FabSwingers.com forum: Found a work friend on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok to start this ok i am totally straight so this isnt a turn on for me... so i check the see whos near while in work on my break and i find my work mate i was so shocked he had the usual cock pics ect but on a few pics he had this massive dildo in his arse i was totally shocked... this friend i work with everynight in the same room he is normally a quiet guy and as far as i know straight... so i dont know what to do... do i message him or not? Or tell him i found his profile... but then i think no if he knows ive seen the pics with the dildos i know he wouldnt be able to face me because he will probably think i will judge him which i wont... we all have secrets and desires.... what do i do ?

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

"Ok to start this ok i am totally straight so this isnt a turn on for me... so i check the see whos near while in work on my break and i find my work mate i was so shocked he had the usual cock pics ect but on a few pics he had this massive dildo in his arse i was totally shocked... this friend i work with everynight in the same room he is normally a quiet guy and as far as i know straight... so i dont know what to do... do i message him or not? Or tell him i found his profile... but then i think no if he knows ive seen the pics with the dildos i know he wouldnt be able to face me because he will probably think i will judge him which i wont... we all have secrets and desires.... what do i do ? "
Nothing at all

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I agree. Say nothing. You'll only embarrass the guy and make it awkward at work with him.

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By *en1002Man
over a year ago

bathish

Say nothing... What good will it do, unless you want to have some fun together... Do you want your other work colleagues to know you are on here? It might be that he shares what you tell him with others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So i just pretend i didnt see it.... i mean he is bound to find me eventually

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Block him. No need to have a conversation on what you have seen or that he is on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let him get on with his life.. hes having fun leave him alone and you get on with yours

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

"let him get on with his life.. hes having fun leave him alone and you get on with yours"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose blocking him would be a good idea... i just wish i could unsee what ive seen he is a very good friend

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

"So i just pretend i didnt see it.... i mean he is bound to find me eventually"

Why is he unless he is looking for straight guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so him having fun with a sex toy makes him any different as a friend ?????

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Guess there's some things you can never unsee...!

If he's a really good friend, could you casually bring up the subject of swinging ( say you saw a TV show about it) and see what his reaction is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So i just pretend i didnt see it.... i mean he is bound to find me eventually

Why is he unless he is looking for straight guys "

Because on the mobile see whos near it shows everyone not just your preferences that how i found him in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably knows it's you too

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

"I suppose blocking him would be a good idea... i just wish i could unsee what ive seen he is a very good friend "

If he is a very good friend then it shouldn't be a problem you said early you wouldn't judge him but it seems like you are judging him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you want if someone you knew found you ... them to become suddenly very chatty about your private life... or them to be discrete and just carry on. Chances are he has also done the who's near search and found you. Just hadn't said anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It doesnt make him any different than a friend... i dont think any less of him atal i just know it would embarrass him....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we see loads of people we know on here we never let them know we've seen them we just think fair play and let the get on with it its life and your not the only guy in your area swinging

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

"I suppose blocking him would be a good idea... i just wish i could unsee what ive seen he is a very good friend "

Just be happy for him that he is able to show his sexual desires and needs on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose blocking him would be a good idea... i just wish i could unsee what ive seen he is a very good friend

Just be happy for him that he is able to show his sexual desires and needs on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I honestly dont know lol

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

And you'd be surprised how many men enjoy something up their arse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen one of my friends sister on here who i grew up with...i wouldnt dream of messaging her...ive seen her pics..looks like shes having fun..havent blocked her but theres no way id embarrass her by sending a message as were friends on facebook aswell lol...just leave him be if i were you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok problem solved il forget ive seen it jesus you ask for abit of advice on here and people are like why does it make him less of a friend? Are u judging him? Whats wrong with sex toys? Omg i just didnt know what to do thats all.... the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy I work with has contacted my wife from fab. He hasn't got a clue who she is as my wife is pretty careful with the face pics he was not so. As luck would have it we went out for a meal with him and his wife and other work friends just a few weeks earlier so she recognised him straight away. She did send him a reply along the lines of "sorry I don't play with cheating men". he then replied "I'm single"? She told him she felt sorry for his wife and said good bye using his real name and blocked him. We or I haven't said anything to him at all,ever and never will as long as we are on fabbed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose blocking him would be a good idea... i just wish i could unsee what ive seen he is a very good friend "

Whats the issue, he likes anal play? So do loads of straight men, get over it and concentrate on what you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block him. No need to have a conversation on what you have seen or that he is on here. "
hehe block him hey at least give him a chance to see you are on here to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah i mean seeing people you know is like wow but i spend everyday with this guy in work and we speak outside work i just didnt know what to do should i say something or not but now am just guna leave it if he finds me and says oh o saw you on fab id laugh i wouldnt mind but with the pics on his profile that wouldnt be the case if i said oh i saw you on fab.... but i guess best thing to do it leave it be

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Block and don't say a word

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I said i dont mind what he does anal play or whatever but i think he would mind if he knew i knew... hey i dont mind getting rimmed every now and again its not about that atall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont do anything - and they say watch the quiet ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i mean seeing people you know is like wow but i spend everyday with this guy in work and we speak outside work i just didnt know what to do should i say something or not but now am just guna leave it if he finds me and says oh o saw you on fab id laugh i wouldnt mind but with the pics on his profile that wouldnt be the case if i said oh i saw you on fab.... but i guess best thing to do it leave it be "
when you search profiles do your settings allow that your name shows as having searched a profile coz I always look to see who looked at mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it OK for others to NOT be 'straight' then? And, shock horror, if you browse the site you'll find others with 'dildos in their arse'. Oh. and if you simply alter your SEARCH settings, you won't be shown any men, cos its not set as a default. I guess you didn't know that when you set it though... Strange post."

Its defo ok for others not to be straigh i have gay friends thats not an issue i was simply explaining the situation and if you read my post properly you would see i found him one the mobile see whos near button which when u press it. It shows all nearby people (ALL) i dont care what he does or who and when he does it i just didnt know wether to tell him i am on fab aswell incase he wasnt happy about me seeing the dildo pics...... is that easy enough for you to understand?

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

Lol you have had loads of replies all saying leave it but you seem unhappy maybe your not getting the response you wanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol you have had loads of replies all saying leave it but you seem unhappy maybe your not getting the response you wanted"

No... i am going to leave it... just some people really annoying me like oh whats wrong with having a dildo up your arse ect making me out to be some homophobic when i am not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm i wouldnt say anythng the guy would be mortified i saw a guy i went to school with and had a fit lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

" he had this massive dildo in his arse i was totally shocked... this friend i work with everynight in the same room he is normally a quiet guy and as far as i know straight..."

Can I just point out that the use of sex toys does not change someone's sexuality, neither does enjoying anal stimulation. The difference between being straight or otherwise is enjoying the sexual (or romantic) attentions of someone of the same gender.

Cal

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Sounds to us like you would really like to play with him now you know.

If that is the case message him for a meet.

If we are wrong ignore what you have seen and meet others.

His business is his business and unless you want to play with him it is none of your business

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It doesnt make him any different than a friend... i dont think any less of him atal i just know it would embarrass him...."

Then do what mature people do if they know something that would embarrass a friend, block him and never mention it.

You do know that he can read the forums, don't you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's probably reading this now thinking damn I can't believe your having a discussion about me with the rest of fab

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Say nothing we have found several work colleagues on here , some we have played with some we have not even if they find out about you they are not gonna blurt it out , just carry on having fun like we do you only live once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen anyone I know on here - but I think it's exiting as I'm really nosey and voyeuristic

Depending on who it was I think I would block and never mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i just pretend i didnt see it.... i mean he is bound to find me eventually"

I would block him a say nothing.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

just block, say nothing, that's the right thing to do. I like this site as it's non-judgmental, let him do his stuff, you do yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i just pretend i didnt see it.... i mean he is bound to find me eventually"

Block him and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him and move on had to do it with my bosses couples profile her husband msg'd me not knowing who I was seen a lot more of my boss than I'd care to see again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got me thinking, thought I'd see if anyone where I work was on.

They weren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does not make him gay or bi, do not worry about it and do not say anything. I work in a position of trust and I know all sorts of things about people that I could never share with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesnt make him any different than a friend... i dont think any less of him atal i just know it would embarrass him...."

So, say nothing, block him like others have said and get on with what you want to do on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how big was the dildo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him and maybe half of the responders also. Look who's near, really should be, 'look who's got stuff in the rear'. It's like skipping along the village, nothing straight to see here

. I'd block him and then keep bringing, phallic shaped, lunches, to work.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him and forget about it.

But if it bothers you that much, you might also want to consider your own profile. I mean, those are pretty distinctive tats you've got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar thing to the OP, when I was at a club a few months ago, met a work colleague there!

I was mortified, but they were like... get over it, im here for the same thing you are!

She now knows I like a bit of cock, surprised her but she is perfectly ok with it, after all, we are the same person as before, but they know a little more about our kinks.

Now good friends with her, and it's also someone to confide in about things you can't say to others.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Block him and maybe half of the responders also. Look who's near, really should be, 'look who's got stuff in the rear'. It's like skipping along the village, nothing straight to see here

. I'd block him and then keep bringing, phallic shaped, lunches, to work.....

And make sure you eat bananas in front of him daily.

Seductively.

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

The anus is an erogenous zone lots of men, me included enjoy anal play. I have a nice little collection of toys too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block him and maybe half of the responders also. Look who's near, really should be, 'look who's got stuff in the rear'. It's like skipping along the village, nothing straight to see here

. I'd block him and then keep bringing, phallic shaped, lunches, to work.....

"care for a carrot mate?"

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

omg! is that you brian from accounts? you wouldnt believe this, I just slipped on that dildo and it ended up there

see you in the canteen at lunch.

_icky999 from hr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"omg! is that you brian from accounts? you wouldnt believe this, I just slipped on that dildo and it ended up there

see you in the canteen at lunch.

_icky999 from hr. "
lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block him and move on had to do it with my bosses couples profile her husband msg'd me not knowing who I was seen a lot more of my boss than I'd care to see again "
nooooo wow that's gotta be best so far xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No... i am going to leave it... just some people really annoying me like oh whats wrong with having a dildo up your arse ect making me out to be some homophobic when i am not "

The homophobia appears to be in your own mind. Where has anyone accused you of being homophobic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guessing his profile said bi or gay, dildo up the arse is not an indicator, that depends on who put it there

Block for 2 reasons, 1 if he hasn't already seen your profile it will stop you showing up on who is near. and 2 more importantly it will remove the temptation to stalk him.

Then just get on with your life. Everybody has sex, most like it, even your mum enjoyed a cock inside her

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Do nothing OP. We're all grown-ups here. What your friend gets up to in his private life has nothing to do with you and vice versa. You don't need to say anything.

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