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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No idea how but a link on google took me to this website, so being curious i typed in 'swinging' in their search box... Christ i have never read such biggoted drivel in all my life. It would appear that if you post in a forum on mumsnet that involves anything to do with sex,that the amount of times you have had sex shouldm directly correlate with the amount of children you have... Having sex for fun is obviously not the done thing on mumsnet. And god forbid you should involve a third person.....Or is it just me.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn't the norm.... So many won't even realise that it's out there x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Many people talk like that publicly and behave differently in private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Many people talk like that publicly and behave differently in private."
have to say i did wonder how many were just putting up a front but were secretly intrigued

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging isn't the norm.... So many won't even realise that it's out there x "
it may not be the norm but it seems being outside the norm as far as sex is concerned on mumsnet makes you a social pariah.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Many people talk like that publicly and behave differently in private.have to say i did wonder how many were just putting up a front but were secretly intrigued"

Loads of people put up a front I often wonder who it is who watches all the porn and buys all the vibrators because nobody ever admits to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Many people talk like that publicly and behave differently in private.have to say i did wonder how many were just putting up a front but were secretly intrigued

Loads of people put up a front I often wonder who it is who watches all the porn and buys all the vibrators because nobody ever admits to it. "
we do lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Many people talk like that publicly and behave differently in private.have to say i did wonder how many were just putting up a front but were secretly intrigued

Loads of people put up a front I often wonder who it is who watches all the porn and buys all the vibrators because nobody ever admits to it. we do lol"

I wouldn't admit it to my friends, their reaction to some of the things I do admit to are enough to put me off that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gawd even the word Mumsnet makes me want to do this

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them."

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

MumsNet/NetMums is evil. Truly full of helicopter mombies

Horrid place.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them."

Yes I agree but I read the op as people on that site saying anything but sex for procreation is wrong. I know people like that who talk about sex as if it's wrong.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

That website/social forum is pretty hideous on every topic.

Search porn in there. Many women talking about how they caught their other half watching porn and they've demanded therapy for them etc.

There used to be a few blogs highlighting the worst of mumsnet. Quite entertaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels "

I keep a glass of my piss by the side of the bed for him to do that .... and by my side, a glass of his piss, so I can wash my mouth out after his cock has been in it ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them."
its not so much the ignorance towards swinging, it was more the fact that a lot of the comments made were that it was tantamount to having an affair, or that it was disgusting to even think about having sex with other people. It just made me think that 99.9% of the mums on mumsnet, wear long flannel nighties, think foreplay is a peck on the cheek goodnight, and that sex is thw work of the devil, unless it is to create a child, in which case it should take no longer than a minute and should be done in complete darkness

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them.its not so much the ignorance towards swinging, it was more the fact that a lot of the comments made were that it was tantamount to having an affair, or that it was disgusting to even think about having sex with other people. It just made me think that 99.9% of the mums on mumsnet, wear long flannel nighties, think foreplay is a peck on the cheek goodnight, and that sex is thw work of the devil, unless it is to create a child, in which case it should take no longer than a minute and should be done in complete darkness"

To be honest, I also think its tantamount to having an affair ... but I don't wear the nightie, he does ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that the amount of times you have had sex shouldm directly correlate with the amount of children you have..."
That's right, that would off be a high count in barebacking lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them.its not so much the ignorance towards swinging, it was more the fact that a lot of the comments made were that it was tantamount to having an affair, or that it was disgusting to even think about having sex with other people. It just made me think that 99.9% of the mums on mumsnet, wear long flannel nighties, think foreplay is a peck on the cheek goodnight, and that sex is thw work of the devil, unless it is to create a child, in which case it should take no longer than a minute and should be done in complete darkness

To be honest, I also think its tantamount to having an affair ... but I don't wear the nightie, he does ..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's stupid, tbh. Want to go screw around and cheat? Go do it. But don't say it's somehow enlightening your relationship. Just call it what it is: screwing around.

Not saying this in a judgemental way"

Just a quick quote from that site

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


""I think it's stupid, tbh. Want to go screw around and cheat? Go do it. But don't say it's somehow enlightening your relationship. Just call it what it is: screwing around.

Not saying this in a judgemental way"

Just a quick quote from that site "

It is that though, isn't it .... I am not sure its about enlightening anyone's relationship, is it? Maybe we should all post on mumsnet ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading through a thread on there, apparently we're all dirty feckers, swapping bodily Fluids and how can we watch our other halves shagging other people in case they run off with them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There used to be a regular guy on here a few years ago he went on mumsnet asking for a fuckbuddy he only just lived to tell the tale

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up with that website Years ago!!! My god that forum was utter hate to anyone that dared to answer back or have a different view on anything!! Give me a swinging forum any day!! Much nicer bunch of people!!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"No idea how but a link on google took me to this website, so being curious i typed in 'swinging' in their search box... Christ i have never read such biggoted drivel in all my life. It would appear that if you post in a forum on mumsnet that involves anything to do with sex,that the amount of times you have had sex shouldm directly correlate with the amount of children you have... Having sex for fun is obviously not the done thing on mumsnet. And god forbid you should involve a third person.....Or is it just me......."

You should probably try MilfsNet instead. Though if I'm honest their advice on potty training was crap

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave up with that website Years ago!!! My god that forum was utter hate to anyone that dared to answer back or have a different view on anything!! Give me a swinging forum any day!! Much nicer bunch of people!!"

I dared to ask what formula milk people used once.....

Never logged on again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave up with that website Years ago!!! My god that forum was utter hate to anyone that dared to answer back or have a different view on anything!! Give me a swinging forum any day!! Much nicer bunch of people!!

I dared to ask what formula milk people used once.....

Never logged on again!"

I'm surprised you lived to tell the tale!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave up with that website Years ago!!! My god that forum was utter hate to anyone that dared to answer back or have a different view on anything!! Give me a swinging forum any day!! Much nicer bunch of people!!

I dared to ask what formula milk people used once.....

Never logged on again!"

Maybe they reacted to you having your bewbs out on your mumsnet avatar...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them.its not so much the ignorance towards swinging, it was more the fact that a lot of the comments made were that it was tantamount to having an affair, or that it was disgusting to even think about having sex with other people. It just made me think that 99.9% of the mums on mumsnet, wear long flannel nighties, think foreplay is a peck on the cheek goodnight, and that sex is thw work of the devil, unless it is to create a child, in which case it should take no longer than a minute and should be done in complete darkness

To be honest, I also think its tantamount to having an affair ... but I don't wear the nightie, he does ..."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them."

An excellent response, and something I've thought many a time reading certain comments. People are so wrapped up in this lifestyle that the assume anyone who doesn't fuck a different person every other night is boring/repressed/missing out, when they're not.

We "accept" here that people like different things sexually, yet some struggle to accept some people are happy, fulfilled and content in a monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you indulge in this lifestyle and swinging in general you can spend so much time convincing yourself it is the right thing, the norm or what people really should be doing that you end up convincing yourself everyone is doing it, or everyone is cheating behind their partners back or no one can actually be monogamous or to make a relationship work you have to fuck other people .... why bother trying to convince yourself or others, just get on with it and maybe also take on the opinion that swinging is not the norm or what many people need to make their relationship successful or work .... they have exactly what they want and need without the lifestyle being imposed on them."

Or maybe we just look at the studies that prove most marriages do have unfaithfulness with deceit (i.e what saves them is one side not finding out) or if that's not good enough for you then check out the divorce rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's not the place to look to satisfy our lactating fetish desire then ?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I guess it's not the place to look to satisfy our lactating fetish desire then ?

"

I wrote a blog post about 6 years ago on erotic lactation and it was found by the mumsnet lot. Let's just say, the hate mail and abusive comments I received and the discuss threads about what I had written were most unpleasant.

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By *izzy_RascalsCouple
over a year ago

Not quite over the hill

Mumsnet is renowned for having the worlds largest fleet of outrage buses. It has become a bit of a sport to register on there and post something that will raise their heckles. Users of a forces/ex-forces forum play up there regularly.

It would be interesting to hear some of their judgements on topics posted on these forums.....

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Funnily enough a lot of the topics in The Lounge are the same as those on MN, for example cat poo in gardens, spelling and grammar, refugees, Jeremy Corbyn etc.

It's now also got it's own sex topic!

Some people actually joined Fab and were very complimentary about it...

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Mumsnet is renowned for having the worlds largest fleet of outrage buses. It has become a bit of a sport to register on there and post something that will raise their heckles. Users of a forces/ex-forces forum play up there regularly.

It would be interesting to hear some of their judgements on topics posted on these forums.....

"

Maybe the mums will join Fab to wind us up

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By *imkev76Couple
over a year ago

GOSPORT


"No idea how but a link on google took me to this website, so being curious i typed in 'swinging' in their search box... Christ i have never read such biggoted drivel in all my life. It would appear that if you post in a forum on mumsnet that involves anything to do with sex,that the amount of times you have had sex shouldm directly correlate with the amount of children you have... Having sex for fun is obviously not the done thing on mumsnet. And god forbid you should involve a third person.....Or is it just me......."

I am thinking maybe my ex husband runs mums net then cause that was his philosophy, bless him! Fabulous dad but hmmmmm

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By *izzy_RascalsCouple
over a year ago

Not quite over the hill

Looking at some threads, I think they may already be hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That website/social forum is pretty hideous on every topic.

Search porn in there. Many women talking about how they caught their other half watching porn and they've demanded therapy for them etc.

"

That's fair. I'd demand therapy for my wife if she was a member of mumsnet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we should all join up and see what happens!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Aren't we all doing the same as mumsnet members though? Saying how awful it is, that the majority point of view on there is wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels "

Jesus says my pussy is the cock wash

Fatbird

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels "

What the actual fuck !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels "

So it's ok for us to find them wrong but not ok for them to find us wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels

So it's ok for us to find them wrong but not ok for them to find us wrong?"

You've got it - it's like ISIS really

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels "

The 'Penis Beaker' I believe lmao

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By *antileveredCouple
over a year ago

North London


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels

So it's ok for us to find them wrong but not ok for them to find us wrong?"

Absolutely. Also, I'm not sure I'd like to compare and contrast everything I say and do in my day life with how my partner and I speak and behave in here. Probably not hypocrisy as such, but close scrutiny might reveals some inconsistencies.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels

So it's ok for us to find them wrong but not ok for them to find us wrong?

Absolutely. Also, I'm not sure I'd like to compare and contrast everything I say and do in my day life with how my partner and I speak and behave in here. Probably not hypocrisy as such, but close scrutiny might reveals some inconsistencies. "

Yes, pretty sure it would with us too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was one post I read on that or the other one about a couple who kept a glass of water to dunk his cock in to clean after sex... wrong on so many levels

What the actual fuck !

"

Ahhhhh but maybe we should have a glass next to the bed for the old clean up after, who's the clever ones really?!

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