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By *uncpl83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Hi everyone, which do you prefer?meeting for a social and then arranging another time to play or meet and then play straight away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.

If we had time off together and looking to meet, we pretty much only go to clubs, combines the social aspect and the chance to take things further in the same place.

We probably would decline 90 % of social meets.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I always have a social meet first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

social- but if I find them attractive and there's time and somewhere to go, then I will happily play on the same day Happened once so far, rest have been through meeting in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a one to one meet, social first but at a club I combine it into a social and play meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first then if everyone is okay to take it further then ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have enough time for socials, if I'm going to the pub, I'm going with my wife!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It depends on the situation.

Social first, but some people you just can't help but want to, you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, always

I go into them with no expectations, no air of desperation, if there's no spark, there's no let down and I've had a nice night out

If there is, then happy days!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Social first, always

I go into them with no expectations, no air of desperation, if there's no spark, there's no let down and I've had a nice night out

If there is, then happy days!"

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By *uncpl83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I always insisted on a social before but now I think I'd rather just meet and if we all get on then take it further save the messing about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on the situation.

Social first, but some people you just can't help but want to, you know "

why have you got mistermac's pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nearly always a social but I have arranged to play first meet and its turned out great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always phone chat, then social, then meet. Was too naive before. Being a single swinger, i always put safety first now. X

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Social & fun or just fun with sociable breaks always enjoyed.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

I social first, but it has occasionally ended up back to mine for sex....

I think its different for 'single' meets - I wouldn't expect any lone woman to go off with some random from the internet without having met him in public first.

Also I don't "play", I fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, which do you prefer?meeting for a social and then arranging another time to play or meet and then play straight away?"

the clue is in the name haha x

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Don't have a lot of opportunity for meets with hubby's shifts so when I/we organise a meet its straight to the fun. A social is just a wasted meet for us.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

social or 2 first for me, before a later play-date

A time might possibly come when everything clicks and the first social just ends up as a play-date.. if it happens it happens. But I haven't done that teenage kind of stuff for over 20 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends.

If we had time off together and looking to meet, we pretty much only go to clubs, combines the social aspect and the chance to take things further in the same place.

We probably would decline 90 % of social meets. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't have a lot of opportunity for meets with hubby's shifts so when I/we organise a meet its straight to the fun. A social is just a wasted meet for us. "

Bloody kids....

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"A social with the hope of play"

Meet in a pub near yours or theirs, if it all goes well, then great, if not, no one knows where the other lives, and you dont have to try and chuck them out your house if they turn out to be weird

That's what we are most comfortable with, or club meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first. I wouldn't go to a meet if the other person expected me to play straight away.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Always a social first

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"Social first, always

I go into them with no expectations, no air of desperation, if there's no spark, there's no let down and I've had a nice day out

If there is, then happy days!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely happy to meet socially first. Gives both parties the opportunity to get to know each other and then decide if they want to play. It really wouldn't bother me if someone decided that they didn't want to take things further. Life's too short....

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

I joined Fab because I enjoy having someone to drink coffee with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet always..not ever going to meet random people for sex ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have got to know them on here quite well, I would risk playing right away, if I hadn't got to know them, then a social would be on the cards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are local, a social meet first. But mostly a social meet with the option to go on and play after.

Sometimes that first meet buzz is just too much to pass on!

Eddie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always a social. if on a rare occassion you both feel really comfortable to take it further then amazing. but never go expecting raw hot sex. got to have some chemistry first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont do social as we only really play in groups - a bit odd if we turn up at a bar with 8 or 9 guys fighting for attention!

For us its straight to playing in a club.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Either is fine by me.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me it depends sometimes I will meet in a club and play, sometimes meet in club not play that night but arrange in the future, sometimes social first then play later, sometimes play on first meet social

What I will say different people happens differently and. A lot depends on where my location is and can I play

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

social first but as others have said, if we get on and there is a conducive place to play, we will proceed same day. Last time we met a guy off here for a coffee at a hotel, only took 20 minutes to decide we'd all like to check the hotel room out

But nice to have space to say no if we don't click (which hasn't happened yet actually)

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We tend to play on the same day. We talk on the phone and on fab so we know the person pretty well before we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first, always

I go into them with no expectations, no air of desperation, if there's no spark, there's no let down and I've had a nice night out

If there is, then happy days!"

Pretty much exactly this for me too

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We always meet for a drink and a chat first but do play first meet

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Meet for a drink, if we're all feeling it, then we better bloody move somewhere private quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social then another time for play, don't like feeling pressure in case they are different in person. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always arrange a social first to see if attraction. If no attraction we make excuse & say we'll be in touch (less embarrassing). If we like & have time to play then away we go.

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By *thicalslutx69Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

Always at least one social meet first for us. We can't guarantee we will like who we meet (or them you) having never met them before. We like to talk to each other after a meet to make sure we are happy to meet them again and take things further as if either one of us has any doubt then we won't.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We only play in clubs so I guess there is always a social element, but we go to clubs for no strings sex. We have our "real life" friends for socialising, swinging is to fulfil our fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always request a social meet first it's the only way for us. It helps you to get an idea of the person you're meeting and it gives them the opportunity to check you out too. That way if there's no spark then you can all part amicably and there's no harm done. We have met and C was told on more than one occasion, and in different ways that she was not for the other party, and we've also had to let other people down gently because, well, they weren't for C. Imagine no social and finding that out after you've booked a hotel and got to the room!!

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer straight to business but happy to do social if the lady wishes x

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By *BGBMan
over a year ago

Ascot


"Social first, always

I go into them with no expectations, no air of desperation, if there's no spark, there's no let down and I've had a nice night out

If there is, then happy days!"

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