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By *ounginyorkshire OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Me and my partner both have fantasies about seeing eachother with someone else but we dont know how we would be if it were more than a fantasy. Anyone else have this problem?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Me and my partner both have fantasies about seeing eachother with someone else but we dont know how we would be if it were more than a fantasy. Anyone else have this problem?"

Quite a few I imagine. If you can agree between yourselves to see it as a joint experience and to be absolutely honest about how you feel afterwards and not get angry or take offence you should be fine. If one or both of you doesn't enjoy it there's no need to do it again.

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By *ounginyorkshire OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Just a worry of once its done its done. Were only just starting out so maybe it will come with time. He definitely wants to see me with a woman no questions asked haha

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

We had that fantasy. We tried it after much discussion and obviously enjoyed it. Best thing to do is to discuss and take it slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clarence wanted to see me with a guy but I was worried about this. We went to a club and I played with a guy but not sex to see how we both felt and then we did the same with him playing with a Woman! I was sure I would be okay with it but he worried.

We took it slow and both love it xx

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Always set your own pace, but in the end you only live once. If you don't try it you will never know.

One thing I can almost say with certainty is that if you both agree to do it just once and quit if neither likes it, it's highly unlikely to be a moment where you walk in and find your next true love.

So the chance of it ruining an already strong relationship is pretty low

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Me and my partner both have fantasies about seeing eachother with someone else but we dont know how we would be if it were more than a fantasy. Anyone else have this problem?"

I think that's pretty normal. Definitely best to rake things at your own pace.

Cal was sure he'd be fine but I was worried I might be jealous or uncomfortable.

As it turned out we both find (found) it a huge turn on

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

*take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love seeing my wife with other men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that is normal and everyone feels the same way'to start with, we were really nervous and worried that one of us could get jealous,

Communication is the key, set your boundaries make sure all parties know were they stand and don't do anything you feel unhappy with,

Maybe start by going to a club and just playing in the couples room with other people around your but just play with each other, or such with soft swing kissing touching oral, and see how you feel

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We wondered about that, when we started swinging we would soft-swing but it wasn't the same as watching the other one fucking someone else. During our first full swap we both felt exactly the same way, interest rather than jealousy. When doing it together you're too close to see everything that's happening so watching one another at a distance was fascinating. It only took a few occasions before it became natural, and after nearly 12 years of swinging it's still great to watch the other one fucking happily with another person.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

A quick thought which might help. If you feel awkward or jealous about each other's previous sexual partners, then that's a guide to how you might later feel about it if you get up to new (ahem) shenanigans together.

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By *urely4funMan
over a year ago

london

Ok I see a lot of great, nice couples on here and unfortunately I don't have any advice to offer but I'm willing to help in anyway I can....;) x

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