FabSwingers.com forum: No Reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I spend ages typing what I believe is a thoughtful genuine honest message, Obviously to someone I would really love to meet up with, Only to find they don't even bother to respond "no thanks" "piss off" "not my type", No they message nothing back, Meanwhile i'm thinking are they gonna respond, oh i really hope they will, I'll give them a couple of days maybe they're busy, Then I see the message deleted and I think oh bollocks not another one. This is how hard it is to be a single man on this site, Sometimes you just can deal with the knock backs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that, it isnt hard to say your not for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boo hoo, no one is obliged to message bk no matter how well thought out your message is

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I spend ages typing what I believe is a thoughtful genuine honest message, Obviously to someone I would really love to meet up with, Only to find they don't even bother to respond "no thanks" "piss off" "not my type", No they message nothing back, Meanwhile i'm thinking are they gonna respond, oh i really hope they will, I'll give them a couple of days maybe they're busy, Then I see the message deleted and I think oh bollocks not another one. This is how hard it is to be a single man on this site, Sometimes you just can deal with the knock backs

As stated in rules, regulations and FAQs it is not regarded or intended as bad manners not to get a reply. No reply=no interest.

Your best bet is to delete your sent messages to eliminate your stress and bother.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're not entitled to a reply I am afraid. Just move on and keep at it. Single men aren't the only ones who get their messages deleted without response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the lack of a reply not a clear indication that they aren;t interested?

Seriously what difference would thanks but no thanks make other than to pander to your neediness or give you the option to attempt to get them to change their mind?

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Are you in Poole, Dorset? Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For every well thought out message we must receive 20, ill conceived, rude or pointless messages. It pee's me right off. We tend to reply to most messages even if they've blatantly not read our profile but I'm leaning toward just ignoring and blocking the guys who can't be arsed reading our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am in poole dorset!! is that reason why they dont reply??

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Do you reply to junk mail with a no thanks, not interested? Nope, you just throw it away. Messages on here from strangers can be no different to the junk mail that comes through your letterbox

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

That's an attitude that may not help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

No.

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By *arks_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Mm. No. That reply smacks of ego!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

That's an attitude that may not help."

Are you saying petulance and entitlement don;t appeal to you?

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"I am in poole dorset!! is that reason why they dont reply??"

I went there as a teen, it's one big caravan park full of single mum's, I wouldn't bother with Fab as you haven't got the idea of it and focus on the night life in your area instead xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

That's an attitude that may not help.

Are you saying petulance and entitlement don;t appeal to you?"

It may to some, not to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unfortunate but as has been said above, no reply = not interested.

Happens to most of us guys, most of the time! So you're certainly not alone!

It used to upset me a bit too, after all that effort, but as soon as you accept the way the site 'works' the more enjoyment you'll get out of it!

Expect no reply, so if one comes it's a bonus

Keep at it, keep your chin up, and joy will come your way in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of the ratio, the site is saturated with men, its by luck if we get a reply lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not reply if I am not interested. I would expect that to be taken that no reply means no problem thanks. I used to find if I reply saying sorry then I get guys still replying thinking they can change my mind

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Seriously I'm worth a reply arent I??

That's an attitude that may not help.

Are you saying petulance and entitlement don;t appeal to you?"

Funnily enough it doesn't appeal to me either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to reply to every message that came through, I would have a part time job!! I'm clear in my profile my likes and stuff.

Personally I like a well written thoughtful message but if your not my type, I won't reply, it's mean but you have to be sometimes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just chat to the women or couples that approach you instead of sending messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your opening statement about leaving a few times will go against you.

people will suspect you have left because of impatience or being previously reported/banned etc etc..

have you actually looked around at what other people are doing to meet?- yes even us single men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate that, it isnt hard to say your not for me..."

Yeah but what is hard is being told to fuck off umpteen times because some guys cant take rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem I find is you send a message then see statuses saying too many messages do I'm deleting them so you never know if someone is interested or not, I understand women must get plenty of messages, I don't mind getting a rejection reply as I think it's manners but it's each to their own

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I think if i were a guy on here i would probably prefer to have someone who isnt interested to just delete my message rather than reply with the truth as to why i dont appeal to them.

Dont think i could handle that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just chat to the women or couples that approach you instead of sending messages? "

Obviously I can't answer for the OP, but trust me, not all of us guys on here are lucky enough to have women and couples contacting us first! So the options are either no messaging at all, or trying to be proactive with them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This was meant to be a tongue in cheek post lol!! I know it's a matter for a few and yes it does peeve me a bit, But I was trying to make fun of the situation!! I suppose where I think I'm funny in my head I'm definitely not in a forum post. Don't worry i'll work on my humour and I'll come back with something far greater, You never know it might make you smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to messages I receive, even though they dont send me a face pic,

which is requested in my profile even though I state im not going to do that. I have deleted though without reply because of this, its not difficult to send a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wanting '2 or 3 women' would out me off straight away, a little presumptuous of satisfying that number and id be wondering when the 'have you a friend?' Question would arise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's deemed to be ok to ignore anyone you're not interested in. I try to answer everyone who makes an effort to message me. It doesn't take long to say no thank you. It's sad really that people think you're the bad guy for wanting a reply. We seem to have lost our manners in our quest for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem I find is you send a message then see statuses saying too many messages do I'm deleting them so you never know if someone is interested or not, I understand women must get plenty of messages, I don't mind getting a rejection reply as I think it's manners but it's each to their own"

There are filters women can use,or they can block everyone and do the messaging.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"This was meant to be a tongue in cheek post lol!! I know it's a matter for a few and yes it does peeve me a bit, But I was trying to make fun of the situation!! I suppose where I think I'm funny in my head I'm definitely not in a forum post. Don't worry i'll work on my humour and I'll come back with something far greater, You never know it might make you smile

ooooh now i get it, you were joking. You get loads of replies and will be busy every weekend from now til xmas.

Have fun x

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

You may feel your messages are well thought out, but you are messaging those people, so think of it like junk mail as they have not asked you specifically to message them, therefore if you have and they aren't interested then your message goes in the bin, just like every piece of junk mail that gets posted through your front door does. Junk mail can come personalised with your name on too but I bet you don't reply to it

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Do you reply to junk mail with a no thanks, not interested? Nope, you just throw it away. Messages on here from strangers can be no different to the junk mail that comes through your letterbox"

I hadn't thought of it that way. Will bear that in mind now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes you should see my looked at me list!! Hey Mr popular here, Only problem is they all wanna kill me probably! But hey I try and be funny and it all blows up in my face, No wonder no one wants to reply to me lol!!

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

"Boo hoo, no one is obliged to message bk no matter how well thought out your message is"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice back tracking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you should see my looked at me list!! Hey Mr popular here, Only problem is they all wanna kill me probably! But hey I try and be funny and it all blows up in my face, No wonder no one wants to reply to me lol!!"

Only cock pics? Just a suggestion, maybe add some other types of pic too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well that is me I am a cock try not to be prejudice!! Us cock's struggle to fit into society at the best of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at your profile through the eyes of a single female or a couple. What do you bring to the table. You have four cock shots as your only photos. Your profile is nothing substantive other than a somewhat porn inspired fantasy and a pretty poor attitude. Now this may be entirely wrong but it is how it comes across.

Have a look at other single guys profiles. Look for the ones with verifications as they have obviously be successful and take inspiration from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget guys,you're just junk mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at your profile through the eyes of a single female or a couple. What do you bring to the table. You have four cock shots as your only photos. Your profile is nothing substantive other than a somewhat porn inspired fantasy and a pretty poor attitude. Now this may be entirely wrong but it is how it comes across.

Have a look at other single guys profiles. Look for the ones with verifications as they have obviously be successful and take inspiration from it. "

I would agree with the above, apart from the verification part

Don't copy my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your pics OP, think they're hot.

Tbh i don't even reply to all the guys i am interested in. Just not possible to do sometimes.

Half the time you wonder if it's even worth starting a conversation because all many people seem to be able to talk about is sex, or planning meets for sex, and i find that boring if i'm not looking for sex. I shove statuses up now saying i'm not looking for sex (when not looking) so i don't have to reject half the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reject them by not replying, just making that clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that is me I am a cock try not to be prejudice!! Us cock's struggle to fit into society at the best of times.

Like they said, check out some other profiles, might be helpful. Men are successful on here, just need to try and get it right. Reading womens profiles is a good start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice back tracking

Exactly that!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I think it's safe to assume that if someone does not reply to a message then they are not interested

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's deemed to be ok to ignore anyone you're not interested in. I try to answer everyone who makes an effort to message me. It doesn't take long to say no thank you. It's sad really that people think you're the bad guy for wanting a reply. We seem to have lost our manners in our quest for sex. "

Good for you, however, some of us have a life and write profiles with enough information for people to exclude themselves.

If I ask for single, sub, local, tall white men, I don't think it rude not to respond to a married, Dom, short black midget from Timbuktu no matter if he's written me a soliloquy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exactly not interested..NEXT

Missy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may feel your messages are well thought out, but you are messaging those people, so think of it like junk mail as they have not asked you specifically to message them, therefore if you have and they aren't interested then your message goes in the bin, just like every piece of junk mail that gets posted through your front door does. Junk mail can come personalised with your name on too but I bet you don't reply to it "
hehe hey I've got some nails if you want to nail his coffin lid down and bury him

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I hate that, it isnt hard to say your not for me..."

It is 30+ times a day (if you're a woman).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bottom line is you need patience and as you already may be aware a thick skin ,brutal answers are common ,women havnt got time and many not all have inflated egos because they get in many cases unwarranted interest much of which is just downright pervy,so their patience wears thin and they block delete ,just reduce size of message save yourself a bit of time and always read their profiles it sometimes gives you something to work with ,I would wish you luck but you are reducing my chances so I won't hehe hey I'm only kidding

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By *ighting17thMan
over a year ago

Bodmin

"Do you reply to junk mail with a no thanks, not interested? Nope, you just throw it away. Messages on here from strangers can be no different to the junk mail that comes through your letterbox"

Velma and Shaggy- that is an absolutely perfect way to explain this issue.

Spot on and well done!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

It's hit and miss.

Just message away but don't dwell on the outcome. There's no rhyme nor reason to how people choose to respond or respond to.

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

If you are fit then a Hi will do! Oh and a face pic

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Look on no replies as a no thank you reply, or as I see them 'we'd love to Steve but you're too good for us'.....see a no reply as part of swinging and don't let it affect your self esteem and confidence. If it does, take a break from here - after all, if it's not fun, why do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are fit then a Hi will do! Oh and a face pic"

Jesus you don't want much do ya!

Lol

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I've just put a lot of effort into my profile and pics. My messages are short and to the point.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Do you reply to junk mail with a no thanks, not interested? Nope, you just throw it away. Messages on here from strangers can be no different to the junk mail that comes through your letterbox"

Never thought of it like that

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