FabSwingers.com forum: How do you look like a swinger?

By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well we're off on hols soon, it's a big lively resort in Turkey we've been a couple times before. This is the first holiday we've taken since starting swinging and we wouldn't mind a little fun if it came our way lol

We've tried putting posts in the holidays/worldwide sections on the sites we use but no joy apart from someone in a resort an hour away, but it's reckoned something like 1 in 75 couples are swingers so there must be a plenty around lol thing is how do you spot them... or let them spot you? In other words how do you 'look like a swinger'?

OK so we got some decent poolside reading lined up to leave casually lying around on the sun loungers, 'Swingers 1 & Swingers 2' for starters.... Ju dresses raunchy and goes 'sans underwear' for two weeks (but then she's always done that lol) and if there is a naturist area you'll find us there

But short of getting a tee-shirt that says 'I swing... wanna play?' how do you look/act like a swinging couple? lol

xxxx

Ju & Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the books are going to be the best give away, when we were on holiday the other week, we played guess the swinger by the pool lol

I think we seemed to think the people who looked most confident when half naked and couples who were quite touchy feely with each other that would have been the most likelys, although saying that we never would have asked them lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You hang some used panties on the hotel door.. and carry some pampas grass around, everyone knows that silly!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

But short of getting a tee-shirt that says 'I swing... wanna play?' how do you look/act like a swinging couple? lol

Funny you should say that - I found a T-shirt in TK Max the other day that said "I Do Couples"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sit on a swing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What colour and size would you like the t shirts in

sorry couldnt resist.

There are some chameleon emblems pin brooch type things we saw on the web (maybe someone can addd a little more info on them?)

We had pin badges years ago off a site, only thing they did was get vanillas asking why are you two wearing them-errr ehmm

have a nice holiday

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

pampas grass pmsl

we always sunbath, splash about, wander around the pool/beach topless (both of us lol) but then that is pretty common place

xxxx

j&r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey theres been badges, pins.. coloured bangles and all sorts over the years..

Nothing consistent though... sadly!

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Oh ju got the chams earrings (the special coloured ones for a 'bi girl')

Some nice and fun suggeastions - keep 'em coming

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

we'r of 2 turkey in 5 days lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all seriousness we do think some swingers have a certain aura about them.

Its a bit like gay people having gaydar.

How many times have you seen a couple in a bar or whatever who you happen to hold eye contact with for a little longer than usual?

They also give you what can only be described as a 'knowing smile',whichyou no doubt subconsciously return.

It's happened to us and also to swinging friends on many occasions,so there must be something in it.

Lets hope theres a few in Turkey for you.Just make sure your 'swingdar' is working.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What colour and size would you like the t shirts in

sorry couldnt resist.

There are some chameleon emblems pin brooch type things we saw on the web (maybe someone can addd a little more info on them?)

We had pin badges years ago off a site, only thing they did was get vanillas asking why are you two wearing them-errr ehmm

have a nice holiday"

You should have told them.

Afterall,vanillas are only swingers that haven't swung YET!

XXXX

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

poolside books.... check

earrings.......... check

swingdar.......... check

honestly though we do know what you mean. We sometimes spot a couple and both of us say 'they must be swingers'. Not quite sure what it is, aua sounds about right, o the permanent grin lol we often wondered if we have the 'aura'

corrupting vanillas.... now that is one fantasy still to try, won't say we haven't thought about it... quite a bit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"poolside books.... check

earrings.......... check

swingdar.......... check

corrupting vanillas.... now that is one fantasy still to try, won't say we haven't thought about it... quite a bit lol

Think of it this way,two attractive couples,warm evening,nice bar,a few drinks,saucy chat and you need never meet again.Nudge,nudge,wink,wink.

XXXX

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over a year ago

Do you ever watch Benidorm? theres a couple of swingers on there and they don't care who knows it

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Think of it this way,two attractive couples,warm evening,nice bar,a few drinks,saucy chat and you need never meet again.Nudge,nudge,wink,wink.

XXXX"

mmmm now that's a thought. wonder if it would still work with one attractive couple... and us?

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of it this way,two attractive couples,warm evening,nice bar,a few drinks,saucy chat and you need never meet again.Nudge,nudge,wink,wink.

XXXX

mmmm now that's a thought. wonder if it would still work with one attractive couple... and us?

xxx"

Fair point... Pampas Grass sticking out of ya knickers is a safer bet lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever watch Benidorm? theres a couple of swingers on there and they don't care who knows it

Yes but have you noticed how they always show swingers in a negative light on those sort of programes?

It's as if they're scared to portray them in a sexy,glamourous way in case it attracts more people to our debauched lifestyle.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well am off to turkey tomorrow. you will easy spot me

am the one with the can of insect repellant in my pussy trying to kill of the entire population of mosquitoes everytime i open my legs

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over a year ago

"Do you ever watch Benidorm? theres a couple of swingers on there and they don't care who knows it

Yes but have you noticed how they always show swingers in a negative light on those sort of programes?

It's as if they're scared to portray them in a sexy,glamourous way in case it attracts more people to our debauched lifestyle.

XXXX"

I know they're not the most glamourous couple but the are very funny and have a great attitude even though they have been stereotyped to death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done turkey already and even in may it was HOT.

And even if you dont find a cpl, the turkish guys are up for anything

I know as i was attached to one for 4 yrs

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Yeah we've been to Turkey before about 10 times - in various resorts. We know all about Turkish guys already, yep you can shag as many as you like.... either of us

Did get very friendly with one Turkish girl last time we were over there four years ago, she was eral cute (and owned a low cost jewelers), she would sunbathe topless early mornings.. shame we were not swinging then

xxxx

j&r

pampas...... check!

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By *eavensg84uCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

Interesting angle on this is that some couples who wouldnt 'swing' at home and who dont use swingers sites or clubs can be tempted to play when on holiday. Maybe its the combination of relaxation, sun, alcohol and being surrounded by semi-naked bodies - as well as the 'what happens on holiday, stays on holiday' mentality - but we reckon that even vanilla couples can be 'corrupted'. A bit of mutual flirting, an indiscreet comment or two to see if they're curious and maybe you'll get lucky anyway - we have (including a fabulous all-girl session with a Spanish holiday rep!). You can afford to be more up-front about your lifestyle with people who you've only just met and wont see again, so drop swinging into the conversation once you broken the ice and see what the response is - you could even use the "Benidorm" swingers as the starting point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The blindingly obvious answer is if you want to swing whilst on holiday then go to a swingers resort for your holiday.

We are on our 3rd visit to Cap D'Agde where there is as much sun sea and sand as you could want but also more like minded folk available to play with than you could possibly cope with, it may well 1 in 75 in a normal resort but here it more like 90 out of every 100.......simples

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Hi Yes we know about cape d'agde though we've not been there yet

Really we want to mostly chill out on hols but wouldn't mind the occasional liason if it comes our way, if you see what we mean

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree...... Far far more satisfying to have fun when its harder to achieve or is less expected maybe.. less obviously available even!!!

Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Nothing quite like the corrupt the vanilla on a 'normal' holiday lol...

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

love the " i do couples" t shirt!

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

hey notts2 have you corrupted any vanilla's while on holiday, or has anyone else for that matter, we would love to hear all about it

xxxxx

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By *orkduoCouple
over a year ago

york

andy has a massive beach towell that says "fancy a shag"in massive letters,were gonna try that when we go away ...lolx

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Hi Yes we know about cape d'agde though we've not been there yet

Really we want to mostly chill out on hols but wouldn't mind the occasional liason if it comes our way, if you see what we mean

xxxx

Ha ha ha... Everyone seems to think Cap D'Agde is full on swingers who won't leave you alone!!! We have been at least once a year for the last 6 years and we have found it to be a very relaxed place and if you want fun, you can certainly find it. If you just want to chill and do your "thang" that is also cool...

Have seen some of these pins and things, but they will never work! Just imagine, you are wearing you "swingers" badge and your mum comments on how nice it is. Next week in the News and the Screws they "expose" these pins! Go on, explain that away!!! lol

Just relax, chat to people and move to conversation to a naughtier area and if they are still talking to you, rip their clothes off!!! lol

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hey notts2 have you corrupted any vanilla's while on holiday, or has anyone else for that matter, we would love to hear all about it

xxxxx"

Would you believe us???

Yes.. we have! More than once... Combination of being relaxed.. horny talk, drinks, sunshine and throw in just a hint of flirting...

Why not!!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

@notts2 we certainly would believe you naughty pair

Maybe we will do the same, who knows

xxx

ju & rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

about the T shirt idea I DO OWN one that reads if ya dont swing then dont ring its a playboy branded one too does get some looks ...... only been brave enough to wear it to erotica so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?"

Rumour,

We just got back from our 3rd visit in two years and understand everything you say

Those that have been will know how daft the barrel analogy is whilst those who haven't been probably wont.........

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Well the T shirt idea does work

another site uses them also one of the clubs thinks their logo is the internatonal sign of a swinger although we have only ever seen one person (other than K) wearing it outside of that particular club.

Have to say we met a lovely couple on holiday a couple of years ago - still don't know if they swing but wish they did

K & A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?

Those that have been will know how daft the barrel analogy is whilst those who haven't been probably wont.........

What, now its suddenly become hard to meet and play at the Cape De Agde??

Load of twaddle lol.. Like ordering a Big Mac at Mc Donalds... your there to eat.. and fed you'll get lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?

Those that have been will know how daft the barrel analogy is whilst those who haven't been probably wont.........

What, now its suddenly become hard to meet and play at the Cape De Agde??

Load of twaddle lol.. Like ordering a Big Mac at Mc Donalds... your there to eat.. and fed you'll get lol..

Was that your experience of the place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?

Those that have been will know how daft the barrel analogy is whilst those who haven't been probably wont.........

What, now its suddenly become hard to meet and play at the Cape De Agde??

Load of twaddle lol.. Like ordering a Big Mac at Mc Donalds... your there to eat.. and fed you'll get lol..

Was that your experience of the place?"

Ohhh you wanna get into it lol..

Ok.. We have an apartment there, Port Ambonne.... we also have close and good friends who live there all year, we visit maybe 3 times a year but mainly rent the apartment off now having bought it during the slump in the late 80's.. Doing quite nicely too as it goes..

Want a brouchure???

Of course, your being a superior being to one and all will put us right on the easiness of finding fun there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course... If someone were to be a miserable, ill mannered up themselves arrogant type.. who swans round knowing everything.... side sniping and pokeing little jibes they indeed may find things different to the the rest.

Good job theres not many around like that eh lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cape d agde is like fishing in a barrel.. Desire etc, same...

Bloody hell, is there two Cap D'Agde's?

Those that have been will know how daft the barrel analogy is whilst those who haven't been probably wont.........

What, now its suddenly become hard to meet and play at the Cape De Agde??

Load of twaddle lol.. Like ordering a Big Mac at Mc Donalds... your there to eat.. and fed you'll get lol..

Was that your experience of the place?

Ohhh you wanna get into it lol..

Want a brouchure???

Of course, your being a superior being to one and all will put us right on the easiness of finding fun there.. "

Not superior at all, in fact far from it but really confused this end now.

Bearing in mind our rather tongue in cheek reply to the OP's rather tongue in cheek question are you now saying that going to Cap D'Agde is not a good idea if you want to meet swingers whilst on holiday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your right... You are confused.

Who was it who said the analogy of fishing in a barrel is a daft notion??

Theres tongue in cheek.. then theres the Mr Nobby Know it all replies.. Quite a difference.. There for all to see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear Oh dear, do try to keep it friendly now

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Never been to Cape D'age - could we have a brochure please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm as friendly as the next... just a little more sensitive to peoples side sniping.. done in genuine good humour i'd laugh along with the others.. You know you do it, you try to disguise it but fail as miserably as you sound mostly..

No objections whatsoever to good humoured banter.. but we both know its way past that eh!

You only just failed to point out my poor spelling of Cape D'Agde... I waited lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm as friendly as the next... just a little more sensitive to peoples side sniping.. done in genuine good humour i'd laugh along with the others.. You know you do it, you try to disguise it but fail as miserably as you sound mostly..

No objections whatsoever to good humoured banter.. but we both know its way past that eh!

You only just failed to point out my poor spelling of Cape D'Agde... I waited lol..

Figured it best to avoid the spelling thing as you seemed to have worked yourself into enough of a tizz already

PS See the smiley, trust me I am laughing as I type

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Oh dear!!! All I meant was that if you wanted a quiet, relaxing time.. Not a problem! You don't have to swing, you can just do the naturist thing..

We are back again in September for a nice playful time with old friends. We were there in May this year for fun with new friends!!! Now stop all ya fussin and afighting and lets all get shaggin!!!

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

you can spot people that swing.

The is a pub near a swing club we go to and you can see which ones are going to the club.

As for spelling, better not hubby read this his spelling really bad. LOL

He might get uoset LOl

OK about lets get shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try swingpin.com !!! its been around for years !!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Try swingpin.com !!! its been around for years !!

Yeah, a couple we know has been trying to flog that for years. We know them from another site! The site is now minus the graphics so I suppose they have given up! As for the "recognised by millions of swingers worldwide"... Perhaps a bit of poetic licence lol

Like I said in an earlier post, you buy something like that and wear it. Family comment on it and next weekend it is in the News of the Screws lol Explain that away lol

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

I guess most people use tattoos or anklets...:D...or so I've heard...:D

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By *ofakindCouple
over a year ago

Running with Monkeys

jst looked n found this website swingerssymbol.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk round resorts with a megaphone shouting...Im a swinger..ravish me...Im a swinger...ravish me...it works well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but anything works in Mablethorpe!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys-this is a big opportunity to agree some secret swingers sign if you are on a beach or a train or in a bar. I don't know what tht sign would be-like sitting on your left hand or something. I'm sure there's better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys-this is a big opportunity to agree some secret swingers sign if you are on a beach or a train or in a bar. I don't know what tht sign would be-like sitting on your left hand or something. I'm sure there's better than that."

Nice idea but it would never work. This site like most others is populated with it's fair share of wannabe's so how long before the "secret" gets out?

No way Mrs Two2 or, I suspect most of the discrete folk on here are going to sit in public "secret" signing as you would never know who was going to spot you

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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well probably we should report back after our hols lol so.....

We met one couple who were swingers (they contacted us from LS site as we are also members there, just before we went away) but we didn't really hit off so nothing came of it

Over the course of two weeks we met and chatted with three vanilla couple who we told we were swingers.

We didn't get off with any of them (one was a real shame as we would have happily done the pair of them lol) but in no case did we have a negative reaction...

In fact one couple we met socially for two more nights before they went home (the ones we really fancied lol) and though they were fascinated by our lifestyle (sat around till 3am in a bar talking about it and telling some tue life stories) things didn't go any further than that.

Very interestingly though, when we did tell this couple that we swing (on our second meeting) they said 'we knew there was something like that about you two, it doesn't surprise us at all!'

So there you go, from our experience this holiday:

1/ pulling vanilla's ain't easy, but we bet it's quite possible.

2/ vanillas didn't react badly/negatively to us saying we are swingers at all, and were generally rather interested in the nitty gritty of it.

xxxxxx

j&r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you had a good holiday matey you got a tan xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1/ pulling vanilla's ain't easy, but we bet it's quite possible.

2/ vanillas didn't react badly/negatively to us saying we are swingers at all, and were generally rather interested in the nitty gritty of it.

xxxxxx

j&r"

Its definitely possible...... and horny too lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Well probably we should report back after our hols lol so.....

We met one couple who were swingers (they contacted us from LS site as we are also members there, just before we went away) but we didn't really hit off so nothing came of it

Over the course of two weeks we met and chatted with three vanilla couple who we told we were swingers.

We didn't get off with any of them (one was a real shame as we would have happily done the pair of them lol) but in no case did we have a negative reaction...

Very interestingly though, when we did tell this couple that we swing (on our second meeting) they said 'we knew there was something like that about you two, it doesn't surprise us at all!'

So there you go, from our experience this holiday:

1/ pulling vanilla's ain't easy, but we bet it's quite possible.

2/ vanillas didn't react badly/negatively to us saying we are swingers at all, and were generally rather interested in the nitty gritty of it.

xxxxxx

j&r"

Glad you had a great time and have to say you are way braver than us, no way would we fess up to complete strangers, nice one

As we said before if you want to take all the if's and but's out the equation have a serious think about Cap D'Agde. 2 years ago we were just like most folk on here in that we were extremely apprehensive about the place but some good friends persuaded us and we have not looked back.

Chat to some of the genuine folk on here who have actually been there, Rumour would be as good a starting point as any, or pm us as having actually been we can give you some top tips as opposed to putting the frighteners on you

Still having vanilla hols, off soon to the west coast of the US for a couple of weeks driving holiday but if we want swing fun then rather than spend a couple of weeks wondering if so and so does we find it it's best to go to where it's at

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