FabSwingers.com forum: brainy or not?

By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "
I prefer their drooling to be as a result of my naked body rather than not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't have to be brainy.. All we look for is a gsoh and easy to get along with kinda guy..

Katie x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I like to be able to hold a decent conversation with somebody and to do that we need to be at a similar sort of level, so about the same as me which isn't difficult to achieve

I don't ask to see certificates or anything

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's not essential but if they are very smart it is more of a turn on for me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

As long as they're not cleverer than me I'm fine.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"As long as they're not cleverer than me I'm fine.

Damn...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to be able to hold a decent conversation with somebody and to do that we need to be at a similar sort of level, so about the same as me which isn't difficult to achieve

I don't ask to see certificates or anything

yeah got to agree with this. The best meets are those where you can have a decent peer to peer conversation without either party coming across as too much of a smart arse to the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like 'em dumb.

Don't judge me

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"As long as they're not cleverer than me I'm fine.

Damn...

I like to keep the bar low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people...."

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligent discourse is just as much a turn on as any physical foreplay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

At least masters.....anything below doesn't count

......even I have a bEd (hons) degree and all I did was drink for 4 years

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By *rs.nordsmanCouple
over a year ago

middlesex

Very

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

At least masters.....anything below doesn't count

......even I have a bEd (hons) degree and all I did was drink for 4 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, someone like kinga type from bb would be good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count using my fingers and toes

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Not for me, someone like kinga type from bb would be good lol

Who?

On second thoughts Shag, I don't need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligent enough to want to sleep with me......!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can be trusted to use felts to colour in rather than crayons, then thats good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Intelligent enough to want to sleep with me......!"

In my case stupid enough to want to sleep with me ...,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligent enough to hold a decent conversation

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have a BA but had a meet with a PhD. It was soooo hot

Not that he had the PhD, but that he was really smart. And he explained some of his thesis to me. He believed I would understand and that was amazing

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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I'd definitely be more turned on if someone were intelligent, its so hot to find sexy and smart mixed together! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me, someone like kinga type from bb would be good lol

Who?

On second thoughts Shag, I don't need to know."
lol yes, she was famous with the bottle scene in the big brother garden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd definitely be more turned on if someone were intelligent, its so hot to find sexy and smart mixed together! x "

i think you should tag me in in place of that lovely but sexually unfulfilling gf haha! Ima trainee accountant that comes with her own bed restraints

does that count as smart and sexy?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'd definitely be more turned on if someone were intelligent, its so hot to find sexy and smart mixed together! x "

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By *rof_cplCouple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

We like the social aspect of swinging and it's a lot easier to click with people if we can have a decent conversation. Not saying we need to have a 2 hour debate about macro-economics or the finer points of string theory before we tear each others clothes off, but it's nice to have a bit of conversation to go with the shagging

Have to admit, we're a bit turned off by terrible spelling and text speak in profiles and messages too! Sorry if that comes across as snobby.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Sorry if that comes across as snobby."

Seems quite sensible to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't need to hold a PhD however I do love intelligence. It's sexy. Emotional intelligence or just the ability to really talk with passion and conviction about something . A good conversation is like foreplay for me.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

You'll do nicely, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume we would all draw the line at retarded lol.....or is that not PC? Sorry!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I can get on with most people enough to have sex..the sense of excitement however is quickened if we can have an intelligent chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly can't say. I've had great sex with men I've barely spoken to. I think as long as the man is tactile,is a nice kisser and has an adventurous personality I'm ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here to receive a lecture so not arsed if they brainy or not. As long as they have a good sense of humour and a good decent person then that's all that matters..

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

If anyone has to claim they are intelligent on their profile we immediately assume they have a low self esteem and feel they have to boost it by making such claims.

Animal instinct is a better guide to a good playful meet.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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" Ima trainee accountant that comes with her own bed restraints

does that count as smart and sexy?"

certainly counts as smart and sexy! just not able to tell you that in a message coz of ur profile restrictions lol x

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"They don't need to hold a PhD however I do love intelligence. It's sexy. Emotional intelligence or just the ability to really talk with passion and conviction about something . A good conversation is like foreplay for me.

but what if they do hold a PhD? haha. *mind blown* haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "
intelligent enough to navigate ,geography is important a bit of math working out costings etc some literary reading text messages oh and oral skills need to communicate

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

Depends on whether it's a meet or a club.

In a club... often there isn't much talk before things happen, so who cares?

For a meet, we prefer an in-person non-sex meet first, to see if we get on with a prospective playmate(s) - e.g. in a pub. And whilst intelligence isn't a requirement, we're less likely to click with someone we just can't communicate properly with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like 'em dumb.

Don't judge me

-Courtney"

We would get on very well then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to have an IQ higher than that of a cheeseplant

Beyond that I'm not fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

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Courtney I want you to confuse me with your demands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

Courtney I want you to confuse me with your demands

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I have a Bfg and an APD with honours

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

Hang on by what measure are we qualifying brainy I mean I work with some people that could work out the internal area of a room then divide it by PI all in their head but find shoelaces and buttons a mystery even worked with one guy that couldn't grasp how a walkie talkie worked (press button, talk, release) and he was the head of information and communication technology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm as thick as two short planks so everyones more intelligent than me

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

To be able to hold my interest is good enough for me, more common sense than brains I guess. Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hang on by what measure are we qualifying brainy I mean I work with some people that could work out the internal area of a room then divide it by PI all in their head but find shoelaces and buttons a mystery even worked with one guy that couldn't grasp how a walkie talkie worked (press button, talk, release) and he was the head of information and communication technology

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney"
Courtney is a meet with you like going to see my shrink ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to have an IQ higher than that of a cheeseplant

Beyond that I'm not fussy

Could you make an exception in my case?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

At work the majority of people have degrees and I love the stimulating and very geeky conversations.

But for sex, it's not that important, I prefer a good sense of humour and an open mind.

And, anyway (tongue-in-cheek bit here), they might start of being intelligent but after I've f*cked their brains out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to have an IQ higher than that of a cheeseplant

Beyond that I'm not fussy

Could you make an exception in my case?

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pitstop you harlot ok just this twice

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

Oh I love a sharp mind and a quick wit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like the social aspect of swinging and it's a lot easier to click with people if we can have a decent conversation. Not saying we need to have a 2 hour debate about macro-economics or the finer points of string theory before we tear each others clothes off, but it's nice to have a bit of conversation to go with the shagging

Have to admit, we're a bit turned off by terrible spelling and text speak in profiles and messages too! Sorry if that comes across as snobby."

We totally agree with this...first impressions count, so text speak is a massive turn off and using "LOL" constantly.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Nothing worse then having to explain innuendos. Sapiosexual here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to fuck them not talk to them.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney"

Sorry wasn't meant as an explanation to people in general it was more of a thing we had to say everytime we gave him one and it very rarely registered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to fuck them not talk to them.

I want to fuck them and talk to them so, yes, intelligence wins out for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to fuck them not talk to them.

I want to fuck them and talk to them so, yes, intelligence wins out for me

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talk to me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I don't have to keep explain jokes to the who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they're honest, friendly and fun, and can hold a reasonable conversation, that's all that matters

I've mingled with PhD holders, people with no educational qualifications and everything in between... Certificates can show an ability to absorb and regurgitate information, form opinions and arguments... But if they're held by an arse, I'm not interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

some intelligence is a good thing but I prefer them to be articulate as well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have to have an IQ higher than that of a cheeseplant

Beyond that I'm not fussy

Could you make an exception in my case?

Rules are made to be broken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to fuck them not talk to them.

If they speak its always a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I don't have to keep explain jokes to the who cares "

I have to say my serious answer would be along these lines. I find it irritating when you're chatting to someone and you have to keep explaining what you mean, or if my humour just goes over their head it's a put off.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"As long as I don't have to keep explain jokes to the who cares

So people with more intelligence than a gold fish? haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney

Sorry wasn't meant as an explanation to people in general it was more of a thing we had to say everytime we gave him one and it very rarely registered "

I was joking. Hence the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney Courtney is a meet with you like going to see my shrink ?

Yes. Any problems you'd like to discuss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as I don't have to keep explain jokes to the who cares

So people with more intelligence than a gold fish? haha x"

I would say more savvy than intellectual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

The brighter the better for me. I find intelligence is an aphrodisiac.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We have a friend that I(M) was at school with , let's call him "Paul" (even though his real name is Kevin) who actually is a rocket scientist who has worked for NASA and the ESA.

He's as dumb as they come in real life.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I want to fuck them not talk to them.

I wouldn't want to fuck them, if I couldn't talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't have to be brainy I'm not making them sit a maths test! But they need to be able to hold a conversation and not be totally stupid.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"As long as I don't have to keep explain jokes to the who cares

So people with more intelligence than a gold fish? haha x

I would say more savvy than intellectual.

'savvy' just makes me think pirate hahah

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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what is maths isn't there forte? they may be super smart in something else?

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By *eorgy26Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Having intelligence is the most important thing to me.

Of course there are many types of intelligence but being able to hold a stimulating conversation is the biggest turn on. Far more than knowing Pi to a hundred decimal places.

All these text speak profiles and ridiculous forum threads does make me wonder about fab sometimes.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

It's irrelevant to us as we only play with others at the club....asking someone to do an IQ test when sitting in the jacuzzi may be a bit of a passion-killer methinks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you felt the need to explain how to use a walkie talkie to us

Not expecting much from us, are you?

-Courtney Courtney is a meet with you like going to see my shrink ?

Yes. Any problems you'd like to discuss?"
I do actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be able to hold a conversation. Attraction isn't just physical

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"It's irrelevant to us as we only play with others at the club....asking someone to do an IQ test when sitting in the jacuzzi may be a bit of a passion-killer methinks....

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plus im sure the paper would get pretty wet haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to fuck them not talk to them.

If they speak its always a bonus

Sure thing. But everyone is capable of a bit of banter. Mutual respect is all I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like it when someone has sexual intelligence. By this we mean when someone has a natural ability to understand a sexual situation and acts, and reacts, accordingly. Nothing to do with general IQ, and you either have it or you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend time getting to know them first so fairly. Dumb/ humourless isn't sexy!

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

I like a woman to be intelligent and be able to stimulate my mind as well as my body

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By *eorgy26Man
over a year ago

Sutton

"We like it when someone has sexual intelligence. By this we mean when someone has a natural ability to understand a sexual situation and acts, and reacts, accordingly. Nothing to do with general IQ, and you either have it or you don't."

Being a fast learner is a sign of intelligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a friend that I(M) was at school with , let's call him "Paul" (even though his real name is Kevin) who actually is a rocket scientist who has worked for NASA and the ESA.

He's as dumb as they come in real life. "

This made me giggle, thank you

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

We like people to have a special spark, whether it be intelligence, knowledge, humour, passion or interest. Not being able to connect on anything other than a physical level would be a real turn-off!

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Intelligent enough to read and understand a profile ,well it would be good starting point

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Couple of comments above about people who are supposedly intelligent but have gaps in other ways - this is really common, but seems much more noticeable in people who are otherwise exceptionally bright. ( How could a rocket scientist be so 'dumb'?)

Dyspraxia (clumsiness on steroids, to grossly oversimplify) would be a noticeable one - "fumbles buttons, trips over own feet", as would various manifestations of Aspergers (which might simply show up as a seeming difficulty with social skills), obviously these examples just tip of the proverbial iceberg.

Anyone with sufficient empathy can get past these - just depends on putting in a bit of extra effort to make a connection that's much deeper as a result. Definitely not something that everyone in the swinging world has the patience for though!

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Couple of comments above about people who are supposedly intelligent but have gaps in other ways - this is really common, but seems much more noticeable in people who are otherwise exceptionally bright. ( How could a rocket scientist be so 'dumb'?)

I'd like to think i'm intelligent but i do sometimes have zero common sense haha. eg complicated things i can figure out and simplicity confuses me at times haha

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

My thoughts too.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

They can't be as thick as pig shit but they don't have to have been studying at Oxford for five years either. As long as you can hold a real, adult conversation with them with plenty of humour thrown in then I'm happy. A clever, well read, well spoken woman is actually a big turn on.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Sure, I absolutely love intelligent and creative women but that's not all that matters - so it's not really an issue for me, as long as they're friendly and kind-hearted.

I think we sometimes place too much emphasis on intelligence, as interpreted by certain very subjective criteria, and nowhere near enough on far more worthy attributes like empathy and kindness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence comes in many guises...for me its all about finding a connection with that person..

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

At least masters.....anything below doesn't count

......even I have a bEd (hons) degree and all I did was drink for 4 years

Erm did you say drink and fuck....?

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

At least masters.....anything below doesn't count

......even I have a bEd (hons) degree and all I did was drink for 4 years

Erm did you say drink and fuck....?

For 4 whole years?!

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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surely over intelligence and snobbery ruin a potential meet as well? I hate it when people look down on you like they are better.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

More interested in someone with some common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, the written test is long and complex, many take their own life once they get to the fifth page (sexual history). The phone interview isn't quite as grueling ("what are you wearing"), and those that make it through to the oral test figure they've done very well and that it was well worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thick as shit, just like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine all have to complete a written examination first. I don't meet anyone not educated to degree level. Everyone knows intelligent people are a better fuck than thick people....

Hold up, hold up....which degree are we talking here? your basic B.A., Masters...? PhD even?

At least masters.....anything below doesn't count

......even I have a bEd (hons) degree and all I did was drink for 4 years

I've got a Bon(er) - does that count?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brainy? What I'm "brainy" at someone else might not be, but then they will probably be "brainy" in a different area.

As long as there is a decent conversation and no long moments of silence then that's all I ask for, along with the ability not to be easily offended and able to have a laugh

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Brainy? What I'm "brainy" at someone else might not be, but then they will probably be "brainy" in a different area.

As long as there is a decent conversation and no long moments of silence then that's all I ask for, along with the ability not to be easily offended and able to have a laugh"
surely the only silent moments are when your kissing anyway? although I suppose slight moaning doesnt count as silence lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"and no long moments of silence then that's all I ask for"

Silence can be good though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good personality, which I guess requires an average level of intelligence, is my main reqirement.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"and no long moments of silence then that's all I ask for

Silence can be good though

only through exhaustion lol

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

Petite pretty brunette 36 19 34 is the intelligence level i find perfect

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

Petite pretty brunette 36 19 34 is the intelligence level i find perfect

surely if she had zero social abilities it'd be an extremely dull meet though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to be able to hold a decent conversation with somebody and to do that we need to be at a similar sort of level, so about the same as me which isn't difficult to achieve

I don't ask to see certificates or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

Petite pretty brunette 36 19 34 is the intelligence level i find perfect

Who has a 15 inch difference between their waist and hips? Unless these are kim k's measurements?

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

Petite pretty brunette 36 19 34 is the intelligence level i find perfect

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Who has a 15 inch difference between their waist and hips? Unless these are kim k's measurements?

some serious corset work there lol

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

I like my meets to be able to hold a conversation ... I guess they call me a saposexual

Someone who stimulates my mind gets my body

Fuck n gos as people call it dnt appeal to me...

Bit more sophistication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

I like my meets to be able to hold a conversation ... I guess they call me a saposexual

Someone who stimulates my mind gets my body

Fuck n gos as people call it dnt appeal to me...

Bit more sophistication "
Awwww you're sophisticated and you have gorgeous eyes and can you read my mind ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like brains lol, to me a good conversation can relax and turn me on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always good if you can hold a conversation with your meet, it saves any comfortable silences developing into awkward ones post-coitus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always good if you can hold a conversation with your meet, it saves any comfortable silences developing into awkward ones post-coitus!

Your names fucking brilliant! I actually laughed out loud... i don't even know what this threads about sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

I like my meets to be able to hold a conversation ... I guess they call me a saposexual

Someone who stimulates my mind gets my body

Fuck n gos as people call it dnt appeal to me...

Bit more sophistication "

Ah! So THAT'S what saposexual means? I guess I'm that too then! As long as he's gorgeous as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always good if you can hold a conversation with your meet, it saves any comfortable silences developing into awkward ones post-coitus!

Your names fucking brilliant! I actually laughed out loud... i don't even know what this threads about sorry!"

Cheers fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find intelligent conversations produce a better connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Now i don't know whether to claim to be intelligent or thick as fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Now i don't know whether to claim to be intelligent or thick as fuck

Haha, I reckon you're bright enough to have a couple of kinks up your sleeve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence is a bigger turn on than looks for me. If I fancied someone was wasn't reasonably intelligent, or at least articulate, it would put me off them. ??

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

Always be one step ahead of me in the smarts department esp in D/s situ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Well I'm relatively intelligent and very kinky - so perhaps you need to re-think that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thick till a year ago then thay gave me the mangers job

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Well I'm relatively intelligent and very kinky - so perhaps you need to re-think that one!

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totally agree here im very kinky and very intelligent i think its the opposite to what OP stated less smarts less kink

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Well I'm relatively intelligent and very kinky - so perhaps you need to re-think that one!

totally agree here im very kinky and very intelligent i think its the opposite to what OP stated less smarts less kink

I'd say smarter and kinkier! Having the intellect to blow someones mind as well as body is breath taking x

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Well I'm relatively intelligent and very kinky - so perhaps you need to re-think that one!

totally agree here im very kinky and very intelligent i think its the opposite to what OP stated less smarts less kink

I'd say smarter and kinkier! Having the intellect to blow someones mind as well as body is breath taking x"

Sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love brainy women but I think they are less kinky just a thought

Well I'm relatively intelligent and very kinky - so perhaps you need to re-think that one!

totally agree here im very kinky and very intelligent i think its the opposite to what OP stated less smarts less kink

I'd say smarter and kinkier! Having the intellect to blow someones mind as well as body is breath taking x"

You need to be intellectual to do that? Fuck me....I've learnt something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it if a meet is obviously more clever then me. I'm not just talking book smart. Street smart counts as well.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

It helps, but as long as my meet is sociable and down to earth, it's all good

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

One of my best meets, and still a very close friend had me in stitches, knew everything about everything, could run rings around me, works as a cleaner and has a high school education.

I've met doctors, bankers that didn't pass the social stage as they bored me witless trying to impress me.

Fun, easy going, hold a good conversation...don't need a Mastermind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

One of my best meets, and still a very close friend had me in stitches, knew everything about everything, could run rings around me, works as a cleaner and has a high school education.

I've met doctors, bankers that didn't pass the social stage as they bored me witless trying to impress me.

Fun, easy going, hold a good conversation...don't need a Mastermind! "

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like to make potential future meets sit a short written exam before I agree to meet them.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I'd like people I meet to be emotionally intelligent rather than academically. More interested in life experiences than than things they've studied so people that travel, have unusual jobs or hobbies (apart from the lifestyle) are very attractive to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to make potential future meets sit a short written exam before I agree to meet them. "

Agreed!!! Naked of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be?

The brighter the better for me. I find intelligence is an aphrodisiac. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't have to be brainy.. All we look for is a gsoh and easy to get along with kinda guy..

Katie x "

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who can hold a decent conversation while cooking me a delicious meal and pouring a glass of wine, all at the same time, works for me.

Someone who's intelligent enough to know when to stop talking.

Someone who can say all the right things when we get down to some action e.g, wow, you look fantastic; you've got the body of an eighteen year old etc.

It's so easy......

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

All this intellectual benchmark are complete gibberish to a lot of folks. Modesty and Mannerisms matters . Don't expect too much on a swinging site . if you are in a dating site looking for soul-mate fine I will agree with you because that's someone you want to share your life with. But not on a swinging site.

Please I am not advocating people should lower their expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I meet, it's nice to be able to having something other than the sex to talk about. So I would say yes to the original question.

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as they're honest, friendly and fun, and can hold a reasonable conversation, that's all that matters

Love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely ever meet anyone who can match me on intelligence - it's refreshing when I do, but I'm not really that bothered.

I mean, I'm not exactly here to discuss Anarchist Perspectives on Kyriarchy am I?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Ooh I like em smart. Hot but thick turns me right off.

My ex was a chess champion with a MENSA IQ. Could never beat her at Connect 4 though.

No common sense mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who can hold a decent conversation while cooking me a delicious meal and pouring a glass of wine, all at the same time, works for me.

Someone who's intelligent enough to know when to stop talking.

Someone who can say all the right things when we get down to some action e.g, wow, you look fantastic; you've got the body of an eighteen year old etc.

It's so easy......

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from here with my eyes 18 easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Above average intelligence, well travelled and educated.

Poor spelling, grammar and text speak is a real turn off for us.

It's always better to meet people that are similar socially to yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? "

They don't have to be overly qualified

I really don't care what somebody does for a living or what certificate they hold

They do, however, need common sense and the ability to string an intelligent conversation together

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I love intelligent men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they know the concept of consideration and respect the rest is just details.

As there are several type of intelligences and often people confound intelligence with being cultured.

Insofar as you can hold a conversation in a respectful manners, I'll meet you. Whether your IQ is higher or lower than mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's paramount for me...

Intelligence is only rivaled by humour when it comes to sexual chemistry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's paramount for me...

Intelligence is only rivaled by humour when it comes to sexual chemistry..

So you'd meet, right?

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

A snappy conversational style, a sense of humour and self awareness are massive turn ons.

Stupidity is dangerous.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Nothing more sexy than n intelligent man

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"how intelligent do you like your prospective meets to be? I prefer their drooling to be as a result of my naked body rather than not. "

What a witty comment!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's paramount for me...

Intelligence is only rivaled by humour when it comes to sexual chemistry..

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

just as long as they don't talk shite all the time, even reasonably intelligent men can do that too sometimes.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's paramount for me...

Intelligence is only rivaled by humour when it comes to sexual chemistry..

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