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Can you go back to monogamous relationships when you have had this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoyed the lifestyle throughout my twenties, then settled into a happy monogamous marriage for over 25 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, happily.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I don't see why not, but would you tell them about the lifestyle you've been involved in? I know sme men might find it a bit threatening...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I find the woman I love and she loves me I'll be monogamous in a heartbeat with no regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,and we probably will do soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm not sure

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Don't think I want to try. Having to much fun

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's challenging. I was on the scene when I met Paul (who was a vanilla)

We went five years with out. Then was on the scene about a year and went on another break, now we're not sure one part of us wants to be here but as our family dynamics have changed we don't get much time together we would rather spend it with each other than other people.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Probably.

But don't want that right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I tried. Failed. Variety is the spice of life.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I believe one can return to being happily monogamous. I have "known" an awful lot of women and eventually one gets tired of hearing the same old stuff over and over agian. Many of the women probably felt the same about me. But when some one special comes along it all changes and variety for varietys sake loses its appeal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think I want to try. Having to much fun "

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

Yes I dip in and out of this and I really enjoy it. But when I'm with someone I'm with them. Whether it's in the scene or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I dip in and out of this and I really enjoy it. But when I'm with someone I'm with them. Whether it's in the scene or not "
this sums it up nicely I think when one your with gives all that you need its faultless good luck bt the way

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Yes I dip in and out of this and I really enjoy it. But when I'm with someone I'm with them. Whether it's in the scene or not this sums it up nicely I think when one your with gives all that you need its faultless good luck bt the way "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my 4th profile over the last 5 years I keep coming back on here after a brake up but soon as I meet someone I'm off it. Even tho I don't seem to meet anyone off here anymore so it seems pointless now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your advice

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

This is my worry being in a relationship again,I'm not sure I like the thought of only being with one man again.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If I find the woman I love and she loves me I'll be monogamous in a heartbeat with no regrets."

Yup, me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I find the woman I love and she loves me I'll be monogamous in a heartbeat with no regrets.

Yup, me too! "

Yes - that goes for me too...!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the person/couple.

We could go back to being monogamous tomorrow (most of our fun in clubs is just the two of us anyway). But I think for others it could be more difficult, especially if one person wants to stop and the other doesn't.

If I were single I don't think I'd have much of a problem going back to monogamy, but hypothetical are hard to defend.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is my worry being in a relationship again,I'm not sure I like the thought of only being with one man again."

When the right man comes along I think I would easily give it all up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if sex was good I'd be happy and loyal but if it got boring I would want more and probably be naughty .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on n off fab for years....once Pandoras box opens its very very hard to close...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After being cheated on in my last 3 long term relationships i think i would not be in an exclusive relationship again.

I can be in them and have done, just i don't trust anyone now and won't make sacrifices for someone else at this time. When my ex wanted me back i told him i would get back with him but not staying exclusive to him as it didn't benefit me to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

V here. I think I have a slightly different perspective ... We met on fab, fell in love, have great sex (all the reasons everyone says they would give this up).

If you take the literal meaning of monogamy (which is being married to one person at a time) ... I think we can be monogamous AND be part of this lifestyle rather than have to choose one or the other. No one else has my heart and mind. I only have one truly intimate relationship, so I consider myself to be in a monogamous relationship. We just fuck other people.

Why would we strike it off... If we don't want to we don't, if we do want to we can. Surely this is the perfect situation? Unless either one of us is involved with someone else with secrecy and deception then we are not cheating and we remain dedicated to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes you can , but it will be bloody hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me yes(Mr) as I have yet to play with someone.

Not sure about Jools she seems to be enjoying herself.

I am certain if I asked her to stop, she would.

I hope

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"This is my worry being in a relationship again,I'm not sure I like the thought of only being with one man again.

When the right man comes along I think I would easily give it all up. "

I think I've just given up in the right man coming along

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I don't believe that I am at all wired for monogamy.

But other people may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily!

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