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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Alright....? Got a question primarily aimed at the ladies... I am a gent who adores giving fems oral, and in past experiences Ive found a small toy a very good addition to play sessions, (slipped completely inside, usually on to steady vibrate, say about half power) used simultaneously during a lapping session. I have found past partners to get heavenly, intense and fulfilling orgasms this way.

Thing is whilst chatting on here to a potentially new playmate, I have made this suggestion to her and she has never tried it. Could anyone try and convince her just how enjoyable it is...? She will look at this thread. Thanks, Jason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone has their own thoughts on toys and what they would like and wouldn't

no-one can convince her to try its HER choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I agree, what one woman likes, another will hate, its as simple as that. Youve approached with the suggestion, if she didnt seem over enthused about it then accept its not for her and offer alternatives she does find sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would hate to be told i WILL like this and I will like that as usually its a instant turn off for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

FFS no-one is ordering her to do anything, its summat I merely suggested, she says she is in 2 minds. I just wanted to know if any of the ladies enjoyed it, thats all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

leave it to her mind x

if she decides its for her im sure she will mention it x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i agree with what others have said . if its not something she wants to do then doesnt matter if other people rave about it . its her choice ! i doubt shell be very happy being pressed via a thread to try something .how would ypou feel if she wanted to take you from beind with a huge dildo and posted a thread try to talk u in to it? after all theres tonnes of guys who swear how intense they cum from it !! if it aint for you its NOI for you . you put the idea to her ,shes not interested it should be let as such . if she wants to try in future im sure shell broach subject again with you .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How would I feel...? Id absolutely love it..!!! There you go I have answered you honestly

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

but what if you werent enthused??? i was making a point that everyone has different loves and hates .just because you wanna do it and other women have enjoyed it ,its not going to be everywomans cup of tea and certainly shouldnt be pressured in toi trying something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS no-one is ordering her to do anything, its summat I merely suggested, she says she is in 2 minds. I just wanted to know if any of the ladies enjoyed it, thats all..."

Ah my dear sir...

You broach a sensitive subject, and receive the opinion of the fairer sex... To which you commence your primary response with "Ffs"... Keep that up and you wont convince your lady to try Chocolate...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well cheers everyone for the advice. She is curious, and how do you know that youre going to like something unless you try it...? I was hoping for people to share their good experiences, but my OP doesnt seem to come across that way.....

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yep its that word"convince " that worried me too. maybe its just me but if i had to CONVINCE someone to do something then id not want to do it with them !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yep its that word"convince " that worried me too. maybe its just me but if i had to CONVINCE someone to do something then id not want to do it with them !

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OK, point taken. Maybe not an ideal choice of words.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

as people have said ,you put it to her if she wants to try it then im sure shell not be shy in letting you know .the balls in her court so just leave it .

the issue i found with thread is where you wanted people to post on here telling her how fantastic it will be ...way to put pressure on her !!! you said that shes a potential partner ..well if i was her and a guy was posting here to get people to talk me into trying something id be far from happy and hed go from potential to history ! comes across as controling .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

years ago i was convinced into trying something and i hated it

so now i go with my gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't take much for threads to be taken out of context here!

In my opinion in a round about way, the OP simply meant...has anyone tried and enjoyed it? and if so can we tell his potential playmate of our experience...so my answer to that is, no, I haven't tried it, but as I like toys and oral would not have a problem doing so....and yes, I think it would be enjoyable....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly some men are one trick ponies: you can spot them their profile contains their sexual repertoire and that is what they want to do with EVERY woman, unable to recognise we all have different tastes.

Sexual exploration is fun. If, however, something is suggested and one party says "no" why is that difficult to understand.

Women post about the creepy men they've met on site, men who've hit them on a meet etc. I'm NOT for one moment saying the OP would, but I would not contemplate meeting someone who obviously can't take no for an answer.

To start a thread to get other women to convince me and get aggressive with the women who don't agree. Oh yeah, I'd want to meet someone who appears volatile...not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I misinterpreted the thread too, I read it as you've tried this with other women, they all loved it, you want to try it with this lady, she wasnt sure, so you posted in here in an attempt to get all of us ladies to enthuse about how great it is so that she will change her mind. The word convince put me off too.

If its something you want to try then you've suggested it to her, end of. I have to admit if I was the lady in question and you said to me, well all the other women ive been with loved it, and I posted on the forum about it and all the other women on Fab loved it, then id be inclined to say, move on then and go and meet all the other women in Fab, Im my own person, Ill do what I like - just my twopenneth.

Admittedly though, things can come across very differently with the typed word and misinterpreted. Im sure you didnt intend for it to come across like it did, but that is how I interpreted it. Dont worry about what may or may not happen on the meet, if you both get on then just go with the flow and have fun, you dont have to do what youve previously done with others, try something new maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I misinterpreted the thread too, I read it as you've tried this with other women, they all loved it, you want to try it with this lady, she wasnt sure, so you posted in here in an attempt to get all of us ladies to enthuse about how great it is so that she will change her mind. The word convince put me off too.

If its something you want to try then you've suggested it to her, end of. I have to admit if I was the lady in question and you said to me, well all the other women ive been with loved it, and I posted on the forum about it and all the other women on Fab loved it, then id be inclined to say, move on then and go and meet all the other women in Fab, Im my own person, Ill do what I like - just my twopenneth.

Admittedly though, things can come across very differently with the typed word and misinterpreted. Im sure you didnt intend for it to come across like it did, but that is how I interpreted it. Dont worry about what may or may not happen on the meet, if you both get on then just go with the flow and have fun, you dont have to do what youve previously done with others, try something new maybe "

100% agree with this: even down to misinterpreting OP.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Doesn't take much for threads to be taken out of context here!

In my opinion in a round about way, the OP simply meant...has anyone tried and enjoyed it? and if so can we tell his potential playmate of our experience...so my answer to that is, no, I haven't tried it, but as I like toys and oral would not have a problem doing so....and yes, I think it would be enjoyable...."

whats to be taken out of context !! the op said hes already put it to the women and shes in two minds ,now hes posting asking for people to convince her how good it is !!! ohh please !!!!! if thats not trying to presurre i dont know what is !! hes put the idea out there ,shes not bitten so not interested in it atand thats where it should be left!

had op wanted to just get feed back if others enjoy it then he would of just said hes trys this does anyone else enjoy too? that was not case ,the post was geared to get this woman to try something shes clearly not that bothered with or too sure of . the op said himself convince was poor choice of word ..how telling is it that he did use that exact word though .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blimey....! I never intended to start World War III.... I must say that I am a very passive individual and would never intentionally hurt or pressurise anyone in any way, shape or form. Hope this clears a few pointers up. Jason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey....! I never intended to start World War III.... I must say that I am a very passive individual and would never intentionally hurt or pressurise anyone in any way, shape or form. Hope this clears a few pointers up. Jason "

Well I think I know what you were getting at and like I said in my reply to your message, threads on here get taken out of context very easily, some people are just looking for an argument!....only my opinion of course!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Make love, not war I say.

Im just craving to eat some flange lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well I think I know what you were getting at and like I said in my reply to your message, threads on here get taken out of context very easily, some people are just looking for an argument!....only my opinion of course! "

And far be it for us to try to convince you otherwise...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well I think I know what you were getting at and like I said in my reply to your message, threads on here get taken out of context very easily, some people are just looking for an argument!....only my opinion of course!

And far be it for us to try to convince you otherwise... "

Oh, I can be convinced... lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well I think I know what you were getting at and like I said in my reply to your message, threads on here get taken out of context very easily, some people are just looking for an argument!....only my opinion of course!

And far be it for us to try to convince you otherwise...

Oh, I can be convinced... lol..."

INBOUND!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh for god's sake give the poor lad a break, this is a swinging site not match.com. If ya get that offened by the suggestion of using a toy then maybe ya shouldn't be on a sex site lol

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

people have the right though to choose if they wish to try something or not.be it a different postion or a toy or role play ect . the woman doesnt wish at this time to try something ,in my opinion that should be respected, and it may well change in the future.

if the op mearly wished to see if others enjoyed this type of foreplay then he would of just typed that .why even mention he has a potential playmates whos not tried it ?AND that she was going to read thread .thats irrelivent if he just curious who enjoys the foreplay .

then through out thread theres things with ops replies that again conflict with the calm it was mearly seeing who enjoyed that type of play .

when he gets replies the first reaction was "ffs!!!" not a calm "i can see how thats been misread " or such like .

the icing on the cake for me was the op actually stating the womens in two minds but quote ...."well how do you know if you like something till you tried it ". i think that says it all about ops actually outlook !im sorry you can try and colour this anyway you wish but EVERY sense i have is telling me thats someone who pushes and convince was exactly what he ment .

this is just my view though and id be more than happy to be wrong but personally id go with my gut instincts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was my gut instinct as well, that it was something he was trying to convince the lady to try and she was just being polite and saying maybe.

In my opinion though, if I was a single lady, unattached, but swinging, I would meet a guy with the intention of having great sex with him, him solely turning me on. I wouldnt want to be using a sex toy as why bother leaving home, I could do that any day of the week, I want something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I cant just come with tongue need a bit of finger stimulation too and toys well they just make me flood so bring it on.

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