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Why wink and then nothing??.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm wondering if anyone else has the answer to this? I occasionally get a wink from some one which I assume indicates that there is some sort of interest there so I have a look at their profile & put together a considered message based on that & then nothing! It's happened quite a few times now & I find it a little confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had exactly the same thing and also don't understand it.

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By *D-1Man
over a year ago

London

Ditto. Mad or what???

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

A lot depends on yours and their interpretation of what the wink means. Or they could just have pressed the wrong button!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot depends on yours and their interpretation of what the wink means. Or they could just have pressed the wrong button!"

True but it's happened too often for them all to have hit the wrong button! As I've said I'm assuming there's some sort of interest otherwise why bother? Just curious for people's thoughts as it obviously isn't just me that has experienced it.

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By *amppost69Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Hi peeps I'm newbie. I admitted to wink a few but didn't message yet cos wait for my photo get approve by admin. I also confessed I don't think I have a chance too with anyone I've wink to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone winks and we like the look of them we will wink back often that's the last we hear of it. I think some people just wink as a way of saying "you look nice" and that's it.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Not sure why people wink as they rarely follow up with a message...I've just deleted this evening batch as there isn't time to go through every profile that winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the wife winked and the husband blocked you

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

A wink can mean they might be interested, based on what they can see on your profile

If you message and they don't reply, I'd take it as they aren't interested now you've interacted with them?

A million and one reasons why that might be, but just take no reply as no interest = easy

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

sometimes we just get something in our eyes and blink n wink to get it out lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've winked people when d*unk and hrony who in the cold light of the next day I've though "why on earth did I do that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is frustrating though lol

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"I've winked people when d*unk and hrony who in the cold light of the next day I've though "why on earth did I do that""

Yes and then the next day your too embarrassed and just have to block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had it twice in 2 days i reply and then nothing can understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"had it twice in 2 days i reply and then nothing can understand it "

Depending on when you messaged (say when they're offline) your message could have gotten pushed off the front page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'll send a wink to a good profile or set of photos. ..doesn't mean I want to particularly meet up with them though ..just an appreciation wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personaly.... i wink at people outside of fab . on occasion ! don't mean i want sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the wink for guys I think I have no chance with, I'm such a wuss, it's my way of saying 'I'm interested' without the message, if I get one back ill message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate...

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate..."

We do both. We wink if it's a maybe and reply to well written messages xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate...

We do both. We wink if it's a maybe and reply to well written messages xx"

You Must be the exception then I'M afraid xx

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate...

We do both. We wink if it's a maybe and reply to well written messages xx

You Must be the exception then I'M afraid xx

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Yeah we are the bollocks lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate..."

So you send out 10 messages. Log off for a while and then come back later to an inbox of 10 replies. As you open them they all say no thanks. Would that make you feel better???

I'd rather keep my inbox for positive messages, a no reply is a no thanks anyway according to the site FAQ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate...

So you send out 10 messages. Log off for a while and then come back later to an inbox of 10 replies. As you open them they all say no thanks. Would that make you feel better???

I'd rather keep my inbox for positive messages, a no reply is a no thanks anyway according to the site FAQ. "

thats a fair point

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate...

So you send out 10 messages. Log off for a while and then come back later to an inbox of 10 replies. As you open them they all say no thanks. Would that make you feel better???

I'd rather keep my inbox for positive messages, a no reply is a no thanks anyway according to the site FAQ. "

Having said that if we say no and people ask why, we tell them politely. That's help us too as I didn't even realise I had a beer belly til we joined Fab lol x

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"good post this, i find women or couples don't intially wink which is strange but from a guy's prospective do we not got sick of typing a detailed message to not even receive a reply personally I just think that's rude and bad manners but it wont change on here unfortunate..."

We reply to messages but a wink means that we have to check the winkers profile to decide if we want to chat so the onus is on us. Bit of a time problem when you receive hundreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just take them - winks- as being an appreciation of our profile or pics and nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments guys. It's interesting to hear everyone's thoughts on the subject, I never particularly take a wink as an indication that a meet is wanted but just always assumed an interest so thought that person/couple might exchange at least a message to find out a little more but hey no worries I'm not one to lose sleep over these things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do that if I like the profile, it saves me writing out a well thought out message only for it to be deleted.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I don't find this surprising at all. If we are really interested we message, if we just like a profile or some pictures on a profile a wink is just a mark of appreciation.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I do that if I like the profile, it saves me writing out a well thought out message only for it to be deleted."

But lots of us ignore winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is a simple exclamation of appreciation or interest. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are reluctant to Wink for the same reason - were not sure how it is interpreted. Perhaps wrongly we assume most single guy winks are all par for the course, we get them even when profile says they are deleted. If its from a couple we assume its some expression of interest. Not really sure why we have a different interpretation. No wonder everyone is confused!!

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