FabSwingers.com forum: Bullied on forums

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Posted a few things on forums over the last few days only to feel I'm being bullied, we all have opinions but why be so nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A difference of opinion is not being bullied, when you state things as FACT that are incorrect people will disagree it’s just the way forums work.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Don't confuse differing opinions on subjects with bullying....these are discussion forums, people will not always agree with you.

Doesn't make them bullies.

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By *lackboaWoman
over a year ago

greenock

must admit that i enjoy the forums....the differing opinions offered...the friendly banter.....but have noticed recently that there is a small but very vocal argumentative element creeping in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opinions on here become very much divided between serious helpful advice and others who are flippant and take the pee ....its become a battle ground for genuine help and hindrance ..opposite _iews and the difference in people's morals/ethics can be interesting but some times very hurtful ..

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have read many of your posts, and those following them.

You are not being bullied. The people that post in these forums have opinions of their own, and can be quite vocal in expressing them. That is not bullying. That is expressing an opinion.

Yes, you may not agree with them, but that is the point of forums. If we all had the same opinions, then there would be no point to the forums at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I enjoy the forums but when I come back and state my facts that I know I'm right you just won't let up!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just cause someone doesnt agree with you doesnt mean their bullying you, blimey if i thought everyone who disagreed with me was bullying me id never come on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bullied on here, hence me staying away.

*chuckles*

Mistress Deviant, I'm disappointed your avatar pic is not in your open gallery, how am I meant to perve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one or 2 members like to follow new forum members around and pick holes in them flag it to admin if you feel bullied x

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I agree....report the 'bullying' to Admin, they can read the thread concerned and act accordingly.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am a great believer in... 'don't give it out if you can't take it'.

I think on the whole, it is a very frank exchange of _iews and god forbid we ever all agree. Sometimes it does go too far and it is all about knowing when to stop.

People ask for opinions and then struggle to accept that people may have a _iew different to them.

I also think people take this lifestyle all too bloody seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice exactly Crystal. If someone feels bullied they really should report it to admin. As long as there is evidence of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed again Jane and View ! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well these have been reported, Its no one on here but was on a previous post, was very nasty to me etc, I like a good debate on here that's what the forums are about, but when someone starts ripping your profile apart for no reason well that's bullying to me

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Well these have been reported, Its no one on here but was on a previous post, was very nasty to me etc, I like a good debate on here that's what the forums are about, but when someone starts ripping your profile apart for no reason well that's bullying to me"
it isnt bullying trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't confuse differing opinions on subjects with bullying....these are discussion forums, people will not always agree with you.

Doesn't make them bullies.

*Nods in agreement*

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

you start some contentious debates, what do u expect? People will have varied opinions, and everyone is always right, have you not worked that one out yet?

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Well you always look to give as good as you get to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it's ok to rip someone profile apart in a nasty way! I don't think so, the post wasn't about my profile but it came up

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"So it's ok to rip someone profile apart in a nasty way! I don't think so, the post wasn't about my profile but it came up"
so have you let the person /people know you are unhappy?

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

"So it's ok to rip someone profile apart in a nasty way! I don't think so, the post wasn't about my profile but it came up"

Nope its not but its also not appropriate to talk about someone else who i assume uses the forums. The person in question could i guess complain to the mods this is a targeted thread at him/her/them and claim exactly the same as your saying.

I guess what i am saying is things look different from different angles and from different people. The best thing to do is ride it and ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes as I wanted to make a point that there is playful banter/ debates on here, but nastiness that's another matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Will do _ig bad, thanks

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"So it's ok to rip someone profile apart in a nasty way! I don't think so, the post wasn't about my profile but it came up"

No, ot isn't acceptable on the forums to rip someones profile apart just for the hell of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nastiness is subjective. don't you think ?

I might claim some remarks to me are nasty but then .... I don't break any sweat when I can't see or hear the person .... I'd have to be in a state to put a nasty emphasis on it myself.

Hope everything calms for you Gran x

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

"Will do _ig bad, thanks "

There is little you can do about things unless you meet the individual in person. I always smile a little and think that if someone has to go to that extent you have upset them more.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The best thing to do is REPORT any post that you think breaks any rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will do _ig bad, thanks

There is little you can do about things unless you meet the individual in person. I always smile a little and think that if someone has to go to that extent you have upset them more. "

Precisely Olly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind people disliking me, but I'd be mortified if people simply ignored me. If something I say generates debate, either for or against, then I'm happy.

You need a thick skin in this life and you can't allow people who don't know you to get under your skin. It's counterproductive and the only person who suffers from it is you.

I've read your profile, and as a man, you appeal to me, but your profile makes it clear we wouldn't hit it off - I understand that, but some people don't - so they choose to attack you because of it. It shows immaturity on their part and you've nothing to feel bad about.

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