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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...no pun intended but i'm finding i don't get turned on as much...i have seen a LOT in my time and find myself thinking..

"well what's going to be so different"

I do try and add variety and ideas but i feel i may have to push boundries further...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Or do something else completely so when you go back to sex, the excitement and fun is there again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that bothered about variety but i keep going off sex. Keeps happening every few weeks or so and lasts for weeks.

Not sure why, not sure how to fix it or if i even want to.

I think it is the fun has gone out of it. Like there's no flirting it's just i'm free such and such you wanna meet then. Hardly anyone is spontaneous round here at the minute so my sex drive has switched off.

Plus i'm not even finding anyone attractive either. Now it's like i find them unattractive, everyone, idk wtf is wrong with me. I have issues lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try going cold turkey for a while from porn, fab, wanking, kink or anything else sexual.... they say the abstinence reboots the neural pathways brain into bringing things back to 'normal' when you've reach certain boundaries!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to my boundaries more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm up for a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...no pun intended but i'm finding i don't get turned on as much...i have seen a LOT in my time and find myself thinking..

"well what's going to be so different"

I do try and add variety and ideas but i feel i may have to push boundries further..."

Perhaps you need a break from fab so it'll feel fresh when you come back? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you need a proper relationship?

Hang up the old swinging spurs, get out yer comfortable slippers and leave the life of debauchery behind

Maybe not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...no pun intended but i'm finding i don't get turned on as much...i have seen a LOT in my time and find myself thinking..

"well what's going to be so different"

I do try and add variety and ideas but i feel i may have to push boundries further..."

well hiding your profile is just childish and not pushing any boundaries (it has an a in it innit)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm turned on by the man I'm with. Maybe you've become indifferent towards women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Push those boundaries !

Like yourself , we have tried and enjoyed so many different sexual adventures , but if it gets a bit samey there are always new things to try .

The only limits we have are our own minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...no pun intended but i'm finding i don't get turned on as much...i have seen a LOT in my time and find myself thinking..

"well what's going to be so different"

I do try and add variety and ideas but i feel i may have to push boundries further...

well hiding your profile is just childish and not pushing any boundaries (it has an a in it innit)"

Why is hiding his profile childish?

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I guess for most people, if you have steak every day, it eventually gets boring.

That was prolly no help whatsoever

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"I'm not that bothered about variety but i keep going off sex. Keeps happening every few weeks or so and lasts for weeks.

Not sure why, not sure how to fix it or if i even want to.

I think it is the fun has gone out of it. Like there's no flirting it's just i'm free such and such you wanna meet then. Hardly anyone is spontaneous round here at the minute so my sex drive has switched off.

Plus i'm not even finding anyone attractive either. Now it's like i find them unattractive, everyone, idk wtf is wrong with me. I have issues lol."

Sounds like post coital depression. It lasts for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get cock shy sometimes and become disinterested in meeting.

I think my problem now is I've gone over to the kink side more I expect everyone I meet to be into that too and it puts me off if they're not. It's so hard to find exactly what you need. Even harder if you don't know what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not that bothered about variety but i keep going off sex. Keeps happening every few weeks or so and lasts for weeks.

Not sure why, not sure how to fix it or if i even want to.

I think it is the fun has gone out of it. Like there's no flirting it's just i'm free such and such you wanna meet then. Hardly anyone is spontaneous round here at the minute so my sex drive has switched off.

Plus i'm not even finding anyone attractive either. Now it's like i find them unattractive, everyone, idk wtf is wrong with me. I have issues lol."
have you considered therapy I have a slot on Friday at 7.15 am

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"I'm not that bothered about variety but i keep going off sex. Keeps happening every few weeks or so and lasts for weeks.

Not sure why, not sure how to fix it or if i even want to.

I think it is the fun has gone out of it. Like there's no flirting it's just i'm free such and such you wanna meet then. Hardly anyone is spontaneous round here at the minute so my sex drive has switched off.

Plus i'm not even finding anyone attractive either. Now it's like i find them unattractive, everyone, idk wtf is wrong with me. I have issues lol. have you considered therapy I have a slot on Friday at 7.15 am "

Slot car racing might help unless you got a one track mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a diabetic, one of the side effects is loss of libido. Could be days, weeks, months even..

I just use that time getting to know guys I would meet if I had that spark. Once it's back, its hey ho and off to shag I go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not that bothered about variety but i keep going off sex. Keeps happening every few weeks or so and lasts for weeks.

Not sure why, not sure how to fix it or if i even want to.

I think it is the fun has gone out of it. Like there's no flirting it's just i'm free such and such you wanna meet then. Hardly anyone is spontaneous round here at the minute so my sex drive has switched off.

Plus i'm not even finding anyone attractive either. Now it's like i find them unattractive, everyone, idk wtf is wrong with me. I have issues lol.

Sounds like post coital depression. It lasts for years. "

Dunno. I want sex and come on here, and other sites, thinking yay i'll have sex today, then i just don't fancy anyone. Not even guys who would definitely be classed as good looking, or who i might have fancied.

My brain is telling me something i don't understand yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Figured it out.

I don't want to invest myself in anyone.

I actually can't be arsed any more and seeing all potentials as users, crap, selfish, liars even if i don't know them. Lost my NSA head i think. Will wait for that to come back before i start fucking again.

Horny as fuck right now as well.

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