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Women that make the first move :)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love it Either through a message on here, or in 'real life' when out and about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something.

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By *drianukMan
over a year ago

Spain, Lancs

I love it when a woman makes the first move. They don't do it often but very good when they do

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

NOT true ! I love "forward" women..

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By *estsideukMan
over a year ago

Hatfield area

Scarlet - i think there are first moves...and then there are first moves Done the right way, it's hugely flattering.

I'd say generally meets are more likely to happen on here if the woman has made the first move - shows she's interested for a start.

So, please, ladies feel free to make the first move!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

That's what I was told when I asked a guy out once.

Maybe they just like it for a shag?

-Courtney

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something.

That's what I was told when I asked a guy out once.

Maybe they just like it for a shag?

-Courtney"

That sums it up nicely..

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By *unLondonLadMan
over a year ago

Camberley/London


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something.

That's what I was told when I asked a guy out once.

Maybe they just like it for a shag?

-Courtney"

Depends on the person as most things do. I prefer forward women not just for a shah but in general.

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

Nothing wrong with women more forward. Men are damned if they are and damned if they don't. Perhaps first approaches ought to be more equal, but I still think most women wait for the man to make the first move. It needn't be like this, we're all here for the same reasons, so no need for "shyness" surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mrs like the guy to make the moves and be a little more dom about things

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If im in a cheeky flirty mood I do and its always worth it!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Nothing wrong with women more forward. Men are damned if they are and damned if they don't. Perhaps first approaches ought to be more equal, but I still think most women wait for the man to make the first move. It needn't be like this, we're all here for the same reasons, so no need for "shyness" surely?"

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Just check out reasonably early that the woman making the first move really is a woman....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can anyone not like a woman who knows what she wants when she wants it?

Im all for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am of the philosophy of 'If you don't ask, you don't get!'

Whats the worst that can happen! Someone tells you, you aren't their type- ah well.

Neeeext!!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Generalising here but think guys like forward women only when it comes to casual sex. Otherwise, they like to play the hunter.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

Wrong! Some of us guys actually prefer it, I personally love it wish it would happen more often

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

Personally I love it. Such a buzz makes you feel really high. So come on ladies make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all for it as the only signals I can read are traffic lights!

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something.

NOT true ! I love "forward" women.. "

I agree, I also love it when a woman makes the first move......

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

Nothing worse, from my perspective, then a passive woman.

There has to be an energy sparked from positive friction to stimulate the sapiosexual senses

Damn alliteration has taken over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with women making the first move.I've had a few ladies make 1st contact on here,sometimes it led to something but usually not.It didn't make me think badly of them at all,why would it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a big difference between "Ello love wanna fuck me?" and totally abstaining from any contact with men.

When a woman simply says "hi" and flirts a little its wonderful. Just expressing an interest isn't crass and off putting or too forward... it's bloomin wonderful I think that's what the OP is on about

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By *ngelo9Man
over a year ago

Chichester

You blokes should go to Canada....very forward ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with women more forward. Men are damned if they are and damned if they don't. Perhaps first approaches ought to be more equal, but I still think most women wait for the man to make the first move. It needn't be like this, we're all here for the same reasons, so no need for "shyness" surely?"

If I waited for men to make the first move my life would be very boring. I think the majority of the time I make the first move. Doesn't bother me at all if a guy says no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I adore you fabster guys!

The traditional bullshit 'rules' of ladies shouldn't make the first move. Ladies will put off guys if they are sexually assertive. Doesn't apply in here.

I even came up against this in my 20's going out 'sharking' on a Saturday night round town!

Love the world of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we wouldn't be together if she had not made first move been together 23 years now lol ,was out with lads on a no pull night lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I' love it women are open, assertive and forward. I encourage them to be more so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when we go to clubs often me who makes the first chat

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is an interesting topic.

My understanding was that men message the women and the women wade through the messages and delete 99.9% of them.

A friend said I should message men myself. I said it would feel wrong. She persuaded me that as it's a swinging site, and as a woman I know what I want, I need to go after it. Not wait for the right things to show up in my inbox.

Now I haven't tried a full 'search and message' campaign, but I did message someone because they looked really interesting.

And bugger me it's worked Plus he said he'd wanted to message me but was nervous to!

Forget the rules, message lovely men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive tried this before and got my message deleted, no reply. Also, recently friended someone id met before and I sent a wink yesterday and he took me off his friends list. Strange behaviour, seeing as how he was asking to meet me for sex last week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought men didn't like women making the first move because it makes them less appealing. 'Too forward' or something. "

I prefer it but I'm a shy thing

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Sluts.

Hussys.

Harlots.

Loose moraled women of ill repute.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sluts.

Hussys.

Harlots.

Loose moraled women of ill repute.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think id make the first move. Just don't want to come across pushy and also not got the confidence!

I prefer when they call the rules :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great when women make the first move. I'm hopeless at telling if ladies are interested or not and don't want to appear pushy.

I'm sure after this post my inbox will be inundated........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's not to like???!!!

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By *omeo1stMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Always puts a spring in my step to get an unexpected message from a woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the confidence and originality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sluts.

Hussys.

Harlots.

Loose moraled women of ill repute.

A"

Hey!! I resemble that remark

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER


"This is an interesting topic.

My understanding was that men message the women and the women wade through the messages and delete 99.9% of them.

A friend said I should message men myself. I said it would feel wrong. She persuaded me that as it's a swinging site, and as a woman I know what I want, I need to go after it. Not wait for the right things to show up in my inbox.

Now I haven't tried a full 'search and message' campaign, but I did message someone because they looked really interesting.

And bugger me it's worked Plus he said he'd wanted to message me but was nervous to!

Forget the rules, message lovely men "

Really pleased it worked for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make the first move I ain't afraid to hit on a man what's the worst they can do.....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women always make the first move...it's called body language...a true player knows this

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm too shy to make the first move in real life. Stems from lots of rejection growing up during my teen years in the Philippines and being an "ugly duckling" as beauty there is a singular ideal.

I'm probably braver to make a move on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too shy to make the first move in real life. Stems from lots of rejection growing up during my teen years in the Philippines and being an "ugly duckling" as beauty there is a singular ideal.

I'm probably braver to make a move on here. "

You've certainly grown out of that. You should try and be my confident

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

You cant beat a confident women who knows what she wants and who isn't afraid to go for it. Such a turn on

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

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