FabSwingers.com forum: how did you get into the lifestyle

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did you ever think that when you got married or started a relationship that you would ever end up having sex with other people, and how did it start for you.

Singles the same question for you how did you get in to having all this sex lol.

For me it was something I always wanted to try but was married and my then wife wasn't up for it, things where pretty bad on the home front sex life so I started swinging.

Please this is not the post for having a pop at me. PM if you want to have chat about my infidelity when I was married.

So back to the question.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted sex but didn't want a relationship.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've always liked sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've never been the particular faithful type and I had an affair back in 2010 and it kinda opened a flood gate for me with what was available to me, when my marriage broke up I just thought 'why not try it properly' so I did.

Having said that I have a bloke in my life now but there is still a huge part of me that still wants to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is sex? lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"What is sex? lol"

Isn't that what all this is about... sex?

Isn't that the reason we're all here... here as in on Fab but also as in on Earth - some people fucked and here we are... and the point of life is life...

Surely?

Talking Heads - Creatures of Love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BMY7gG47fI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is sex? lol

Isn't that what all this is about... sex?

Isn't that the reason we're all here... here as in on Fab but also as in on Earth - some people fucked and here we are... and the point of life is life...

Surely?

Talking Heads - Creatures of Love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BMY7gG47fI"
Yes that's right we are all on here for sex. I just tend to use the forum more than to search, good tune there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had a lot of sex, so came online for sex seeing as i get everything else online.

Making more effort to get out and about in my shitty town though, lol it backfired today because i saw my dads mate who is also the guy who always makes new accounts to message me, i block him a lot.

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I've always been very horny and open with my sexuality, had plenty of one night stands before I was married. However once in a relationship I never expected to sleep with anyone else! In fact I'm the first to admit to making disparaging comments about swingers (couples who swing obviously can't be in love etc

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Then a couple of years ago we discussed having a threesome so I could explore my bi-curiosity. We ended up meeting a couple and having a 4some

and voila here we are!

We are more in love than ever, we enjoy the odd 3 or 4 some, however the sex is amazing even if it's just the two of us.

I see swinging like sex toys, not necessarily needed for fun but can add some extra spice to our voracious sex life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tripped and fell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab pulled me in!

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

We turned 30 and thought Fuck It! Lol x

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

The lady who has been my wife for nearly 18 years and I discussed exploring non monogamy before we got married. Our agreement was always that once we both felt comfortable we would begin exploring starting with my wife's desire for an MMF threesome.

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Came after a dirty fuck in the car one night , just a bit of messing around , talking about someone watching us . And hey presto the magic sex box was unlocked .

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Started going to fetish clubs in London in 2002. A friend took me to a swingers' party, was great to live out all my fantasies with no judgement and in a safe environment. Never looked back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heart failure. Every cloud..

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

With me it started just over 11 years ago got my head turn by a woman I met due to work she was married to .make me realise there was lots of married people out there up to no good . Shale we say having there cake and eating it.

the fun with her lasted 6 years when it ended I was OK that was a experience I'm unlikely to ever enjoy again after all one has to be careful you can't just make a pass at just anyone .

Then I started missing the excitement and extra sex that's the only way to put it so I found myself one afternoon on the internet looking for excitement and sex .

The rest is history as they say

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

A birthday present for Dick to see me with another girl

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Hubby wanted my to fuck others & I wouldn't, but then he talked me into giving a stranger a BJ & a slut was born

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was to shy too buy porn at the local shop..so googled and a swingers site was an option....

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We went to our first swinger club a few weeks after our first meeting, so we basically started our relationship by swinging. We had both done some group-sex when younger, plus R and an ex had done a bit of swinging in the pre-internet "Forum' days, and we both had quite a few affairs when married to our exes. it was obvious that neither of us were going to be conventionally 'faithful'- we both enjoy variety in our sex-lives too much. It's worked really well for us, lots of sexual variety but no deceit or guilt from keeping things secret. In fact swinging has made us even closer. It wouldn't work for everyone, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab was recommended on mumsnet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I picked up the wrong car keys at a party...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wanted sex but didn't want a relationship. "

This for me too

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I picked up the wrong car keys at a party..."

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By *eLuv2PlayCouple
over a year ago

Alpena

Husband wanted to swing, took him many conversations to convince me. Only needed first meet to decide he was so right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were living apart and wanted a little time just for us so gave it a bash and loved it been here since

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Paul got into this years ago with his ex and it was always something that I was intrigued by but never had anyone to reveal this desire to...but now all that has changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab was recommended on mumsnet

That's what made me join too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was referred here by a woman I met from another site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wanted sex but didn't want a relationship. "

Same

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By *rbigmisshornyCouple
over a year ago

Livingston

was playing truth or dare on a car journey. I was sober and driving and my recently wed wife was asked if she ever had had a threesome by her d*unk pal. When she said yes I near crashed the motor. SEVERAL INTERRIGATIONS LATER...well here we are!!

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

"I've always had a lot of sex, so came online for sex seeing as i get everything else online.

Making more effort to get out and about in my shitty town though, lol it backfired today because i saw my dads mate who is also the guy who always makes new accounts to message me, i block him a lot."

Fuck, does he know its you though?

Thats what I'd call too close for comfort.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

A friend at the time put me on here. I was totally vanilla, inhibited and prudish.

She knew what I needed it seemed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab was recommended on mumsnet

That's what made me join too!

Another MNer here...I reckon there's hundreds of us...You'll know us if you come over and get offered Pom Bears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always had a lot of sex, so came online for sex seeing as i get everything else online.

Making more effort to get out and about in my shitty town though, lol it backfired today because i saw my dads mate who is also the guy who always makes new accounts to message me, i block him a lot.

Fuck, does he know its you though?

Thats what I'd call too close for comfort.

He knows it's me, he doesn't care, half my dads mates are knobheads. Wouldn't mind the pics he uses are probably 20 years old or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was browsing the Internet and saw an advert for a swinging site, joined and the rest is history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to promote dating sites and started a swingers one and wife and I talked about it for a year before we did it, then we did it for 5 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A close friend died last xmas i woke up one morning and thought life is too short,,the wife always knew my desire for an mff but i never pushed it,watching tbe weather on the bbc,i told her carol kirkwood is hot and would love too see her playing with my wife (testing the water)she showed an interest and here we are loving every moment,

still waiting for carol tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the beginning of our relationship, we both talked about how we would like to try a 3some. We had a couple by chance. One with a guy and another with a woman. Then a nice friend of mr's told us he was a swinger and about chameleons and this site and it all went from there really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was recommended to me by my parole officer

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Did you ever think that when you got married or started a relationship that you would ever end up having sex with other people, and how did it start for you.

Singles the same question for you how did you get in to having all this sex lol.

For me it was something I always wanted to try but was married and my then wife wasn't up for it, things where pretty bad on the home front sex life so I started swinging.

Please this is not the post for having a pop at me. PM if you want to have chat about my infidelity when I was married.

So back to the question.....

I've just always been a filthy fucker who can never get enough good sex...and more importantly will always lust after pastures new....so, just a natural scene to end up playing on I guess...

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Forced against my will ......well sort of ... well no force needed at all actually .... always been able to talk about fantasies so dipped our toes ....and loved it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby always wanted to see me with a woman and we found out that friends of ours were swingers and hubby just googled swinging and he found fab.

Me personally, I didn't get it? We had an amazing sex life but he had this fantasy of me with a woman.

He got chatting to a couple who often met up for just socials as they love talking about it. We met them but I told him I wouldn't do anything. I was just going along for a chat. I really wasnt interested in doing anything but I could manage 'a chat' lol

They told us what they did and,

well, I had a 'lightbulb moment' - I suddenly understood why people do it. He got a kick out of dropping his wife off at a hotel , she'd spend a couple of hours with a guy but then go back and they'd be super horny for each other lol.

I wouldn't do that myself but I just found it so liberating that he trusted her to do that but they both found it so horny too.

I decided that I'd try something ...didn't know what but I was curious about being with a woman.

We found a couple who were happy for us to go at our own pace which was uber slow in the beginning lol.

We were very lucky to find them tbh as I think, if our first couple had been pushy and wanted stuff we weren't ready for, I'd have run a mile.

We got a message from a guy a few months ago asking if we'd go on a social and if we got along that he and his wife would want to play BUT she had never done anything before. He didn't know what she thought if it all (!) but he wanted to spring it on her and hoped she'd do something?

That's definitely NOT the right way to go about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was on a dating site, met someone on there who was on here. Even though we didn't end up dating she told me to join here.

I remember laughing wildly at the thought it, however, I joined and have been here ever since!

Made some life long friends too who actually genuinely care about me which is amazing

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I got into it by accident an thought why not an that was 11months ago...havnt looked back since lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (shel) my friends were joking about the swinging club down the road (at the time that was Libs) and I was intrigued. I had a FB at the time who was very open and very kinky so I mentioned it to him and he said he would take me. From there on I was hooked

I met Paul a couple of years later and gave up, until we started to talk about it more and more and then went and broke his cherry in the swinging world

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By *allgeordieguyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

For me it was by accident with my ex, we were in the car at a local beach when another couple pulled alongside the couple started playing before they started chatting told us what went on and where to go, we went a couple of times a month after that, it took a few months to fully swap as we both got a thrill out of being watched and watching

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I never did get into the lifestyle sadly OP. I liked the idea of it all and thought I'd try through this site, which I think was the problem but it never got going. I'm still working out how this whole thing works. May give it a better go in the future though. It's certainly something I want to get into.

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