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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I occasionally message a man first, usually to confirm something on his profile, or query availability etc. Not often though, I admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Occasionally I message a man first. It has worked well for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally but not often.

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh.I always message the hotties!!!

Not shy to make the move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message men first if I like the look of someone. Not all men seem to like it as it's seen as predatory and unladylike.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I once in a while get messaged first by a woman or couple usually their verified etc...

for the most part it is positive messages but some times I have come across those who are all nice and polite then for no reason just block me when I didn't say or do anything wrong etc..

like the other night a verified local couple messaged me first and we spoke very briefly then they just decided to block me?

rude tossers with no manners really why bother messaging me in the first place then?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I do yes. Not regularly, but often enough to make me smile.

They aren't always suitable or "for me"...but the fact they bothered does put a spring in my step.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I message men first if I like the look of someone. Not all men seem to like it as it's seen as predatory and unladylike."

I wouldnt mind you messaging me first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have messaged men first before. But their profiles were usually VERY good, with really good pics and funny text.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do yes. Not regularly, but often enough to make me smile.

They aren't always suitable or "for me"...but the fact they bothered does put a spring in my step. "

It's because you're so bloody nice to talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. Ladies get that many messages they just search throu the garbage and pick out the best. So unless there inbox aint doing it for them why would they need to send

Also op what lady would message a without a profile picturw when theres 1000s with on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often message single guys

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

and the funny part was the verified local couple who yesterday messaged me first then blocked me soon after sent me a friend invite too even though I had never previously interacted with them in the past..

weird fuckers

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"I do yes. Not regularly, but often enough to make me smile.

They aren't always suitable or "for me"...but the fact they bothered does put a spring in my step.

It's because you're so bloody nice to talk to "

Yes, that is the first thing notice about me from my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do yes. Not regularly, but often enough to make me smile.

They aren't always suitable or "for me"...but the fact they bothered does put a spring in my step.

It's because you're so bloody nice to talk to

Yes, that is the first thing notice about me from my profile "

Ok, never mind. I take it back.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooooooio

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Never. Ladies get that many messages they just search throu the garbage and pick out the best. So unless there inbox aint doing it for them why would they need to send"

I used to rely on my inbox but a fab friend said why wait and only see the idiots who message you. Go out and find men yourself.

I find that tricky still but if I see a really nice male profile I may send a message.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Yes "
Sssshhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, a few times from couples, twice it wasn't my cup of tea, and once a couple I had been perving on for a while messaged me, but the meet date was 2 weeks after and I was away... Just my luck

Never once from a single fem though

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By *ootballPaulMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Always nice when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and the funny part was the verified local couple who yesterday messaged me first then blocked me soon after sent me a friend invite too even though I had never previously interacted with them in the past..

weird fuckers "

Why let it bother you? Just forget it and move on. Lifes too short to be getting angry with people on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do yes. Not regularly, but often enough to make me smile.

They aren't always suitable or "for me"...but the fact they bothered does put a spring in my step. "

I'd message you first too. Profile makes me laugh, lots of pics and no crude comments. Happy days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes Sssshhhh "

you shoosh...or suck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never. Ladies get that many messages they just search throu the garbage and pick out the best. So unless there inbox aint doing it for them why would they need to send

I used to rely on my inbox but a fab friend said why wait and only see the idiots who message you. Go out and find men yourself.

I find that tricky still but if I see a really nice male profile I may send a message."

Think ill stop sending messages if thats what the ladies of fab think about guys sending messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once in a blue moon...need to check that moon out again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always message men first. I'm picky and I know what I want.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Yeah, every so often, especially couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few, and had a few good chats from it! Usually end up friend-zoned though!

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

many girls put "not looking for single guys" just to avoid to be bombarded by messages.

The only option in that case is "seat back, relax and enjoy the Forum"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually message first anymore. The forums are a pleasurable place to interact and the rest is mostly a game to me, otherwise I'd go insane.... If I'm not already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the odd times. Depends who catches my eye.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Its definitely happened before now...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"and the funny part was the verified local couple who yesterday messaged me first then blocked me soon after sent me a friend invite too even though I had never previously interacted with them in the past"

It's not weird. If you decide you don't want to meet a man, eve if you tell him nicely, he will message you again....

So it's often easier to block.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"and the funny part was the verified local couple who yesterday messaged me first then blocked me soon after sent me a friend invite too even though I had never previously interacted with them in the past..

weird fuckers

Why let it bother you? Just forget it and move on. Lifes too short to be getting angry with people on fab."

well lets see, usually I don't as I never do message women/couples off here on my time being here on this site...

why is that you ask? i'll tell you why they all get enough messages as is so best option is just leaving em be as their not going to be interested in the first place.

in my own experience on here when they approach me first they tend to be more polite/relaxed usually I meet them in the chat room's etc and so far most of them I keep in touch and have good conversation with..

now however if on the rare occasion some one bothers to message me first at least make an effort and if their not interested or change their mind at some point I won't bother them then i'll leave em be but to just fuck me off like that with no reason its like no wonder you get so much shit then..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago

Ditto

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Yes I've had a few messages from Ladies. Some are now good friends on here. Always happy to receive messages from the ladies.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't initiate messages very often so sometimes get people messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I get a few a week normally, No one that's tempted me yet though

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Yeah, I get a few a week normally, No one that's tempted me yet though "

And yet...still not verified

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Pinocchi0 why don't you just block men from messaging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closest I've come was getting a wink from a single lady, I messaged her, we exchanged a few messages, added each other as friends, she suggested a social, I agreed, asked when...

And I've heard nothing for 6 weeks

Hey ho, onwards and upwards, I'll focus on the friends I've already got and see

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Depends on my avatar pics I notice, sometimes occasionally, sometimes rarely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say about once a month. It's great when it happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually happens when to moon is blue and there is a pig flying by my bedroom window.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are. I know this because I've messaged them myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cough cough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually happens when the moon is blue and there is a pig flying by my bedroom window........."

Hmmm, typo now corrected...maybe my bad spelling puts the ladies off

This is not a cue to give me a list of other reasons that the ladies are put off

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

There are 57

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are 57"

A lower number than I thought

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Very rare I message first, also rare is responding to the ones I receive.

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By *siaessexCouple
over a year ago

essex

we message single men first if there what we are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep but they're usually only after my ice cream.

But it's OK my mummy warned me about girls like that so they don't fool me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, I get a few a week normally, No one that's tempted me yet though

And yet...still not verified "

Haha

Verifications mean nothing, believe it or not you can get plenty of sex elsewhere other than fabs! Or at least you should be able to!

Like it says on my profile I'm here for what I don't typically get in my day to day life.

So why would I want any old verifications ?

I'm quite happy using the forum for entertainment, I'm not overly fussed about meeting unless it's something or someone special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep but they're usually only after my ice cream.

But it's OK my mummy warned me about girls like that so they don't fool me"

I'm not after your ice cream...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pinocchi0 why don't you just block men from messaging?"

Cause I speak to people from the forum on private message, why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

Women msg a single man first....

No never as on this site they all seem to want to be chased!!

And love a man to contact them and woo... Them with their words typed on a keyboard..

Which I do find odd as if women and couple took time to email more men .. (If that's what they want) it would cut down the amount of pestering the apparently desperate men all trying to get some one to notice them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and more so from couples.

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

I do occasionally and most of the time I have picked the right guys

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol.

Yes "

fibber!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i have to mail them first otherwise they cant get into my inbox..same goes for couples and women too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol.

Women msg a single man first....

No never as on this site they all seem to want to be chased!!

And love a man to contact them and woo... Them with their words typed on a keyboard..

Which I do find odd as if women and couple took time to email more men .. (If that's what they want) it would cut down the amount of pestering the apparently desperate men all trying to get some one to notice them!!!"

Bullshit!

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By *az_1976Man
over a year ago

Peterborough/Huntingdon

The odd wink but that's it I think

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I message guys first

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I get messaged or winked first sometimes yes, not loads like I'm sure the women on here get but nice when it happens

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I usually message first. I go looking for what or who I want.

I usually get a first reply saying.... But I messaged you three months ago and you didn't reply.

I like chasing

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

on a more positive note in my time I have been messaged by some lovely ladies which is nice

also been messaged a bit by bi guys when I go on webcam sometimes but I take it as a compliment and still talk with them anyway, also some good looking TV's/TS Ladies too.....had I swung that way I probably could have had 2 or 3 meets by now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We message guys first xx

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Yeah, I get a few a week normally, No one that's tempted me yet though

And yet...still not verified

Haha

Verifications mean nothing, believe it or not you can get plenty of sex elsewhere other than fabs! Or at least you should be able to!

Like it says on my profile I'm here for what I don't typically get in my day to day life.

So why would I want any old verifications ?

I'm quite happy using the forum for entertainment, I'm not overly fussed about meeting unless it's something or someone special.

"

I'm pretty sick of all the verification "drama" too, so I don't bother displaying any other than ones that make me laugh and/or are from social meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

I get a few

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I wish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'll get a couple or women message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on fab for less than 4 months, so not long.

I have yet recieved an initial message from a women or couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the occassional first message..but sometimes because I have posted on a forum and they then had more to say...or they seen a recent pic I have uploaded. Couples more than single women. Perhaps if women get full mailboxes of people they don't think are right maybe they should be hunting and mailing first...now that would be more fun....liberation for women...yeah...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've started to message guys more now after my situation changed recently. It's a bit of a chore though tbh. Where do all the classy guys hide??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've started to message guys more now after my situation changed recently. It's a bit of a chore though tbh. Where do all the classy guys hide?? "

Newcastle

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I've had quite a few women messaging me over the last few months. More than ever in fact. Ever since I've been hanging around the forums really. Over time women will see what you're like from your forum posts and if they like what they see they'll message you.

I'm currently not sending out any messages, as I found it all pretty hopeless. I let the ladies message me now if they want to. It doesn't happen too often but it beats sending out a hundred messages and having them all unread or deleted. You know if a woman messages you that they are interested in you one way or another.

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I've started to message guys more now after my situation changed recently. It's a bit of a chore though tbh. Where do all the classy guys hide?? "

Good this is the right way, keep messaging!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I often message single men first when I am looking.

Recently, I have contacted 15 single guys - 7 of whom were not really single, 2 had lied on their profile, one said he wasn't interested, and 4 I am chatting to now, and 1 deleted unread...

Its tough going.

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By *onnie55Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

I would love someone to message me first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a couple of times by both single women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages first. But normally it's from other fellas when I've take my filters off!

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By *eteinhantsMan
over a year ago

Southsea

Yes by both couples and single ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."
Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of times and two of the messages are leading to meets when our schedules match up.

The rest are either too far away or wanted to meet then and there or in the case of one couple it was to send a message saying that my profile offends them and when I asked why they blocked me.

There are some really strange people out there you know

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

It's happened.. Not often enough

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

I regularly get messages from both single girls and couples on here, in fact, I reckon about my meets are initiated that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send messages to single guys that take my fancy

What's the point of sitting back and waiting for the ones you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had my very 1st one this morning

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Had my very 1st one this morning "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do the odd times. Depends who catches my eye. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened on occasion...would love it to happen more often though

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've had a few ladies message me one s other day hopefully I will get to meet her .

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

No i am in the same league as you mate and never ever got a first message sent to me.

I find to if i dont start chatting to some one first then they wont ever make the first move in chatting to me.

Its seems to be always the guys that got to make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens fairly regularly. I can only assume ladies and couples around my area are delightfully forward, which I adore, if they take the time to message me first then they are usually serious about swinging and not just lurkers hanging about the site.

Sometimes these messages lead to meets, sometimes not, but usually I have pleasant conversations with them at the very least.

To be honest if I were a single lady on here I'd probably turn huntress, means you'd have more of a contact ratio with those who entice you rather than the idiots....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seldom happens but puts a smile on my face when it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few but not many to be honest.

to expand on the subject,what would make you message someone? what is it you look for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

Never single woman, just bi couples and lots and lots of gays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't recall the last time I sent a message out.

Have plenty from within the forum to do with threads, etc.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

All the time, and it's amazing just how many of them haven't even read my profile properly and even worse that some send one line messages saying "want a fuck" (or similar).

I'm thinking of rewriting my profile (in capitals) stating what is and isn't acceptable and having my status as "WTF - READ MY BLOODY PROFILE"

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I've messaged a couple of people I've come across in the forums, have browsed and sent winks to guys and once messaged a bi male profile and arranged a lovely meet from it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few messages from ladies. Nice ones too!...

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

I've had about half a dozen (at least) from separate people just this morning....just start a controversial thread and see the affect...the forum is a great 'shop window'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple but not that often on here the single guys need to put in the effort as their are a lot more single men that woman and couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I get quote few messages from both.

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By *ouisebottomTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I have had one or two but all after I sent a wink first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always after a wink or forum post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The irony in the fact that on this thread, there is a couple - more than a couple - of men that ~I~ messaged first...

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"The irony in the fact that on this thread, there is a couple - more than a couple - of men that ~I~ messaged first..."

Humph, I take it that my message from you must've got lost in the Internet somewhere?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sometimes the chores are worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.... Regular ! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once or twice but i wouldn't hold my breath... don't really get any views either and i try to stay lively on here. Patience is still needed i think for many of us haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the occasional message, but what pisses me off is some of them don't answer back when I reply to their first message

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By *drianukMan
over a year ago

Spain, Lancs

It does happen but not often. A lovely message arrived out of the blue recently and we'll be meeting soon

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

It was a lunar eclipse this year so I got one!

Just messing! It does happen and it's happened to me few times but guys are definitely the more active on the site when it comes to messaging.

Being in demand, single ladies tend to set their preferences and sift through the messages. As much as some would complain, I think quite a lot of females love the attention. For some, it's a new experience that they don't get as much outside of fabs. For some, they get too much and it's a way of getting exactly what they want.

Either way, they get to call the shots how they see fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged first by both women , couples and straight gay and bi men

Yesterday I was walking to get van from garage waiting to cross roAd , a 5/10 girl smiled at me I raised my eyebrows as if to say seriously , she said something anyway she gave number will text her Monday and go bowling

What I find hilarious is you see people at clubs naked etc then in real life you see them like tramps

espwciall the women . I know it's hard for women to look good al the time unlike us blokes that look good wearing whatever

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

yep... a fair bit... whether it is because of something i have said in the forums... or they have then gone on to read my profile....

effort, effort, effort......

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've messaged first and I have asked guys to meet first

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By *orovoyeurMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

It used to happen semi regularly when I was actively looking to meet new people.

I've never been one to meet lots of people anyway. I've had two regular (couple of years each, but not over lapping) fuck buddies and both had messaged me first. Both times, having seen their private pics, I thought someone was winding me up !

If it doesn't happen very often, but leads to regular fun with amazing people, then I'm happy with that

Oh, the last one was this week btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would message first if something caught my attention and made me smile from theur profile.

If i got a wink ir a puc fabbed and i liked what i saw then i wld wink back

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Yes, pretty much all my meets have come through either them(couples) messaging me or them pm me in the chatroom, from people who i have met recommending me to couples they know. I think if you put effort into how you put yourself across in your profile, and have good feedback, then the right couples will find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes one of my best meets initiated first contact

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I would if someone's profile and pics enticed me.....sadly my area is seriously lacking in both

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We have done but some don't reply back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On occasion, its nice when it happens. It's usually after I've posted something less drivel like on the forums and I give the impression of being a sane and amusing person. They soon learn otherwise

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By *r. JoystickMan
over a year ago

London

To be fair, it happens a fair amount. Sure, I message the odd few people too - but I have had some lovely people contact me, too.

Write a nice profile; take some half-tasteful pictures & it's very possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, its happened to me a few times in fact more times than me messaging others (but only because I very rarely do). Dont know what the secret is, probably just to have a decent well written profile that highlights one or two particular things that interest you. That will then spark someone else's interest to talk to you if its something that they are also interested in or want to try. For me its usually been about someone wanting to experiment with a club meet or with a cuckold/voyeur scenario.

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By *abbrownMan
over a year ago

Co Meath

Yes majority of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes, it's a nice welcome surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost never lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Occasionally I message a man first. It has worked well for me too "

This

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By *evonlass71Woman
over a year ago

West Devon

I often message first, or send a wink, especially if some one has viewed me and not messaged! Can't see why more women don't do it.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."

I wish

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

That's like any of you single guys. Won this that lottery. If any lady women asked that. She's just taking the piss ????? . Prove me wrong ??? Bitch ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have never had anyone either a single girls or couple ever message me first. It is always me having to message them first.

So this leads to my question, is there any single mens who gets messaged first by either a single girl or couple? Just wondered whether single mens always do the chasing lol."
I do all the time I make it a point never to message any woman first

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Arse hole .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is rare to recieve a message from a lady or couple first, but it happens once in a while. Have met 2 women and a couple this way and we have met several times since. But it hardly happens this way

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Yeah right and oh look im the pope

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By *orbi24Man
over a year ago

London

At the start as i joined i have been messaging. But from a while i do get messages first from couples....

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Bully for you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes get messaged first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been messaged first. Do I win something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just from the other side of things

I don't message guys first as its a waste of time

I used to when I joined and for a while after but I never got a reply, I didn't mail daily as i didn't see anybody I liked enough to mail on a daily basis but if I did see a profile that cought my eye I would mail first, probably two or three times a week, but of all the messages I sent out I never got a single reply, not even a no thanks, so I stopped

It seemed pointless mailing guys to get no reply and just seemed to make more sence to go through mail I got and reply to the ones that took my interest as at least they had some interest in me

I must admit ever now and again I see a profile and I'm really tempted to mail but I don't bother as I know from my track record what the outcome will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just from the other side of things

I don't message guys first as its a waste of time

I used to when I joined and for a while after but I never got a reply, I didn't mail daily as i didn't see anybody I liked enough to mail on a daily basis but if I did see a profile that cought my eye I would mail first, probably two or three times a week, but of all the messages I sent out I never got a single reply, not even a no thanks, so I stopped

It seemed pointless mailing guys to get no reply and just seemed to make more sence to go through mail I got and reply to the ones that took my interest as at least they had some interest in me

I must admit ever now and again I see a profile and I'm really tempted to mail but I don't bother as I know from my track record what the outcome will be "
awwww was it mine ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just from the other side of things

I don't message guys first as its a waste of time

I used to when I joined and for a while after but I never got a reply, I didn't mail daily as i didn't see anybody I liked enough to mail on a daily basis but if I did see a profile that cought my eye I would mail first, probably two or three times a week, but of all the messages I sent out I never got a single reply, not even a no thanks, so I stopped

It seemed pointless mailing guys to get no reply and just seemed to make more sence to go through mail I got and reply to the ones that took my interest as at least they had some interest in me

I must admit ever now and again I see a profile and I'm really tempted to mail but I don't bother as I know from my track record what the outcome will be

awwww was it mine ? "

How did you guess

I have a fetish for headless men who live 140 mile away

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Recently, I have contacted 15 single guys - 7 of whom were not really single, 2 had lied on their profile, one said he wasn't interested, and 4 I am chatting to now, and 1 deleted unread...

Its tough going."

Not wanting to play the "poor single guy" card too much, but a 4 in 15 response rate would make my year! 15 messages all deleted or left unread is "tough going"!

That said, I have been lucky enough to have received a few initial messages from women in the past, some of which lead to some really fun times. I do love it when it happens, especially if they share my particular interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Sometimes just a wink.

Sometimes I wish to be woman on here, they have more easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely

i do get harassed by gays though

Very annoying and I report for harassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been messaged a few times first but not that many probs six since being here which I guess is OK since not long.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I have a couple of times x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do get messages, some lead to something and a lot don't. I use this site as a supplement to clubs and socials and it works well.

I think if a guy soley relies on this place for meets he will find it a struggle for any continuity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with above post, as a single guy i take this site with a pinch of salt. Plenty of great single females and couples to chat to about things you wouldn't normal chat about in the 'real world'.

Go to a club, you can get your personality across in person and the ladies may flock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I do get plenty of messages.

Keep in mind that I am a bullshitter.

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