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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, we get a few messages from time to time and, generally, if there person isn't our cup of tea then we just delete it.... Which I'm feeling is awfully rude.

But I wonder if a message back saying "no thank you" or whatever is going to be equally, if not more frustrating/annoying than having your message deleted.

So I wonder what the general concensus here is; if you message someone who isn't interested, what would be your preferred response from them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we get a few messages from time to time and, generally, if there person isn't our cup of tea then we just delete it.... Which I'm feeling is awfully rude.

But I wonder if a message back saying "no thank you" or whatever is going to be equally, if not more frustrating/annoying than having your message deleted.

Thanks for the offer but not what we are looking for.

So I wonder what the general concensus here is; if you message someone who isn't interested, what would be your preferred response from them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you but no thanks x

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No thanks X

Has always worked for me.

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

Generally thank them for their message and say we're not looking for single guys at the moment (coz it's always single guys!)

If they've obviously taken a lot of effort into their message and it's well written and respectful I normally comment on what a lovely message it was, and then say that we're not looking for single guys at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we get a few messages from time to time and, generally, if there person isn't our cup of tea then we just delete it.... Which I'm feeling is awfully rude.

But I wonder if a message back saying "no thank you" or whatever is going to be equally, if not more frustrating/annoying than having your message deleted.

So I wonder what the general concensus here is; if you message someone who isn't interested, what would be your preferred response from them?

"
I am used to the no reply having looked at profile in stealth mode ,having said that would prefer a thankyou for your well thought out message but sorry your too old have fun bye grandad hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we get a few messages from time to time and, generally, if there person isn't our cup of tea then we just delete it.... Which I'm feeling is awfully rude.

But I wonder if a message back saying "no thank you" or whatever is going to be equally, if not more frustrating/annoying than having your message deleted.

So I wonder what the general concensus here is; if you message someone who isn't interested, what would be your preferred response from them?

I am used to the no reply having looked at profile in stealth mode ,having said that would prefer a thankyou for your well thought out message but sorry your too old have fun bye grandad hugs "

Haaaa I may copy and paste this !!!!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I do a thanks for your message, no thanks & good luck type one but I'm getting 4/10 pop up in my inbox again to thank me for at least responding.

If I can I do reply. I am but a person though and am here for fun, sifting through my inbox can become a chore

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

I would prefer a no thanks but do whatever suits you as you will never please everyone. Response or not, tell the truth or tell a lie someone always takes offence.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Thank you but you're not my type says it all really and should be accepted by any recipient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you but you're not my type says it all really and should be accepted by any recipient. "

But why aren't I ! How many of those do you get X

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

Sorry but you're not for me works for me mostly

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Just delete it and don't answer. It's easier and it's a strong message to the message sender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we get a few messages from time to time and, generally, if there person isn't our cup of tea then we just delete it.... Which I'm feeling is awfully rude.

But I wonder if a message back saying "no thank you" or whatever is going to be equally, if not more frustrating/annoying than having your message deleted.

So I wonder what the general concensus here is; if you message someone who isn't interested, what would be your preferred response from them?

"

Delete me, any sensible single bloke should know what that means, its not personal

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

An actual reply gets the hopes up, better to delete. Block if you think there's the slightest chance of the underlying message sinking in.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

A nice thanks but no thanks.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Always, always, always prefer to get a "no thank you" message than just a delete. Actually I tend to mutter "well, fuck you too!" when I see I've had a delete with no reply.

But I sympathise with women who get hundreds of messages simply not having the time

And I know we've just flat-out deleted the worst "Hi here's my dick can I bareback you now plz" messages without dignifying them with a response.

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Billericay

As a single man I am happy for a No thanks or to just be deleted it's not good to have my messages looked at and then not responded to or deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy i much prefer a delete. Not that i ever know because i delete sent box after every message.

Silly but the ( sorry) part makes me feel like a charity case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer a no thanks. But in all honesty, I just don't care.

We always write back to say a person isn't really what we are looking for, but that we hope they have fun with others. We haven't had any problems.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We much prefer a thank you but your not for us we never take offence it's how we reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we all ways reply to messages even if its a no thanks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't care either way, the message is clear whether they respond or not and the outcome is the same so why sweat it? We don't think it's rude not to reply to unsolicited mail

If people are on our friends list and consistently don't reply to messages, we also assume then that they're no longer interested and delete...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

A no thanks works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could say "you look very nice, just not what I'm looking for, thanks for the message x" something like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a no thank you! Or a yes please would be much better

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