FabSwingers.com forum: If you could give one piece of advice...

By *rof_cpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

... to newbies, what would it be?

Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?

Examples might be how to get to know people at clubs, how to spot fakes/timewasters etc. What not to do when organising a meetup etc. If we get some good suggestions then hopefully it'll be useful for other newbies reading the forums too

Thanks xxx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Make sure you communicate between yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt.

A positive one... Have fun and enjoy the ride.

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By *rof_cpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

"A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt."

That sounds like good advice, but obviously we'll have to take it with a pinch of salt

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

Never eat yellow snow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples with a bi-fem......sometimes are only looking to play with the fem, no matter what. Even if you have made it clear you are looking for full swap. There are some on here that operate that way but not sure how easy to spot them...no names given here lol....

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"... to newbies, what would it be?

Thanks xxx"

Always respond to onliners and you have to fuck everyone to show your not sexist, racist or ageist.

Ps everyone talks safe sex but in reality the whole site are bareback freaks.

Enjoy.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

As an additional extra there are some right sarcastic barstewards on here.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I would say to remember that swinging is a journey, not a race. Especially when starting out, if something doesnt feel right, dont push the situation hoping it will get better, just remove yourself from the situation, and live to swing another day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt.

A positive one... Have fun and enjoy the ride.

"
hey and always enjoy the ride ,great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with yourselves and others. Most on here would prefer upfront and honest than promises and disappointment. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt.

That sounds like good advice, but obviously we'll have to take it with a pinch of salt

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By *obsrocketMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Socials are a great way to meet swingers who are genuine enough to turn up. This is also a great way to try a club for the first time, as socials are primarily to meet up in a no pressure to play environment. Of course if you click with another couple then you can really enjoy the night too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definatly unlike 90% of adds on here dont be ageist and have lots of sex with men over 50.....

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By *ildflower.xWoman
over a year ago

Grimsby

How welcome are single girls to clubs?

Would it be best to find someone to go with ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be wary of pic collectors!

And welcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice is just go for it .

Bit like getting on the platform before diving into the pool . Spend too long thinking and asking if you should and you won't !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine would be, have patience lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MY ADVICE WOULD BE

keep a condom on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run now!

Fab becomes addictive! X

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By *rof_cpl OP Couple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

"Run now!

Fab becomes addictive! X"

Damn! Too late.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think you need to do it your way, whatever that turns out to be and don't let yourselves be pressured into doing anything you aren't comfortable with.

Talk together, so you both know what you want to do.

Be polite and friendly, especially when saying "no".

Most importantly have fun

Nita

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Be wary of pic collectors!

And welcome!

Never send face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not?

(Face pic attached)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your gut instinct..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be on the same wavelength, a couple we got to know off the site as well as on it have just split up, partly, but not totally, because one wanted to run on here and the other wanted to walk, talk things through so it suiting both of you

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

On the forums...

Read before you write. No, more than that. Yes, even more....

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By *layne75Couple
over a year ago

New orleans

I wish you could "like" individual comments in the thread. There is some great advice here!

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

Use kik to private message if you dont want to give out a phone number.

Have first meets in a public place.

Have a signal between you when meeting someone, so you know if you want to escape.

Trust your gut feeling, don't be guilted into doing more than you want.

Don't be afraid to discuss boundaries before you play with someone.

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

...and remember that anything you write in the forums is saved for posterity for everyone to see.... don't write anything you'd regret later...

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Talk to each other first before you go off with another couple - don't take one for the team.

Discuss your own boundaries before you go out to play

Discuss the other couples boundaries with them before you start.

Have a safe word so if one of you starts to feel unsafe, say it loud and proud and get out quickly, don't ask the other why until alone.

Make sure you're willing to see and hear your OH having a good time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?"

Some subjects are off topic in the chatrooms often resulting in a ban without warning.

Not all are documented either - so far I suggest don't direct others or talk about drugs.

Will add to this as I go along...

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Beware of keyboard swingers... Ironic as this may seem, the more a person tells you that they have been tossing off like a hot blooded whoever over your photos, the less likely they are ever to show up and enjoy you in the flesh.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

communicate

go at your own pace, dont people please to gain experience

be honest, and if you dont know about something, say so upfront.

write your profile from the view of what you want now..you can change it over and over again, as you go.

new experiences are only ever unknown for 30 seconds maximum.. like going to a club / social or meeting a new person..

relax, although some have a dry sense of humour on the forums, there are loads of lovely peeps on here to make you feel welcome..

if you get overwhelmed by it all, take a few days away and go back to the point where you were having fun with it...

enjoy the journey and let it flow

welcome, may you have the best of times x

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Wear sunscreen.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Never play with friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your shield and armour if you intend to post in the forums reg..thick skin is necessary..take it all with a huge dose of salt ...enjoy and laugh..and always rubber up

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

"Wear sunscreen."

I was going to say that! Lol

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

Best advice for newbies, communication is key, always talk to each other about what you like or don't , we've seen plenty of couples fall out over miss communication ( although she was quite hot lol ) and it's not a race take your time , explore what you both want and don't let others push you to do something your unhappy with

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"... to newbies, what would it be?

Thanks xxx"

Don't hassle people for meets....make contact and allow them time to progress things if they so wish...what will be will be...If you try to force peoples' hand or pressurize at all they will back off smartish..

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By *emmdaveMan
over a year ago

Kent

Don't eat yellow snow.

Hope that helps?

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By *tockport 69Couple
over a year ago

Stockport

Dont go to crap clubs as we know one big crap club ?

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

Total transparency between each other.

Dave

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Be honest with yourselves and others. Most on here would prefer upfront and honest than promises and disappointment. .."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are no rules to swinging apart from No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take everything you see and read at face value.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

When you think you've seen the depths of depravity some people will go just to get a meet, you will see worse.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Hide your profile, start with draconian filters and lurk until you've got your head round the whole thing. Never feel bad for saying no and block those who try and guilt trip you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't eat before sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not send women rude messages, copy and paste/ generic messages. And do not be an all round general arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk talk and then talk some more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set your limits an boundaries and stick to them. It is always better to go home from a meet or club wishing you'd done more than regretting something you've done

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Don't blame others for your lack of success on the site....

It's up to you, nobody else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never be afraid to say no!

There are lots of really nice people on here, there are also lots of sleezy wannabes, take your time in working out who is who. Go at your own pace and enjoy yourselves, its meant to be fun

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

To single guys specifically?

Put some effort in to your approach, appearance and demeanour! Just because this isn't dating doesn't mean you're owed anything.

In general?

Be easygoing, it's all for fun ultimately

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Be patient and partake in the forums. Being polite and getting to know people and be non pushy.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Baby steps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect to actually get sex here it's a myth and always believe everything I say these dummies no nothing

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