FabSwingers.com forum: Do manners matter?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do they? Are manners dead?

Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have set my profile up the way I want it and it's a good filter system. It's not being rude if have deleted a message unread, because people can't be bothered to read it properly.

All you men who mention this can be just as rude for not reading a profile, not taking any notice of what people say.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Manners have a place everywhere. There is no excuse for bad manners.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Yes there is a place for manners.

I don't reply to people who clearly have not read my profile - its like replying to junk mail frankly, and usually leads to I can change your mind conversations.

If I have been chatting for a while, and someone says something thats a no go, then I tell them that unfortunately, I will be drawing the conversation to a close, and wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad manners are a deal-breaker, for me.

It begins with the first message. If it's ill-mannered, it's deleted.

Just because this is a sex site, it doesn't mean the women (and men) here are animals who don't warrant courtesy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found most people on here to be a relatively polite bunch. Having said that, I feel that the some of the people here, who receive a lot of mail, have got an unbalanced view of themselves and of others. This can result in bad manners.

But worry not OP. Good manners are still here in abundance.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Of course they matter...We are polite and mannered in the real world and see Fab as no different. Some messages don't deserve a reply and we try reply to everyone who's clearly read our profile, but every now and again we get swamped for some reason and we don't employ a secretary so it has to be a mass delete. We're raising our son with manners and are so proud when people comment on how polite and courteous he is.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Of course they matter...We are polite and mannered in the real world and see Fab as no different. Some messages don't deserve a reply and we try reply to everyone who's clearly read our profile, but every now and again we get swamped for some reason and we don't employ a secretary so it has to be a mass delete. We're raising our son with manners and are so proud when people comment on how polite and courteous he is."

This

Manners have a place in every part of society and I have been brought up with good manners - tinged with hint of sarcasm at times, but good manners are definitely at the core. On here, I am the same as I am in normal life, I would never lower myself to someone else's standards just because they weren't the same as mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regard an absence of manners in a message as a reflection on their personalities, therefore we automatically assume them to be rude and damn right arrogant!

On the other hand a message shows no emotion therefore it's very easy to take what someone has written out of context depending on your sense of humour and making the wrong assumption of what you would call "bad manners".

Very Obvious bad manners are an automatic block and delete for us though. We only like "nice" people ??

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Sometimes it's more than a hint of sarcasm though lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There certainly is a place for good manners wherever the location.

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Do they? Are manners dead?

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"

Good manners cost nothing, but it works both ways on here. I expect to be treated like a human being when people message me, and in return I try to be couteous and reply to messages, even if its a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me they matter in all aspects of my life. My manners matter to me; if other people don't mind theirs I can overlook it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quote...

"Manners maketh the man!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't have time to reply to them all, they would be in all day.

But yes I guess some would want reply even if it is a no, for me it wouldn't matter lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do. No brainer.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Manners are even more important on a site like this that is why we try to answer every message even if it is a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And award for most loaded question of the day goes to.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me they matter in all aspects of my life. My manners matter to me; if other people don't mind theirs I can overlook it. "

My table manners aren't great I use my fork in my right hand and have to swap when I need my knife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do they? Are manners dead?

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"

We certainly do reply that way IF it's clear that the sender has actually read and understood what we're looking for. And that they have at least made some effort with their message.

Pictures of a cock and 'Will this do' tend to just get deleted. Guys who are clearly not what we're after tend to be blocked and deleted, the profile is very specific.

Manners is a huge turn on but goes both ways. If someone is rude then we won't make a positive response.

But we also understand that a lot of guys let their imagination and alter egos run wild on here and perfectly polite people email in a fashion that they would never dare to do so in real life. Because there is no consequence here so they can behave in a fashion that they dare not in everyday life.

Do you think manners are dead?

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Manners cost nothing and luke a lot of others I delete and block messages that ate rude,,ill mannered or the sender has clearly ignored my profile. If someone takes the time to send me a politely, worded message on return

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I'm polite.

I try and respond to all.

I'm always behind though and skip the inbox bit to read the forums

Ironically it's easier to send out a sorry not for me type message then draft individual messages to see if it's worth meeting. So those I want to respond too wait longer than those I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that if you tell a man you're not interested they'll keep pestering, so if I'm not interested I'll ignore their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, We try and be good mannered and like people who reciprocate. Why wouldnt you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say Thank you after a session

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do they? Are manners dead?

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"

Yes they do, as much as anywhere else, but not if it's the usual do you reply to all messages whine...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And award for most loaded question of the day goes to....."

Interesting comment...how so?

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Manners are expected, they can be faked but genuine guys using manners is like ..well foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder why he left the site? He will be back lol.

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By *onnie55Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

"Yes, We try and be good mannered and like people who reciprocate. Why wouldnt you?"

This.

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

God yes ... I can put up with most things but bad manners really winds me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

left with out saying goodbye. bad manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"left with out saying goodbye. bad manners. "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Bad or missing manners are awful and it's not like they are difficult or expensive either.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Bad Manners used to be good but I preferred Madness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manners have a place everywhere. There is no excuse for bad manners.

Absolutely

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Good manners very important,I will not exept bad manners from anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do they? Are manners dead?

of course they matter, it's only common courtesy to acknowledge, even if it a no thanks.

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site."

Were we too rude?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site."

How rude of him not to say goodbye!

Some people have no manners...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site.

Were we too rude?

I'm doing 'epitaphs' for UNLOS members in the forums. No reason except i'm enjoying doing it.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"I have set my profile up the way I want it and it's a good filter system. It's not being rude if have deleted a message unread, because people can't be bothered to read it properly.

All you men who mention this can be just as rude for not reading a profile, not taking any notice of what people say. "

They do say manners maketh the man..

i also think you get what you deserve..

I reply to loads messages,including the rude types,pointing out that no matter how you word your message,if you cant be bothered to read a persons profile that ISNT flattering,and it makes what they are saying irrelevant..

Some get it

Some dont

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By *_and_k_staffsCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

this

This is how we do things, polite message even when they get read & deleted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My photos seem to get a lot of views but it is annoying when my profile has clearly been totally ignored. I delete those messages because it would take too long to reply for no benefit, which makes me feel a bit bad but I just think if they can't be bothered reading what I've put, then Im quite justified returning the favour x x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Manners maketh the man!

However, on Fab some people assume that just because THEY like what they see, they develop word blindness. So what if the profile asks for a 7ft black guy with a 10" knob and you're 5ft 1, white with an 8" one. You've sent a message that would give a Shakespearean soliloquy a run for its money, how ill mannered not to reply with at least a no thanks!

Some people feel entitled as this is supposed to be a NSA sex site so why be picky. To those people I say: get...over...yourself!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having said that, I feel that the some of the people here, who receive a lot of mail, have got an unbalanced view of themselves and of others."
I agree! In PARTICULAR of themselves! Blinded by the Internet. Real life might shock them!

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Always polite in my messages but not sure if it does any good or makes a difference sadly. Get ignored anyway lol. I have a thing for manners as they cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my pet hate is bad manners - but to not reply to an initial message here isnt rude -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they certainly do matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do they? Are manners dead?

This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"

Too easy to hide behind profiles on here and not be nice

Courtesy and honesty are the way to go ....politely of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes for me they do i dislyke rude people

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

Yes, a thanks if someone helps you isn't much to ask, but so many people don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely matter.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"my pet hate is bad manners - but to not reply to an initial message here isnt rude - "

I quite agree, but there are so many on here who just don't get that, or refuse to agree with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my pet hate is bad manners - but to not reply to an initial message here isnt rude -

I quite agree, but there are so many on here who just don't get that, or refuse to agree with it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally. Sex site or not, good manners are the make or break for me

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