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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just need to talk to a better class of man - I'd have the date confirmed, room booked and be there with bells on personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But after one man you have 100s of more to select from as for us, we have to wait months for the next one. If you see it that way.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Count yourself lucky. Imagine how awful the meet would have been....

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had several single guys who were dead keen to meet. Arrangements made, and then they go quiet at the last minute - lack of bottle we reckon. The result ? We don't bother with single men on here any more. We stick to the guys we meet in clubs and just use Fab for couples meets.

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Look I've had couples ladies just disapear from d site n guys pretending to b ladies r couples so I've met them all . Even had a blackmailer n bi guys wanting to do things to me . I think u have to have a bit of a hard face on here r u won't survive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

bloody men. send em to Coventry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this! "

He sounds as though the thrill of the chase does more for him than the catch?

It is unnerving, but remind yourself they usually have issues. Arrested emotional development more often than not.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Us men arnt that bad but us clowns are very bad

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By *arker66Man
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I dont know why this has upset me so much , think it's the contrast between how keen he was to meet and his rude attitude when I just asked what had happened? So unnecessary! Fuck off male group!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,!

bloody men. send em to Coventry."

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By *arker66Man
over a year ago

Manchester

God he must be a fool !! You are gorgeous xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the shock. Chin up, youve dodged a bullet!

There's as many good men as there are bad, and the good really are worth it.....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How has he wasted your time? You only chatted. Nothing was arranged.

If he's being ignorant now then it's better to find out before actually meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

It's the same for single men too!

Even with the offer of paying for a hotel and travelling some distance, the women often go cold!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though."

Good job a lot of men dont think like that otherwise a lot of woman and couples on here would be up shit creek without a paddle...

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Aw thanks for all the nice posts, I don't feel rejected just shocked at how someone can turn really nasty on you.

Oh well, lesson learnt. And this is why I will always do a social meet, despite some people not liking it...!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"How has he wasted your time? You only chatted. Nothing was arranged. "

I still think of that as time wasting, not a major problem though.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Aw thanks for all the nice posts, I don't feel rejected just shocked at how someone can turn really nasty on you.

Oh well, lesson learnt. And this is why I will always do a social meet, despite some people not liking it...! "

It happens but don't let it get to you. Quite often a man being rude for no reason is one who lacks confidence/self estemm himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get over ot...it was one mans actions ffs??? Maybe not the right site for you if you're a little sensitive??

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though.

Good job a lot of men dont think like that otherwise a lot of woman and couples on here would be up shit creek without a paddle..."

Some women and couples need this to happen to them more often. They might have a bit more empathy for the guys then.

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I've been on here for 3 years, I'm not over sensitive! Just don't like immature, rude men who don't respect women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him! "

Why wait two weeks to mail him? If I was arranging something I'd have kept in touch daily, to keep the interest there!

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By *helsea 22Woman
over a year ago

barnsley


"Get over ot...it was one mans actions ffs??? Maybe not the right site for you if you're a little sensitive?? "

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By *ohndelMan
over a year ago

Preston

There still are decent blokes here,who get just as annoyed at you were, when stories like this come out. Some of us decent fellas work hard to build connections on this site, most of the time without success .

Just remember, there still are a few people who never let people down, pity you are not a bit further north

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By *etsgetjiggingMan
over a year ago

norwich


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though."

This goes for we men too,but you ladies dismiss us without a thought, either branding us pushy or some equivalent adjective.

To the op very unfortunate,but I hope you don't paint all single guys on here with the same brush.

There are very good guys on here.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry but you men have no idea what shit we get.

Yes I use my status updates to educate the men in my local area

All I get is abuse, or messages from them saying, I love your profile and pics and they have 1 line and a cock pic, so who is the hypocrite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry you've been let down. I'm not as established as you on this site, and perhaps naively trusting of the men I've made contact with, but with emails, texts, phone calls, etc, I think you get a gut feeling long before the actual meet as to whether or not they're trustworthy and reliable.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Look I've had couples ladies just disapear from d site n guys pretending to b ladies r couples so I've met them all . Even had a blackmailer n bi guys wanting to do things to me . I think u have to have a bit of a hard face on here r u won't survive "

Was it intentional that you listed those awful bi guys last? I am quite partial to them myself.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the reason we don't arrange stuff weeks in advance . With anyone , male , female couples , or tv/ ts .

Far better to do it on the day . Exchange pics , a couple of messages then meet .

No flirting , planning who's gonna do what to who etc.....

This way the wannabes , sofa swingers , and so on don't get their kicks from the build up .

We had a meet set up recently which went against our usual way - with a single woman . Arranged over two weeks in advance , messages exchanged daily , three days before looked at confirming hotel and all went quiet ! Lesson learned , nothing lost as we arranged something else .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aw thanks for all the nice posts, I don't feel rejected just shocked at how someone can turn really nasty on you.

Oh well, lesson learnt. And this is why I will always do a social meet, despite some people not liking it...! "
..its a shame....but there are nice genuine guys....someone like me must lose meets because thats the type of experience many women have suffered. I have had similer...happy chatting then I'm binned. ..best of luck...I future...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

You hit one of the bad ones, I'm sorry.

I try not to plan more than a couple of weeks in advance for this reason, people lose interest and get pissy if you leave them waiting but that's no excuse for the guy to act like he did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I mailed you two weeks ago I'm still awaiting a reply I believe haha.

Oh well plenty more men on here willing to meet ladies, you will not be short of offers love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him!

Why wait two weeks to mail him? If I was arranging something I'd have kept in touch daily, to keep the interest there!"

Wonder if this was why the guy was pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the reason we don't arrange stuff weeks in advance . With anyone , male , female couples , or tv/ ts .

Far better to do it on the day . Exchange pics , a couple of messages then meet .

No flirting , planning who's gonna do what to who etc.....

This way the wannabes , sofa swingers , and so on don't get their kicks from the build up .

We had a meet set up recently which went against our usual way - with a single woman . Arranged over two weeks in advance , messages exchanged daily , three days before looked at confirming hotel and all went quiet ! Lesson learned , nothing lost as we arranged something else .

"

I love the expression 'sofa swingers'. Very apt

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Im really sorry to hear about the guy in question, but I hope you realise that there are some nice guy's on here and I'm sure you'll be able to find what your looking for and put this loser far far out of your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

Sad this happened. Wishing you better luck in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but you men have no idea what shit we get.

Yes I use my status updates to educate the men in my local area

All I get is abuse, or messages from them saying, I love your profile and pics and they have 1 line and a cock pic, so who is the hypocrite? "

Tbh I'm not surprised you ladies get one liners. Whats the point in writing out a half decent message just to watch it not get read and then deleted?

Like you and many others I see no need to waste my time. I'd rather just wait till a female finds me on here then I'll respond with a good message that will give her far more insight into what guy I am and 100% chance she'll read it because she's made first contact.

Unlike most men on here I'm in no rush too meet anyone now, if its going to happen then it will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what sort of numpty would let you down ? You are gorgeous !

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just need to talk to a better class of man - I'd have the date confirmed, room booked and be there with bells on personally"

...of course you would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him! "

he probably had a partner who was there when you made contact and his response was his attempt to conceal what his partner didn't know about. you know which to Listen to on hear and which not. all the best. x

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him!

Why wait two weeks to mail him? If I was arranging something I'd have kept in touch daily, to keep the interest there!

Wonder if this was why the guy was pissed off."

No, he was going to check with the other guys that they could meet as it was Bonfire night and get back to me ( which I pointed out to him and said to check with the others in the male group ( hint!)). I hadn't heard anything back so I sent a message to see if they'd got back to him and I got a load of abuse!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

Oh for crying out loud! You've encountered one man that changed his mind and wasn't gracious about it. If he was abusive, report, block and thank God you dodged a bullet.

One man isn't representative of the men on Fab. It has upset you, fair dos, but come on now, pull up your big girl pants and stop being a cry baby!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

His loss not yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just need to talk to a better class of man - I'd have the date confirmed, room booked and be there with bells on personally

...of course you would! "

I know, that's why I typed it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

Oh for crying out loud! You've encountered one man that changed his mind and wasn't gracious about it. If he was abusive, report, block and thank God you dodged a bullet.

One man isn't representative of the men on Fab. It has upset you, fair dos, but come on now, pull up your big girl pants and stop being a cry baby!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

Oh for crying out loud! You've encountered one man that changed his mind and wasn't gracious about it. If he was abusive, report, block and thank God you dodged a bullet.

One man isn't representative of the men on Fab. It has upset you, fair dos, but come on now, pull up your big girl pants and stop being a cry baby!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,!

bloody men. send em to Coventry."

Had the same and was also gutted, think it's more like send them to Stockport not Coventry

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we had an ultra keen "group of guys" who wanted a social meet pre-sex today. Agreed time/venue and mysteriously went silent about 7am today. Timewasters abound on site and in all categories of site user

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"How has he wasted your time? You only chatted. Nothing was arranged.

If he's being ignorant now then it's better to find out before actually meeting. "

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

It probably wasn't even a man, it was probably one of those women pretending to be a man just to get some attention!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we had an ultra keen "group of guys" who wanted a social meet pre-sex today. Agreed time/venue and mysteriously went silent about 7am today. Timewasters abound on site and in all categories of site user "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though.

Good job a lot of men dont think like that otherwise a lot of woman and couples on here would be up shit creek without a paddle...

Some women and couples need this to happen to them more often. They might have a bit more empathy for the guys then. "

I agree that men do get treated poorly on here, but not by me. I fail to see why me being treated badly by one would make me think of others more kindly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use this as a learning curve op. Do you really believe all men are like that? Especially given the amount of time you have been here. You must have met guys that aren't like this? Maybe review your pre meet procedure? I would assume if i heard nothing from a potential meet for a couple of days that interest had gone. I wouldn't leave it 2 weeks that's for sure.

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

What if the guy reads this post? Meet and possible meets cannot be discussed on here for privacy.................

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I hope the twat does read this actually...

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I hope the twat does read this actually..."

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the twat does read this actually...

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless "

Totally off topic and I apologise but may I shave your pubes please?

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By *unmeisterMan
over a year ago

London & West Midlands

Allow me to look after you and make the arrangements x

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I hope the twat does read this actually...

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless

Totally off topic and I apologise but may I shave your pubes please?"

No thanks, men shave it as cock appears bigger. I do not want to scare anyone

Additionally some girls I know do like hairy men. I trim it otherwise

Not off-topic...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can say that you get ithis with couple women men but you do get some genuine people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this! "

Sounds like a plan to me

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I think you can say that you get ithis with couple women men but you do get some genuine people on here "

A very few genuine people, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'd rather just wait till a female finds me on here then I'll respond with a good message that will give her far more insight into what guy I am and 100% chance she'll read it because she's made first contact.

Unlike most men on here I'm in no rush too meet anyone now, if its going to happen then it will happen."

He probably realised a group session with other Men he doesn't know wasn't for him, But a simple message to explain this or the reason he didn't want to meet would of been the right way to go about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though.

Good job a lot of men dont think like that otherwise a lot of woman and couples on here would be up shit creek without a paddle...

Some women and couples need this to happen to them more often. They might have a bit more empathy for the guys then.

I agree that men do get treated poorly on here, but not by me. I fail to see why me being treated badly by one would make me think of others more kindly."

Fair point. The people that do treat people like crap won't ever have empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the twat does read this actually..."

He really got to you didn't he...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enough! It had nothing to do with him being a man...woman or one eyed penguin...you chatted with someone on the site and he backed out...this happens to men SO many times, we just crack on, it happens in bars..clubs etc..

If he did get to you as much as it seems then i suggest you confont him and tell him you really like him..which is becoming inceasingly clear...

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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I didn't like him. I just don't like being treated with such rudeness and disrespect when I just asked for confirmation of a group meet that he was all keen to set up!

And maybe it's just the straw that broke the camel's back re men being all keen and then disappearing for no reason...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the twat does read this actually...

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless

Totally off topic and I apologise but may I shave your pubes please?

No thanks, men shave it as cock appears bigger. I do not want to scare anyone

Additionally some girls I know do like hairy men. I trim it otherwise

Not off-topic...? "

Oh does it? Not experienced this myself. Pubes or no pubes it's still the size it is just prefer not to get the pesky buggers stuck in my teeth

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I hope the twat does read this actually...

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless

Totally off topic and I apologise but may I shave your pubes please?

No thanks, men shave it as cock appears bigger. I do not want to scare anyone

Additionally some girls I know do like hairy men. I trim it otherwise

Not off-topic...?

Oh does it? Not experienced this myself. Pubes or no pubes it's still the size it is just prefer not to get the pesky buggers stuck in my teeth "

Impossible, you cannot arrive to my pubic hair, unless you have a oven instead of a mounth

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

*mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this! "

ive had similar just move on hun he aint worth it hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon his wife found him out and kicked his sorry ass.

I'm sorry to say, but some (not all) blokes on here just have no idea a) what it's all about, and b) how to treat a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

Can't tar them all with the same brush. Are some damn lovely blokes on here too.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

lots of men on here are fake its us genuine ones that lose out because lots of women think we all are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually we set a date, he was going to check with the others in the male group, book a hotel for that date and never got back to me. When I messaged 2 weeks later he was really arsey with me. Wish I could report him!

Why wait two weeks to mail him? If I was arranging something I'd have kept in touch daily, to keep the interest there!

Wonder if this was why the guy was pissed off."
This. You waited a fortnight to get in touch?

Then you're mardy because he's lost interest? Doubt he thought you were genuinely interested!

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Big hugs Divinefox. I'm sorry another a man has let a lady down again. Keep the faith, your gorgeous and remember there are plenty of us genuine guys out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "
pot calling the kettle black here I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

We found that too when looking for 'single males' when we meet and say that we would love to meet again to play, can they accom they either have some feeble excuse, or dont get back in touch, we do realize that there are probably more married 'singles' on here than genuine singles.

Sarah never thought it would be so bloody difficult to find a genuine single guy, to the extent now that we are just totally pi88ed off and have given up,

to be fair we are fussy too, we won't just meet up with any guy, Sarah has to have some connection with him, I did suggest the double bag over the head, but that was a no no.

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many white knights heard this plea....

im feeling really embarassed for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't like him. I just don't like being treated with such rudeness and disrespect when I just asked for confirmation of a group meet that he was all keen to set up!

And maybe it's just the straw that broke the camel's back re men being all keen and then disappearing for no reason..."

You didn't like him then your sat on here moaning he bumped you off??

Laughable at best. This is why I'd never chase any women on here or even go out of my way to be some kind of white knight especially when people like the Op don't even respond to messages in the first place. Thankfully some of us men do still have standards and morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this! "

In what way was he dismissive?

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

Yes.

ALL MEN ARE TO BE BLAMED for the actions of one man.

That makes a lot of sense.

Blame the one individual?

Only hold him responsible for his actions?

No. That would be madness.

It's every man on this websites fault.

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By *indingDeemoMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not being funny I appreciate that you have been messed about op but one man doesnt account for all.

Yes I agree alot of men on hear can waste your time and yes you will come across more arsehole bit that's only dude to number percentages.

There are singles ladies and couples that's do exactly the same, unfortunately this the game and there will always be obstacles your best bet is to carry on sorting things for you and if someone messes you about remember it is their loss.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

Some time ago we heard about a couple who wanted a gang bang so they advertised and got over 150 guys interested... blah blah goes on and the date and time are set and the numbers are dropping to about 15.

On the night... nary a one shows up.

Ho hum

L2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

We have been reliably informed, in the past, by the Fab vocal minority, that this scenario is NOT time wasting. . .

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "

His loss OP, you look fine. x

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,!

bloody men. send em to Coventry."

If they already live in Coventry where should they be sent??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had more single male timewasters than anything else. Couples are second in line then women. But with women the number we've had contact with has been very low so thats probably why. Got a guy at the mo begging to meet we said yes, arranged it all asked him to confirm hes coming and suddennly hes not reading our messages despite being online...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

You're absolutely right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are entirely the main culprits. Lazy, ignorant and unreliable the bulk of them, fantasising about what they don't have the nerve to do!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are entirely the main culprits. Lazy, ignorant and unreliable the bulk of them, fantasising about what they don't have the nerve to do!!!"

Bit of a generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

You're absolutely right. "

Yes we all get tard with the same brush unfair for the genuine decent guys but for every 1 of us theres 20 idiots so dont blame you ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,!

bloody men. send em to Coventry."
Noooo!!! Already too many idiots here, me included!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a chat with a guy who seemed nice, arranged group sessions, we chatted on whatsapp, he was keen to book a hotel, looked at places nearby, then when I suggested a date about 2 weeks ago, he said he'd check and get back to me. Hadn't heard anything so contacted him tonight and he was so rude and dismissive towards me, for no

Reason.!

Men say no one gets back to them but sometimes when you do and take them at face value they still turn out to be bloody nasty time wasters..,! "
So sorry to hear this Divine. He obviously hasn't got a clue what he's missed out on. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yer not wrong. Encountered loads of the time wasting ones on here.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

You're absolutely right. "

Yes she is right.

Instead of being solely upset with the one guy who has chosen not to meet her.

She is absolutely right to hold every man responsible.

Men she's never been contacted by.

It's their fault.

Men she has met and enjoyed a good time with.

It's their fault.

Men who aren't even on this website.

It's their fault.

All men are to blame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

You're absolutely right.

Yes she is right.

Instead of being solely upset with the one guy who has chosen not to meet her.

She is absolutely right to hold every man responsible.

Men she's never been contacted by.

It's their fault.

Men she has met and enjoyed a good time with.

It's their fault.

Men who aren't even on this website.

It's their fault.

All men are to blame. "

What cads and bounders all single men on Fab are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you... "

So do you only generalise gender groups like this or would you also say do it for ethnic groups?

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"Yer not wrong. Encountered loads of the time wasting ones on here. "

Girls and couples are not exempt. Maybe they were fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

You're absolutely right.

Yes she is right.

Instead of being solely upset with the one guy who has chosen not to meet her.

She is absolutely right to hold every man responsible.

Men she's never been contacted by.

It's their fault.

Men she has met and enjoyed a good time with.

It's their fault.

Men who aren't even on this website.

It's their fault.

All men are to blame. "

Spot on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting reading people's thoughts on this. I think the lesson is (as with life) on the site they'll be genuine people worth bothering with & others not, yes it's disappointing but I think you tend to have to sift through the crap to find the ones worth bothering with. I personally always stick to what is arranged & even if that's a social that doesn't lead to anything further as let's face we can't all find one another attractive! I try & be polite even if it's a no & hope that I'll get the same in return, inevitably that's not the case but hey that's life. Incidentally I'd agree with other comments op the guy has missed a treat with you & you've probably had a lucky escape with not meeting him if he's all mouth & no trousers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's interesting reading people's thoughts on this. I think the lesson is (as with life) on the site they'll be genuine people worth bothering with & others not, yes it's disappointing but I think you tend to have to sift through the crap to find the ones worth bothering with. I personally always stick to what is arranged & even if that's a social that doesn't lead to anything further as let's face we can't all find one another attractive! I try & be polite even if it's a no & hope that I'll get the same in return, inevitably that's not the case but hey that's life. Incidentally I'd agree with other comments op the guy has missed a treat with you & you've probably had a lucky escape with not meeting him if he's all mouth & no trousers! "

Hes had a lucky escape, look at the moaning about him because dare he ignore her when she demands a message back after hearing nothing for two weeks and dare he not reply to her when she stated she never even liked him in the first place.

All I see in this thread is someone trying to shift the blame onto someone else because they don't have the balls to admit they where wrong to lie to him and ignore him for two weeks. Bet the poor guy would have turned up with what she wanted (more men) and I bet he would have been told he can't join in.

From the women blaming men for letting them down it's more a case of being rejected and not taking it so well. Maybe just maybe after soany chats the guys realised you ain't all you claim to be just has many women find out from guys on here all the time.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I think you can say that you get ithis with couple women men but you do get some genuine people on here

A very few genuine people, yes"

What evidence do you have to suggest there are only very few genuine people on here?

...and what does "genuine" actually mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd not have heard anything for 2 weeks I'd assume they weren't interested and forget them as if they were as interested as they said they were, they'd be in contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wasting time now. Only meeting socially for the time being lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make no reference as to whether he was verified or otherwise, if he wasn't then it begs the question why you put so much faith, time and effort into him, if he was and you'd checked them out to ascertain that he was someone who's delivered the goodies you were seeking before, then he's probably had a change of heart/circumstances, no contracts were broken! why should he need to explain himself? why would you even care about someone who'd acted so discourteously? stop whining, shit happens, that's life, move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You make no reference as to whether he was verified or otherwise, if he wasn't then it begs the question why you put so much faith, time and effort into him, if he was and you'd checked them out to ascertain that he was someone who's delivered the goodies you were seeking before, then he's probably had a change of heart/circumstances, no contracts were broken! why should he need to explain himself? why would you even care about someone who'd acted so discourteously? stop whining, shit happens, that's life, move on! "

Well said. Surely your time is better spent trying to find a reliable meet rather than bitching about one that never happened ?

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By *rvoyuerMan
over a year ago

Luton


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this! "

It's his loss!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this!

It's his loss!! "

Why is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His dismissive attitude towards me, when he pursued me initially has really upset me actually. I was interested in what he was proposing and was very polite. Just makes me feel like deleting and blocking people when they turn out to be horrid twats like this!

It's his loss!! "

He clearly didn't want to meet her so he's lost nothing.

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"I hope the twat does read this actually...

Exactly! A forum where you cannot share freely your experiences, good or bad, is useless

Totally off topic and I apologise but may I shave your pubes please?

No thanks, men shave it as cock appears bigger. I do not want to scare anyone

Additionally some girls I know do like hairy men. I trim it otherwise

Not off-topic...? "
This Week I had a ladie hairdresser give me A back and sides, and as you do through small talk I said, I seem to be getting more hairy as I get older, Its not like me really it must be this Site corrupting me, she went on to Proceed with her work with a cheeky Grin on her face before trimming my Highbrows and earholes..

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Billericay

How any man could arrange to meet you and then change his mind he must need his head exsamanin.

If only I didn't live per 100 miles away

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

To be honest there are both guys and women timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How any man could arrange to meet you and then change his mind he must need his head exsamanin.

If only I didn't live per 100 miles away"

Have some class man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How any man could arrange to meet you and then change his mind he must need his head exsamanin.

If only I didn't live per 100 miles away"

Cringe worthy.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"How any man could arrange to meet you and then change his mind he must need his head exsamanin.

If only I didn't live per 100 miles away

Have some class man.

"

That ship sailed about 40 replies ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps all couples, single men AND single women should be banned from the site, then nobody could moan about anything.

But seriously, just suck it up and move on. If you could only see MY block list....lol.

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By *ongleggedfemaleWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

Ffs..You've been on long enough to know how it works on here. Time wasters of both sex.

If I had a pound for very guy who was ultra keen to meet me then just went silent or blocked or didn't turn up (and that's verified men too!) I'd be well rich.

Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish i had a chance of being a timewaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So OP , have I got this wrong?

this is a SEX MEET site ?!

If you want a deep and meaningful then this isn't the place. yes, people get horny and want to meet at different times , if both can't meet when either feels like it then the feeling can die. THATS WHAT HAPPENS.

There's another 15000 you can try ,, get a grip and stop tarring us all with the same brush while you're at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So OP , have I got this wrong?

this is a SEX MEET site ?!

If you want a deep and meaningful then this isn't the place. yes, people get horny and want to meet at different times , if both can't meet when either feels like it then the feeling can die. THATS WHAT HAPPENS.

There's another 15000 you can try ,, get a grip and stop tarring us all with the same brush while you're at it "
Rock on. But careful I got hammered for suggesting this yesterday. Mr W

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

I think that some people just don't get this. I have to pluck up a lot of courage to message and subsequently meet a stranger, and when that all goes to shit due to their attitude or actions it certainly makes me think twice about doing it again.

The ones that behave this way aren't worth spending more thought on though.

Good job a lot of men dont think like that otherwise a lot of woman and couples on here would be up shit creek without a paddle..."

A valid point well put!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big hugs Divinefox. I'm sorry another a man has let a lady down again. Keep the faith, your gorgeous and remember there are plenty of us genuine guys out there. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How has he wasted your time? You only chatted. Nothing was arranged.

If he's being ignorant now then it's better to find out before actually meeting. "

Why be on here if you are lying about who you are.. Fab says no fake profiles

?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How has he wasted your time? You only chatted. Nothing was arranged.

If he's being ignorant now then it's better to find out before actually meeting.

Why be on here if you are lying about who you are.. Fab says no fake profiles

? "

Who are you saying is lying/ fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know guys, it takes a certain amount of trust for a single woman to meet a man or a group of men and something like this destroys my trust in all of you...

Oh for crying out loud! You've encountered one man that changed his mind and wasn't gracious about it. If he was abusive, report, block and thank God you dodged a bullet.

One man isn't representative of the men on Fab. It has upset you, fair dos, but come on now, pull up your big girl pants and stop being a cry baby!"

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