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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. " I wasn't aware bi men 'have to' declare their preference. I thought swingers were similarly high risk. | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. " Swingers are a high risk group. | |||
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"As I said on the other one... Did you not have a good time x " To be fair know it wasn't the best meet we've had | |||
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"As I said on the other one... Did you not have a good time x To be fair know it wasn't the best meet we've had " When did you meet them? | |||
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"So how did you know they weren't a couple persay.... And that she was hired? Or is she just a girl That does both. " We both commented on our drive home they didn't seem to be a together couple , and we've only recently found out , It could easily have been her own time but when meeting and greeting before hand we was told she was on a business trip in the west mids and he had picked her up to meet in the hotel up north at know time was her job title divulged | |||
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"We had spoken and messaged a lot before meeting (only with him!) and all seemed good .... We both felt her heart wasn't in the meet and that she was only there to please him .... As for our vetting process it is usually very good and we've met some fabulous genuine people on here " Could she have been meeting because he gets off on seeing her with others? | |||
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"We had spoken and messaged a lot before meeting (only with him!) and all seemed good .... We both felt her heart wasn't in the meet and that she was only there to please him .... As for our vetting process it is usually very good and we've met some fabulous genuine people on here Could she have been meeting because he gets off on seeing her with others? " Think to be fair your missing the point | |||
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"We had spoken and messaged a lot before meeting (only with him!) and all seemed good .... We both felt her heart wasn't in the meet and that she was only there to please him .... As for our vetting process it is usually very good and we've met some fabulous genuine people on here " That's a shame, I can't imagine meeting a couple where one only seems to be there to please the other is much fun. I'm sure that can happen a lot with "real" couples too. If your vetting process usually works then keep doing what you're doing and just chalk this one up to experience. | |||
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"We had spoken and messaged a lot before meeting (only with him!) and all seemed good .... We both felt her heart wasn't in the meet and that she was only there to please him .... As for our vetting process it is usually very good and we've met some fabulous genuine people on here That's a shame, I can't imagine meeting a couple where one only seems to be there to please the other is much fun. I'm sure that can happen a lot with "real" couples too. If your vetting process usually works then keep doing what you're doing and just chalk this one up to experience. " Exactly  | |||
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"It sounds to me like they are a couple but she also apparently hostesses or escorts x " To us after the Chat, she not knowing to much and him filling in the gaps certainly didn't seem like any together couple we've ever met | |||
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"Could she have been meeting because he gets off on seeing her with others? Think to be fair your missing the point " I've seen lots of couples on here saying that they love seeing their partner with others. Seems just as likely (more likely?) than someone being forced into prostitution - especially if you didn't pay them (you didn't say you paid them, I don't think). Unless you mean I've missed the point that the lady was a bored, shit shag. In which case maybe the title of the thread is wrong! | |||
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"I'd say this happens more than people would know, I've heard of it happening at a club more so. i know I've played with couples who's attitudes sound identical to what happened to you, in most cases I'll say it because one partner wants it more than the other. " That's exactly my point. Seems more likely than some pimp is giving away freebies - unless she was an intern. Do houses of ill-repute take on interns? | |||
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"We had spoken and messaged a lot before meeting (only with him!) and all seemed good .... We both felt her heart wasn't in the meet and that she was only there to please him .... As for our vetting process it is usually very good and we've met some fabulous genuine people on here That's a shame, I can't imagine meeting a couple where one only seems to be there to please the other is much fun. I'm sure that can happen a lot with "real" couples too. If your vetting process usually works then keep doing what you're doing and just chalk this one up to experience. " It does happen with 'real couples', more often than people might admit. Not much you can do via a vetting process though. You only know when you meet in person and sense the tension.  | |||
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"Could she have been meeting because he gets off on seeing her with others? Think to be fair your missing the point I've seen lots of couples on here saying that they love seeing their partner with others. Seems just as likely (more likely?) than someone being forced into prostitution - especially if you didn't pay them (you didn't say you paid them, I don't think). Unless you mean I've missed the point that the lady was a bored, shit shag. In which case maybe the title of the thread is wrong! " There's nothing wrong with the title, we simply chatted to a couple with a profile on fab arranged to meet when we met and during play sensed something wasn't as it should be . A few weeks later we was by someone else directed to a club website where upon looking at there girls noticed a familiar face ie the female of the couple we'd met | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. I wasn't aware bi men 'have to' declare their preference. I thought swingers were similarly high risk. " You haven't seen the many forum threads about bi men saying they are straight? Swingers or anyone who has sex with more than one person is higher risk. The highest are the groups who contract the most stis. There isn't a group for swingers,they come under general public and go into age and sex categories. I've seen and heard a lot of people say they don't play with bi men some have said because they are more likely to have unprotected sex and not have regular sti testing. | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. Swingers are a high risk group. " I know and within that group are sub groups who are put in higher risk categories. Not by me ,I'll fuck anyone. | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. " Why is an escort a high risk? | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. Why is an escort a high risk? " I can only think it's because they have regular sex with different men. I'm not sure if they include men who have sex with men who are escorts in that category. There is no swingers category,they come under people who have been tested as male or female in different age categories. Genital warts was the most diagnosed infection,something a condom has less protection from. | |||
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"Was she being paid to be there? I've often wondered why bi men have to disclose their sexual preferences,because they are a high risk group,but escorts aren't expected to. People say we should be honest so people can make an informed decision whether to have sex with someone,but it seems to only apply to bi or married men. I wouldn't like to be anywhere where someone was being paid to have sex with me. Why is an escort a high risk? " If you have ever received payment for sex is one of the questions when you give blood, same as whether you've had sex with a bisexual man and whether you've used iv drugs. I've always inferred from that its classed as a higher risk group. | |||
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"I don't see why an escort is of any higher risk than a swinger If I meet a guy and have sex with him and he leaves me £150 on Monday then meet a guy off here Tuesday for a no payment meet how is the Monday meet any higher risk than the Tuesday meet? I've seen women on here with 300 and 400 verifications surely they are of no lower risk than an escort "Exactly!!!!! It irritates me when Swingers seem to think they are on some different level. The 300 meet thing is irrelevant though. x Doesn't matter if a person only had 2 meets. If those 2 met another 2.. and those met another 2... etc etc... it's very quickly a massive pyramid of sexually promiscuous people. Who's the angels now??!  | |||
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"I don't see why an escort is of any higher risk than a swinger If I meet a guy and have sex with him and he leaves me £150 on Monday then meet a guy off here Tuesday for a no payment meet how is the Monday meet any higher risk than the Tuesday meet? I've seen women on here with 300 and 400 verifications surely they are of no lower risk than an escort
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It irritates me when Swingers seem to think they are on some different level. The 300 meet thing is irrelevant though. x
Doesn't matter if a person only had 2 meets. If those 2 met another 2.. and those met another 2... etc etc... it's very quickly a massive pyramid of sexually promiscuous people.
Who's the angels now??! "All I was pointing out is that clearly the health services do see sex workers as a higher risk group. Why is saying someone is at a higher risk of stds supposed to be a slur on their character somehow?  You will both be at a higher risk of stds than me. I'm at a higher risk than my mum. It's not intended to be a statement about anyone's morals or character or worth as a person.
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"I don't see why an escort is of any higher risk than a swinger If I meet a guy and have sex with him and he leaves me £150 on Monday then meet a guy off here Tuesday for a no payment meet how is the Monday meet any higher risk than the Tuesday meet? I've seen women on here with 300 and 400 verifications surely they are of no lower risk than an escort
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It irritates me when Swingers seem to think they are on some different level. The 300 meet thing is irrelevant though. x
Doesn't matter if a person only had 2 meets. If those 2 met another 2.. and those met another 2... etc etc... it's very quickly a massive pyramid of sexually promiscuous people.
Who's the angels now??!
All I was pointing out is that clearly the health services do see sex workers as a higher risk group. Why is saying someone is at a higher risk of stds supposed to be a slur on their character somehow? You will both be at a higher risk of stds than me. I'm at a higher risk than my mum. It's not intended to be a statement about anyone's morals or character or worth as a person.
"Just as a matter of interest why do you feel I am of a higher risk than you, that's not a dig I'm genuinely interested But back to the point I'm not saying it is a slur on anyone as a person I started asking why a escort is of higher risk because somebody said it was funny how escorts aren't supposed to disclose they are sex workers even though they are higher risk I just don't see how money changing hands makes you of higher risk, if you use condoms you are of the same risk payment or not, condoms don't understand your being paid and will protect you the same That's all I ment  | |||
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"I don't see why an escort is of any higher risk than a swinger If I meet a guy and have sex with him and he leaves me £150 on Monday then meet a guy off here Tuesday for a no payment meet how is the Monday meet any higher risk than the Tuesday meet? I've seen women on here with 300 and 400 verifications surely they are of no lower risk than an escort
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It irritates me when Swingers seem to think they are on some different level. The 300 meet thing is irrelevant though. x
Doesn't matter if a person only had 2 meets. If those 2 met another 2.. and those met another 2... etc etc... it's very quickly a massive pyramid of sexually promiscuous people.
Who's the angels now??!
All I was pointing out is that clearly the health services do see sex workers as a higher risk group. Why is saying someone is at a higher risk of stds supposed to be a slur on their character somehow? You will both be at a higher risk of stds than me. I'm at a higher risk than my mum. It's not intended to be a statement about anyone's morals or character or worth as a person.
Just as a matter of interest why do you feel I am of a higher risk than you, that's not a dig I'm genuinely interested
But back to the point
I'm not saying it is a slur on anyone as a person
I started asking why a escort is of higher risk because somebody said it was funny how escorts aren't supposed to disclose they are sex workers even though they are higher risk
I just don't see how money changing hands makes you of higher risk, if you use condoms you are of the same risk payment or not, condoms don't understand your being paid and will protect you the same
That's all I ment "Because I'm not meeting anyone at the moment, so I've only had sex with one person (who is not having sex with anyone else) since my last std checkup. If two people are equally stringent about use of condoms and health checks, but one has three partners a year and one has thirty, statistically one is a higher risk. So yeah, I'm a lower risk than a sex worker. That's all I mean. I guess I don't think like a 'swinger' of the 200 partners a year type because I'm not. (By the way, I don't think bisexual men should have to disclose things if they don't wish to, because if they practise safer sex too they are not a higher risk than a heterosexual swinger. But you hear all the time on here that they should.) | |||
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"Has anyone else been duped into meeting a couple thinking they was a genuine together couple only to find out after and at a later time in fact one was a working girl ? Ie a street working girl, an escort, or a club hostess? There's nothing wrong with any but a bit of honesty is what is needed to then give us the choice wether to meet and play or not . " As long as she/he didn't expect payment I don't see the problem?? | |||
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"I don't see why an escort is of any higher risk than a swinger If I meet a guy and have sex with him and he leaves me £150 on Monday then meet a guy off here Tuesday for a no payment meet how is the Monday meet any higher risk than the Tuesday meet? I've seen women on here with 300 and 400 verifications surely they are of no lower risk than an escort
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It irritates me when Swingers seem to think they are on some different level. The 300 meet thing is irrelevant though. x
Doesn't matter if a person only had 2 meets. If those 2 met another 2.. and those met another 2... etc etc... it's very quickly a massive pyramid of sexually promiscuous people.
Who's the angels now??!
All I was pointing out is that clearly the health services do see sex workers as a higher risk group. Why is saying someone is at a higher risk of stds supposed to be a slur on their character somehow? You will both be at a higher risk of stds than me. I'm at a higher risk than my mum. It's not intended to be a statement about anyone's morals or character or worth as a person.
"Apologies, my post wasn't directed at you personally. Sorry if you think it was. It's my overall general opinion of Swingers that think they are magically immune from anything and everything because they use condoms. | |||
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