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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My FB wants to try anal but she's nervous as it'll be her first time. I know to take things slowly with this but what other things can I do which will enhance her pleasure, and make her relaxed at the same time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use a finger first with lube of course. Don't rush and when she's ready to take your cock let her do the pushing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stick your toe in her ass this will enhance her pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Use a finger first with lube of course. Don't rush and when she's ready to take your cock let her do the pushing"

As above - relaxation and lube is key as is position. She may worry about faecal matter - anal douching 1-2 hrs prior to fun would be ideal. Some positions work and others dont - just dont expect the position for anal adopted in porn is the way to go - it aint!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your comments. I was just about to ask about what would be the best position.


"Use a finger first with lube of course. Don't rush and when she's ready to take your cock let her do the pushing

As above - relaxation and lube is key as is position. She may worry about faecal matter - anal douching 1-2 hrs prior to fun would be ideal. Some positions work and others dont - just dont expect the position for anal adopted in porn is the way to go - it aint!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find me on all 4s or spooning easiest.

Lots of lube, lots of patience.

Has she used butt plugs before?

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By *inky karen 2Woman
over a year ago

East sussex

For years I have tried anal and never really managed. The closet I have got is from being rimed and played with loads, the wand firmly attached to my clit, loads of lube and it not being the focus. I think I managed most of his head but that's it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No she hasn't but I have bought a small one which I think would help prior to me entering her.

I believe poppers also help relax anal muscles!


"I find me on all 4s or spooning easiest.

Lots of lube, lots of patience.

Has she used butt plugs before?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have read up on this and I am aware some people can't physically mange to have anal sex because the lady is too tense or tight.


"For years I have tried anal and never really managed. The closet I have got is from being rimed and played with loads, the wand firmly attached to my clit, loads of lube and it not being the focus. I think I managed most of his head but that's it. "

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By *inky karen 2Woman
over a year ago

East sussex


"I have read up on this and I am aware some people can't physically mange to have anal sex because the lady is too tense or tight.

For years I have tried anal and never really managed. The closet I have got is from being rimed and played with loads, the wand firmly attached to my clit, loads of lube and it not being the focus. I think I managed most of his head but that's it. "

I am pretty tight, but I'm in training. So hopefully one day.

But as long as your girl is relaxed and lubed you won't know till you try xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x

I hope the training works for you x


"I have read up on this and I am aware some people can't physically mange to have anal sex because the lady is too tense or tight.

For years I have tried anal and never really managed. The closet I have got is from being rimed and played with loads, the wand firmly attached to my clit, loads of lube and it not being the focus. I think I managed most of his head but that's it.

I am pretty tight, but I'm in training. So hopefully one day.

But as long as your girl is relaxed and lubed you won't know till you try xx"

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By *moraLastGentCouple
over a year ago

Telford, Shropshire

Try to keep it fun and keep the pressure off. Make sure that she knows that it doesn't matter if it doesn't work. The well lubed finger is definitely your friend. Don't try to rush it. If you have the finger control, I would suggest the following. Have her lie back with legs spread nice and wide. Sit or kneel between them and play with her pussy. Focus first on her clit, then build up to rubbing with your thumb and playing inside with your first finger, then first two fingers. This puts your hand in the perfect position to rub her an us with the well lubed little finger. Start outside, just rubbing over the opening, then as you feel her relax, gradually let the tip wander inside. As you keep playing, you may find that the little finger naturally creeps inside.

If that goes well, you may be able to introduce your ring finger too. The key is gradual build up. You can always go back a stage if things do start to get tense.

Sorry for the long response - I got caught up in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd say a buttplug or a long thin vibrator (the one lovehoney chuck in free with bloody everything is good for ut) rather than a finger.

Personal I hate fingers scratchy evil things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha, no worries. Thank you for taking the time to reply.


"Try to keep it fun and keep the pressure off. Make sure that she knows that it doesn't matter if it doesn't work. The well lubed finger is definitely your friend. Don't try to rush it. If you have the finger control, I would suggest the following. Have her lie back with legs spread nice and wide. Sit or kneel between them and play with her pussy. Focus first on her clit, then build up to rubbing with your thumb and playing inside with your first finger, then first two fingers. This puts your hand in the perfect position to rub her an us with the well lubed little finger. Start outside, just rubbing over the opening, then as you feel her relax, gradually let the tip wander inside. As you keep playing, you may find that the little finger naturally creeps inside.

If that goes well, you may be able to introduce your ring finger too. The key is gradual build up. You can always go back a stage if things do start to get tense.

Sorry for the long response - I got caught up in the moment."

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By *livertwistMan
over a year ago

bolton

Just rammed it in

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By *inky karen 2Woman
over a year ago

East sussex


"Try to keep it fun and keep the pressure off. Make sure that she knows that it doesn't matter if it doesn't work. The well lubed finger is definitely your friend. Don't try to rush it. If you have the finger control, I would suggest the following. Have her lie back with legs spread nice and wide. Sit or kneel between them and play with her pussy. Focus first on her clit, then build up to rubbing with your thumb and playing inside with your first finger, then first two fingers. This puts your hand in the perfect position to rub her an us with the well lubed little finger. Start outside, just rubbing over the opening, then as you feel her relax, gradually let the tip wander inside. As you keep playing, you may find that the little finger naturally creeps inside.

If that goes well, you may be able to introduce your ring finger too. The key is gradual build up. You can always go back a stage if things do start to get tense.

Sorry for the long response - I got caught up in the moment."

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By *erryPervettoMan
over a year ago

London


"Use a finger first with lube of course. Don't rush and when she's ready to take your cock let her do the pushing"

Brilliant advice

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

Don't forget to use a condom as it is very possible to get a very nasty infection.

There are lubes and lubes. Either buy a special anal lube or use Vaseline. Start with a finger tip easing in and out and see how she likes it. Some women totally love anal and others hate it. Only one way to find out though. Please remember VERY gently does it.

L2

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By *lueEyedGuyMEMan
over a year ago

MancBoltonBuryWigan


"No she hasn't but I have bought a small one which I think would help prior to me entering her.

I believe poppers also help relax anal muscles!

I find me on all 4s or spooning easiest.

Lots of lube, lots of patience.

Has she used butt plugs before?"

If shes OK with the little rush of popper's then go for it. They do definitely help. Believe me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She will be far better off experimenting on her own initially, to become used to the sensations and learn how her own body reacts to it and she can even then learn to control her arse better, through breathing and timing techniques. Then she can show you how she likes it. If it turns out she doesn't like it when relaxed and on her own, she doesn't need someone else trying it with her. It won't end well.

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By *un In SussexMan
over a year ago

Hailsham

Get her d*unk first. That will help a lot.

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By *umslut45Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I find lying on my front with bum up with pillows under my hips helps with positioning. Also if the female eases herself back onto the guys cock also helps as she can go at her own pace. As mentioned though a butt plug would work brilliantly to start off with. I found a great article on google about anal training which has helped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the best position for a newbie to anal is for me to kneel down and for her to kneel in front of me facing away from me and back onto me and lower herself onto me that way she can take it at her pace. It's also a good way for two guys. Key to success is lubrication and patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Importantly if she doesnt like it or is uncomfortable then stop immediately too.

If they arent relaxed it will only ever hurt which.is what no one wants. If you have to actually push your cock in rather than a sliding action then it will be too tight for her to.enjoy it.

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By *hestercpl4funCouple
over a year ago

chester

This product may contain nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest tip for anal sex is relaxation. I can't stress this enough.

Lube works also haha.

Hot bath,deep tissue massage. Relax her so she's not so tense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again. If they worry when the cock is in there then it will tighten and hurt them too. DON'T pull.out quickly either as that will hurt even more but always slide it in and out slowly and smoothly so they are comfortable.

All things aside once its underway anal sex can be amazing.

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