FabSwingers.com forum: You wont like me but....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people message with a nice comment about a profile or pic and then say .'but im sure you wouldnt like me'..even had one block me so i couldnt reply?

Surely i should decide who i would or wouldnt be interested in????

....any ideas?

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

Its a confidence thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh im terrible and deciding for people if they will like me or not, if someone mails me and sends me pic and they really good looking i dont reply because i know it will be a waste of time, if i feel someone is to good for me i dont mail them or is they mail me first i dont reply, saying that i have never mailed anyone telling them they wont like me, i just think it in my head and dont reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people message with a nice comment about a profile or pic and then say .'but im sure you wouldnt like me'..even had one block me so i couldnt reply?

Surely i should decide who i would or wouldnt be interested in????

....any ideas?"

I get messages like that and have never understood it. I'm of the opinion that people who send that type of message probably send them to everyone. It's obviously a fear of rejection but I don't believe it's a fear of rejection from me specifically, they don't know me. I think it's a general thing for them.

It's the same reason some people can never approach others in a bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the fear of rejection .. Some may have had some negative things on meets before left them feeling unhappy.Some have set out what thay are looking for here and thats it no matter how you look or how nice you are.

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

Definately a lack of confidence thing. I used to be the same. But now I am more comfortable with the site I've stopped worrying about it. You do get the odd harsh rejection but thats just their ego's talking. I've actually met up with people whom, when I first joined the site I would not have dreamed of "being good enough for".

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By *oupleup4funCouple
over a year ago

Ashton

Worst case if there is such a thing as too good for you, is you have a nice evening out and the opportunity of new friends... Its rude not to reply as we all do this together, so a polite no thank you is not a rejection...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get it alot yet i find people who send messages to me like it a turn off

i like a person to have confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should put

"you wont like me, I have a penis"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some will think it's endearing?...otherwise I'd go with the confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i get it alot yet i find people who send messages to me like it a turn off

i like a person to have confidence "

100% agree with this!!!

If someone isn't happy with themself and puts themself down, they wont be for me. If they don't think they're good enough, then I don't want them either.

I like confidence: it's a turn on for me - people that don't like themself - major turn off!!!

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

"i get it alot yet i find people who send messages to me like it a turn off

i like a person to have confidence "

I've now got bags of confidence, but as I am not exactly pron star material, I like to be honest. I wouldn't like to turn up for a meet expecting an Angelina Jolie lookalike and getting Anne Widdicom! So I am quite upfront and paint an honest picture and send one too.

No offence to Anne Widicom btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who really cares!

As a single male you should be grateful that you get Any messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had that too,I am new here and had a few messages where they have said,I/We think your very sexy but I don't think you would be interested in me. I did message back and said I would be the judge of that.

Holly xxx

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"Who really cares!

As a single male you should be grateful that you get Any messages

Thank you testarossa. Just what I was thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had that too,I am new here and had a few messages where they have said,I/We think your very sexy but I don't think you would be interested in me. I did message back and said I would be the judge of that.

Holly xxx"

You can judge me anytime...

I would never disrespect Widdicombe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holly xxx

You can judge me anytime...

I would never disrespect Widdicombe...

You would at the moment I am snowed in,not been out in 3 days,save me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually have the opposite problem. I tend to think women will like me but don't.

Ah well their loss, more chocolate and snuggles for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holly xxx

You can judge me anytime...

I would never disrespect Widdicombe...

You would at the moment I am snowed in,not been out in 3 days,save me xxx"
... Put kettle on, I'll just warm up the Huskies..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thats a shame you shouldnt assume...you may find that others think more highly of you than yourself x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

seems a real waste of time to message someone and say that dont you think? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because they are smelly and have no personality, and are into scat and animal sex ....

Weirdos all of them ....

Take them at their word.

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind messages but that one baffled me and no one should assume they are not good looking enough to message anyone

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

they just want you to say, "oh i will i will"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares!

As a single male you should be grateful that you get Any messages

LOL! get what you're given and like it right? Jeez!

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By *evonTallGuyMan
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

"because they are smelly and have no personality, and are into scat and animal sex ....

Weirdos all of them ....

Take them at their word.

Kirsty

xxx xxx"

That's a bit harsh. I've struck up conversations with people who have confidence issues, and they've turned out to be really nice people. In fact on one occasion it led to some of the best fun I'd had in ages.

I know it's not the ideal way to introduce yourself, with an immediate negative, but we all have different ways of breaking the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because they are smelly and have no personality, and are into scat and animal sex ....

Weirdos all of them ....

Take them at their word.

Kirsty

xxx xxx

I know it's not the ideal way to introduce yourself, with an immediate negative, but we all have different ways of breaking the ice."

It wasn't a serious comment my dear .... I am a bit strange myself ...

You never know where you might find a gem in a mountain of rocks ...

I'd rather have a ugly guy with a big penis and confidence issues than some good looking guy who doesn't turn up as promised .....

But I also like the odd female ... and most of them on this site are at least slightly odd ...

Kirsty

xxx xxx

Kirsty

xxx xxx

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?"

To find someone confident to help with an issue you may have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares!

As a single male you should be grateful that you get Any messages

LOL! get what you're given and like it right? Jeez!

It was said tongue in cheek!

Jeez!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?"
#

For all the empathy and compassionate advice everyone gives of course.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

It would put me off to get a negative right from the word go, but why send a message then block the person to whom you sent the message? Now that really is odd! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would put me off to get a negative right from the word go, but why send a message then block the person to whom you sent the message? Now that really is odd! Z"

To stop them replying...

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"It would put me off to get a negative right from the word go, but why send a message then block the person to whom you sent the message? Now that really is odd! Z

To stop them replying...

I get that but why? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...To stop them replying...

I get that but why? Z"

Ah... now I dont have the answer to that... yet.

Day I do... Ill bottle it and sell it on Ebay...

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I think that there are no answers to some questions! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that there are no answers to some questions! Z"

So many threads...

So few answers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communal answer to all the questions on forums:

If you stop banging your head against a brick wall, it stops hurting!

I think it just might work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Communal answer to all the questions on forums:

If you stop banging your head against a brick wall, it stops hurting!

I think it just might work!

Or you may just quantum tunnel through!

.... *silence, tumble, dog howling in the distance*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh im terrible and deciding for people if they will like me or not, if someone mails me and sends me pic and they really good looking i dont reply because i know it will be a waste of time, if i feel someone is to good for me i dont mail them or is they mail me first i dont reply, saying that i have never mailed anyone telling them they wont like me, i just think it in my head and dont reply lol"

imagine if you replied to one of them messages saying thanks but youre spot on i dont fancy you at all but have you got any fit mates that you think id like?

ive not recieved such a message! mine usually arrive about 4 am when theyve run out of profiles to contact off the meet today list. i just think "how rude" assuming that im an easy lay!...before reaching for my a to z

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?"

To increase confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?

To increase confidence?

to get sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?#

For all the empathy and compassionate advice everyone gives of course.

u make me giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people message with a nice comment about a profile or pic and then say .'but im sure you wouldnt like me'..even had one block me so i couldnt reply?

Surely i should decide who i would or wouldnt be interested in????

....any ideas?"

beats me, if they are sure you would not like them why did they message you? Well wierd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you've confidence issues why be on here in the 1st place?#

For all the empathy and compassionate advice everyone gives of course.

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your right i am sure some are here just for that .. x Good thing theres a good mix here , lol

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

brilliant!!!!!!

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