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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist

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By *angersgaloreCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire/Warwickshire border

Some people put that they are not racist but it is just a personal preference, same as shaved or trimmed only I guess. Saves any awkwardness, best to be honest.

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess so just wanted people's opinions

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By *ickyandMallory1984Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

Everyone has there own prefrence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its your profile, your choice, that's the whole idea so you can meet people your attracted to.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with many things; it's not what you say but how you say it and the meaning behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing we will all get the hint after this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather than putting "no black/Asian" etc why not specify what you are looking for. It sounds much more positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather than putting "no black/Asian" etc why not specify what you are looking for. It sounds much more positive."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist"

1. Wrong - no

2. Racist - no

2.a. Racist - yes to those who see racism in the word black. Even if you are talking about a car

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

As I said on your other thread. Put it, plenty of others do....and if you don't intend it to be racist it isn't ....right?

Or you could simply block anyone who isn't to your taste when they message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that it makes a difference as it means the same but I just think putting looking for Caucasian's only just sounds better

As said above sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it and to me putting what you are looking for looks better than what your not

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself."

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I have said this on numerous threads. It depends on how it is said. We don't exclude any race though, as I couldn't be sure that I would find every individual of any given race unattractive as its a very blanket statement. When I was meeting men alone and stated that I was only looking for black men, I was often called racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all just personal preference nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just put - only looking for white guys .

Simple

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Maybe put "I am looking for men, who when I see their face pic, I find attractive"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm guessing we will all get the hint after this post"

Does putting 'I will do blacks and Asians' help me get the meets I want? I haven't bothered yet but it does make me think.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Rather than putting "no black/Asian" etc why not specify what you are looking for. It sounds much more positive."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will always get people who feel the need to criticise what you've written.

I've had some terrible abuse, and now have written that I will not meet 'non-caucasian' men, as a result.

If you put, 'no black or asian', you get people saying, 'I'm not, I'm Portuguese, Mediterranean, Egyptian, Middle Eastern,' etc. You can't win.

Keep it simple and as inoffensive as possible and ignore the nastiness.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I haven't put a preference as there are some really good looking black and Asian men.

But they are in short supply on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think the answers has been good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't put a preference as there are some really good looking black and Asian men.

But they are in short supply on here "

Not where I live.

OP if you only want to meet white European or British people put it on your profile. It may lessen the need to keep refusing. Or you could block all couples and search using the ethnicity search function.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?"

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to meet a certain group of people, why do you care what they think of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?"

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc."

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?"

What makes me ask if it's possible to find an entire race unattractive do you mean? For me personally it isn't possible to find an entire race unattractive physically or personally for that matter but I asked if it was possible because it might be for some.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc."

Well dating is socialising and being seen in public or it was when I was doing it. My first husband was Asian and I'm sorry to say that the attitude you describe was prevalent then and it would seem still is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?

What makes me ask if it's possible to find an entire race unattractive do you mean? For me personally it isn't possible to find an entire race unattractive physically or personally for that matter but I asked if it was possible because it might be for some."

I've not come across anyone that says they find an entire race unattractive. I guess there could be though.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've met some black and Asian guys so gorgeous they've taken my breath away. Nothing to do with their skin colour - they just were lucky in the looks department (and another department, but that's a whole other story). I am happy to take up peoples slack if they don't want to meet them. Mmmmm...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?

What makes me ask if it's possible to find an entire race unattractive do you mean? For me personally it isn't possible to find an entire race unattractive physically or personally for that matter but I asked if it was possible because it might be for some.

I've not come across anyone that says they find an entire race unattractive. I guess there could be though."

I guess I'm assuming that stating it's a personal preference not to meet a certain race implies no attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?

What makes me ask if it's possible to find an entire race unattractive do you mean? For me personally it isn't possible to find an entire race unattractive physically or personally for that matter but I asked if it was possible because it might be for some.

I've not come across anyone that says they find an entire race unattractive. I guess there could be though.

I guess I'm assuming that stating it's a personal preference not to meet a certain race implies no attraction."

I could have on my profile that i don't want to meet white guys. That is a completely wrong assumption that i don't find white guys attractive. I'm just not interested in meeting them on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

For me being someone that is only looking for black guys it isn't the same as saying "i find all black guys attractive" or even that "i find all others unattractive". What makes you think that?

What makes me ask if it's possible to find an entire race unattractive do you mean? For me personally it isn't possible to find an entire race unattractive physically or personally for that matter but I asked if it was possible because it might be for some.

I've not come across anyone that says they find an entire race unattractive. I guess there could be though.

I guess I'm assuming that stating it's a personal preference not to meet a certain race implies no attraction.

I could have on my profile that i don't want to meet white guys. That is a completely wrong assumption that i don't find white guys attractive. I'm just not interested in meeting them on here."

You're right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its ok op, everyone is doing it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird)."

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?"

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you dont have to explain yourself - just say no thanks not for us -

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so."

This. Thanks.

Saying 'Mexicans are creepy' is discriminatory. Saying a certain person gives you the creeps is not.

PS Mexicans aren't a race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so."

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"

No it's racist that's just a personal preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why."

Yes of course that is what racism is mostly based on

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why."

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why."

What is your definition of racism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory. "

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc."

So it's ok for me to say i hate you because you're white??

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc."

You need to look up the definitions of words sometime. Unless you think abuse can only be shown physically or violently of course, then carry on the way you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc.

So it's ok for me to say i hate you because you're white?? "
Well that would be your own personal preference and I can't change that. As long as you weren't actively trying to hurt or slander me then yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many profiles have BBC only so I don't see why you can't look for white only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc.

You need to look up the definitions of words sometime. Unless you think abuse can only be shown physically or violently of course, then carry on the way you are."

I was saying that I have any feelings of discomfort towards any race just think we've tried to find a definition between two lines here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No jammezz. You don't understand what racism is. Look it up.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?

Racism is believing that all members of a race are the same and treating them differently because of it. Being open about it or not having a particular reason doesn't make it less so.

I meant if they don't have a reason for disliking them. Just a natural they don't like *insert race* and they don't know particularly why.

If someone has had a bad experience with someone of a certain nationality or race and chooses not to meet others then that's fine by me. I'd think it was weird but wouldn't press it. But a blanket statement along the lines of '[a certain race] is creepy' is racist or discriminatory.

Fair enough. I personally wouldn't have deemed that racist unless they acted on their discomfort with violence or name calling etc.

You need to look up the definitions of words sometime. Unless you think abuse can only be shown physically or violently of course, then carry on the way you are.

I was saying that I have any feelings of discomfort towards any race just think we've tried to find a definition between two lines here."

I think you've been given a couple of decent definitions tonight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No jammezz. You don't understand what racism is. Look it up."

I'll happily change my thoughts if you can connect these.

From google: racist, a person who believes that a particular race is superior to another.

Statement: Natasha feels uncomfortable in the company of Israeli people.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"No jammezz. You don't understand what racism is. Look it up.

I'll happily change my thoughts if you can connect these.

From google: racist, a person who believes that a particular race is superior to another.

Statement: Natasha feels uncomfortable in the company of Israeli people.

"

You have to quote all the definitions if you're going to Google:

Racist - noun

1. an act or instance of discriminating, or of making a distinction.

2. treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favour of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit:

racial and religious intolerance and discrimination.

3. the power of making fine distinctions; discriminating judgment:

She chose the colours with great discrimination.

4. Archaic. something that serves to differentiate.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

PS Read no 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS Read no 2"

Ok i'll accept that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of messages go unanswered, don't specify just don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS Read no 2

Ok i'll accept that."

Hallelujah! Thanks Wyrde for pointing him in the right direction....i would have but i was too busy eating chocolate

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"PS Read no 2

Ok i'll accept that.

Hallelujah! Thanks Wyrde for pointing him in the right direction....i would have but i was too busy eating chocolate "

I'd rather be eating chocolate

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"I've met some black and Asian guys so gorgeous they've taken my breath away. Nothing to do with their skin colour - they just were lucky in the looks department (and another department, but that's a whole other story). I am happy to take up peoples slack if they don't want to meet them. Mmmmm..."

Me too!!

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Although I totally understand how you maybe drawn to a certain physical type

(I know I am), it does seem a bit narrow minded and prejudiced to write off a whole group of people based on skin colour. I certainly wouldn't meet a couple who had that on their profile as I'd assume ( rightly or wrongly ) that they were closed minded people and we wouldn't get on.

Think, as other pp have said, there are more positive ways of attracting the sort of people you want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I totally understand how you maybe drawn to a certain physical type

(I know I am), it does seem a bit narrow minded and prejudiced to write off a whole group of people based on skin colour. I certainly wouldn't meet a couple who had that on their profile as I'd assume ( rightly or wrongly ) that they were closed minded people and we wouldn't get on.

Think, as other pp have said, there are more positive ways of attracting the sort of people you want to meet. "

Don't forget that just because a profile specifies a particular interest that doesn't necessarily reflect real life....

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Of course. I don't personally but there are specific women and men I have seen numerous times that they can't date/shag asians because they creep them out or it just seems wrong etc.

I'm sorry but saying 'so and so creeps me out because he is Asian' is a whole new level. That is racist. Not finding them attractive isn't (although personally I think that's weird).

Would you really classify that as racist? Let's just pick a race at random say mexican men. Is a woman saying "they make me feel uncomfortable to be near" racist if she doesn't hate them for a particular reason and she's open about it?"

In a word - YES

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

Just a preference

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Meet who you want.

Is it sexist that I find men unappealing.

Is it prejudice that I find certain sizes are just not sexy.

That red heads never appeal.

People are free to say black cock only, your free to say white cock or white pussy only.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I've had amazing lovers from all ethnicities and walks of life. Never say never, OP...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"

I don't think it's racist if you genuinely dislike darker skin tones or other features.

I *do* think it's racist if you dismiss all black or other ethnic minorities because of a preconceived stereotype, or for some political stance you hold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many profiles have BBC only so I don't see why you can't look for white only."

I would say that's problematic too, because it's reducing a person to the level of a commodity based on a preconceived notion about that race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"

Please put this on your profile in big bold letters and block all black/Asian people who message you. It will save everyone time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not racist at all. It's your personal preference. End of story.

It's the same when women put on their profile that they are only interested in 9"+ cocks.

I therefore don't bother messaging nor does it offend me.

It's their preference at the end of the day and should be respected for it

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I'm asian. And I'm not offended if a girl writes no Asians. Simply a preference. I may be gutted that I can't play with that girl as a lot of girls write it. But never offended

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I'm guessing we will all get the hint after this post"
LOL I was just thinkung na don't bother putting it on your profile but do indeed post it on an open forum hahaha

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Many profiles have BBC only so I don't see why you can't look for white only.

I would say that's problematic too, because it's reducing a person to the level of a commodity based on a preconceived notion about that race.

"
Not true I am white and have BBC I also have sky sports sky news UTV and many many other channels

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"

Its your profile your body and your choice of who you meet .so best to be honest in your profile to save people wasting a message that will fall on deaf ears .

That's my opinion on it as for those who take it the wrong way block away .

Having said that as a couple or single woman in this world you have the balance of the power the best use of that power is to be proactive and be the one making the first move by messaging guys or couples that catch your eye .

But that's good advice for any situation in life where the power to succeed is in your hands take control and make it happen instead of waiting for it to happen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please note that my/our sexual preferences are Caucasians only. No offence intended."

Be warned that not everybody reads profiles though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, put what you want on your profile. People might assume from it that you might hold racist views but why would you care?

I share nicecouple's curiosity about how you can find a whole race unattractive. I think it is one of the downsides of the 'tick option' approach to sites like fab. I liken it to pre Sat Nav days where you sometimes get lost and discover a nice pub you never knew existed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter if it's racist. Fuck people you want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, put what you want on your profile. People might assume from it that you might hold racist views but why would you care?

I share nicecouple's curiosity about how you can find a whole race unattractive. I think it is one of the downsides of the 'tick option' approach to sites like fab. I liken it to pre Sat Nav days where you sometimes get lost and discover a nice pub you never knew existed.

"

As i said further up, the op never said they find entire races unattractive, it might just not be what they are looking for on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say it's your preference. No different to people who prefer blondes

Plenty don't read profiles though but still worth including

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"
you will obviously offend black and Asian people as white guys are offended when BBC only is put on profile but you can't please all of the people all of the time ,sex is about intimacy some more intimate than others ,when you are up close and personal you need to be attracted in every way except obviously if you're in a dark public room in a F&G emporium then you probably don't even know who fucked you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, put what you want on your profile. People might assume from it that you might hold racist views but why would you care?

I share nicecouple's curiosity about how you can find a whole race unattractive. I think it is one of the downsides of the 'tick option' approach to sites like fab. I liken it to pre Sat Nav days where you sometimes get lost and discover a nice pub you never knew existed.

As i said further up, the op never said they find entire races unattractive, it might just not be what they are looking for on here. "

People's usual preference is based on what they find attractive, I appreciate it might not be the case for you.

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By *uper_gMan
over a year ago

london

correct me if im wrong but isnt any type of discrimination just as bad as saying no black/asain etc. If you cant help your appearance or your situation and it isnt to someones taste then it is what it it. At the end of the day they are all words to discribe your preference nothing deeper then that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

"

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

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By *eally Filthy CoupleCouple
over a year ago

bristol

To be honest it almost doesn't matter what preference you state because no one takes any notice and you still get them contacting you. If we had a fiver for every average dicked guy who has contacted us despite clearly stating we want 9" plus we would be rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest it almost doesn't matter what preference you state because no one takes any notice and you still get them contacting you. If we had a fiver for every average dicked guy who has contacted us despite clearly stating we want 9" plus we would be rich "
well you are limiting your options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for some it is yes. Just as some would never be attracted to short, tall, blonde, brunette etc..... With some people it's actual a fetish that a person looks a certain way which is dependant on the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?"

I think for some it is yes. Just as some would never be attracted to short, tall, blonde, brunette etc..... With some people it's actual a fetish that a person looks a certain way which is dependant on the individual.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I meet people I don't judge them by what race, colour or creed. I judge them as individuals with their own personality and attractiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women. "

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people I don't judge them by what race, colour or creed. I judge them as individuals with their own personality and attractiveness."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now. "

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people I don't judge them by what race, colour or creed. I judge them as individuals with their own personality and attractiveness."

As do I. I just quite fancy exploring attractive black guys at the moment.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

It,s up to you who you meet but those who think its racist are the racist ones and the do gooders and the P C BRIGADE on the site picking every thing up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive? "

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

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By *pudcanMan
over a year ago

northwich

It's not racist just your preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

"

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption."

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think for some it is yes. Just as some would never be attracted to short, tall, blonde, brunette etc..... With some people it's actual a fetish that a person looks a certain way which is dependant on the individual. "
yes but don't you think a written perception is changed by a physical interaction ,the profile words are just a thoughtless limitation ,people have fads based on popular cool ,it's cool to have a tatt ,it's cool to have a beard,it's cool to have a bald head ,it's cool to be bi ,it's cool to smoke etc people are like sheep they follow a leader and here if you're not cool you're not popular ,if you state things on your profile you will offend but they are just words that you are completely unaccountable for because you are faceless behind them ,doesn't make you a bad person just makes you thoughtless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up."

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win "

Yes, you win at giving me the 'banging head against a brick wall' feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win "
you havnt won I always win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win "

That's bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks "
I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay "

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Whilst someone may not be attracted to whoever for whatever reason, I prefer not to write off an entire group of people. I'd rather judge someone as an individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst someone may not be attracted to whoever for whatever reason, I prefer not to write off an entire group of people. I'd rather judge someone as an individual. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst someone may not be attracted to whoever for whatever reason, I prefer not to write off an entire group of people. I'd rather judge someone as an individual. "

Yet you are prepared to write off all over 60s? We all make our selections against certain criteria. We have to otherwise there are a hell of a lot of profiles to search through.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here "

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption."

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I "

Once words have left our mouth or have been committed to the page we have no control over how they're interpreted. I like that, it makes life interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I "

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive. "

It came from the post I was quoting, I interpreted "not wanting to have sex with a certain race" as finding the entire race unattractive. Now that might be a misinterpretation but it's one explanation for writing off an entire race as sexual partners. It why I asked rather than made a statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive. "
can I just say that it's what she didn't say in that paragraph that should be analysed and why do Americans spell that word with a Z we taught them how to spell for Christ sake

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"OP, put what you want on your profile. People might assume from it that you might hold racist views but why would you care?

I share nicecouple's curiosity about how you can find a whole race unattractive. I think it is one of the downsides of the 'tick option' approach to sites like fab. I liken it to pre Sat Nav days where you sometimes get lost and discover a nice pub you never knew existed.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Just been reading through this post.

What a load of bollocks is being written in here .

Jesus christ most of this world is about a fantasy fuck if your fantasy fuck isn't black or Asian your not going to be interested if it does involve black or Asian your going to be interested .

Its that bloody simple there's not hidden agenda at work its bloody about fantasy fulfilment .so people are going to look for what's in their fantasy now that's most likely going to involve a certain look and type of person .

That's all that's at play in an profile that describes what their looking for .

I'm looking for a sub for example does that mean I have prejudice against woman who are not subs because I don't want to meet someone who doesn't have sub tendencies .No

What about this my fantasy sub is let's say for argument sake blond blue eyes and petite does that maker me a racist because in my fantasy my subs not a black woman of coarse not I'm looking to fulfil a fantasy that's all that's at play .

The same with profiles that state big black cock or white tattoo shaven headed six foot muscle bound hunk .

Take about making something out of nothing that's how I feel about a lot of what's written in this post .

Something being make out of nothing its about a fantasy fuck nothing more nothing less in my opinion .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive.

It came from the post I was quoting, I interpreted "not wanting to have sex with a certain race" as finding the entire race unattractive. Now that might be a misinterpretation but it's one explanation for writing off an entire race as sexual partners. It why I asked rather than made a statement. "

So it was an assumption based on your interpretation then? I obviously can't speak for everyone that has a racial preference only give my thoughts behind my own reasons however we may never know the ops reasons for their preference so you may be right that they do find an entire group of people unattractive based on their race. But without their input it is still only an assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference we'd have thought!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great I had last word so I won but bottom line is as soon as we mentioned ethnic origin as a way of limiting messages coz after all that's what it is ,we created a situation where people could be offended just to limit your messages,was it worth it one asks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great I had last word so I won but bottom line is as soon as we mentioned ethnic origin as a way of limiting messages coz after all that's what it is ,we created a situation where people could be offended just to limit your messages,was it worth it one asks x "

For the odd message i get (and I'm talking 2 that have been offended in 3 years) Yes it's worth it. Plus i believe it has considerably cut down on the amount of unnecessary messages. My mail box is never inundated. So yes. It works brilliantly for me

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By *eally Filthy CoupleCouple
over a year ago

bristol


"To be honest it almost doesn't matter what preference you state because no one takes any notice and you still get them contacting you. If we had a fiver for every average dicked guy who has contacted us despite clearly stating we want 9" plus we would be rich well you are limiting your options "

Your the perfect example of what I am saying !!!! Having clearly not made the criteria you will still seem compelled to get in touch for some lemming like reason!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive.

It came from the post I was quoting, I interpreted "not wanting to have sex with a certain race" as finding the entire race unattractive. Now that might be a misinterpretation but it's one explanation for writing off an entire race as sexual partners. It why I asked rather than made a statement.

So it was an assumption based on your interpretation then? I obviously can't speak for everyone that has a racial preference only give my thoughts behind my own reasons however we may never know the ops reasons for their preference so you may be right that they do find an entire group of people unattractive based on their race. But without their input it is still only an assumption. "

Scarlet I'm making no assumption about the op I was asking a question based on what somebody else said, any assumption I made was about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive.

It came from the post I was quoting, I interpreted "not wanting to have sex with a certain race" as finding the entire race unattractive. Now that might be a misinterpretation but it's one explanation for writing off an entire race as sexual partners. It why I asked rather than made a statement.

So it was an assumption based on your interpretation then? I obviously can't speak for everyone that has a racial preference only give my thoughts behind my own reasons however we may never know the ops reasons for their preference so you may be right that they do find an entire group of people unattractive based on their race. But without their input it is still only an assumption.

Scarlet I'm making no assumption about the op I was asking a question based on what somebody else said, any assumption I made was about that. "

Ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a difference between not wanting to see a certain race for "sex" and not wanting to meet/see a race in "public" or "socialising". One is racist and the other is a preference for yourself.

I understand what you're saying but is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?

Put that way then, I must find an entire gender unattractive because I am not looking for women.

I think you are now arguing that black is white now.

Why is that assumption any more ridiculous than the assumption that because i don't want to meet white guys i must therefore find them unattractive?

I think you are being defensive which might be getting in the way of reading posts objectively. The original assumption was made in relation to someone not in your situation - she is not married to a black or Asian guy and then wanting to put no black or Asian on their profile. You can then make the assumption that she does not find them attractive. Your husband is white, you are only looking for black guys. It would be erroneous to assume from your context that you find white guys unattractive.

Stop taking it personally.

I'm not taking it personally at all, just using myself as an example to illustrate a point that you are merely making assumptions that have no basis on actual fact. Like many do on here. I'm just challenging that assumption.

Your context is different to the OP's so using yourself as an example to challenge an assumption made about the OP is not a valid comparison, especially when it was more of a question than assumption and it was in no way critical. My head hurts, I give up.

But the op never said they find all black and Asian people unattractive. You give up already? Yay that means i win you havnt won I always win

That's bollocks I have them you don't I win ,yaaaaaaaay

But i have a pussy. ...i think you'll find that trumps bollocks on here

Can I say as the person who made the "is it possible to find an entire race unattractive?" That is was a question not an assumption.

That is how I read it, but then I wasn't being defensive and taking it personally........sorry I did say I had given up didn't I

I don't think there is anything defensive in my posts. I just wonder where the question came from as the op didn't mention anything about finding an entire race unattractive.

It came from the post I was quoting, I interpreted "not wanting to have sex with a certain race" as finding the entire race unattractive. Now that might be a misinterpretation but it's one explanation for writing off an entire race as sexual partners. It why I asked rather than made a statement.

So it was an assumption based on your interpretation then? I obviously can't speak for everyone that has a racial preference only give my thoughts behind my own reasons however we may never know the ops reasons for their preference so you may be right that they do find an entire group of people unattractive based on their race. But without their input it is still only an assumption.

Scarlet I'm making no assumption about the op I was asking a question based on what somebody else said, any assumption I made was about that.

Ok "

Wait a minute, why didn't she get the head banging treatment?

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester

Well if it's racist then so must profiles that say only BBC wanted so I don't class either as racist just your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if you dont explore sex openly with every race that you will never know what u fully like...... ive had sex with white, black, asian, latin and european women......and i love having sex with latin women.....but i never would have known unless i experienced sex with multiple races........EROTICISM doesnt have a color but pure sexual fullfillment!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"What it is I wanted to ask .....is it wrong to put in your profile not interested in blacks or Asian or is that classed as racist as I don't like ignoring people but also don't want to say to every black or Asian couple Sorry we are not interested was going to put it on profile but didn't want it to sound racist"

Putting it on your profile could put other people off contacting you, as they may perceive you as racist. It has been mentioned on here before that some people wouldn't meet someone who put this on their profile.

On the other hand, if you get plenty of messages, you may not care. It is your profile after all.

Cal x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

So when is the next time we can expect to see this pop up again.

I'm betting 14 days.

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By *avonte BrownMan
over a year ago

LONDON

This way everyone will be happy... and it looks better... and Just to add I don't see any problem with you putting your preference...

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