FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy on fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been speaking to a guy for a few weeks on here and hoping to meet up when I am free next,who messaged me the other day very upset with me,when I asked him why,he said cause I can see by your verifications that your meeting other men,I was a tad taken back,saying well I am single and this is a swinging site and not a dating site,so whom I meet is my concern.Have others had that on here????

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

maybe he meant that you have met others but not him yet i.e. if you can make the time for them you should make the time for him

i get that sometimes as they fail to realise you have probably made those plans in advance of chatting to him.....or that its your life and you can meet who the hell you frigging well want to!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hes up north and could not get down to see me til the new year,did he want me to not meet anyone til I met him,I did ask him that and he said I would prefer you not to. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That happened a few times when i was a single fem,best to block if he's like that now when you havnt even met what will he be like if you had?

He Sounds like a control freak x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"and he said I would prefer you not to. xxx"

wish him well and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh had a few strange experiences with peeps over the years (we are on another site also) guys seem to forget that I am married... maybe a warning not to meet up with him....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

omg really???? tell him you dont want him wanking till you meet him then say you are not free until June or something lol

ps - awesome pics on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah I've had this, don't take it to heart. You did the right thing pointing out what the site is for. His problem not yours. He could've been out having fun too!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

sounds like he's just done you a massive favour by letting you know he' stalker material BEFORE you got around to meeting him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree sounds like a bit of a nut nut, best left alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had a major issue with someone I met off the site. I'm not going to go into details on a public forum. But trust me, save a lot of unhappiness for both parties and bow out now before it gets worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you don't have any rabbits you should be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk about needy and neurotic, wow run for the hills love and don't look back!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I wonder how many recent verifications HE had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a message from a couple on another site saying they would like to meet us on regular occasions but only if we promised not to meet other couples!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I've blocked him now, did get a bit weird after that message I can tell you. Most of us are on here cause we don't want a relationship but want the sex, I state I'm after NSA only

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

yep! ropes, chains, ties, and straps are fine - but no strings!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Stop giving them ideas lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have men friends here cant add my feed back to there profiles as would have fems thay have meet in the passed after them ..... who thay say dont even see now weird how some people can be x jo xxxx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

why? they seem like perfectly good ideas to me

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I've never had problems with jealous women from this site.

I'm clearly just not boyfriend material.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think woman on this site don't do jealous, they know what they want, but some men think you belong to them and that's it sadly !

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

I had this happen with someone about 18 months ago...we were chatting on msn(on cam) and he said that he could meet up that night if his mum could come sit as he was a single dad...so the phone rang on his end..was apparently his mum saying she could not do it...I said no worries and put looking for a meet up on my profile...ended up getting a meet too

so the next day he asked if I had a meet I said yes...he got all bitchy saying that he really COULD have met me,but was testing me to see just how badly I wanted to meet him.He said "obviously you really didn't want to meet me THAT badly as you went and got another meet" and then he blocked me and text saying that we were never going to meet, delete all his contact info...lol

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By *oddessWoman
over a year ago

swansea

"I've never had problems with jealous women from this site.

I'm clearly just not boyfriend material."

No Tob.....your just a good fuck.....oh and make lush cocktails xxxx Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He sounds like a loon _ummy mummy

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"He sounds like a loon _ummy mummy"

that was just the tip of the iceberg...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid like the plague that's not a swinger that's a control freak if hes like that before you meet him god help ya after ya have met him xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres nowt so queer as folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i reading the op and others correctly. Seems you obviously were interested in meeting one-another but could not until new year (possibly because of distance thing) but you both chatted through swingers site so its his tough luck youve had other meets since chatting. I was going to suggest from op to continue chatting towards cancelling meet if it got worse or you both couldnt sort misunderstanding easily in a friendly manner but you already have tried this and it got worse. You did not initially take the cold hearted route of clicking block straight away for the easy way out. You were polite and now, quite rightly so, you have blocked him.

Stop woorrying. Youve done the right thing.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"I've never had problems with jealous women from this site.

I'm clearly just not boyfriend material.

No Tob.....your just a good fuck.....oh and make lush cocktails xxxx Mwah xx"

cheque's in the post Goddess - usual fee for saying something nice about me - don't forget I pay an extra fiver to anyone who says I've got a massive cock too

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"Avoid like the plague that's not a swinger that's a control freak if hes like that before you meet him god help ya after ya have met him xx

oh I have...lol..like I said it was over a year ago,hasn't stopped him from trying again though...and again...one of my favorite messages when he was trying to get me to chat again was folowed by..."oh wait...maybe I will wait until you start meeting better looking people"...lol...definately coo coo for cocoa puffs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks James, I didn't want to badmouth him as that's what the forums are not about. I was kind to him explained my reasons and severed ties.

I just wanted to know how common the problem was and it seems more men are jealous than women.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"I've never had problems with jealous women from this site.

I'm clearly just not boyfriend material.

No Tob.....your just a good fuck.....oh and make lush cocktails xxxx Mwah xx

cheque's in the post Goddess - usual fee for saying something nice about me - don't forget I pay an extra fiver to anyone who says I've got a massive cock too"

ok...it is christmas time...can use the cash...this guy is awesome and WOW what a massive cock!!!(does it matter that I have never met you?do I still get the fiver?hehehe)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yummy mummy that's awful, I had one when I blocked him creating new profiles, I knew it was him as the profile was exact, sadly he was lacking in brains as well as trouser department lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks James, I didn't want to badmouth him as that's what the forums are not about. I was kind to him explained my reasons and severed ties.

I just wanted to know how common the problem was and it seems more men are jealous than women. "
woman are as bad i have had some really nasty to me ..... thinking thay was the FB s and had the control over the man .... when thay find out he is doing it alone thay can go mad , lol xx jo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think woman on this site don't do jealous, they know what they want, but some men think you belong to them and that's it sadly !"

I quite agree!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had simular prob over a year ago i met a man a few time he said he was single we had lots of fun ...turned out he was married and played as a couple with his wife on this site she found out hed been seeing me and went mental he told her nothing ever happened betweenus and i was lieing if i said it did .......cut a long story short i was on msn to him and printed our conversation him admitting us having fun on lots of ocassions lol .....shehas been slagging me off to others on here but what she dont know is i hold the trump card cant wait to see her face when she reads the evidence

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think woman on this site don't do jealous, they know what they want, but some men think you belong to them and that's it sadly !

I quite agree!!

it is def not exclusive to guys only.

some fems and couples also have some jealousy issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm...i dunno, have chatted to guys like this before...it's not that they actually think you are going to abstain, but like the fantasy that you would and that all you can think about is their cock...it's not even that they want a relationship.

it's kinda the opposite of the guy that wants you to fuck other men and tell him all about it whilst you do all to assure him that "no, you really are the best out of all of them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think woman on this site don't do jealous, they know what they want, but some men think you belong to them and that's it sadly !

I quite agree!!

it is def not exclusive to guys only.

some fems and couples also have some jealousy issues.

I agree with that but as a rule they keep it between themselves... the guys we have met as a rule have been great but there are always the ones that slip through the net - wanting me to meet them on their own trying to get me to leave my other half etc... the best way forward is always honesty if you meet a guy on a swinging site who tries to control you then block and forget they will prolly have kids n a wife...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think woman on this site don't do jealous, they know what they want, but some men think you belong to them and that's it sadly !

I quite agree!!

Not on this site long enough to make decision on lasses from this site and havent had a meet yet nor really tried and dont expect to apart from socials and parties for a laugh and to put faces and personalities to photos and profiles. But outside of this site - well i certainly think from my own personal experience for the past two f**king years (and will last for at least the next year - grrr) that women are as bad as men and certainly seem to be allowed to get away with it. Cant go into much detail 1. because its quite shocking and 2. because she might be on the site (haha - as if).

Im a little frightened to meet any lass from any aspect of the world because of the past two f**king years, but with patience I WILL get around that. How do i know this? Im irish, an ex-boxer and rugby player apparently im stubborn. Im made of hard stuff.

Have been taught men and women are equal and i certainly know this from the real world - the good and bad sides.

Sorry just needed to get this off my chest.

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

no place for jealousy any shape or form if you swing,

simple and fact !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't blame you, once burnt you don't want to get burnt again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To Carrie Ann!! You go darling, him saying he was on here as a couple with his wife, if that's the case she would know he met other people, both sound like loons, your worth more than that Carrie ann. His lost for being a lying scum bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't blame you, once burnt you don't want to get burnt again"

Been burnt well before now a few times before but got over it 'quite' easily. Am almost 32 and since was 19 the longest i was single was six months before this happened. Have been completely single through my own choice and fears from past two years because of what she is doing and getting away with and will be for at least a little while. Am not complaining though as am enjoying the positives. Dont i miss sex? NO. Dont understand this but when im single i have a very minimal sex drive. However, i think this site is playing tricks with my mind!! Hahaha - OMG - LOL!

Although i brought up my past two years experience can we get off the subject and back to the original post please - dont want anyone getting jealous at me taking part so much in the same forum as Miss deviant. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To Carrie Ann!! You go darling, him saying he was on here as a couple with his wife, if that's the case she would know he met other people, both sound like loons, your worth more than that Carrie ann. His lost for being a lying scum bag "

thank you for your support xxxx yes your right they are a pair of loons i meen hes a star trecky freak accually talks clingon .....erm is that sane i ask lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had similair experiance, we're all here for fun and can see who we want. it's better you found out now. It's tough enough finding a decent guy this ones a bit wierd. D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i had simular prob over a year ago i met a man a few time he said he was single we had lots of fun ...turned out he was married and played as a couple with his wife on this site she found out hed been seeing me and went mental he told her nothing ever happened betweenus and i was lieing if i said it did .......cut a long story short i was on msn to him and printed our conversation him admitting us having fun on lots of ocassions lol .....shehas been slagging me off to others on here but what she dont know is i hold the trump card cant wait to see her face when she reads the evidence

are these current site users you're talking about?

wouldn't discuss other users, but if that was me i certainly wouldn't interfere...if she doesn't want to know now, a few messages won't make a difference. Leave well alone, you're rid of him and that's what matters....you could end up worse off if you do anything else.

with people who cheat like that, you ought to consider your lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had written this post ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On another site a man used to look at my profile every day. He joined this site and did the same thing. Eventually he sent me a message saying it's a shame I was so "busy" as he'd have liked to meet me but he preferred women who didn't "put it about" so much!

I met a really gorgeous man this week, he travelled across London in the snow to meet me. He's the first man I've met that I've been nervous of getting undressed in front off as I've not been well and don't feel my usual gorgeous self.

Any how I've noticed his profile has gone and asked him about it. He was surprised I was still on here. He said that now we'd met he didn't need anyone else and when was I going to delete my profile.

Sigh...and he seemed sane!

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"On another site a man used to look at my profile every day. He joined this site and did the same thing. Eventually he sent me a message saying it's a shame I was so "busy" as he'd have liked to meet me but he preferred women who didn't "put it about" so much!

Any how I've noticed his profile has gone and asked him about it. He was surprised I was still on here. He said that now we'd met he didn't need anyone else and when was I going to delete my profile.

Sigh...and he seemed sane!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA so did you tell him straight away hun...straight away..?lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had that before had a great meet then they disappear off fab, you think "what did I do wrong" as you said in your post, cause they have had you that's it and they expect you to come off too, idiots lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I back away from any gents who display signs of jealousy or possessiveness.

As far as I am concerned, I am a free agent, and play with whoever, whenever, wherever I like.

I refuse to play exclusively with anyone.

And if a gent does not like the way I operate, he can goes and find fun elsewhere, and there won't be any skin off my nose!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I wish I had written this post ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx"

go and start another one - everyone does it lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

This is the wrong thread to confess I'm saving myself for Ms Deviant, yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I back away from any gents who display signs of jealousy or possessiveness.

As far as I am concerned, I am a free agent, and play with whoever, whenever, wherever I like.

I refuse to play exclusively with anyone.

And if a gent does not like the way I operate, he can goes and find fun elsewhere, and there won't be any skin off my nose!

I agree...and at every step, i reiterate that point to

I never want to find myself in the position where someone has misunderstood my generous nature and read it for more than it is

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By *eizvollWoman
over a year ago

in my own little world :-)

"This is the wrong thread to confess I'm saving myself for Ms Deviant, yes?

You'll be slated by jealous women!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes sadly i have.

someone i met just once got funny in the chatroom when i was chatting to other women.

then she decided to tell others not to meet me.

why some do it i dont know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any how I've noticed his profile has gone and asked him about it. He was surprised I was still on here. He said that now we'd met he didn't need anyone else and when was I going to delete my profile.

Sigh...and he seemed sane!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA so did you tell him straight away hun...straight away..?lol"

Serves me right for going to dinner with him twice before playing. He must have thought it was a date. Makes you wonder about some people on here: what's so difficult to understand about nsa?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish I had written this post ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

go and start another one - everyone does it lol"

No I really wish I had started this one .... it has to be this one ....

It's not fair ... I wanted this post to be mine !!!!

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish I had written this post ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

go and start another one - everyone does it lol

No I really wish I had started this one .... it has to be this one ....

It's not fair ... I wanted this post to be mine !!!!

Kirsty

xxx xxx"
kirsty how would your storys go ? all of us come across this at some time in our swinging life , humans we have feelings ,, lol xx just not nice to be told what you can and cant do when not married to them ,

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh ive had guys go mardy when they realize their not number one on my list. Love the guys that try and tell me what to do(noone does that) even when ive just been chatting to them. But the best one ever, was a guy id played with at chams and rang me everyday while i was staying at my friends, emailed me all the while then said to me it would be best we didnt meet to often so that I(meaning me) didnt fall for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been speaking to a guy for a few weeks on here and hoping to meet up when I am free next,who messaged me the other day very upset with me,when I asked him why,he said cause I can see by your verifications that your meeting other men,I was a tad taken back,saying well I am single and this is a swinging site and not a dating site,so whom I meet is my concern.Have others had that on here????"

I met a guy a few weeks back off here, he was local and accommodated so i met him a few times, them something very much like what happened to you happened, he called me up one day asking why i had met someone else, he had looked at my verification and seen i had been verified, then he went onto say if i wanted a meet why didnt i just call him and go there and had he upset me in anyway, i said no but i had been talking to this other guy for a while but we had never both been free till that weekend to meet so we did, anyway not much was said after that and i put the phone down

About a hour later there was a knock at my door and my daughter answered, shouting me someone was at the door for me, when i went to the door he was stood there, i was a bit shocked as i dont accommodate and never give my address out to men because i have kids and because of men like him who turn uo un announced, so i asked how he got my address and his reply was, i called the taxi firm and asked them for it

so i said what and they just gave you my address

he said yes my mate works on the radio thats why i use them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and just to add to that i think my biggest shock since doing this alone is the lack of respect men give single females on here

I swung for years with my husband and we met single guys and i never had anything like that happen, since we split i used to accommodate when the kids was at their dads for the night and i had one guy who decided it was ok for him to just turn up after a night out with the lads for a fuck, like i was supposed to be just there for him when he needed a shag lol then that i posted above, things like that never happen when i was a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few times yes.i just tell them to take it or leave it and then if they start to get funny i block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so i said what and they just gave you my address

he said yes my mate works on the radio thats why i use them!!

Shhhiiitee....now that is scary...omg..must have been hideous..

.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and just to add to that i think my biggest shock since doing this alone is the lack of respect men give single females on here

Wow!!! That must have been unnerving, especially as your daughter opened the door: I would have been FURIOUS!!

One of the reasons I only meet men who accommodate is to ensure equal footing. We both know where the other lives and boundaries won't be crossed by turning up unannounced!

Some people really do see this as a dating site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank you for your support xxxx yes your right they are a pair of loons i meen hes a star trecky freak accually talks clingon .....erm is that sane i ask lol x"

Can he breathe through his ears too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some of the experiences I've read on here are terrible, but the bloke with the taxi one tops it, that's truly awful you must have been terrified as well as bloody angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very naive to say that men are more jealous as a rule than women, on or off this site.

I do however think that men are much less likely to raise this type of issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here hun, I can think of 3 people straight away whom are like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's very naive to say that men are more jealous as a rule than women, on or off this site.

I do however think that men are much less likely to raise this type of issue.

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I am a woman and so far had only woman nasty to me here on sites like this never the men ..... woman who was jealous of me seeing there so called lovers FB ..... 4 of them so far , lol thank god not wifes too. jo xx

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

both men and women have the capacity for jealousness. It's how they choose to either display or control it that is the most telling about a person.

(having been on the receiving end of a jealousy that resulted in me having to involve the police and get a restraining order, slightest hint of jealousy now and you are booted)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose I said that as its only men that have been jealous with me,women have been fantastic,well the ones I have met

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

On the back of the original posters question..

Is there a lot of people trying to take 'ownership' between swingers?...we thought this a few years ago on another site (msn)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well no one owns me that's for sure!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"both men and women have the capacity for jealousness. It's how they choose to either display or control it that is the most telling about a person"

Those who suffer with "Insecurity" issues also tend have uncontrollable jealousy issues.

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By *--Cinders---Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

I am new to this site but met a guy a couple of weeks ago for a meet, only met him the once but he sends me messages asking who have i been with and saying he wants me to himself...I am enjoying meeting guys and dont want to stop so how can i deal with him without being nasty?

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

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over a year ago

north manchester

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"how can i deal with him without being nasty?"

Block him!

There's a difference between being nasty and decisive

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

"I am new to this site but met a guy a couple of weeks ago for a meet, only met him the once but he sends me messages asking who have i been with and saying he wants me to himself...I am enjoying meeting guys and dont want to stop so how can i deal with him without being nasty?"

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

(earlier deletions due to alcohol intake!)"
I was thinking had your hand slipped , what was the post about , must have been good too take it off two times ,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

(earlier deletions due to alcohol intake!)"

If he's not being nasty in any way there's no need to block him, just be clear in how you communicate to him the reasons you are on a swinging site and be totally honest with him about what you want. Maybe he's getting mixed messages from you or doesn't realise he's reading the situation wrongly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

(earlier deletions due to alcohol intake!)

As a woman whos had a few possesive guys on here my opinion would be just block him, if hes making you feel uncomfy in anyway dont put up with it, its not being nasty but at the end of the day its a swingers site and he has no rights to ask who you have been with or putting you in the possition of how you obviously feel now, in my experience men like this only get worse so you best to just nip it in the butt from the start, sorry if that sounds harsh but as a single female you have to put your safty first and your best to just get rid now before it escalates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

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Couldn't agree more!!

We're here for uncomplicated sex...where is the mixed message in that?!! Why would you join a swinger's site then expect your playmate to only play with you?!!

Who needs the hassle?!! Block and move on to people who get why we're here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stalker alert! Lock up your pet rabbits and block the bugger!

(earlier deletions due to alcohol intake!)

Couldn't agree more!!

We're here for uncomplicated sex...where is the mixed message in that?!! Why would you join a swinger's site then expect your playmate to only play with you?!!

Who needs the hassle?!! Block and move on to people who get why we're here!!"

Fair points, I'm convinced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had that but he printed off my profile and some one else couple profile he thought was me, pics as well b4 i got to block him then drove and handed it to my boss and then drove miles to my friends and handed it all to her can say i devistated to say the least

and im alot more carefull who i chat and see now lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same problem with a guy on here when i played as a single fem so i cancelled the meet. I wasnt going to be dictated to by anyone especially by someone on a sex site x

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over a year ago

Well in my eyes I would block all day long. It's your body and you hold the key to it. In my opinion by looking at your pics he should be the one waiting. He should of stated in his message 'see your still enjoying yourself, you are such a stunning lady that you should play and I will abstain till we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i remember talking to a guy once, and he asked me if i used condoms as he said he only played with women who only used condoms so he knew they was clean and then he didnt have to use them as he didnt like them lol (i know comical isnt it?) so i asked how he knew all his play mates always used condoms with other meets and he repied cause they told me they do! to which i said ...so you honestly think women who are bake backing with you wouldnt do it with any other meet! lmao then he went onto tell me i wasnt allowed to meet anyone for 3 days before our meet as he liked his women clean and didnt like the idea of licking a pussy some man had been in the night before

needless to say he was a regular meet and we're now engaged to be married lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i remember talking to a guy once, and he asked me if i used condoms as he said he only played with women who only used condoms so he knew they was clean and then he didnt have to use them as he didnt like them lol (i know comical isnt it?) so i asked how he knew all his play mates always used condoms with other meets and he repied cause they told me they do! to which i said ...so you honestly think women who are bake backing with you wouldnt do it with any other meet! lmao then he went onto tell me i wasnt allowed to meet anyone for 3 days before our meet as he liked his women clean and didnt like the idea of licking a pussy some man had been in the night before

needless to say he was a regular meet and we're now engaged to be married lmao

PMSL! coffee splurted all over keyboard!

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

personally I would be inclined not to meet them and maybe block if they become abusive on here.

I have had similar where the partner of a couple has questioned me about others I meet and why I wont meet her alone..

As you rightly state this is a swinging site not a dating agency! although i can understand that relationships do occur from here and fair play and best wishes to those who do find this...

I have also been in the situation where it has taken what seems like an age to meet up a lady (as can be seen in my verifications!)and with that in mind what right would I have to say until we meet you can't meet anyone else! none at all and it wouldn't enter even my tiny man brain! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

needless to say he was a regular meet and we're now engaged to be married lmao

PMSL! coffee splurted all over keyboard!"

Same here...cappuccino out my nose. I keep saying I'm not going to read posts on FAB while drinking!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But these forum are so interesting,spilt coffee on my laptop yesterday,blamed fab lol

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

my exsperience its the women who cause the most issues . married women who think the single guy they meet is THEIR property . single woman throwing a complet hissy fit as MY hubby had fun with another single fem and not her!! lol !!! needless to say those type of people removed from any contact .im here for fun not dramas lol!

only had very minimal issues with guys . if any guy questions who i meet ,starts getting sulky that ive had a meet ...they are cut free right away .if they are showing jealous/controling traits at that early stage doesnt bode well for further down line !

if people cant separate swing scene from a realionship then they shouldnt be here !

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over a year ago

"my exsperience its the women who cause the most issues . married women who think the single guy they meet is THEIR property . single woman throwing a complet hissy fit as MY hubby had fun with another single fem and not her!! lol !!! needless to say those type of people removed from any contact .im here for fun not dramas lol!

if people cant separate swing scene from a realionship then they shouldnt be here ! "

i think thats impossible. and wouldn't that make the person cold.

if it were that simple in distancing yourself from the emotional aspect why are relationships that difficult - cos u wouldn't of got yourself into that predictament i.e partner in the first place.

how does anybody know that the person u will meet on a swingers site will guarantee u FREE from emotional attachment. That's niave to say the least or downright stupid...

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

not impossible at all !!! people on here realise there is a distinct line between swinging and a relationship with a person . i was seeing a single guy for four years got on fanmtastic . we both enjoyed the situation for what it was and neither exspected anything more or deeper . i have no intentions leaving my hubby and no way he would of wanted me too lol !! he had all the goods bits with out the nagging lol !!! if people want a realtionship then go to a dating site ! this is for adults meeting for adult fun ..no exspections !! its those who can draw that line or blurr the division between swinging and realtionship that are dangerous . we are after all adults and go into this eyes wide open and know exactly why people are here . if you are wanting more than site offers then stroll on and take dramas else where they certaoinly aint required or tolerated here

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over a year ago

"not impossible at all !!! people on here realise there is a distinct line between swinging and a relationship with a person . i was seeing a single guy for four years got on fanmtastic . we both enjoyed the situation for what it was and neither exspected anything more or deeper . i have no intentions leaving my hubby and no way he would of wanted me too lol !! he had all the goods bits with out the nagging lol !!! if people want a realtionship then go to a dating site ! this is for adults meeting for adult fun ..no exspections !! its those who can draw that line or blurr the division between swinging and realtionship that are dangerous . we are after all adults and go into this eyes wide open and know exactly why people are here . if you are wanting more than site offers then stroll on and take dramas else where they certaoinly aint required or tolerated here "

i didn't say i was i said it could be possible. that is different.

if u coud control your emotions this way then why are ppl in such fowl moods...

emotions are designed for such a thing. u are kidding yourself if u deny them. to admit and not follow them is better than to say i have none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if people cant separate swing scene from a realionship then they shouldnt be here !

i think thats impossible. and wouldn't that make the person cold.

if it were that simple in distancing yourself from the emotional aspect why are relationships that difficult - cos u wouldn't of got yourself into that predictament i.e partner in the first place.

how does anybody know that the person u will meet on a swingers site will guarantee u FREE from emotional attachment. That's niave to say the least or downright stupid...

Sorry - I found this post really bizarre! We are here for uncomplicated sex. How does that make us cold?!!

What do you mean it's impossible to separate emotions from swinging?!!

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over a year ago

if people cant separate swing scene from a realionship then they shouldnt be here !

i think thats impossible. and wouldn't that make the person cold.

if it were that simple in distancing yourself from the emotional aspect why are relationships that difficult - cos u wouldn't of got yourself into that predictament i.e partner in the first place.

how does anybody know that the person u will meet on a swingers site will guarantee u FREE from emotional attachment. That's niave to say the least or downright stupid...

Sorry - I found this post really bizarre! We are here for uncomplicated sex. How does that make us cold?!!

What do you mean it's impossible to separate emotions from swinging?!!

sorry i was relating it to the OP. She said that guy had got feelings. it's hardly his fault. it's natural - like sex. That's all. to deny them is a bit cold like what a nun does..

i was getting at the 'ignoring the inevitable' feeling that may arise NOT the person

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

I had sort of the opposite - a couple I once played with started demanding the phone numbers of other couples/singles I played with. I turned them down (politely) and then had no more to do with them!

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over a year ago

"sorry i was relating it to the OP. She said that guy had got feelings. it's hardly his fault. it's natural - like sex. That's all. to deny them is a bit cold like what a nun does..

i was getting at the 'ignoring the inevitable' feeling that may arise NOT the person "

I'm sorry, I must be really thick because I don't understand what you're saying.

There has to be an attraction, and a stirring in your loins to play with someone. That doesn't mean that you then want to set up home with them!!

This is not heartsandflowers.com we ar here to have sex with people that float our boats. I don't then understand why someone would come over all Mr Darcy or Jane Eyre with people they meet on a swinging site.

Not meaning to sound rude - I think you're way off base if you think it's "normal" to form a romantic attachment with people you meet to bump uglies with!!

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over a year ago

"sorry i was relating it to the OP. She said that guy had got feelings. it's hardly his fault. it's natural - like sex. That's all. to deny them is a bit cold like what a nun does..

i was getting at the 'ignoring the inevitable' feeling that may arise NOT the person

I'm sorry, I must be really thick because I don't understand what you're saying.

There has to be an attraction, and a stirring in your loins to play with someone. That doesn't mean that you then want to set up home with them!!

Not meaning to sound rude - I think you're way off base if you think it's "normal" to form a romantic attachment with people you meet to bump uglies with!!

i thnk i can't be explaining it right. you're right. but it still leaves an issue: How can u say that how a person acts is what u expect. isn't that the dilema of every human:trying to understand what the other person is or is trying to say.

whats that old saying

u can't help who you fall in love with

BUT u can stop it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fucking hell, hes a total control freak, get him blocked and report him. though he's not done anything wrong per se, hes not really promoting the use of the site very well and certainly is someone who should not be using a site such as this.

you enjoy yourself, hell I'm up north, I was talking to you, Id have respect for the fact that you have your own life and can make your own choices...

I wouldn't be suprised if hes a married bloke and quite controlling in that relationship too.

I know its a cliche with us northerners at times been Old fashioned blokes and all that but I hope it doesn't stop you from any potential meets with others etc.

Get him blocked and carry on with your life, not worth the hassle.

*HUGS*

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over a year ago

"fucking hell, hes a total control freak, get him blocked and report him. though he's not done anything wrong per se, hes not really promoting the use of the site very well and certainly is someone who should not be using a site such as this.

you enjoy yourself, hell I'm up north, I was talking to you, Id have respect for the fact that you have your own life and can make your own choices...

I wouldn't be suprised if hes a married bloke and quite controlling in that relationship too.

I know its a cliche with us northerners at times been Old fashioned blokes and all that but I hope it doesn't stop you from any potential meets with others etc.

Get him blocked and carry on with your life, not worth the hassle.

*HUGS*"

how is that being a control freak - by stating the obvious and thats all i'm doing

You are a control freak yourself by setting up standards by which u measure me...

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over a year ago

how is that being a control freak - by stating the obvious and thats all i'm doing

You are a control freak yourself by setting up standards by which u measure me..."

Excuse me, My comment was to the OP's post not your comments or anyone elses comments tbh.

You seem to have taken my comment personally to yourself.

Standards to measure you...mmmm

does that then infer that you are either A)the "northern" bloke that the OP refers to or that you just think like him....

either way, my comment in no way AT ALL refers to you personally.

I think you should have gone to specsavers mate.

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over a year ago

how is that being a control freak - by stating the obvious and thats all i'm doing

You are a control freak yourself by setting up standards by which u measure me...

Excuse me, My comment was to the OP's post not your comments or anyone elses comments tbh.

You seem to have taken my comment personally to yourself.

Standards to measure you...mmmm

does that then infer that you are either A)the "northern" bloke that the OP refers to or that you just think like him....

either way, my comment in no way AT ALL refers to you personally.

I think you should have gone to specsavers mate.

sorry, i was above u when u commented and some posts are like that, i mean commenting without quoting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no problem, just wanted to make it clear.

Not here to pick a fight, just to have fun

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over a year ago

emotions do happen on this site and folk do get involved....there are far too many couples that have met via this site that lay testimony to that. to make the direct comment that it is wrong to use this site for that purpose is a ludicrous one...i'm sure they were happy swingles and things just happened...if you get on, you get on.

likewise, had the op had the same feelings about the man in question, she wouldnt be on here condemning him, but posting something pink and fluffy about him.

i would rather a man be honest and show his colours and let me make that choice for myself, i would certainly not judge him for it

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over a year ago

Fair comment i guess.

I met my ex wife on a swinging site years ago and I didnt join the site to find my ideal partner.

But if one person says one thing and its obvious the other isn't feeling that then its a n obvious no is it not.

I think if you click then yes, but if you don't then draw a line under it.

The OP obviously didnt but the guy did. that should be enough for the "relationship" to end before anymore hurt happens.

Like I stated above, I'm one of them who found love in the most unforeseen place but its a two way thing, if its not just like on any site, or a bar or club or a park walking the dog etc...if its not there, then it really should end before it gets carried away.

The guy could be genuine and may get hurt but would get hurt further it went on. He could also turn nasty which of course wouldn't be a good thing. Really I still think the OP was wise to call it a day and if issues persisted, block.

Anyone that does find love, good on them. although my marriage ended badly, I have two wonderful kids (although i'm now fighting to have contact with them but thats my life and my choices)

But If I didn't like where something was going no matter how nice the other person was, I'd do the right thing and stop it before it went further. I think thats the crux of what the OP is getting at, they either don't want to be exclusive or they just haven't found that right person, either way the other person did want that and hence it just wouldn't have worked.

I know what i'm trying to say, but like Eric Morecambe, I'm probably playing all the right notes but not in the right order

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over a year ago

"Fair comment i guess.

I met my ex wife on a swinging site years ago and I didnt join the site to find my ideal partner.

But if one person says one thing and its obvious the other isn't feeling that then its a n obvious no is it not.

I think if you click then yes, but if you don't then draw a line under it.

The OP obviously didnt but the guy did. that should be enough for the "relationship" to end before anymore hurt happens.

Anyone that does find love, good on them. although my marriage ended badly, I have two wonderful kids (although i'm now fighting to have contact with them but thats my life and my choices)

I know what i'm trying to say, but like Eric Morecambe, I'm probably playing all the right notes but not in the right order

Mr Pre_iew haha

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over a year ago

you enjoy yourself, hell I'm up north, I was talking to you, Id have respect for the fact that you have your own life and can make your own choices...

I wouldn't be suprised if hes a married bloke and quite controlling in that relationship too.

I know its a cliche with us northerners at times been Old fashioned blokes and all that but I hope it doesn't stop you from any potential meets with others etc.

Get him blocked and carry on with your life, not worth the hassle.

*HUGS*"

Report and block him for what exactly? Blimey, just cos the fella took a liking to the OP! He may not have handled it with decorum but so what?

There are a lot that shouldn't be using a site like this. If I met someone and actually felt something for them should I leave Fab? Oh my god....emotions....DELETE ACCOUNT IMMEDIATELY!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"a couple I once played with started demanding the phone numbers of other couples/singles I played with. "

Eh!

wtf!! good gawd

that means we'll have to be more selective than previously who we give our shag mobile number to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair comment i guess.

I met my ex wife on a swinging site years ago and I didnt join the site to find my ideal partner.

But if one person says one thing and its obvious the other isn't feeling that then its a n obvious no is it not.

I think if you click then yes, but if you don't then draw a line under it.

The OP obviously didnt but the guy did. that should be enough for the "relationship" to end before anymore hurt happens.

Anyone that does find love, good on them. although my marriage ended badly, I have two wonderful kids (although i'm now fighting to have contact with them but thats my life and my choices)

I know what i'm trying to say, but like Eric Morecambe, I'm probably playing all the right notes but not in the right order

you're right...he could turn nasty...he could set up a thread in the forum where everyone is open to abuse him without hearing his side of the story!

one thing the forums ought to discourage is one-sided debates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair comment i guess.

I met my ex wife on a swinging site years ago and I didnt join the site to find my ideal partner.

But if one person says one thing and its obvious the other isn't feeling that then its a n obvious no is it not.

I think if you click then yes, but if you don't then draw a line under it.

The OP obviously didnt but the guy did. that should be enough for the "relationship" to end before anymore hurt happens.

Anyone that does find love, good on them. although my marriage ended badly, I have two wonderful kids (although i'm now fighting to have contact with them but thats my life and my choices)

I know what i'm trying to say, but like Eric Morecambe, I'm probably playing all the right notes but not in the right order

you're right...he could turn nasty...he could set up a thread in the forum where everyone is open to abuse him without hearing his side of the story!

one thing the forums ought to discourage is one-sided debates"

haha