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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

beacuse its your word against theirs and so is open to abuse by someone with an axe to grind

for example - I have just decided you are fakes and timewasters - therefore you must be named and shamed for it

see my point?

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By *nothercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Tic Tic Tic Tic

BOOOOOOOOOOOM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because you’d more than likely end up named and shamed yourself from someone who doesn’t like being declined, or if you ignored/deleted their messages without replying.

You only have to read the forums to see why it would never work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

If we were allowed to name and shame, we'd have to name and shame you because you arranged to meet us last week and when we turned up you wern't there and you switched off your phone so we couldn't contact you !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

mm see ya point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it would be as long as a friends list...Also if a guy said no to a couple ..he might be named and shamed, but most people would assume it was the guy who was the time-waster. and not sour grapes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol thanks for that one lol

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By *imal75Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I think naming and shaming should be allowed but on when it comes to social events. If someone has gone to all that hard work to arrange a social event or any event for that matter. They do not turn up! then think there name should be shown as non attendants. This not aimed oneoneon this site, but I think a line needs to be drawn as to what people can get away with and what they carnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because everyone has their own ideas of what time wasters are

some would name and shame you for mailing them and not wanting to meet

some would name and shame you for meeting them and not wanting to play

some would name and shame you because you cancelled a meet because your kid was taken into hospital, cause we all know noone on here has a life so that would obviously be a lie

its so hard to say who and whats a true time waster its best to just ignor it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think naming and shaming should be allowed but on when it comes to social events. If someone has gone to all that hard work to arrange a social event or any event for that matter. They do not turn up! then think there name should be shown as non attendants. This not aimed oneoneon this site, but I think a line needs to be drawn as to what people can get away with and what they carnt. "

But if someone suddenly is unable to attend an event why should they have a finger pointed at them ?

They may have a perfectly good reason for not attending.

On the other hand we'll say that they did attend but for one reason or the other didn't quite 'make the grade' - should they also be named and shamed ?

If naming and shaming is to be allowed it has to be across the board and not just for certain criteria that suits some people / situations - clearly of course this would never work so the best rule to apply, is the current rule which is already in place - 'No naming and shaming is allowed'

Much simpler and much easier to control

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

What do you mean by timewasters? Z

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By *tockingloversukCouple
over a year ago

canterbury


"....some would name and shame you because you cancelled a meet because your kid was taken into hospital, cause we all know noone on here has a life so that would obviously be a lie

its so hard to say who and whats a true time waster its best to just ignor it and move on"

....what if you were told that after making arrangements that involved baby-sitters etc, that a couple could not meet you after all because one of them is unwell

That`s acceptable, but when you see on their profile someone then left them feedback for a wonderful night????

Then they post that they are fed up with timewasters!!!!!

Yes, we moved on, but can`t wait for the day that they contact us again when they are at a loose end!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

Because all the times we have talked and you promise to show up... Bang nothing! You have lead me up the garden path on so many occasions now! The ultimate timewasters! So I am going to report you!

I just want to say for the record the above is not true, but do you see why name and shame doesn't work... It's my word against yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TIMEWASTERS.......can't say I've ever met one.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"TIMEWASTERS.......can't say I've ever met one. "

I'm still waiting for my first one to turn up.

These tulips have withered and my copy of the Evening Standard is dogeared and yellow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been called a timewaister, i changed my mind because it didnt feel right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a timewasters on here yet but plenty of fakes but naming and shaming won't solve anything it will just make you look bitter sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because everyone has their own ideas of what time wasters are

some would name and shame you for mailing them and not wanting to meet

some would name and shame you for meeting them and not wanting to play

some would name and shame you because you cancelled a meet because your kid was taken into hospital, cause we all know noone on here has a life so that would obviously be a lie

its so hard to say who and whats a true time waster its best to just ignor it and move on"

What she says ^^^^

Plus, the way chat is going if a female says Hi to a guy and then says not interested then they are a time waster......

S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

timewaster ,name and shame ..no problem ...well only one ,everybody on here will be on the list one way or another ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all turned down a meet as it's not felt right, gut instinct does that make you a timewaster, no. Anyone as the right to change their minds even in swinging

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

God I love Irony......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God I love Irony......"

Don't we all Jane?

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By *tockingloversukCouple
over a year ago

canterbury


"God I love Irony......"

We don`t....it`s such a pain getting all the creases out of shirts!!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what exactly is a timewaster...

if someone turned up at the arranged destination and then changed his/her/their mind and left.. are they one?

does an insertion of a penis/finger/tongue into a vagina/mouth/ass qualify you as genuine.

from the first contact... to the sexual act taking place... when does timewasterness/tendancies kick in?

and how do we guarantee all members agreeing the final definition and then adhering to it... before naming and shaming happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spent all day, on and off, chatting to a new guy, we discussed meeting, he cant do the weekend except evenings as he happens to be married which to me makes him a timewaster (it does say on my profile i wont help them cheat) but he might think im a timewaster because i wont meet him, get it

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

Are you avin a larf! More often than not 2 sides to every story.....not always easy on here to distinguish between the fakes and the gen..... You could very easily end up being named and shamed.......

Move on to your next victims and chalk the others down to experience. Lifes to short to worry....youre not the first and won't be the last to be let down.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God I love Irony......"

I hate it myself, prefer to send it out to get done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God I love Irony......

I hate it myself, prefer to send it out to get done.

"

He he I havnt done it for years ..... Can be paid to do some ones .... A little job ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think naming and shaming should be allowed but on when it comes to social events. If someone has gone to all that hard work to arrange a social event or any event for that matter. They do not turn up! then think there name should be shown as non attendants. This not aimed oneoneon this site, but I think a line needs to be drawn as to what people can get away with and what they carnt. "

No i dont agree with that at all. People have various reasons for turning up, they may not be a decent excuse but it wont stop a party going ahead will it?? I mean if 30 people are invited and 5 dont turn up, the party wont get cancelled will it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had been called a time waster because I sent an unsolicited message to a gent to say thank you for being an eye candy to the ladies on FAB after seeing his pic in the gallery of newly uploaded pics.

Only his pics looked good, the rest of the profile was to be desired, i.e. minimal information, and I was not planning to meet him on a 1-1 basis.

He messaged back and asked if I would like to meet, and I said no. He asked why I messaged him in the first place, and I replied just to congratulate him for having a good body/pics etc...

And he called me a time waster for wasting his time to message me!

Talk about being ungrateful!!!

For a short period of time after that incident, I stopped sending messages to hot hunks to say how much I enjoyed their pics, in case I get similar responses back!

Then I thought, sod it, why the hell not, as nothing ventured nothing gained, and they may turn out to be nice, decent gentlemen!

One bad egg does not make all the other eggs bad afterall!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if people arrange meets and dont turn up there is the option to report that profile to admin . i think thats enough to flag up the repeat offenders and save genuine ppl having name smeared in public because they may have got someones back up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"y can we not name and shame time wasters it would be a better site win out all them "

Its not hard to see why. Someone could say 'you area time waster' and it might be all lies but you have people thinking it may be true. In reality people would abuse it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TIMEWASTERS.......can't say I've ever met one. "

lol 10 out 10 for that answer mate you beat me to it lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"God I love Irony......"

...great, can you do my shirts and trousers then please, I can never get the creases right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if people arrange meets and dont turn up there is the option to report that profile to admin . i think thats enough to flag up the repeat offenders and save genuine ppl having name smeared in public because they may have got someones back up . "

and do you think the site will block them? cos they dont turn up? This swing malarky is not the same as buying a goods or service now is it? You dont have the right to a refund of your time or energy, i highly dout that the owners of this site would do anything with such abuse reports after all what consenting adults do or dont do is their own business, this is not school and owner of the site is not the headmaster .

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

we have had alot of timewasters but have learn now to just block them if they mess us about alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been called a time waster because I sent an unsolicited message to a gent to say thank you for being an eye candy to the ladies on FAB after seeing his pic in the gallery of newly uploaded pics.

Only his pics looked good, the rest of the profile was to be desired, i.e. minimal information, and I was not planning to meet him on a 1-1 basis.

He messaged back and asked if I would like to meet, and I said no. He asked why I messaged him in the first place, and I replied just to congratulate him for having a good body/pics etc...

And he called me a time waster for wasting his time to message me!

Talk about being ungrateful!!!

For a short period of time after that incident, I stopped sending messages to hot hunks to say how much I enjoyed their pics, in case I get similar responses back!

Then I thought, sod it, why the hell not, as nothing ventured nothing gained, and they may turn out to be nice, decent gentlemen!

One bad egg does not make all the other eggs bad afterall!

"

lol bloody ungreatful. I've had messages like that, i say thanks, but never assume it's leading to bed (or anywhere else you feel like)

Gotta say i've yet to meet a timewaster. Guess i'm lucky... Or i just meet great girls off here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it strange that people seem to encounter a lot of "timewasters". In three years I've never arranged a meet and the person hasn't turned up.

I've had people cancel, I've had conversations peter out - but I don't class that as timewasting.

If meet after meet the person didn't turn up I'd begin to question what I was doing wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find it strange that people seem to encounter a lot of "timewasters". In three years I've never arranged a meet and the person hasn't turned up.

I've had people cancel, I've had conversations peter out - but I don't class that as timewasting.

If meet after meet the person didn't turn up I'd begin to question what I was doing wrong! "

Same here Sassy! Apart from the three years bit. I've had cancellations, but as long as I'm told in plenty of time I don't tend to mind. I can be disappointed that pleasure is not being given, but thats all. People have very complicated lives and its impossible for everything to run like clockwork all of the time so I put it down to sod's law, and wouldn't class them as timewasters. People who arrange a meet then just don't turn up I'd certainly class in that bracket! But I'm fortunate enough not to have met any of them yet as well. Although I acknowledge that they must exist because of all the beef thats spread around in here....

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I'm a timewaster and so is my imaginary partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

two sides to every story.

and maybe they just didnt like you and felt it best not to say so.

start naming and shaming and people will be sorting each other out at socials when they have had a drink.

move on be an adult and just block them!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"start naming and shaming and people will be sorting each other out at socials"

*Runs to check social calender*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems its mostly desperate people that are always in a rush to meet who encounter time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems its mostly desperate people that are always in a rush to meet who encounter time wasters "

good observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree, people have there own version of what swinging is, tonight i got some nasty emails of a couple informing me am a fake and sad, they said my profile looks as if am want a soul mate of site and threw the abuse at me,am being honest in what i want when looking for fun and it's a shame i have to put the donts on my profile, but people dont read and just look at pics which is fustrating,fake not and very gen and my meets have all worked out so far and if you that gets labled a fake because of that then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is rather good so bollocks to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find it strange that people seem to encounter a lot of "timewasters". In three years I've never arranged a meet and the person hasn't turned up.

I've had people cancel, I've had conversations peter out - but I don't class that as timewasting.

If meet after meet the person didn't turn up I'd begin to question what I was doing wrong! "

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not had many timewasters as such , but there are plenty of fake profiles on here , and my x F/B keeps setting them up , wot for ,only she knows that , and as for the naming and shaming ! its a none starter ,as there would be so much bickering , long live the fun people on here , and am sure most of us can spot the fakes .! HAVE FUN !

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