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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ? Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you was not miles away i would ask you to meet me x i am bi love ladys not alot around here ... I bet alot about the weather the snow and ice .... get spring here thay will go mad ... like rabbits on heat you see x jo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awww ty jo hunny ,... And I would say yes lol x

No snow or ice here, just yet ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never had any problems finding meets on here, ok ive had time wasters but we all do, over all tho if i have wanted a meet i have managed to get one, the problem i find is finding the right person to meet as most of the offers i get are from people im not really interesed in so it can take time to sort a meet sometimes

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I'm a single Bi Fem.. and would meet other single fems IF I was asked to. But it seems there are not many out there woh actually do want to meet. Most girls here once you chat with them arn't really single and want there partners to watch/join in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh id have no problem if I wanted cock ! Lol

And as for 'proper' single, im married yes ! But hubby never ever is in the picture.... So in swing world im single lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ? Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???"

As one of what I believe is only a few lesbians on this site I know exactly what you mean! I am pleased to be able to say that I have met a handful of great women from here and have had great fun with them too but the amount of meets that I have had is a tiny percentage of the amount of women showing 'apparent interest' shown before they stop messaging. I realise that on a site like Fab that this is going to happen but I didn't think that it would be to this extent ... after all, aren't we all on here for more sex and fun times? I know I am

I had wondered if the small percentage of actual women wanting to meet was down to me being 'lesbian' and not 'bi' and would be interested to know if that is off putting to people?

Babilicious xxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I find that as a.single.bi female with no partner hidden away at.all i do get chased lots which is lovely with people wanting to meet me. Problem is they chat with you and get to know me and then when i have a weekend.of sort of.swarm but when they realise i cant meet them that weekend.as.have just confirmed meeting someone they get the huff as if they are the only ones interested. or if i tell them that i want to meet for a coffee first and people Will always assume i Will accomodate they get a cob on. My turn for a grumble.

Love to meet some people who Will accomodate for a change and happy to meet for a coffee first. My profile does say this i believe but as.normal it is often not read. I assume because they cant be arsed and just want a shag. I am a person too lol.

As for saying us single fems are.gold.dust. I went to my local club recently and was dressed room impresa. I walked in and it was busy full of couples and very good looking ones. I got a drink and stood by the bar for a short while. No one looked at me. I moved away into an ideal position for people walking past me to the stairs.and play rooms and began tryinf to make eye contact with people. For some reason my confidence lwft me that eve. I think because i walked in and it was.full and normally go.early so it fills.around me. Anyway basically i spent the eve feeling like thwarting single guys do. With no eye contact and fewling like a spare.part. I did chat with a.few couples.but think i must have grown two heads that night! Lol. The owner who i know reasonably well came.over answer had a grumble with me as he thouht they with all mad to not chat with.me. I was very aware that i needed to go do the chatting too and did end up going home after visiting the ladies for hand cream a number of times lol. .Life as a single female.isnt always great and.can still feel like a spare.part.not in the click with couples.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have never successfully met with a single female from this site.

I've chatted to loads, only to find they have a partner who must watch, and preferably take part.

I'm not often in the mood for purely girl on girl, but when I am, I can never ever find anyone to play with. Its frustrating.

As for whether a woman is lesbian or bi, it doesn't bother me at all. Certainly doesn't put me off any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP was talking about single bi women wanting just girly fun being like gold dust, not just single women in general. I see that your profile says that you're bisexual but you mainly talk about men and couples with no real mention of the kind of lady you would like to meet and so I don't think that this thread really applies to that

Babilicious xxx

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"The OP was talking about single bi women wanting just girly fun being like gold dust, not just single women in general. I see that your profile says that you're bisexual but you mainly talk about men and couples with no real mention of the kind of lady you would like to meet and so I don't think that this thread really applies to that

Babilicious xxx"

My profile doesn't have a description of fems I'd meet. It says Im Bisexual.. it also says I'm looking for women and men. I don't advertise it in bold writing because I don't see any point. It clearly says I seek Black Males only.. but do you know how many white guys mail me lol.

There are alot of girls on here who lke the idea of meeting other females.. but when it comes down to it, they just can't.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"The OP was talking about single bi women wanting just girly fun being like gold dust, not just single women in general. I see that your profile says that you're bisexual but you mainly talk about men and couples with no real mention of the kind of lady you would like to meet and so I don't think that this thread really applies to that

Babilicious xxx"

I was answering the thread how it applies to me. Because I am more specific about the men and couples that I meet, it makes my opinion less valid? I don't think so.

As I previously stated, I'm rarely in the right mood for purely girl on girl, so why bother wasting profile space when it isn't something that comes up very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it is because of a few possible reasons:

1) They are not the person in the pics on their profile

2) They are so swamped with messages they never reply

3) They are always looking for the next slightly better looking guy

4) They say they want a meet, but when push comes to shove they back off, since it would ruin the "fantasy".

*shrugs*

Perhaps it's just people been defective!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?"

"Some" couples love to be chased

It's worth bearing in mind, not everyone is as experienced / upfront as “other” swingers, initially, some may well agree to meet via email, it takes a great deal of confidence to cross the line and actually meet up.

Sadly, some label these people as “time-wasters”

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Mrs H who is Bi said she would love to meet a single bi fem just fem on fem as often when we have met couples she has felt the fem is only being bi to make her man happy. so the chance to meet a single bi fem would be most welcome and n I would not be there watching!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ? Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???"

Nice to see its not just single males who struggle with ditherers. Ok maybe nice isn't the right word but what i mean is it isn't just us single guys.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I'm always entertained by these threads, as I seem to meet mostly single bi-fems...

And it cannot be just me - I'm not special at all.

Happy to compare notes though

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Now... Pinky, you know we would, but you told me you only do the ladies.... ah (lightbulb moment)... I got it now, its me you dont want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???"

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

"Some" couples love to be chased

It's worth bearing in mind, not everyone is as experienced / upfront as “other” swingers, initially, some may well agree to meet via email, it takes a great deal of confidence to cross the line and actually meet up.

Sadly, some label these people as “time-wasters” "

Oh course it takes guts to cross the line and turn it into reality ...but be honest with your expectaions and desires ...and dont bloody waste my time with endless emails...some even so far as an hour before due to leave... waiting for the address to be emailed and then nothing !!!!! I've taken the time to get to 'know ' the people through emails , just as they have, set some boundaries, got childcare, spent hours getting ready only to be meet by a wall of silence.

My major gripe is being so in demand on times i would need a month of sundays to meet everyone that took my fancy... but as soon as i am able to fit in a meet the scarper... only to return as i said 24 hrs later ... asking when i can meet !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters "

i must have missed the point here ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ? Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

Nice to see its not just single males who struggle with ditherers. Ok maybe nice isn't the right word but what i mean is it isn't just us single guys."

nooo definatly not just you guys who struggle lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find that as a.single.bi female with no partner hidden away at.all i do get chased lots which is lovely with people wanting to meet me. Problem is they chat with you and get to know me and then when i have a weekend.of sort of.swarm but when they realise i cant meet them that weekend.as.have just confirmed meeting someone they get the huff as if they are the only ones interested. or if i tell them that i want to meet for a coffee first and people Will always assume i Will accomodate they get a cob on. My turn for a grumble.

Love to meet some people who Will accomodate for a change and happy to meet for a coffee first. My profile does say this i believe but as.normal it is often not read. I assume because they cant be arsed and just want a shag. I am a person too lol.

As for saying us single fems are.gold.dust. I went to my local club recently and was dressed room impresa. I walked in and it was busy full of couples and very good looking ones. I got a drink and stood by the bar for a short while. No one looked at me. I moved away into an ideal position for people walking past me to the stairs.and play rooms and began tryinf to make eye contact with people. For some reason my confidence lwft me that eve. I think because i walked in and it was.full and normally go.early so it fills.around me. Anyway basically i spent the eve feeling like thwarting single guys do. With no eye contact and fewling like a spare.part. I did chat with a.few couples.but think i must have grown two heads that night! Lol. The owner who i know reasonably well came.over answer had a grumble with me as he thouht they with all mad to not chat with.me. I was very aware that i needed to go do the chatting too and did end up going home after visiting the ladies for hand cream a number of times lol. .Life as a single female.isnt always great and.can still feel like a spare.part.not in the click with couples."

am feeling your pain hun ! lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Now... Pinky, you know we would, but you told me you only do the ladies.... ah (lightbulb moment)... I got it now, its me you dont want! "

lol sth .. you got it mr :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been fortunate in meeting one-on-one with females, but as many others say, there are quite a few bi-females who have partners, husbands tucked away.

Sometimes I think it's more difficult to arrange female/female meets too because we both have children... it's not easy fitting everything in when you are a single parent (like myself) many can't meet at home because of kids and cannot afford hotels, therefore clubs are used more.

They are out there....just have more logistics to overcome before meeting.

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By *teph_NaturallyTV/TS
over a year ago

Kettering

Perhaps this story from a visitor of mine recently may help someone..tho alas it doesn't explain how hard it is for some of the female posters on this thread...

Alan (not real name) logged on to a popular dating/swinging site one Saturday morning ..in search of some fun with a lady...he accidently put "female looking for male in into the search box...he was amazed to find that their was over 500 men looking in his one small town for a meet that day ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters

i must have missed the point here ??"

the point being nearly all fems as you know have bi tendencies/fantasies and maybe use such a pf for an extention of such but in the realworld.com they wouldnt ever meet up with another fm for sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters

i must have missed the point here ??

the point being nearly all fems as you know have bi tendencies/fantasies and maybe use such a pf for an extention of such but in the realworld.com they wouldnt ever meet up with another fm for sex "

right with you now ..... i suppose so

whats the reasons for the couples acting the same tho ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters

i must have missed the point here ??

the point being nearly all fems as you know have bi tendencies/fantasies and maybe use such a pf for an extention of such but in the realworld.com they wouldnt ever meet up with another fm for sex

right with you now ..... i suppose so

whats the reasons for the couples acting the same tho ? "

probably hubby`s fantasy who knows? have you met any cos i dont know of any or ever even heard a bi fem rumour so where are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ?

Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

or maybe bi fem profiles = timewasters

i must have missed the point here ??

the point being nearly all fems as you know have bi tendencies/fantasies and maybe use such a pf for an extention of such but in the realworld.com they wouldnt ever meet up with another fm for sex

right with you now ..... i suppose so

whats the reasons for the couples acting the same tho ?

probably hubby`s fantasy who knows? have you met any cos i dont know of any or ever even heard a bi fem rumour so where are they?"

and after seeing ur pics no wonder you become someones fantasy...its their loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe, maybe !

Oh ive had many a fantasy over pics on here lol

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"Having a right old winge now, so please dont slate, just want to vent

If single bi fems are 'gold dust' then why the hell is it so hard to get a meet????

Yes I know ive had my fair share but why do some couples and singles nag you to death to meet and then vanish off the face of the earth when u say yes ? Only to re surface 24 later and nag with gusto again ?

Its soooo bloody frustrating !

Yes yes I know we all lead busy lifes and really dont expect anybody to drop everything to meet, but it really does make u wonder if they just love the chase ???

As one of what I believe is only a few lesbians on this site I know exactly what you mean! I am pleased to be able to say that I have met a handful of great women from here and have had great fun with them too but the amount of meets that I have had is a tiny percentage of the amount of women showing 'apparent interest' shown before they stop messaging. I realise that on a site like Fab that this is going to happen but I didn't think that it would be to this extent ... after all, aren't we all on here for more sex and fun times? I know I am

I had wondered if the small percentage of actual women wanting to meet was down to me being 'lesbian' and not 'bi' and would be interested to know if that is off putting to people?

Babilicious xxx"

Would not put me off. Even though I am married my husband is genuinely happy for me to meet another woman alone without any involvement at all (no hiding in the closet, waiting for an invitation to 'join in'). However, I think there are a lot of bi fem couples where the fem isn't quite as 'bi' as they make out.. or rather, they like playing with another fem but only when there's male involvement as a kind of safety net.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can i hide in ur closet instead then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't have a description of fems I'd meet. It says Im Bisexual.. it also says I'm looking for women and men. I don't advertise it in bold writing because I don't see any point. It clearly says I seek Black Males only.. but do you know how many white guys mail me lol.

There are alot of girls on here who lke the idea of meeting other females.. but when it comes down to it, they just can't."

I guess so yes! Its a lot like me saying that I'm for couples to approach me if the lady is willing to play alone ... I still get asked if hubby can watch or join in which is frustrating. Hands up all those ladies that just love girl on girl fun

Babilicious xx

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Oh ive had many a fantasy over pics on here lol "

Your not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had wondered if the small percentage of actual women wanting to meet was down to me being 'lesbian' and not 'bi' and would be interested to know if that is off putting to people?

Babilicious xxx

Would not put me off. Even though I am married my husband is genuinely happy for me to meet another woman alone without any involvement at all (no hiding in the closet, waiting for an invitation to 'join in'). However, I think there are a lot of bi fem couples where the fem isn't quite as 'bi' as they make out.. or rather, they like playing with another fem but only when there's male involvement as a kind of safety net."

Pleased to hear it doesn't put you off! :D

I can I just make it known that I don't need a safety blanket at all ... I just love ladies

Babilicious xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can i hide in ur closet instead then? "

No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs H who is Bi said she would love to meet a single bi fem just fem on fem as often when we have met couples she has felt the fem is only being bi to make her man happy. so the chance to meet a single bi fem would be most welcome and n I would not be there watching!! lol"

There is no fella here for me to keep happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP was talking about single bi women wanting just girly fun being like gold dust, not just single women in general. I see that your profile says that you're bisexual but you mainly talk about men and couples with no real mention of the kind of lady you would like to meet and so I don't think that this thread really applies to that

Babilicious xxx

I was answering the thread how it applies to me. Because I am more specific about the men and couples that I meet, it makes my opinion less valid? I don't think so.

As I previously stated, I'm rarely in the right mood for purely girl on girl, so why bother wasting profile space when it isn't something that comes up very often.

"

I think that's fair and didn't mean for your opinion to sound less valid. My reply was to the previous post so apologies for that

Babilicious xx

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"can i hide in ur closet instead then? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can i hide in ur closet instead then?

No! "

to you too!

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"I had wondered if the small percentage of actual women wanting to meet was down to me being 'lesbian' and not 'bi' and would be interested to know if that is off putting to people?

Babilicious xxx

Would not put me off. Even though I am married my husband is genuinely happy for me to meet another woman alone without any involvement at all (no hiding in the closet, waiting for an invitation to 'join in'). However, I think there are a lot of bi fem couples where the fem isn't quite as 'bi' as they make out.. or rather, they like playing with another fem but only when there's male involvement as a kind of safety net.

Pleased to hear it doesn't put you off! :D

I can I just make it known that I don't need a safety blanket at all ... I just love ladies

Babilicious xx"

That comes as SUCH a surprise!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That comes as SUCH a surprise!! lol"

Sorry to be predictable, just want to make it clear :D

Babilicious xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came to meet a single bi fem but it proving to be hard. I think alot of "bi" fems are only bi when another man is watching or infact they just like the chase and the bi term. Anyway ive not been on long enough to lose hope xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hands up over here for one to one bi fem meets.

only had one fem to fem meeting since joining this site, most messages i get are from couples where the lady is looking for her first bi experience.

to me, being bi not only means fancying both men and women sexually, but also that you would consider a relationship with either sex, if there is a connection.

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