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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm single, never married my ex of 22 years and see no problems for the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some can, some cant lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different but I am happy in a relationship with the right person to not even consider other men so wouldn't feel that I was missing anything or want to be on here as a couple.

Whilst I am single I like to enjoy this site as most of my time is taken up by work and friends and what I fancy rather than having to make time for a partner.

I would be honest about my experiences with a partner as I am not ashamed of it and don't feel that it is anything to hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single. Ive never been married but ive had long term relationships. Im happy being single but if i was to date or look for a relationship, i wouldnt be looking on here for one. So for me finding a partner on here would never happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was marries 18 yrs widowed now would never marry again I.have five kids I'm not looking for a relationship only good friends that I can fuck and enjoy.....which I.do ... A lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in meeting anyone for a swinging relationship anyway. If i did settle down then it would be with someone who doesn't wanna wife swap. I'm not really into anything more than 3sums.

It's not that hard to be faithful. I was promiscuous before i had kids, for about 8 yrs, then settled down, left him and was celibate for 2 yrs almost, then had an 11 year relationship. Went promiscuous after that for a year, went into a relationship for 2 yrs, went back to fucking around.

People aren't one thing, they can adapt to their circumstances.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP i understand what you are getting at, but I think the Young part is more important than the Female part.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Surely the same applies to single men on here?

Im sure people adapt and if they find true love they will be loved for who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been swinging since I was 18...never married but never wanted to...I've had kids and lived a good life without the issues of having to explain my lifestyle choices...but then I don't hide them either..people I know and have in my life understand my choices...never have I met a single female through swinging that feels they can't move on if they want to...it's a choice and if it ever feels like it shouldn't be a choice I'm sure they would move on...as for your comment about future partners /husbands finding our about it...if it was an honest and true relationship they shouldn't have to keep it from them...if there's one thing swinging gives you its the chance to be honest about what you need sexually. ..and everyone has a history...I say good luck to all other unicorns and straight ladies on here and take my hat off to them for choosing to enjoy and celebrate their sexual needs...

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I think people are misunderstanding the OP. My understanding is he is asking about young women. Young like 18-20, who are living their lives to the fullest at the moment. How will they find someone to settle down with, and what will their potential future partner think of fab?

I wonder myself at the grand old age of 30 if i'll meet someone special again...and if I do, what do I tell him of my experiences. Some men aren't very open minded when it comes to their other halves sex lives.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Regardless of age... if you start a relationship with someone and basic honesty isn't there from the get go then you're not with the right person.

If someone loves you, I mean really loves you then they will accept that you have a past, it's been part of what's moulded you into the person you've become and if they can't accept that... run!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hide this from my future settling down partner if they were not into kink and or swinging. I don't see how they would find out. I don't think doing this makes me less likely to marry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been having this discussion recently, although I'm enjoying my life I would like a relationship, and this is my dilemma!!! Although I am talking to a guy that would be happy to swing with me and be my 'guy', was straight up honest with him from the start!!

What to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regardless of age... if you start a relationship with someone and basic honesty isn't there from the get go then you're not with the right person.

If someone loves you, I mean really loves you then they will accept that you have a past, it's been part of what's moulded you into the person you've become and if they can't accept that... run!

"

True that.

My first abusive ex used to think there was something wrong with me for being a 'slag' even though he was one himself. It didn't work out at all and i can't even talk to him at all now, he's the main reason i'm glad i gave up drinking coz i made a lot of bad choices when pissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a history. No problem.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Im truly single. Im happy being single my divorce will be finalised weds. So i will be totally free. An so glad im having more fun being single. Plus my career is on the up. So single life for me. ...Hence i prefer nsa no commitment no being tied down an importantly of all freedom ....

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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago

South

My wife was very promiscuous before I met her and still is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would hide this from my future settling down partner if they were not into kink and or swinging. I don't see how they would find out. I don't think doing this makes me less likely to marry"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I would hide this from my future settling down partner if they were not into kink and or swinging. I don't see how they would find out. I don't think doing this makes me less likely to marry"

If you're never going to bump into someone you've met from here that's pretty ease to do. However, loads of my friends from here are friends outwith so there's always that question of 'how did you meet x' and I have such a bad memory, I'd never be able to keep track of the lies. It's not like you can say 'hang on, let me just refer to my notes'

I just prefer to be honest. I am who I am. I'm not going to change that to be accepted. This is the package, there's the door.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I do believe that honesty is the best policy. Can't go into a relationship with secrets and lies. Wouldn't work for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been married and been single for a good few years now.

Am not looking for a relationship at present but when and if I do, I would hope they were open minded and would be honest about my past. If they disapproved then they would not be the guy for me and I would move on.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose."

Hi OP. I am not a young woman and I am in a relationship with someone I met here on fab. But I have to admit when I see a young man or woman on here I think they should be perhaps doing what I was doing at their age and if they have such a liberal and open attitude to sex at such a young age, where will it go? I was on here as a single fem (albeit an older one) for four years, and I, like AB, don't swing when I am in a relationship where it is not part of it. I can totally adapt and do. Even now my relationship with my partner is making me change my outlook, hence I don't meet men alone and even with him, I rarely do. The problem I have with my own attitude to other younger women is that I compare them to myself and times have changed - so do I have the right to do that. I worry for them that they won't get to have a stable loving relationship, but then I think I may be imposing values from a bi-gone age. I still don't feel comfortable with seeing this, but then again, a fair few teenagers and young adults are promiscuous outside of swinging. My partner and myself discussed this on the evening of our first meet (as you do) - namely, we have gone so far, each on our separate journeys and done so much, that there is indeed little left to do - so where do you go from here? What happened to us was we went and had a relationship, that is both vanilla and totally normal and has the swinging fetish element too. It's the best of both worlds. I think people settle down in time and youth is a time for exploration and self expression. Rambling ... sorry. Made me think about my own attitudes.

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By *lways_horny444Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I understand the OP's question. I would hope they were truthful about how many partners they had. Surely each side should be able to ask for tests before having unprotected sex in a long term relationship. Not sure what I'd if they wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My wife was very promiscuous before I met her and still is "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the original post more as if your a bit promiscuse now... How will you find a guy to want you when you have had hundreds or maybe thousands of cocks...

To be honest even on this site you get guys and gals that judge you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose.

Hi OP. I am not a young woman and I am in a relationship with someone I met here on fab. But I have to admit when I see a young man or woman on here I think they should be perhaps doing what I was doing at their age and if they have such a liberal and open attitude to sex at such a young age, where will it go? I was on here as a single fem (albeit an older one) for four years, and I, like AB, don't swing when I am in a relationship where it is not part of it. I can totally adapt and do. Even now my relationship with my partner is making me change my outlook, hence I don't meet men alone and even with him, I rarely do. The problem I have with my own attitude to other younger women is that I compare them to myself and times have changed - so do I have the right to do that. I worry for them that they won't get to have a stable loving relationship, but then I think I may be imposing values from a bi-gone age. I still don't feel comfortable with seeing this, but then again, a fair few teenagers and young adults are promiscuous outside of swinging. My partner and myself discussed this on the evening of our first meet (as you do) - namely, we have gone so far, each on our separate journeys and done so much, that there is indeed little left to do - so where do you go from here? What happened to us was we went and had a relationship, that is both vanilla and totally normal and has the swinging fetish element too. It's the best of both worlds. I think people settle down in time and youth is a time for exploration and self expression. Rambling ... sorry. Made me think about my own attitudes. "

You are not rambling at all , that's exactly my point , call me a bit old fashioned nut I honestly think swinging should be done after you have experienced the conventional "normal" life and then opt for swinging.Ideally , after marriage or long-term relationship then opt for swinging as a lifestyle thereafter.

Well that's just me.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Im single. Ive never been married but ive had long term relationships. Im happy being single but if i was to date or look for a relationship, i wouldnt be looking on here for one. So for me finding a partner on here would never happen. "

Me too. I'm here for fun. Nothing serious.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose.

Hi OP. I am not a young woman and I am in a relationship with someone I met here on fab. But I have to admit when I see a young man or woman on here I think they should be perhaps doing what I was doing at their age and if they have such a liberal and open attitude to sex at such a young age, where will it go? I was on here as a single fem (albeit an older one) for four years, and I, like AB, don't swing when I am in a relationship where it is not part of it. I can totally adapt and do. Even now my relationship with my partner is making me change my outlook, hence I don't meet men alone and even with him, I rarely do. The problem I have with my own attitude to other younger women is that I compare them to myself and times have changed - so do I have the right to do that. I worry for them that they won't get to have a stable loving relationship, but then I think I may be imposing values from a bi-gone age. I still don't feel comfortable with seeing this, but then again, a fair few teenagers and young adults are promiscuous outside of swinging. My partner and myself discussed this on the evening of our first meet (as you do) - namely, we have gone so far, each on our separate journeys and done so much, that there is indeed little left to do - so where do you go from here? What happened to us was we went and had a relationship, that is both vanilla and totally normal and has the swinging fetish element too. It's the best of both worlds. I think people settle down in time and youth is a time for exploration and self expression. Rambling ... sorry. Made me think about my own attitudes.

You are not rambling at all , that's exactly my point , call me a bit old fashioned nut I honestly think swinging should be done after you have experienced the conventional "normal" life and then opt for swinging.Ideally , after marriage or long-term relationship then opt for swinging as a lifestyle thereafter.

Well that's just me. "

just out of interest, what would be the difference between a young woman sleeping around..... and a young man sleeping around?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose.

Hi OP. I am not a young woman and I am in a relationship with someone I met here on fab. But I have to admit when I see a young man or woman on here I think they should be perhaps doing what I was doing at their age and if they have such a liberal and open attitude to sex at such a young age, where will it go? I was on here as a single fem (albeit an older one) for four years, and I, like AB, don't swing when I am in a relationship where it is not part of it. I can totally adapt and do. Even now my relationship with my partner is making me change my outlook, hence I don't meet men alone and even with him, I rarely do. The problem I have with my own attitude to other younger women is that I compare them to myself and times have changed - so do I have the right to do that. I worry for them that they won't get to have a stable loving relationship, but then I think I may be imposing values from a bi-gone age. I still don't feel comfortable with seeing this, but then again, a fair few teenagers and young adults are promiscuous outside of swinging. My partner and myself discussed this on the evening of our first meet (as you do) - namely, we have gone so far, each on our separate journeys and done so much, that there is indeed little left to do - so where do you go from here? What happened to us was we went and had a relationship, that is both vanilla and totally normal and has the swinging fetish element too. It's the best of both worlds. I think people settle down in time and youth is a time for exploration and self expression. Rambling ... sorry. Made me think about my own attitudes.

You are not rambling at all , that's exactly my point , call me a bit old fashioned nut I honestly think swinging should be done after you have experienced the conventional "normal" life and then opt for swinging.Ideally , after marriage or long-term relationship then opt for swinging as a lifestyle thereafter.

Well that's just me. "

Why though? It makes more sense, to me, to fuck around and not commit yourself to one person at first to get an idea of what different relationships can be about. Then find out what you like and settle with that, if you even want to settle at all.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Regardless of age... if you start a relationship with someone and basic honesty isn't there from the get go then you're not with the right person."

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"NB:Please don't consider me as sexist or anything like that coz I am only interested to know what happens with single women on Fab , just for this thread.

My issue is with single young women on here who I suspect have not been married or been in a long term relationship that I find on this site .

What are the chances that , after meeting a few, if not hundreds , of men on here , they will eventually find a non -swinger to marry and settle down with ? Would it not be difficult if not impossible to ever be able to live that conventional life of kids and family after being on here first ?

What about if the future husband finds out that you were previously on Fab?

Am just asking guys and please don't misconstrue , it's all for my educational informative purpose.

Hi OP. I am not a young woman and I am in a relationship with someone I met here on fab. But I have to admit when I see a young man or woman on here I think they should be perhaps doing what I was doing at their age and if they have such a liberal and open attitude to sex at such a young age, where will it go? I was on here as a single fem (albeit an older one) for four years, and I, like AB, don't swing when I am in a relationship where it is not part of it. I can totally adapt and do. Even now my relationship with my partner is making me change my outlook, hence I don't meet men alone and even with him, I rarely do. The problem I have with my own attitude to other younger women is that I compare them to myself and times have changed - so do I have the right to do that. I worry for them that they won't get to have a stable loving relationship, but then I think I may be imposing values from a bi-gone age. I still don't feel comfortable with seeing this, but then again, a fair few teenagers and young adults are promiscuous outside of swinging. My partner and myself discussed this on the evening of our first meet (as you do) - namely, we have gone so far, each on our separate journeys and done so much, that there is indeed little left to do - so where do you go from here? What happened to us was we went and had a relationship, that is both vanilla and totally normal and has the swinging fetish element too. It's the best of both worlds. I think people settle down in time and youth is a time for exploration and self expression. Rambling ... sorry. Made me think about my own attitudes.

You are not rambling at all , that's exactly my point , call me a bit old fashioned nut I honestly think swinging should be done after you have experienced the conventional "normal" life and then opt for swinging.Ideally , after marriage or long-term relationship then opt for swinging as a lifestyle thereafter.

Well that's just me.

just out of interest, what would be the difference between a young woman sleeping around..... and a young man sleeping around? "

For me, absolutely not. I personally think that you can duck around, but better to be with people sort of your own age and emotional maturity - I think someone who is 18 to 20 ish is too close to a child in their needs - I can say that based on the fact that I was and although some of that age will claim they are not, how many times did I listen to my fifteen year old saying he knows more than me about life - its an affliction of the young. Yes duck around to find yourself, but with others who are trying to find themselves too. And it goes as much for boys as it does for girls.

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By *lways_horny444Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Women get labelled a term. Don't think I really need to say it do I?. Either way if you lie about this what else would you not be trueful about. If your not ashamed of it then you would say. Not like they would dump you is it?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

The idea of a conventional life you describe horrifies me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get labelled a term. Don't think I really need to say it do I?. Either way if you lie about this what else would you not be trueful about. If your not ashamed of it then you would say. Not like they would dump you is it?"

You're right,she may lie about shoes costing £20 less than she paid for them

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