that when you message they are interested in what you're offering.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Courtney"
hey chip love New avatar can i come to a club and break your record for the amount of times you get asked to play in a public room x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need patience."

and Haribos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need patience.

and Haribos"

Can i have the cola bottles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this site as two sided. You look for people and hope that when you message they are interested in what you're offering.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Courtneyhey chip love New avatar can i come to a club and break your record for the amount of times you get asked to play in a public room x

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-Chip

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

quit trying then and just lay back and relax instead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try something different and see what happens. Good luck"

Try stretching your cock (string tied to your cock with two bricks tied to the other end then throw bricks of bridge).

Leave until cock is 9 - 10 inches long...times will vary depending on starting size and outside temp.

From experience a starting size of 5 inches with an average outside temp of 19oC will take appox 48hrs.

Next hit stretched cock with a hammer (until it is completely black)...

Finally post photo of new cock on FAB.

Problem solved

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Try something different and see what happens. Good luck

Try stretching your cock (string tied to your cock with two bricks tied to the other end then throw bricks of bridge).

Leave until cock is 9 - 10 inches long...times will vary depending on starting size and outside temp.

From experience a starting size of 5 inches with an average outside temp of 19oC will take appox 48hrs.

Next hit stretched cock with a hammer (until it is completely black)...

Finally post photo of new cock on FAB.

Problem solved

Shhh.

revealing my secret

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"I see this site as two sided. You look for people and hope that when you message they are interested in what you're offering.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Courtney"

Brilliantly put, a LOT of people could do with reading this advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you into a secret....

Stop "trying"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps rather than send endless messages that are not working. Attend a club/social/party where people can get to know you in person that way the real you can come across.

In MK we are somewhat lucky with some decent clubs within an hours drive. It's not working for you and it's not coming to you. So time for you to try something different. Bite the bullet and go on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you join a club? The problem with this site is everyone's talking to little avatars and making judgements based on self-written profiles.

Personally I find it much more enjoyable approaching at clubs and feeling (not always) the rapport ... Eye contact and a smile.

I'm useless at self promotion on here, it's just not me ... But I stay for the crack on the forums.

It's definately worth thinking about.

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By *eifer2010Man
over a year ago

Poole

Depends what you are after, mk is a desert and Northants. If you are curious go to Liberty, if you just want nsa fuck go to private club Birmingham to a greedy girl or gangbang event and meet people who are just down to fuck

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS
over a year ago

away

This site is very unpredictable, all depends who is on line.

There are a lot of fakes, time wasters, jokers, however after a while you can spot them by the lack or no verifications, thin profiles and no photos.

I am surprised a young couple local to me can not find anyone.

I know males and more mature still very little chance on here.

Always optimistic and you never know who may come along and surpise you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on a long time and willing to meet , I have been close a few times, I think were I live on a small island makes it difficult as people worry that others like family or friends might find out what they get up to , I have wrote stories for fun that people have really enjoyed which is nice, I'm a down to earth type of guy , would never hurt anyones feelings I try to be nice to everyone , I just keep plugging away and see what happens , I am quite fit and healthy , I don't mind to much if it doesn't happen as it just a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop trying...

Women might see you as less needy and approach you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does definitely normal compared to a lot of guys on here mean? If somebody puts something like that in a msg we just delete it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I notice about nearly every guy who posts about how "hard" it is here is that their profiles are so generic you could shuffle them up and there would be any difference between the new and old one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One thing I notice about nearly every guy who posts about how "hard" it is here is that their profiles are so generic you could shuffle them up and there would be any difference between the new and old one."

This.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Im getting very bored of forever trying on this site with no sign of any luck i mean i know im not a brad pitt everyone should want me guy but i would like to think im average and im definitely normal compared to alot of guys on here. Im always polite send face pics dont do one liners. But i cant see Where i am going worng?? "
. You probably need to add detail to your profile . We currently know that you are 26 and looking for sex ..What other interests so you have that might get members attention and persuade them to meet you?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard especially when you have standards and looking for chemistry.

Good luck, keep plugging away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this site as two sided. You look for people and hope that when you message they are interested in what you're offering.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Courtneyhey chip love New avatar can i come to a club and break your record for the amount of times you get asked to play in a public room x

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-Chip"
I don't chip but I love to break records and if you pay for me to get in it won't be like a traditional initiation to a club because I don't want to do anything but break a record xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive not been on here for long but havw recently changed my entire approach on fab. I used to spend entire evenings, hours every night searching, sending messages but to no avail. It seemed the more time I spent and the harder I tried the more frustrated I used to get.

If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

I still check fab every day to see what's happening on the forums, add my 2 pence worth and call it a night.

I enjoy it more as a social thing now rather than hoping, anticipating and expecting something to come my way. Some guys and couples are better at it than others. It really is that simple.

If it really isn't for you, walk away and save yourself the hassle and stress or change your approach

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I have been on a long time and willing to meet , I have been close a few times, I think were I live on a small island makes it difficult as people worry that others like family or friends might find out what they get up to "

Never has Portsmouth seemed so exotic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-ChipI don't chip but I love to break records and if you pay for me to get in it won't be like a traditional initiation to a club because I don't want to do anything but break a record xx

But if you break the record (which is 8, by the way) and then I say yes...then what will you do?

-Chip

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I have plenty of pics just preffer to send them privately, i have been on and of here for a few years now and still only had a hand full of meets really. "

Try putting a couple of pics in public........

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By *utleyno1Man
over a year ago

stroud

I know how you feel my friend, ive tried seductive pics face pics I cant get any interest either,i don't think its us going wrong I think the ladies want more than we can offer, my time runs out in 6 days I don't think I will renew my membership,no point as you can look for free,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a pretty understood thing that generally average looking guys typically have a hard time on dating sites... mainly due to the utter abundance of choice. Maybe try tinder, less time swiping left and right and those you connect with your chance of getting a return message are much higher.... in my experience anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-ChipI don't chip but I love to break records and if you pay for me to get in it won't be like a traditional initiation to a club because I don't want to do anything but break a record xx

But if you break the record (which is 8, by the way) and then I say yes...then what will you do?

-Chip"
damn hadn't thought of that chip but their is a saying " temptation is the reason for necessity"

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Ive not been on here for long but havw recently changed my entire approach on fab. I used to spend entire evenings, hours every night searching, sending messages but to no avail. It seemed the more time I spent and the harder I tried the more frustrated I used to get.

If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

I still check fab every day to see what's happening on the forums, add my 2 pence worth and call it a night.

I enjoy it more as a social thing now rather than hoping, anticipating and expecting something to come my way. Some guys and couples are better at it than others. It really is that simple.

If it really isn't for you, walk away and save yourself the hassle and stress or change your approach

I think this is a wise approach.

Managing your expectations is as important as managing your profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-ChipI don't chip but I love to break records and if you pay for me to get in it won't be like a traditional initiation to a club because I don't want to do anything but break a record xx

But if you break the record (which is 8, by the way) and then I say yes...then what will you do?

-Chip damn hadn't thought of that chip but their is a saying " temptation is the reason for necessity"

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and another " a chip on the bed is worth two in your bush "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile does not create interest or confidence for us. No pictures, very little text and one veri that you will not show.

The caution about being open could suggest you are married although you can accommodate on occasions. And sadly, the longer you are on here without meets the more you look like you do not meet. We would suggest a total refresh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you didn't do clubs?

-ChipI don't chip but I love to break records and if you pay for me to get in it won't be like a traditional initiation to a club because I don't want to do anything but break a record xx

But if you break the record (which is 8, by the way) and then I say yes...then what will you do?

-Chip damn hadn't thought of that chip but their is a saying " temptation is the reason for necessity"

and another " a chip on the bed is worth two in your bush "

Haha!

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Well if you keep on doing the same old things........

Then you must expect to keep getting the same old results!

Put some bloody effort in!

get some proper pictures taken...

and no face pic = no meets, simple!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

A free fuck for sitting at home and writing a few messages and a profile is asking a hell of a lot, particularly when there are thousands of other single guys offering the same or more. The route into swinging is to make the effort of joining a club, meeting people face to face, building a circle of swinging friends and using that as a launch pad for further meets. Put some real effort in and you will have a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know how you feel my friend, ive tried seductive pics face pics I cant get any interest either,i don't think its us going wrong I think the ladies want more than we can offer, my time runs out in 6 days I don't think I will renew my membership,no point as you can look for free, "

Really 4 crap cock pics and a profile is as much as you can manage?

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

I still check fab every day to see what's happening on the forums, add my 2 pence worth and call it a night.

I enjoy it more as a social thing now rather than hoping, anticipating and expecting something to come my way. Some guys and couples are better at it than others. It really is that simple.

If it really isn't for you, walk away and save yourself the hassle and stress or change your approach

Am the same. And no its not feel sorry for me.. its reality and glam am not alone.. i remmeber those days well lol

Good luck

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