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"I want to meet the people I am attracted to. I do not have to give anyone a second look at all - its my choice who I meet" | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for" The site faq clearly state a delete is to be taken as a polite no thanks. I don't have the time or inclination to message everyone who "thinks" they fit the bill... Because quite often they just don't, and I have no desire to play text ping pong as they try to persuade me I'm wrong. | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for The site faq clearly state a delete is to be taken as a polite no thanks. I don't have the time or inclination to message everyone who "thinks" they fit the bill... Because quite often they just don't, and I have no desire to play text ping pong as they try to persuade me I'm wrong. " This right here. If you politely decline someone, in my experience they just beg and beg and beg. | |||
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"I'm sorry you've not had the experience you wanted on here but because there are so many more men than women on here, it's very difficult for men. However you need to realise that as women, we are constantly bombarded by messages, some vulgar, inappropriate or just not we're looking for. Someone once used a good analogy which is, if you receive a load of junk mail, do you feel obliged to answer it all, declining the offers? Of course you don't and it's the same on here. No one is obliged to answer you, and as others have also suggested, as a guy, it's good to chat on the forums, go to socials, clubs etc, create a 'presence'. Otherwise you're just a cock amongst many..." I agree. If I send a message and it gets deleted it doesn't bother me. I take it as a no thank you and I think more guys should do the same. It makes me ashamed to be a guy somtimes when I hear about how the things they message and the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex. I do understand that ladies and couples get hounded by single males (my first couple of days I did before I found the filters and even then I still get guys who are part of a couple asking me to me them on their own) Which is why I would never ask why not or be pushy. I have been talking to a couple of nice couples and hopefully meeying with them as soon as our schedules match. | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for" I dont disagree with that,in a perfect world.. Thing is some girls are inundated with messages here..can take ages just deleting the ones your not interested in let alone add the time to do replies.. You need understand that what you are suggesting adds time and stress and takes the fun out of it.. It stands to reason once a girl has ploughed through her messages and sifted out the ones she DOES want to message ,she will...Time permitting .. If i guy can`t graciously accept NOT hearing back,I would rather he didnt message . | |||
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"I know there are a lot of timewasters on here as well as fake accounts. But as a single guy who's been around the block a few times I must say some people on here have no manners. I understand that everyone likes something different but come on if you put it out there you want to meet the least you can do is reply in a respectable manner. I've been in this site a while and had the pleasure of meeting some great personalitys up and down the country. Single guys get a bad rep to easy on here So I say come on couples and single lady's give a guy a second look because it could you who's missing out on some great FUN" If they're not meeting someone that they're not interested in, they're not missing out on anything... | |||
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"I know there are a lot of timewasters on here as well as fake accounts. But as a single guy who's been around the block a few times I must say some people on here have no manners. I understand that everyone likes something different but come on if you put it out there you want to meet the least you can do is reply in a respectable manner. I've been in this site a while and had the pleasure of meeting some great personalitys up and down the country. Single guys get a bad rep to easy on here So I say come on couples and single lady's give a guy a second look because it could you who's missing out on some great FUN" Why.... we have joined this site to meet people who we wish to meet, not to give out charity fucks to people who don't meet our criteria | |||
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"I know there are a lot of timewasters on here as well as fake accounts. But as a single guy who's been around the block a few times I must say some people on here have no manners. I understand that everyone likes something different but come on if you put it out there you want to meet the least you can do is reply in a respectable manner. I've been in this site a while and had the pleasure of meeting some great personalitys up and down the country. Single guys get a bad rep to easy on here So I say come on couples and single lady's give a guy a second look because it could you who's missing out on some great FUN" Honestly mate, it's not a lack of manners. I've said this a number of times, but go and find a woman who'll show you the messages she gets daily and you'll understand. A social friend did this with me - it was pretty revealing. If (like she often does) you got 30 messages a day and 5 were ones you wanted to engage with, would you copy and paste "sorry, not interested. Good luck" 25 times and press Send. I don't think you would. I know her life is far too busy for that and it's the same for most women. She's had experience with the "why not" replies too. It's nothing to do with manners. | |||
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"Or are you one of those men to whom a polite no thank you is an indicator that they wish to enter into dialogue with you when they clearly don't?" True enough..... | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for The site faq clearly state a delete is to be taken as a polite no thanks. I don't have the time or inclination to message everyone who "thinks" they fit the bill... Because quite often they just don't, and I have no desire to play text ping pong as they try to persuade me I'm wrong. " Someone drag BrightonSteve from the other no answer to messages thread please! | |||
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"OP: read the FAQ - a no reply is not considered rude, you should consider it as a 'no thanks'. Also, even if you think you meet people's requirements, they might not. Don't stress about those who don't want to meet you - concentrate on those who do and your fab experience will be much more fun. Join in more in the chat rooms and forums, go to socials and clubs. Happy swinging! " Oops! There's the fella! | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for" i agree a polite no dusnt take a min to send | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex"" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority." Spoil it for the minority | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. Spoil it for the minority " Absolutely they do....... | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for" She has a point to a degree, however I'm more inclined to side with you, manners cost nothing and a no thanks takes very little time. I had a look at her profile and she wears a Liverpool top, not met a fan of that club yet that didn't have inflated sense of their own importance and right of entitlement | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for The site faq clearly state a delete is to be taken as a polite no thanks. I don't have the time or inclination to message everyone who "thinks" they fit the bill... Because quite often they just don't, and I have no desire to play text ping pong as they try to persuade me I'm wrong. " | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for" I've yet to have a polite no thanks from any single 'ladies' on here...they just delete or read and ignore.... lots if single guys are leaving as a result....There are other places to go and easier to find it than on here. | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. Spoil it for the minority " They do not spoil it for anyone other than themselves... I take each message I get on its own merit... I don't think "Oh look its from a guy, it'll be like all the other x amount from other single guys that have been arses" As for messages not taking much time to reply a polite no thanks to... I said I was looking to meet single men again the other day on my profile - queue a mailbox full of 135 messages... most of which were FAF or similar... so yes, I deleted a lot of them without a second thought. | |||
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"It's everybody's right to meet who they want and so it should be But some people put it out there that they want to meet a type of person. But even when person fits the bill a polite no thank is not much to ask for She has a point to a degree, however I'm more inclined to side with you, manners cost nothing and a no thanks takes very little time. I had a look at her profile and she wears a Liverpool top, not met a fan of that club yet that didn't have inflated sense of their own importance and right of entitlement" And people are not judgemental at all on fab eh? So people get annoyed at ingle men being branded as all in one category... but its ok if its around a football team? Aye, ok then. | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. Spoil it for the minority They do not spoil it for anyone other than themselves... I take each message I get on its own merit... I don't think "Oh look its from a guy, it'll be like all the other x amount from other single guys that have been arses" As for messages not taking much time to reply a polite no thanks to... I said I was looking to meet single men again the other day on my profile - queue a mailbox full of 135 messages... most of which were FAF or similar... so yes, I deleted a lot of them without a second thought. " May I ask did you read them all ??? | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. Spoil it for the minority They do not spoil it for anyone other than themselves... I take each message I get on its own merit... I don't think "Oh look its from a guy, it'll be like all the other x amount from other single guys that have been arses" As for messages not taking much time to reply a polite no thanks to... I said I was looking to meet single men again the other day on my profile - queue a mailbox full of 135 messages... most of which were FAF or similar... so yes, I deleted a lot of them without a second thought. May I ask did you read them all ???" Yes, they were all opened, and looked at. Many really were just 3 or 4 words, and got deleted. | |||
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"........."the expectations of this site where they think it's free effortless sex" This is the view of the majority of single guys on here in our experience, there are some decent ones we know but they are a minority. Spoil it for the minority They do not spoil it for anyone other than themselves... I take each message I get on its own merit... I don't think "Oh look its from a guy, it'll be like all the other x amount from other single guys that have been arses" As for messages not taking much time to reply a polite no thanks to... I said I was looking to meet single men again the other day on my profile - queue a mailbox full of 135 messages... most of which were FAF or similar... so yes, I deleted a lot of them without a second thought. May I ask did you read them all ??? Yes, they were all opened, and looked at. Many really were just 3 or 4 words, and got deleted." Fair play More people like yourself would be more than welcome | |||
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" Fair play More people like yourself would be more than welcome " To be honest, I only read them as I do the "delete and read next" option. Quite a few I would not have needed to open the message if I had been scrolling my mailbox as it would have shown in full there, and fancy a fuck or mmmmm i'd break you are never really going to be my thing... | |||
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