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How do you let go?

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By *rotiquexxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the other person I think. If there's a click it's fantastic. If there's no chemistry it's just as you describe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simple , take your time and plenty of teasing and foreplay, most younger guys just strip off and go straight to the pussy,

tease her and yourself take your time undressing touch feel lick and kiss her all over avoiding to two main areas tits and pussy for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go? "

You can't be serious

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Wow, the OP sounds a little like me. I certainly think far too hard, all the time, and sometimes that restricts my abilities in the bedroom.

From experience, I think it's a matter of chemistry. Certain people can make you just forget about everything, and go for it.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

It sounds like your rushing it and trying too hard to fuck porno style. Slow down and take your time. Lots of foreplay and kissing then start out slow and build up the intensity as you get comfortable. If your cock is sore, lube is your friend (and hers)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious "
he can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think its chemistry....for me if that 'spark' is there its amazing as its about more than just the mechanics. It's about exploring each others bodies and finally getting to feel and taste the person you've been wanting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more to sex that mindless fucking

I'm not a huge fan of penatrive sex but love long sex sessions with very little or sometimes none at all

Your your imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go? "

Suffer the same issue with not switching off, how I solve it? Get intimate, keep changing positions, any part of the person you're with you can kiss, kiss it, play to your imagination's strengths and both you and the person you're with will appreciate the attention to detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious "

wow I guess your the guy we need to meet then sounds like you have it all,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im confused ...

Your in a couple...

In your 50,s

And you havent been able ever to let go...

Hmmmmmmmm think this is a piss take thread !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im confused ...

Your in a couple...

In your 50,s

And you havent been able ever to let go...

Hmmmmmmmm think this is a piss

take thread !!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooops apologies didnt look at OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch off your mind for a while and use your senses instead. Don't think sex,feel it,smell it,hear it,say it,taste it.

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By *rotiquexxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires


"Im confused ...

Your in a couple...

In your 50,s

And you havent been able ever to let go...

Hmmmmmmmm think this is a piss take thread !!!"

I'm single. In my 30's and am not having sex at the moment. Wish I were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also overthink a lot too, and its affected my life big time, but show me a lil fifty or arse or even thigh, ankle or nicely plucked woman's eyebrow and natural instinct takes over. Ur probably putting women on a pedestal too, watch some porn, ditch religion and get some lust in your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious

wow I guess your the guy we need to meet then sounds like you have it all,

"

No I don't have it all. Sex is the easy part in any relationship. Communication and making time is hard for each other is hard. I find it hard to believe a man that is on a sex site. Finds the act of sex mindless. It's like going to a steakhouse if you're a vegetarian.

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By *rotiquexxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious

wow I guess your the guy we need to meet then sounds like you have it all,

No I don't have it all. Sex is the easy part in any relationship. Communication and making time is hard for each other is hard. I find it hard to believe a man that is on a sex site. Finds the act of sex mindless. It's like going to a steakhouse if you're a vegetarian. "

As most women will tell you. It's a swingers site. Not a sex site. It's hard to believe that the little sex experience that I've had has left me asking questions instead of answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many of u kind people on here, I was expecting some hardcore freaks, too much singing not enough swinging. Call Samaritans and stop tryna get a sympathy fuck,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious

wow I guess your the guy we need to meet then sounds like you have it all,

No I don't have it all. Sex is the easy part in any relationship. Communication and making time is hard for each other is hard. I find it hard to believe a man that is on a sex site. Finds the act of sex mindless. It's like going to a steakhouse if you're a vegetarian.

As most women will tell you. It's a swingers site. Not a sex site. It's hard to believe that the little sex experience that I've had has left me asking questions instead of answers. "

So what was the appeal of this site ?

Have you ever thought about hiring a sex surrogate?

I'm not sure if you have them in the UK , but you might want to look into it.

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By *rotiquexxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires


"I'm not used to sex. In the past, cock either gets sore or after a while I'm like okay what else can you do? The act of fucking is a primal physical mechanical force. I think too much. Mindless grinding away is exactly that. Mindless. Maybe I haven't met the right woman yet. Maybe it's lack of experience. How do you let go?

You can't be serious

wow I guess your the guy we need to meet then sounds like you have it all,

No I don't have it all. Sex is the easy part in any relationship. Communication and making time is hard for each other is hard. I find it hard to believe a man that is on a sex site. Finds the act of sex mindless. It's like going to a steakhouse if you're a vegetarian.

As most women will tell you. It's a swingers site. Not a sex site. It's hard to believe that the little sex experience that I've had has left me asking questions instead of answers.

So what was the appeal of this site ?

Have you ever thought about hiring a sex surrogate?

I'm not sure if you have them in the UK , but you might want to look into it. "

I don't know what that is.

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By *rotiquexxx OP   Man
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires


"Too many of u kind people on here, I was expecting some hardcore freaks, too much singing not enough swinging. Call Samaritans and stop tryna get a sympathy fuck,"

I'm not. Samaritans use basic psychology to get you to answer your own questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im confused ...

Your in a couple...

In your 50,s

And you havent been able ever to let go...

Hmmmmmmmm think this is a piss take thread !!!

I'm single. In my 30's and am not having sex at the moment. Wish I were. "

So when you say you cant let go...

Do you mean as in you cant cum ?

Not being cheeky just asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Build anticipation. Work on senses. Fuck with your mind before you even get close to the body

Learn to tease yourself when you play

So for example create the space in your mind and in your surroundings to enable you to focus and breathe. Start by touching your hand and trying different types of touch on your own body. Don't go near your cock. Do this a few times each time a bit more until you start to feel a real need to let yourself go. Then try edging .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, the OP sounds a little like me. I certainly think far too hard, all the time, and sometimes that restricts my abilities in the bedroom.

From experience, I think it's a matter of chemistry. Certain people can make you just forget about everything, and go for it."
maybe try role play? You can get caught up in the story line then your not thinking about life. I have had times when I'm fucking someone i don't really like when I just start to think about work etc.. It happens. But that means you need to work on who you are meeting. Make sure they excite u!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


" How do you let go? "

Practice?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


" How do you let go?

Practice?"

I think I was about 24/25 when I realised that the chances are, the other person is just as nervous about themselves and their performance so if you concentrate on putting them at ease, everything flows more easily.

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