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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont all do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I chat to a couple I always address them both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH had loads of fun at a single males expense the other day (on our couples profile)

The guy assumed he was chatting to me, so my OH flirted back.

It rattled on to the point of arranging a meet. It wasn't until my OH dropped into the conversation about wanting the guy to lick his balls or something that the single guy twigged!

Bless him the guy took it well and said 'fair one mate, that will teach me'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens with all types of profile, not just single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's an X on the end I assume it's the girl but still address them as "you guys". If there's no X I assume it's the fella and still address them as "you guys".

Moral of the story - assume they're both there, everyone wins.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

It can be good sport if you have the time and are in the mood.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can say "phwooaaarrr! You're sexy!!!!" And it doesn't matter who it is.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

I'll always try to address both even if it's two separate comments and if conversation sparks I'll ask if I'm talking to him, her or both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

It can be good sport if you have the time and are in the mood."

know what you mean

Other times it can be a bit irritating being told I have nice tits. My moobs are definitely not nice!

What's it like in clubs? Does the same thing happen? (I e. The guys ignore the partner)

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By *ixFoot2nFun4UMan
over a year ago

gosport

I always address both people in a couple, it's only right. After all its meant to be fun for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"
with a couple I always assume it's the guy unless told otherwise

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We dont all do that."

Seconded

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"If there's an X on the end I assume it's the girl but still address them as "you guys". If there's no X I assume it's the fella and still address them as "you guys".

Moral of the story - assume they're both there, everyone wins.

They are both going to read what you say (unless it's just a bloke pretending to be a couple) ultimately, but it is easier for us if the lady signs with a 'x', when a conversation is flowing lol

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

There is also a thing that a good percentage of couples either only have pictures of the fem or are showing massively more pictures of her so it's no surprise that a guy might think it's mainly the woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ these are getting boring...in future just let the wife read it...saves whinging..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol."

With or without haribos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's because they aspire to talk to that breast ,I may be wrong

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol."

Was just about to say the same when the majority of the pics are usually of the woman on a 'couples' profile what do people expect to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

why do people generalize

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

why do people generalize"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We occasionally get the 'hi hun, your gawjus' kind of message. Delete and block is the only sensible response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol.

With or without haribos "
lol yes, with haribos are nice, the cola bottles mmmmm

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

No I saw the comical side and my comment still stands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My OH had loads of fun at a single males expense the other day (on our couples profile)

The guy assumed he was chatting to me, so my OH flirted back.

It rattled on to the point of arranging a meet. It wasn't until my OH dropped into the conversation about wanting the guy to lick his balls or something that the single guy twigged!

Bless him the guy took it well and said 'fair one mate, that will teach me'

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By *elax-EdMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

I always assume that both will be reading my messages .. and if i get into dialogue i generally ask who im messaging to, had a few instances where the Guy has pretended to be his Female partner.. (for reasons he only knows) .. but generally most couples have been really genuine & honest (which i appreciate)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest all the single guys mail me, less confusion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

No I saw the comical side and my comment still stands "

So will you forgive my not starting with "Why do some single guys...." if I forgive you posting on another thread "pubically" when you meant "publicly"?

You misspelled, I missed out one word. Wasn't generalising: some guys do, others don't.

The main point is that those guys who do leave you, as an equal part of a proposed threesome, and, in doing so, are lessening their chances of it happening.

As for pictures, I can't post public pictures of myself for very good, professional reasons. Simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny I always assume I'm talking to the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Because you have a sexy boob and single guys like me can't read profile information

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

No I saw the comical side and my comment still stands

So will you forgive my not starting with "Why do some single guys...." if I forgive you posting on another thread "pubically" when you meant "publicly"?

You misspelled, I missed out one word. Wasn't generalising: some guys do, others don't.

The main point is that those guys who do leave you, as an equal part of a proposed threesome, and, in doing so, are lessening their chances of it happening.

As for pictures, I can't post public pictures of myself for very good, professional reasons. Simples

It's called the curse of having autocorrect on a iPhone

But that's for judging me to be a idiot, that apparently couldn't understand what you meant or is unable to spell correctly, nor considered how your original post now speaks a new volume to others I'm guessing

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

No I saw the comical side and my comment still stands

So will you forgive my not starting with "Why do some single guys...." if I forgive you posting on another thread "pubically" when you meant "publicly"?

You misspelled, I missed out one word. Wasn't generalising: some guys do, others don't.

The main point is that those guys who do leave you, as an equal part of a proposed threesome, and, in doing so, are lessening their chances of it happening.

As for pictures, I can't post public pictures of myself for very good, professional reasons. Simples

It's called the curse of having autocorrect on a iPhone

Oh wait

Thanks not that's heaven forbid I dare to make a mistake hey

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Do people think I was genuinely angry? Honestly, get a sense of humour

No I saw the comical side and my comment still stands

So will you forgive my not starting with "Why do some single guys...." if I forgive you posting on another thread "pubically" when you meant "publicly"?

You misspelled, I missed out one word. Wasn't generalising: some guys do, others don't.

The main point is that those guys who do leave you, as an equal part of a proposed threesome, and, in doing so, are lessening their chances of it happening.

As for pictures, I can't post public pictures of myself for very good, professional reasons. Simples

It's called the curse of having autocorrect on a iPhone

Oh wait

Thanks not that's heaven forbid I dare to make a mistake hey "

Oh and now not nor and I don't know how consider got the extra 'ed' on the end either, so I officially give up my IPhone can go screw itself

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Oh and may I point out I could have been dyslexic or have been taught American English instead of British English

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Maybe in the OPs case they are going by the user name?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Maybe in the OPs case they are going by the user name?

It could be, at first glance at the name alone it wouldn't naturally read as a couple

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

It can be good sport if you have the time and are in the mood.

know what you mean

Other times it can be a bit irritating being told I have nice tits. My moobs are definitely not nice!

What's it like in clubs? Does the same thing happen? (I e. The guys ignore the partner)"

Often yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

It can be good sport if you have the time and are in the mood.

know what you mean

Other times it can be a bit irritating being told I have nice tits. My moobs are definitely not nice!

What's it like in clubs? Does the same thing happen? (I e. The guys ignore the partner)

Often yes"

Also seen this. Woman says something partner responds guy cuts in midsentence

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol.

With or without haribos lol yes, with haribos are nice, the cola bottles mmmmm

And if you get three together you can make a big saaandwich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all single guys do. We both always sign off which one of us is responding so there's no mistake. I find it more disconcerting where I've had messages saying don't tell him and what's app me etc! That's a minority though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

It can be good sport if you have the time and are in the mood.

know what you mean

Other times it can be a bit irritating being told I have nice tits. My moobs are definitely not nice!

What's it like in clubs? Does the same thing happen? (I e. The guys ignore the partner)

Often yes"

Thanks. Never been but I can imagine that's the case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe in the OPs case they are going by the user name?

It could be, at first glance at the name alone it wouldn't naturally read as a couple "

Yes, can see how the heading "Open minded couple", profile text mentioning us both, physical description and ages of us both, MF couple from Worksop and a cock pic might make some think it's a single woman's profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

You're joking, I always assume it's the male even when they say it's the female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst this is an issue, there are also a number of couple profiles who, without prompting, will say they like your profile, you are fit, great cock, would love to meet,etc for the conversation to then end in, 'I'll show the other half your photo when she gets home'.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Maybe in the OPs case they are going by the user name?

It could be, at first glance at the name alone it wouldn't naturally read as a couple

Scientifically proven that sexually Men are generally more visual than women, so all they see is;

boob + slut = woman

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I wait for a couple to approach me so no issue there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I never just address the female when I mail couples always start my message with hi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't couples have a profile pic of both of them on their profile? If I see a pic of a tit or a woman in lingerie my brain says woman,and I'm not even trying to get in her knickers. It should be a requirement that the profile pic should have both people in,cock and fanny would do,and half the pics should be of the man. It's very nice when the person talking let's you know who you are addressing,it gets tedious constantly asking who I'm talking to now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find the opposite! A lot of our messages are written to Clarence about me

which I don't really like and we've had some experience of that in clubs too.....some guys have even asked Clarence if they can play with me???? He always says 'well she's right here so why don't you ask her?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

You're joking, I always assume it's the male even when they say it's the female!

Yes you do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

You're joking, I always assume it's the male even when they say it's the female!

Yes you do!!

I treat everyone as a raving lunatic until proven otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At first glance, I thought the thread had been started by a single woman's profile. The name sounds like a woman, the profile picture is a boob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find if funny when hubbies on the site guys say how much they would like to come round and fuck me ,then reply from him saying I Doubt it as you ain't got chance getting near his Arse lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Not all if us my messages to couples start hi guys so not to offend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At first glance, I thought the thread had been started by a single woman's profile. The name sounds like a woman, the profile picture is a boob."

And it says "couple" next to it!!

Crikey! Does anybody on fab read profiles? Are there any point to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don't couples have a profile pic of both of them on their profile? If I see a pic of a tit or a woman in lingerie my brain says woman,and I'm not even trying to get in her knickers. It should be a requirement that the profile pic should have both people in,cock and fanny would do,and half the pics should be of the man. It's very nice when the person talking let's you know who you are addressing,it gets tedious constantly asking who I'm talking to now

But you have a silhouette and hidden profile?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"At first glance, I thought the thread had been started by a single woman's profile. The name sounds like a woman, the profile picture is a boob.

And it says "couple" next to it!!

Crikey! Does anybody on fab read profiles? Are there any point to them? "

There are plenty of people on fab that can't read profiles the pics are as far as most get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you have a silhouette and hidden profile? "

And? I'm not complaining about being mistaken for the opposite sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind talking to the male half, but what does my fucking nut in is fantasizing chatty hubbies..

so in the instance of messaging , I'd like to know early on that the female half actually is aware I'm interested and not the just hubby having a wank fantasizing about what I'm gonna do to his wife.There are many verified couples that do this too.

I've even turned up at a meet and essentially I could tell the wife had never laid eyes on me..and didnt fancy me...(luckily it was just a social)

I dunno really what else i need to chat to the male half about in most cases, though I'd be as polite and engaging as possible.

Then again, I dont have many long engaging chats with fems either as i have no real interest in cyber-talking in messages on or off fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mind talking to the male half, but what does my fucking nut in is fantasizing chatty hubbies..

I've even turned up at a meet and essentially I could tell the wife had never laid eyes on me..and didnt fancy me...(luckily it was just a social)

I dunno really what else i need to chat to the male half about in most cases, though I'd be as polite and engaging as possible.

Then again, I dont have many long engaging chats with fems either as i have no real interest in cyber-talking in messages on or off fab."

I ran into this the other day.

I didn't meet them but he kept asking me what I was going to do to her and describe it in detail.

I said I wanted to speak to both of them on the phone first.....

The guy blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"
happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I always ask who I'm talking to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it that some lady's & couple never reply to friendly messages, not dirty. They just delete them? Very rude actually

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But you have a silhouette and hidden profile?

And? I'm not complaining about being mistaken for the opposite sex. "

You talked about requirements of profiles and profile pics and you have neither!

One of the main points being missed in this thread is that SOME single guys assume when I respond (not in the initial approach, please note) that it is Anne is replying. That's all!

And, as I pointed out above, it was more a tongue in cheek post inspired after I'd been chatting this morning to a bloke who said on about the third or fourth message "Nice tits hun".

He already knew it was a couple he was messaging!

And when did I ask in this post for a critique of our profile? I didn't. Just wanted to find out from other couples if they had the same experience. Single women won't have had the same experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why is it that some lady's & couple never reply to friendly messages, not dirty. They just delete them? Very rude actually"

Because we get so many, it would take hours to reply. And some get pissed off if you politely turn them down. Ultimately there's no nice way of saying "Thanks but not for us"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause your name is "sexy slut 1"

Couldn't really pick a more single female name could you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an easy fix just simply say its the male you're chatting to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that some lady's & couple never reply to friendly messages, not dirty. They just delete them? Very rude actually

Because we get so many, it would take hours to reply. And some get pissed off if you politely turn them down. Ultimately there's no nice way of saying "Thanks but not for us""

Some guys actually prefer a thanks but not my type blah blah blah but i can understand if your getting tons of messages that you cant be arsed to reply

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By *entleman and SassyPussCouple
over a year ago

100% agree

When we send messages. we will always sign off with who is speaking, if it's solo or together.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

But you have a silhouette and hidden profile?

And? I'm not complaining about being mistaken for the opposite sex.

You talked about requirements of profiles and profile pics and you have neither!

One of the main points being missed in this thread is that SOME single guys assume when I respond (not in the initial approach, please note) that it is Anne is replying. That's all!

And, as I pointed out above, it was more a tongue in cheek post inspired after I'd been chatting this morning to a bloke who said on about the third or fourth message "Nice tits hun".

He already knew it was a couple he was messaging!

And when did I ask in this post for a critique of our profile? I didn't. Just wanted to find out from other couples if they had the same experience. Single women won't have had the same experience

She didn't ask for a critique you still have her one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well what do you want them to say? "Nice tits hun....oh and nice cock too mate". If you use the name and the photos to centre around the woman of the couple, I don't think you can be too surprised that people naturally assume it's the woman controlling the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you have a silhouette and hidden profile?

And? I'm not complaining about being mistaken for the opposite sex.

You talked about requirements of profiles and profile pics and you have neither!

One of the main points being missed in this thread is that SOME single guys assume when I respond (not in the initial approach, please note) that it is Anne is replying. That's all!

And, as I pointed out above, it was more a tongue in cheek post inspired after I'd been chatting this morning to a bloke who said on about the third or fourth message "Nice tits hun".

He already knew it was a couple he was messaging!

And when did I ask in this post for a critique of our profile? I didn't. Just wanted to find out from other couples if they had the same experience. Single women won't have had the same experience

You mean I'm not talking Anne now? I really did think I was. See how easy it is to be confused. When I'm looking for new partners my pics are up and there is no confusion as to who they men are talking to. What I'm trying to point out is it can be confusing when talking to couples. I'm not saying there aren't men who don't do what you say,but instead of taking the piss,tell them. I wasn't critiquing your profile,I was talking in general about couples' profiles as most don't have many or any of the man. If you advertise yourself as predominantly female you'll get the response you have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats why i dnt tend to chat to couples incase im flirting with the girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

Not very bright, in my opinion.

Anyway, I give up. Clearly all my fault and, not for the first time, I leave a forum thread feeling rather knocked about.

Interesting that couples who have posted understand what's what but singletons don't.

As someone who originally had a single man's profile before meeting Anne, I understand talking to couples is not easy as you can't be sure who is online. Indeed the same thing is true of a couple talking to another couple.

And never did I assume it was one or the other.

Anyway, I'll wave my white flag and walk away now. Sadly this was only supposed to be a light hearted thread after a single guy made a mistake yesterday. Never mind. Next time I'll stay off the forums

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I dont mind talking to the male half, but what does my fucking nut in is fantasizing chatty hubbies..

I've even turned up at a meet and essentially I could tell the wife had never laid eyes on me..and didnt fancy me...(luckily it was just a social."

I get this a lot when approached by some couples. If I haven't spoken to both people at least once, then I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

Not very bright, in my opinion.

Anyway, I give up. Clearly all my fault and, not for the first time, I leave a forum thread feeling rather knocked about.

Interesting that couples who have posted understand what's what but singletons don't.

And never did I assume it was one or the other.

The forums can be fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is i usually end up thinking "why is this desperate muppet Blowing smoke up my ass? Can't he get a girlfriend? Does he have a personality disorder?" so I'm usually better off with them Not chatting to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

Not very bright, in my opinion.

Anyway, I give up. Clearly all my fault and, not for the first time, I leave a forum thread feeling rather knocked about.

Interesting that couples who have posted understand what's what but singletons don't.

And never did I assume it was one or the other.

I really don't think you have much room to complain about being 'knocked about' when in the same post you make the comment that people are not very bright. It's just plain rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

Not very bright, in my opinion.

Anyway, I give up. Clearly all my fault and, not for the first time, I leave a forum thread feeling rather knocked about.

Interesting that couples who have posted understand what's what but singletons don't.

And never did I assume it was one or the other.

The forums can be fun xx "

Sometimes. Other times you can end up feeling rounded on, pulled apart, holes picked in you and end up feeling rather battered.

Ultimately the only serious message I tried to get across was that if you're a single guy, please don't assume that you are talking to the woman when addressing a couple because that isn't necessarily so.

That's all. And other couples have found the same. Our profile is the way it is because we are predominantly looking for single guys to play with. I have all the woman I need in Anne so don't take much interest in other couples or single women (who invariably aren't interested in straight couples anyway) but I end up doing most of the vetting as Anne has a very busy life. I was just interested in hearing if other couples found the same (and some do) and helping guys understand a bit of protocol for addressing a couple, something that might be of use. That's all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

Not very bright, in my opinion.

Anyway, I give up. Clearly all my fault and, not for the first time, I leave a forum thread feeling rather knocked about.

Interesting that couples who have posted understand what's what but singletons don't.

And never did I assume it was one or the other.

I really don't think you have much room to complain about being 'knocked about' when in the same post you make the comment that people are not very bright. It's just plain rude.

Maybe so. I hereby unreservedly apologise for all and any offence caused by me to any posters above and single men as a group. Mea culpa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My OH had loads of fun at a single males expense the other day (on our couples profile)

The guy assumed he was chatting to me, so my OH flirted back.

It rattled on to the point of arranging a meet. It wasn't until my OH dropped into the conversation about wanting the guy to lick his balls or something that the single guy twigged!

Bless him the guy took it well and said 'fair one mate, that will teach me'

I'll lick them for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a couple I'm messaging, they will more than likely both be bi. So I can flirt with either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, don't take it personally. Threads often veer out of control and there's always an army of folks who will happily miss your point or deliberately find offence. It's all instantly forgotten.

To your point, you're right, some men will message a couple and address only the female. We take the _iew that if a guy doesn't have the wit to know how to address a couple, then they're not likely to be someone we'd want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I apologise Sir. I made an initial assumption based on your user name,the profile pic and your use of the word grrrrr, which in my neck of the woods is not often used by men. I am lazy as well as not too bright and didn't read all your posts. I should be a man really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I apologise Sir. I made an initial assumption based on your user name,the profile pic and your use of the word grrrrr, which in my neck of the woods is not often used by men. I am lazy as well as not too bright and didn't read all your posts. I should be a man really

*apologies,before I'm corrected

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I don't...I assume I am talking to a couple...and generally find out fairly early on...often by how they sign off fro the first message....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*apologies,before I'm corrected

Duly accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*apologies,before I'm corrected

Duly accepted"

I was right in my first post,I apologise. I thought I wrote my apologise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could it be cos it is just pics of the woman lol."

Fair point well made Shag!

I've lost count of the number of profile pics I've seen where there are only pictures of the woman. Or there are so many pics of the woman with various different men that I find myself playing "guess which one is the husband". Hardly surprisingly in this case when a male or female just assumes that they are talking to the woman! If you have a couples profile then why not put pictures of both of you on there? I'm sure this would help to avoid any confusion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Actually if I'm exchanging messages with a couple I always assume I'm talking to the male half. I'm pretty sure half the women from couples profiles have no idea they're on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly because of the user name maybe? Sexy slut would normally infer a female...also many couples profiles I have seen only have pics of the female...

But its a matter of paying attention...

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

"Why is it that some lady's & couple never reply to friendly messages, not dirty. They just delete them? Very rude actually"

Dude, give it up already :D We get it, you dont dig it. But stop fixating on it. It'll ruin your experience here.

Not to mention I am sure its not getting you many female fans.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*apologies,before I'm corrected

Duly accepted

I was right in my first post,I apologise. I thought I wrote my apologise

Lol you were correct in the initial post. Apology accepted. Hope you accept mine too

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Cos of the breast maybe, dunno, just guessing.......

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Must be psychic!!

Unless contacted and told who is messaging you don't know... I approach it as an either / or situation. Failing that, why not ask??

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If there's an X on the end I assume it's the girl but still address them as "you guys". If there's no X I assume it's the fella and still address them as "you guys".

Moral of the story - assume they're both there, everyone wins.

Totally, the male of the couple could be contacting and is bisexual and finds the single guy attractive. As a single guy I'd take that as a compliment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I agree, when we had our couples profile, the messages from single guys always addressed as if the guy in the couple didn't exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Because not many straight blokes call themselves a slut in their name or show photos of female breasts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

Probably coz theres usually alot more pics of the female than the male. So automatically assume it's run by the female. What about us single ladies.. we like to see what the male has to offer. Then probably theyd get messaged more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a clue for the folks who get confused: Look for the word 'couple' on the profile, rather than go by the pics or the username. Works every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a clue for the folks who get confused: Look for the word 'couple' on the profile, rather than go by the pics or the username. Works every time."

Shall we have a guess as to which one of you wrote that,or was it a joint effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it looks like a woman, is named like a woman and types like a woman....it's a couple and don't dare forget it!

I think I've got it now. You have to speak slowly for us females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well the single women seem more easily confused than men on this thread!

How on earth can anyone who's read this thread imagine it is Anne posting?

So just to be clear you the male as the main user of the account are the one the name is referring to as the sexy slut?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why do single guys...........

makes it so much easier and saves on the whinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I chat to a couple I always address them both."

same here

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

I agree, when we had our couples profile, the messages from single guys always addressed as if the guy in the couple didn't exist

Not sure how you represented your couples profile, but On my couples profile we never had this issue, but we had a good mix of pics of us both together and separately, in the text we both contributed to writing it so he wrote about me and I wrote about him so people could have an idea on how we represent/converse ourselves differently and we would sign off our mails and forum posts with who was messaging/posting all these things in my experience make a huge difference to how people address you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

I agree, when we had our couples profile, the messages from single guys always addressed as if the guy in the couple didn't exist

We pretty much did the same, dunno why guys just messaged the Mrs, we did get messages from guys addressing both of us, but not as often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I don't think i've ever had a reply so i assume i'm talking to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

I don't think i've ever had a reply so i assume i'm talking to myself

Lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!"

I don`t. I always assume i`m talking to both until they tell it`s one or the other talking to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys assume they are talking to the woman? Grrrr!

I don't think i've ever had a reply so i assume i'm talking to myself

Funny!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why you're having a problem.

Most couples profiles (with a tiny handful of notable exceptions) seem to be pics of the female partner, uploaded by the male partner, with the male partner only ever on here. So much so, with some couples profiles you are left wondering if the female is even aware of the profile.

As such, I'd always assume it was the male person talking, unless proven otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My initial message is always addressed to both unless the profile specifies that it's ALWAYS the same half of the couple online and I carry on that way until it becomes clear who I'm talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hilarious, coming from someone whose one and only profile pic is of a pair of androgynous feet.

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By *arks_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

I always (to be safe) assume is the male half who replies. Most couples we meet confirm it's the guy who does the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hilarious, coming from someone whose one and only profile pic is of a pair of androgynous feet."

There's only one person on a singles profile,there should be no misunderstanding as to whom you are talking to. I could have pics of my tits and fanny but I'm sure most people know what a woman looks like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hilarious, coming from someone whose one and only profile pic is of a pair of androgynous feet."

This comment could have come from a man or a woman,how are we supposed to know?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

To be fair, if we were chatting to a user with the name Sexy Slut we'd assume it was a bloke........

......pretending to be a woman.

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