FabSwingers.com forum: Couples who don't "meet" single guys

By *ovCpl40s OP Couple
over a year ago

coventry

We are now sick and fed up with single guys who can't seem to get that although we don't "meet" single guys (i.e. deliberately meet to play with them!) we do MEET single guys within the swinging scene (socials and parties etc)and it has been knwn for a few of them to get involved

This does not make it worth your whiles winking,mailing or asking to add us as friends as a refusal often offends (or seems to when we do it).

So guys come on when a profile says "no single males" don't go mailing,winking etc and then get upset when we say no!

See you at a party or social use your charm (and that don't mean your "big" dick) and see how you get on you never know your luck hehehe

M&M xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a straight Domme seeking local, single, white, sub men over 45.

I get messages from couples erm I'm straight so what's the point of the message?!!

It's not just single men that chance their arm, but single men bashing seems to be the vogue!

Of course I get messages from people outside what I'm looking for. It takes but a second to click "delete all". Do as I do and save yourselves getting sick and fed up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i also get loads of messages from couples even tho my profile quite clearly states im only looking for single guys

Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples

i actually get fed up to the back teeth of couples who moan constantly about single guys, if i started a thread off every time a couple mailed me or the male half of the couple had tried to meet me behind his mrs back when ive said i dont meet couples only men noone else on this forum would get a look in lol

And what pisses me off even more is people who moan about messages from single guys when they have the option to block mail from single guys!

i mean jesus god get a grip

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"i also get loads of messages from couples even tho my profile quite clearly states im only looking for single guys

Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples

And what pisses me off even more is people who moan about messages from single guys when they have the option to block mail from single guys!

i mean jesus god get a grip

Have to agree totally with NN if you dont meet single guys then for christ sake pick the 'don't meet single guys!' how hard can it be? and dont give me the BS about 'well we might like to chat to those that are our friends' because that doesn't wash either!

once you have messaged someone unless you then block them they can chat to you without a problem..and unless they've blocked you you can message who the hell you like...

don't want to here continual moaning about still receiving messages! can't they read!

just the same when couples want single guys to come to a party but haven't deselected don't want single guys...whats that all about? do they then wonder 'hmmm why no guys getting in touch?'

I once created a page which was a cut and paste of how to set up your account and it was turned into a "sticky" for just this moan..

if you just set your account up correctly then just maybe you wouldn't get pissed when you receive so many unwanted messages! seemples!

bought time for a don't want couples button!

but thats another debate! lol

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"We are now sick and fed up with single guys who can't seem to get that although we don't "meet" single guys (i.e. deliberately meet to play with them!) we do MEET single guys within the swinging scene (socials and parties etc)and it has been knwn for a few of them to get involved

This does not make it worth your whiles winking,mailing or asking to add us as friends as a refusal often offends (or seems to when we do it).

So guys come on when a profile says "no single males" don't go mailing,winking etc and then get upset when we say no!

See you at a party or social use your charm (and that don't mean your "big" dick) and see how you get on you never know your luck hehehe

M&M xxx"

and you have 5 verifications of single guys! set your account up properly! stop moaning!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

just block single guys from contacting you.

thats the end of that then...

next.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the opposite on our couples profile.. We only really play with groups of single guys.. Couples would have to be something we were wanting, and so far that has never been something we have wanted... We state that.. but we still get couples asking..

Yes I am bi and occassionally we look for a woman, but its rare as Master would much rather watch me take 3-4 men in hand than see me with a woman.

So basically block single guys or accept that most people dont even read the profiles.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well now you have started a thread to moan about it that will probably make everything better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP. You've been on here a long time now, surely you already know that you can block single guys, why haven't you?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Your account /message filters /single men.

Wallah !! no more mail from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well now you have started a thread to moan about it that will probably make everything better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IT costs nothing to be polite and say no thanx ,i got blocked today for having a pic of a female with my cock in her mouth ,omg ,a terrible message too ,GOD ! think its funny ,but we are all different , FRANKIE XX

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Once I see "No single men" on a profile I stop reading and go to the next profile, ignoring the "unless you are..." bit as that just comes across to me as "confused"

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"i also get loads of messages from couples even tho my profile quite clearly states im only looking for single guys

Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples

And what pisses me off even more is people who moan about messages from single guys when they have the option to block mail from single guys!

i mean jesus god get a grip

Didn't you know? Every "rule" in swinging was setup for the benefit of single men and can be bent or broken by any fem/couple as takes their fancy

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples"

Ooooooo well said

we received a wink from a couple, when I checked their profile it stated:

we are str8 pls read page b4 you ask us anything

wtf they winked us for gawd knows!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does not make it worth your whiles winking,mailing or asking to add us as friends as a refusal often offends (or seems to when we do it).

So guys come on when a profile says "no single males" don't go mailing,winking etc and then get upset when we say no!

See you at a party or social use your charm (and that don't mean your "big" dick) and see how you get on you never know your luck hehehe

M&M xxx"

Well you will have no problem with me as I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I wonder if the single guys who don't read profiles bother to read the forums.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isn`t it possible to block single guys like you can block people of a certain sex?

Then I guess the system would only allow them to email you if you mailed them first?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"isn`t it possible to block single guys like you can block people of a certain sex?

Then I guess the system would only allow them to email you if you mailed them first?"

It is possible, you're correct.

They can also mail you if they are on your friends list or if you wink them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just block them on your mail settings.

its that simple.

better than spitting the dummy out.

use the options on your profile ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

Unnecessary! It's possible to make a point without being rude and offensive!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

Unnecessary! It's possible to make a point without being rude and offensive!

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

Unnecessary! It's possible to make a point without being rude and offensive!

Now that's rich reading some of your comments

But we are all allowed an opinion and the next person is allowed to reply within reason. I will reserve the right to reply as i choose to thankyou as nodoubt you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP does send mixed signals saying no single males despite having validations from single males!

But how about this instead of having a pointless moan.....

Why not be proactive and set your preferences so that single males are blocked..... dealt with end of!

Then if you have some single males that you meet at a club and want to communicate with and stay in touch, simply add them as a friend!

Does this not seem a sensible and logical process?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't fall into the confusion of having "not looking for single males" but having seeking men under what you are looking for!

Now that is confusing and probably worth a thread of its own!

Merry Xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP does send mixed signals saying no single males despite having validations from single males!

But how about this instead of having a pointless moan.....

Why not be proactive and set your preferences so that single males are blocked..... dealt with end of!

Then if you have some single males that you meet at a club and want to communicate with and stay in touch, simply add them as a friend!

Does this not seem a sensible and logical process?

Bwhahaha sensible and logical, not things I often encounter on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP does send mixed signals saying no single males despite having validations from single males!

But how about this instead of having a pointless moan.....

Why not be proactive and set your preferences so that single males are blocked..... dealt with end of!

Then if you have some single males that you meet at a club and want to communicate with and stay in touch, simply add them as a friend!

Does this not seem a sensible and logical process?

Bwhahaha sensible and logical, not things I often encounter on here!

I like to differentiate my self where i can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i also get loads of messages from couples even tho my profile quite clearly states im only looking for single guys

Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples

And what pisses me off even more is people who moan about messages from single guys when they have the option to block mail from single guys!

i mean jesus god get a grip

Totaly agree with everything you say I feel sorry for single guys Ive been in chatrooms in the past where couples have been extremley rude to a single guy who has just said hello ( not asking them to donate a kidney ffs lol) I play with other couples but only with my husband my single profile Im only interested in single guys or guys playing with the wife/gf permission. Couples who contact me I usually reply saying yeah Ill meet but only with my hubby and usually get a reply saying only want you not hubby then I hit the delete button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile."

Why is it a shame? sorts the issue before its a problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile.

Why is it a shame? sorts the issue before its a problem!"

Well of guys read their profile in the first place then it wouldnt be a problem,we have on our profile a couple of times that i (Mrs) dont play alone,at least a few times a week i get asked to meet behind Mr's back.

But i cant see why they OP doesnt just block single guys from contacting them if its that much of a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile.

Why is it a shame? sorts the issue before its a problem!"

It's a shame because all get tarred with the same brush, personally i'd rather block the ones that ignore profiles than resort to blocking them all. Only my opinion mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile.

Why is it a shame? sorts the issue before its a problem!

It's a shame because all get tarred with the same brush, personally i'd rather block the ones that ignore profiles than resort to blocking them all. Only my opinion mind

I do see your point, and that would probably be the best case for most, but the OP evidently has an overbearing issue with it so just seems a sensible thing to block them all, job done end of! and we can all live happily ever after! And like you, thats just my opinion!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

we find its the single females,,who constantly pester us,with winks,freinds invites,and messages to meet.this often happens,just before i waken up.

we do meet single males,but at socials or clubs first.we just feel more comfortable,with this.

single guys are much maligned,and are often all tarred with the same brush.this is unfair,this sight is for everyone.

if they message us,it doesnt get on our nerves.we just say,thanks for the message,but we dont meet single guys.we dont find this difficult,in the slightest.as has been said above,if you dont want,single guys,messaging you.use the,no single guys option.to have this option,and not use it.invalidates your moan,about single guys.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"Think the logical thing to do is just block any that do mail you, it’s just a shame people have to resort to using a filter when its clearly spelt out on the first line on the profile."

filters there to stop all the unnecessary mails form males that don't read... cause they don't do we! lol

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By *iddytoxcplCouple
over a year ago

Stoke/Uttoxeter

"I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

Unnecessary! It's possible to make a point without being rude and offensive!

Agreed! We all have different tastes. Ugly to one is beauty to another. Just be polite and say no thanks. No need to be rude.

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By *ovCpl40s OP Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Well to all those who suggest we block single guys .......... thats VERY unfair to the decent ones who would like to attend our socials!!!

Yes we have been on here long enough to know you can block them and we don't question the fact that couples are as guilty of mailing people inappropriately.

But as is proved by some of the posts on this forum from some people (those who pass comment on us having verifications from single guys) there are an awful lot of folks who obviously can't read!!!!!

This was not meant as a "bash" at single men (strange how its been taken as such), but a rant at the "blind or ingnorant" who use this and other sites!

15yrs plus on the scene see's us much thicker skinned than that, and also VERY sure of what we are looking for (no point trying to convince us otherwise!).

As for the comments about us being oh the U word well thats extremely small minded but hey we wouldn't expect any less!! Bet if he was offered a shag he wouldn't say no

M&M

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well sorry, if you have been on the scene for 15 years you will no doubt appreciate that profiles will not be read everytime.

so block is one option, otherwise... put up with it for your social meets.

you asked and we answered with options.

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By *itladMan
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

I guess asking for a meet is out of the question then

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"well sorry, if you have been on the scene for 15 years you will no doubt appreciate that profiles will not be read everytime.

so block is one option, otherwise... put up with it for your social meets.

you asked and we answered with options.

...or how about a 3rd option of blocking single males except for those times when you're arranging one of your socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well to all those who suggest we block single guys .......... thats VERY unfair to the decent ones who would like to attend our socials!!!

Yes we have been on here long enough to know you can block them and we don't question the fact that couples are as guilty of mailing people inappropriately.

But as is proved by some of the posts on this forum from some people (those who pass comment on us having verifications from single guys) there are an awful lot of folks who obviously can't read!!!!!

This was not meant as a "bash" at single men (strange how its been taken as such), but a rant at the "blind or ingnorant" who use this and other sites!

15yrs plus on the scene see's us much thicker skinned than that, and also VERY sure of what we are looking for (no point trying to convince us otherwise!).

As for the comments about us being oh the U word well thats extremely small minded but hey we wouldn't expect any less!! Bet if he was offered a shag he wouldn't say no

M&M "

Ohh id say no or more NO in capitals. I would say no if you offered gifts. you don't meet single men and that's your choice. I have standards and won't under any circumstances drop below them. "Any hole a goal" is distasteful as i see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP can always block guys and still stay in contact with the ones they want on here via pm

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I don't even find you remotely attractive. The "U" word is the one that comes to mind.

Unnecessary! It's possible to make a point without being rude and offensive!

Now that's rich reading some of your comments

But we are all allowed an opinion and the next person is allowed to reply within reason. I will reserve the right to reply as i choose to thankyou as nodoubt you will."

wow.... for someone I normally respect you are doing a good job of being "an arse" today.....

sorry... but that was a rude response!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well sorry, if you have been on the scene for 15 years you will no doubt appreciate that profiles will not be read everytime.

so block is one option, otherwise... put up with it for your social meets.

you asked and we answered with options.

Well said, or the other option is that you block single males and add those that attend your socials as friends, if they are that important it shouldn't be a problem.

And if you are thick skinned, you shouldn't have a issue with options given in a forum. If you do, don't start a thread hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and how many single female profiles do you see that state that they do not meet married men.

then low and behold a verifaction is left on their profile by a married man.

all a load of bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and how many single female profiles do you see that state that they do not meet married men.

then low and behold a verifaction is left on their profile by a married man.

all a load of bullshit."

Meeting that married man might be the reason they don't now meet married men, ever thought of that?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I have a bi male on my friends list and he's verified me.

However he has not touched my winky and therefore I'm still straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and how many single female profiles do you see that state that they do not meet married men.

then low and behold a verifaction is left on their profile by a married man.

all a load of bullshit.

Meeting that married man might be the reason they don't now meet married men, ever thought of that?"

valid point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a bi male on my friends list and he's verified me.

However he has not touched my winky and therefore I'm still straight.

You blew him then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Bwhahaha sensible and logical, not things I often encounter on here!

Very true!

I also agree with the earlier statement about using forums to moan about single guys. I'm sure we all piss each other off for a number of different reasons. I think people should calm down on the "single guy this, single guy that!"

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I have a bi male on my friends list and he's verified me.

However he has not touched my winky and therefore I'm still straight.

You blew him then?"

I couldn't get down that far!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and how many single female profiles do you see that state that they do not meet married men.

then low and behold a verifaction is left on their profile by a married man.

all a load of bullshit.

Meeting that married man might be the reason they don't now meet married men, ever thought of that?"

what after the second one lol

do me a favor

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By *otswbabeCouple
over a year ago

north cornwall

Personally I wish it were possible to block all the different groups, not just single males. Nobody seems to read the profiles!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Personally I wish it were possible to block all the different groups, not just single males. Nobody seems to read the profiles!"

You're not seriously suggesting expanding the group block option to couples and single females? Do you really think and red-blooded right-minded single guy is gonna block anyone? Lol!

Seriously thought, I suggested the same option on another site as a female friend (who only meets single guys) was constantly hounded by couples, males halves of couples and those wanting to meet behind partners back (despite having "we only meet as a couple" on their profile).

My suggestion on the forum started one helluva massive uproar - from couples no doubt (some of them were ones that had even emailed my friend!) Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To stop single males contacting you and saving you hassles and grief, you need to set up your account correctly for this:

1. click 'my account'

2. click 'message filters'

3. on single men, click 'block them'

Job done and simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with above comment, block them, job done

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"i also get loads of messages from couples even tho my profile quite clearly states im only looking for single guys

Everybody moans about single guys all the time when infact many couples do the same but for some reason they think its ok because they are couples

And what pisses me off even more is people who moan about messages from single guys when they have the option to block mail from single guys!

i mean jesus god get a grip

Absolutely correct and I couldn't have said it better myself.

Single guys are the easiest targets in the swinging scene, and that is probably because of their sheer number, and yes.., I admit, also the sizeable number amongst them that have their brains in their shorts.

But there are loads and loads of single guys who enjoy a very exciting and active swinging life, with responsible and sensible couples and girls.

Some people think that because they've come together as a couple, then they are something special and a higher class of humans.

Proportionally speaking, there are as many brainless couples out there as there are single guys.

So please, get off your high horses and don't throw stones when you live in a glass hose

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

MM mm no christmas spirit in this thread!! Things said on here a little mean me thinks!!

Mrs fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everyone else has said, if you dont wish to meet single guys or have any messages then use the filters, if you want them to be able to contact you for whatever reason then dont block them and accept that some will message you that are not for you.

there will always be people on a swinging site that dont meet requirements. Single guys do come up for a lot of negative responses because some find it difficult to accept no as an answer but I have to admit that I have had some absolutely charming single guys message me, some ive met, and hopefully the others I will get to meet when convenient and theres one that doesnt live near me that I just cannot wait to meet. We all have different needs so do whats best for you. I agree that personal comments about looks etc are unwarranted and unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ffs, whats the prob with single guys. so what, we're here, deal with it. Nope I don't random;y message folks but I get a fair few that gay fellas and couples that message me, so do I put em down, slag em off. No. Is it really that much of a pain in the arse to delete a few messages. Keep things in persective, is it that much of a big part of your life that you let it bother you so much as to feel the need to comment on it. Bored with all the single male slagging off on here.

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